Married Twenty Five Years With Children And Happy To Tell It

It Hasn't Been Easy Being Married For 25 Years

How We Have Stayed Married For 25 Years

Looking back over the last twenty-five years of my life, I am grateful for the man I married. You might think that twenty-five years is a long time, but it is not when you can chronicle many events and accomplishments you have enjoyed together. The best part is, I am looking with anticipation for more exciting times ahead.

I am looking forward to the time when the kids are gone, when it’s just he and I. I miss the time when we first got married. For the first four years of our marriage we didn’t have any children. Life was carefree, and we had far fewer responsibilities than we do now.

We have three children, one in college, one in high school and one in middle school. By the time the oldest completes college, the middle one will be entering college, and the youngest one with be entering high school.

The beauty of raising children and being married is, children keep you communicating. There is always a project, concern or something exciting happening in our children’s lives. They fill your lives with interesting things.

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Marriage Is Beautiful!

This Couple Married Twenty-Five Years This Year, and Still Going Strong.
This Couple Married Twenty-Five Years This Year, and Still Going Strong. | Source

Marriage takes Faith, Finances and a Fix

You Spiritual life and Faith should be strong.
You Spiritual life and Faith should be strong. | Source
You can't live off love alone - You need some cash and lots of it.
You can't live off love alone - You need some cash and lots of it. | Source
You need sexual gratification.  Both husband and wife need a good Fix in the sanctity of marriage.
You need sexual gratification. Both husband and wife need a good Fix in the sanctity of marriage. | Source

How To Successfully Get The Man Of Your Dreams

The day we met was the day I was at my best. I was prepared in every area of my life. I was a college student minding my own business. I worked at the college I attended and he was on the hunt. The evening we met, I was looking my best and dressed my best. I remember it like it was yesterday. I wore this two-piece mauve skirt set, and the world was on my side. That night we made eye contact as he passed by the office I was working in. He passed by that door, seems like a hundred times, and never came in that night. He tracked me down later, and the rest is history. I still believe that a man should find his wife. I imagine that the reverse is possible.

Establish A Strong Foundation

We were a young married couple who demonstrated our faith in God. We attended church together and were very active in our local church fellowship. We worked, played, vacationed and saved our money. And when our first child was born, we moved into our very first home that we purchased. We had it goin’ on, cars, a house, good income, money in our pocket and a new baby girl. We enjoyed the good life in our early days, and because of that, we enjoy a good life now.

Married With Children

The majority of our married life together has been raising children. Knowing how to handle the responsibilities of raising children takes a lot of understanding, patience and love. Children test the stability of marriage. I believe that if we had not established our relationship before we had children, we might not be together today. Children have the power to bring you together or draw you apart. Now that we have come this far, and I know what I know today, allow me to save you some heartache.

The three most important areas that determine your success in marriage are: Spirituality, Finances and Sexuality. – In other words, your faith, money and sex.

Spirituality – Your faith in marriage provides a reference point for standards you set. In our marriage, we have values, beliefs and morals that we try to uphold to keep us grounded. When we miss the mark, we have our faith to get us back on track. Having a standard has kept us from many problems, and we have only had a few setbacks.

Finances – We decided early on to combine our finances to achieve our dreams. We realized that money is a resource that can create joy, and lack of it, can create great sorrow. Paying bills on time, and not living entirely on credit keeps us moving forward. My husband has always lived within his means, and I have tried my best to support him. He is the main income earner, and I supplement our household income.

Sex – Sex is sacred to our relationship. We understand the need of the other, and meet that need the best we can. Sharing ourselves with each other is critical to our health and well being. Both men and women need sexual gratification. Sex in our marriage is the place where no one else is allowed. You can come to our house, eat our food, sit on the sofa, but you cannot share our bed. That’s for he and I.

Scroll Down For Six Interesting "Facts of Three" In Marriage

Three Areas That Bring The Greatest Turmoil

  1. Dishonesty.
  2. Other People In Your Marriage.
  3. Job Dissatisfaction.

Three Areas That Bring The Most Fun

  1. Playing Together.
  2. Reading Together.
  3. Family Togetherness.

Three Areas That Need To Be Worked On The Most

  1. Good Communication.
  2. Being Considerate.
  3. Celebrating Special Days.

Three People/Groups That Can Help Bring Harmony In Your Marriage

  1. Friends.
  2. The Church.
  3. Another Married Couple.

Three Places Every Married Couple Should Go

  1. Fancy Luxurious Hotel.
  2. Cruise (if you don’t get seasick) or Nature Vacation.
  3. Outing Of Your Choice (as often as you can).

Last Three Things Every Married Couple Should Do Together

  1. Eat Together.
  2. Pray Together.
  3. Sleep Together.

I hope you have enjoyed this short version of marriage in a nutshell. I enjoyed writing and sharing it with you. I am sure you have other points and tips, please share your thoughts in the comment section.

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Treasuresofheaven 5 years ago from Michigan Author

Congratulations Ramsa1, 42 years of Marriage is awesome! Thanks for checking in.


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Ramsa1 5 years ago from A citizen of the World

I've been married for 42 years.


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Brinafr3sh 5 years ago from West Coast, United States

Thanks again.


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Treasuresofheaven 5 years ago from Michigan Author

Hello carolp, nice of you to stop by. I am sure that I can learn something from you - 19 years of marriage is an accomplishment. I think that longevity can be our choice in a marriage (at least most of the time).

Glad you find this hub helpful!


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Treasuresofheaven 5 years ago from Michigan Author

Brinafr3sh, if I read correctly, I am sorry to hear that 23 years of marriage has not been all that great for you. The fact that you are still together (in same household), says something. Please get connected to other couples so that you can get inspiration.

My husband and I are involved with the Covenant Partners at our church and a couple weeks ago we went as a group to play Whirlly Ball - lots of fun! You know, men like to play!

Thanks for reading, I hope things will begin to look up for you in this area of your life.


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carolp 5 years ago from Switzerland

Very hepful informative hub. I will surely apply some of your steps and advice. I am now on my 19 years of marriage, hope it will last long and ever. Thanks.


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Brinafr3sh 5 years ago from West Coast, United States

Hi Treasures,

This article is inspirational for new and advanced marriages. I have been with my husband for 23 years, and it's a blessing when you can say to God "thank you for my life-long partner in marriage," (this is not the case though for me). And your right, a standard has to be set.

:-) Thank you, and God bless.


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Treasuresofheaven 5 years ago from Michigan Author

It is so good to see you Happyboomernurse. Amazing that you found this hub. Thanks for always being so kind to read my hubs and give valuable feedback! Marriage is certainly worth sharing info about.


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Happyboomernurse 5 years ago from South Carolina

What a beautiful hub. It's easy to see how your marriage has lasted so long because respect, love, values and faith are the things that really count.

I particularly like what you said about building a good foundation before having children. Thanks for sharing your philosophy about marriage.


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Treasuresofheaven 5 years ago from Michigan Author

ladyjojo, thanks for the very kind comments. I appreciate the "strengthen your marriage" thoughts. Pray our strength! Thanks again!


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ladyjojo 5 years ago

It's always a pleasure for me to hear and see people married for a long time and are very happy. So many marriages now a days don't last because people marry for money, fame etc rather than love.

I am very happy for you may God bless and continue to strenghten your marriage and give you two love like never before for each other :)


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Treasuresofheaven 5 years ago from Michigan Author

Hi crystolite, you said it in a nutshell. Marriage is a continuous "working out" situation. Always working to get better and improve. We are partners!

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!


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crystolite 5 years ago from Houston TX

Congratulations for you.Its not easy to remain in love after 25yrs of marriage because am sure you both has encountered a lot of difficult situations that was properly handled and taken care of.


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Treasuresofheaven 5 years ago from Michigan Author

Hi moonlake, you sure defied the odds. You have an awesome marital story. I am very glad you shared it here on my hub. 49 years is nothing to sneeze at! Great story! Thanks.


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moonlake 5 years ago from America

Great hub.

We will be married 49 years in Oct. I was 17 and he was 19. I remember the Minster saying we would never make it so he wouldn't marry us. His reasons we were to young, different religion, didn't know enough about sex, he was northern I was southern. You name it this Minster had many reasons not to go through with the wedding. He told us this about 5 days before the wedding. He had also told us there was not a three day waiting period for marriage license . We get to the courthouse they tell us there is a three day waiting period but they would get the judge for us and maybe he would wave the three days. Judge said “ Do you love each other,” we said we did. He signed the license. Goes to show how young we were we waited to the last minute to get the license, just the day before our wedding.

My husband had went on the military base and ask the chaplain there if he would marry us. He said "sure".

We were married in a chapel on base, changing churches for the wedding was a chore but all worked out.


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Treasuresofheaven 5 years ago from Michigan Author

oceansnsunsets, it is always good to see you. Thanks for stopping by. Glad you see this as encouraging.


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oceansnsunsets 5 years ago from The Midwest, USA

Wow, what a great and encouraging hub! Its so great to hear stories like yours, and I am happy to see you are out there encouraging others. It is very much needed these days, more than ever it seems. Great tips as well, way to go!


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Treasuresofheaven 5 years ago from Michigan Author

BigSerious, you have to be mature to raise a child. Most of us weren't ready when we had our first child - nothing prepares you......oh, but when there is L-O-V-E, it makes all the difference.

Thanks for stopping by and sharing your comment. I will catch up to you.


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BigSerious 5 years ago from Harrisburg, PA

Really great - my husband and I had a child quickly after marrying and if we didn't believe so strongly in our love for each other, I shudder to imagine where we'd end up. Raising a child with another in a young relationship is HARD. Excellent inspiration. Thank you. :)


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Treasuresofheaven 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Juiceyme, I appreciate your comments. Look how you have taken sometime small and made it a cornerstone for your marriage -- sitting down to talk, and have a cup of coffee with hubby. I am striving to be like you. You are a living testimony of how nice life will be after those kids are gone..LOL back!!! For now though, I will enjoy them while I can. Congrats to you for 30 years of marriage!

Blessings,

Sima, Treasuresofheaven


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Juiceyme 6 years ago

My husband and I have been married for 30 years. We practically raised each other throughout the years. We have two now grown children. So they are out of the house and my husband and I have the house to ourselves, which by the way...we enjoy very much.LOL!!!! Our special time is early in the morning to sit down and have our cup of coffee talking before he goes to work. It's simple but we enjoy it very much. I'm happy for you and your husband on your 25 years of Marriage, wishing you the best.


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Treasuresofheaven 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Hey there Rosie2010, Happy to hear you were married 26 years. Sorry for your loss. I am sure you have stories to tell of love and marriage; make sure you share on HubPages. Thank you so much for your kindness! Hey, I forgot to include Widowed in the poll.


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Treasuresofheaven 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Thanks Team A, you are welcome. Congratulations to you and your wife for ten years. I know you will get there from your passion. It is wonderful to see young love!


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Rosie2010 6 years ago from Toronto, Canada

Hiya my dear friend Treasureofheaven, CONGRATULATIONS on your 25th anniversary!!! I was married for 26 wonderful years.. sadly, my husband passed away 5 years ago. What a wonderful hub. I wish more happiness and the best of times.

Have a nice day!

Rosie


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Team A 6 years ago

Me and my wife are just about to reach the 10 year milestone of our marriage and we are very happy and will continously love each other for the rest of our lives. Thank you for sharing a great hub.


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Treasuresofheaven 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Sullen91, thanks for the Congrats! Have a great day!


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Sullen91 6 years ago from Mid-Atlantic Region, US

Congratulations, that is impressive longevity for this day.


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Treasuresofheaven 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Thanks Lisa. Congrats on your 20 years! We gotta keep pushing our Marriage Points up, just like our hubscores. Let's do it!

Blessings,

Treasuresofheaven


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Lisa M Smith 6 years ago from Coupeville, WA

Congratulations on 25 years! My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I really enjoyed your hub. Everything you have written is so true! I look forward to reading more from you!


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Treasuresofheaven 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Christina, you will make 25 years with a breeze. You've got what it takes. I'm counting on you!


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Treasuresofheaven 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Onegoodwoman, see, your husband proved my point, if we can live through children, we will be okay. Wow, and the freedom that comes with children leaving -- didn't know a bottle of OJ could taste so great. Thanks for checking me out.


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Treasuresofheaven 6 years ago from Michigan Author

Ingenira, thanks. We are looking for beyond 25, I'll let you know when we get to 50. We are blessed I say!


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Ingenira 6 years ago

Congratulations ! 25 years is long, yet many more to goes... You have a blessed marriage indeed. :)


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onegoodwoman 6 years ago from A small southern town

Congratulations.............this is a milestone!

When our last daughter left home, my hubby went to the refrigerater and opened the OJ, took a long drink, and said, " I have been waiting years to do that "!


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ChristinaScibona 6 years ago from The Heart of the Finger Lakes

This is great. My husband and I have been married only a few shory years but I know that we will get to 25 and beyond! Thanks for sharing your secrets!

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