When a Woman Loves a Man

Should I Ever Try Again?

I am talking about marriage , some may say that I am not lucky in love, or could it be that I won't put up with allot of crap. I would love to find the right person. Someone once said "theres a lid for every pot", I wonder if that's true. I realize a relationship is give and take, at first its all peaches and cream , but then watch out! It usually takes about a year or two, and then there it is the true person showing his true colors, and its not pretty.

The reason I got married the first time, was to simply to get out of the house. I know that was bad reason to get married in the first place. hes was to young, and I was to uneducated or (stupid), but there you have it. This happens more than you think. The second marriage was because, I had two sons, and boy did I need help. He also needed someone in his life , and I needed him as well. He was a lost soul, but had a good heart though, and after many years of hearing "I am so sorry" I promise I wont ever do that again. I had enough of that. The third one was the best I thought. He did everything for me, and in his eyes I could do no wrong, then after two years the unglyness showed up. He didn't think my sons should be in my life, as much as they were. Of course I wasnt putting up with that. My sons are the world to me, and they will always come first before any man. My third husband didn't have a relationship with his own children, so I guess he didn't want me to have one with mine. He also wasn't concerned about my needs anymore. A woman has to know that she is appreciated. To all the people out there, that are in a loving relationship 'never take your loved ones for granted' because this can do allot of damage to a relationship.

Don't you just love to be in love

I guess there's many reasons why a person gets married. I have always thought that I did my part in compromise, when it came to give and take in a relationship, and sometimes even more . I know I put up with allot more than I should have in my second marriage. Even then it didn't work out. I think of myself as a loving,and caring person. I love to be in a loving relationship, where both can remember how wonderful it was, when you first felt your heart hit the floor when one or the other entered a room. I realize its not always that way. There's also respect, and just knowing that he will always be there might be enough. Some people love to be in love. Don't get me wrong, the whole honeymoon part is awesome, but when its over its deafinitely over. Every now and then theres, a love between two people that can not be denied a love that will last for ever. In theses cases they are very fortunate, to have found someone, to be their soul mate. That one person that will love, and respect them for as long as they live. I truly believe that there is one special person for everyone, I just haven't found my soul mate yet, but I know hes out there.

First Love

First love is the hardest, because when your in love for the first time. It feels so good, and yet it hurts so bad, when he or she gets dumped. To have someone love you when your a teen is very special .That's what it felt like to me when my first love, after three years dumped me. I didn't come out of my room for months, or maybe it was days I really can't remember. I didn't think I was going to survive this, but I did, and life went on.This person was my everything, in my mind he was my soul mate. Some young girls will do some stupid stuff for their boy friends. Not realizing that this young love is just the start for both them. I think if we were a little more wise, when we first fell in love we might make better choices. Sometimes those feelings are so powerful, a young person doesn't think there will ever be another love like that again. We hear about this all the time on the news, where a family tries to keep them apart. Usually the girl goes along with her boyfriend, to get rid of the parents. Thinking this will solve their problem, at this point she can only think of one thing her lover, and how much she loves him. It's "unbelievable to me how this could happen", but it does. If they only knew there's ,so much more to life than that. They have just begun to experience life. The question is how much are you willing to up with? If you are doing all you can ,to make it work and it fails anyway maybe it wasn't meant to be.

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moncrieff 5 years ago from New York, NY

Love is great. I'm blessed that God created such a thing for humankind as love!!! Surely true burning love is worth the whole damn world, that is why it is dangerous!! Everybody decides what is really they want in their life, most of all. The ultimate question!

Also, a real love is a sacrifice, very often than not. It's a pure paradise if both parties love each other equally intensive; but if one loves the other more - that one has to put up with some crap too then, that's the price of obsequious loving. No other way, if we're talking about the God-forbidden flame of love.


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geegee77 5 years ago from The Lone Star State!!

Very good hub sis, I too know there is someone out there for you. And I hope you find each other. I know I complain about my significant other ha, but I don't think I could find, or would want to find anyone else. You are an awsome, loving & caring woman, and I know your prince will come:) ge love ya


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ladyjane1 5 years ago from Texas

Nicely done sis. And I also agree with you about people showing their true colors after a while. Oh well I also hope you find your prince. Cheers.


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breakfastpop 5 years ago

He's out there, believe me. And when you find each other work at keeping your relationship strong. Be prepared for bumps, but work hard to find each other again.


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Whidbeywriter 5 years ago from Oak Harbor on Whidbey Island, Washington

This was well done and I too hope that you find that special love in your life - I truly do. Blessings


looking4purpose 5 years ago

I feel like we've met! sorta speak, i wrote two books on my life story about searching for love and i totally agree, I truly believe there is only one true love for us in life and when that love comes around and it crashes that's it. Although I have found a new man after my big disappointment of the love of my life, this new man is a good one. I will never be totally in love with him, it doesn't work that way but he gives me the kind of love and respect i have always deserved. If your intersted in reading my story the books are available on my web site http://www.mypurplebutterfly.net thanks for sharing your feelings. I hear you. lets interact.


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soneblom 5 years ago from South Africa

It will come at the right time. love is that way just you relax and beautify yourself so you be ready when loves comes knocking!


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lisadpreston 5 years ago from Columbus, Ohio

I enjoyed this. Love is surely complicated. It's good to know that I'm not the only one that has had muliple marriages. I've had 4. LOL. Hey practice makes perfect. My last husband passed away in 07 and I was deeply in love with him. Nobody will ever be able to replace him. So for me, I doubt i will find love again. Besides, my kids are grown and at 46 I really aint looking. When I have dated in the past, I seem to be an ass hole magnet. I'm sure you will find love if that is what you want. It usually comes to us when when we least expect it and are not looking for it. In the mean time, keep writing these good hubs!


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rose56 5 years ago Author

Thank you all for reading my hub and I sure do appreciated your opinions.


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BobbiRant 5 years ago from New York

Wonderful hub about love. So touching, so warm. Very nice.


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rose56 5 years ago Author

@ BobbiRant thank you so much. I have been enjoying all the comments about this hub. Its hard to fine your soul mate.


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passonno73 5 years ago

Brilliant! Loved it!!!!!


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Wayne Brown 5 years ago from Texas

Love is such a complex thing. I lost my first marriage to my own naive ways. I thought that if you played fair, life treated you fair. Not so. I find that men miss the most important aspect of a great marriage...you need to be best friends. In the early days, love and marriage is touchy, feely but that will wane with time. There will be disagreements and friction in the best of relationhships...friendship will get you through that better than love. Men have trouble understanding that but women do not. Maybe in time that will change. It has made such a wonderful difference in my second marriage...a world of difference. WB


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Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

A wonderful hub and I now look forward to reading much more of your work.

Take care

Eiddwen.


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rose56 5 years ago Author

@Eiddwen Thank you very much.


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Sun-Girl 5 years ago from Nigeria

Love is so sweet when things are moving well but can be so bitter if things turns around,great work which is well shared.thanks.


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donnaisabella 4 years ago from Fort Myers

Thanks for sharing, this hub brought a lot of things to mind. As a teenager growing up, I am glad I listened to my parents and especially to my mom when she told me that falling in love as a young person had its own risks because normally there are still many roads to be traveled by both boy and girl so there is not guarantee. I learned to be patient and not take the boys too seriously when they came along the way. I met the love of my life in college and we have been married for 17 years now. How I wish I could say it has been all smiles and roses, no, there have been many times when walking out was so tempting but I hang in there and thank God I did, because I learned a lot and I believe we just got to the top of one of the hardest mountains to climb. It has all been with the help and wisdom of God but we both have done foolish and stupid things. I wish you the best.


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coffeegginmyrice 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

First Love hurts. Yes, it does and there is no denying about it. If 'First Love' does not work out, there is always a lesson for us to be able to carry on to the next love. I Love your hub! I am sharing it on my Facebook for my friends to read. Thanks, rose56!


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rose56 4 years ago Author

@ coffeegginmyrice Thanks very much for your nice words. and good luck to you.


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mathira 3 years ago from chennai

rose56, a truly emotional hub, right out of your heart. Love can make you when it is true and dismantle you if it does not have depth.


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rose56 3 years ago Author

Thank you so much.

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