Men Don't Date Fat Women

Fat Women Aren't Appreciated

As a fat woman, I've experienced the extreme shallowness that exists in our society. I'm speaking from years of experience, and believe me when I say: I'm fat. I often mention that I'm fat to my students and they usually reply, "You're not fat!” I laugh because I know I'm fat, and that's ok. If you're wondering why I haven't done anything about it, I have! Unless you've been fat before, i.e. 50 or more pounds overweight, you don't have a clue as to how difficult it is to lose that much weight. I've lost 100 pounds before, but due to the fact that I am a stress eater living a stress-filled life, I have gained it back plus more.

However, just because I'm fat doesn't mean that I'm totally unattractive—at least not in my eyes! I've been told many times, "You're pretty.” Yes, I know I have a pretty face. And, yes, I always take care of myself by waxing, getting pedicures and manicures, etc. This doesn't change the fact that, according to our society, being fat means you are ugly.

Men certainly do not find fat women attractive. The excuse I have heard my entire life is that they are visual creatures. Then men wonder why they can't find a nice girl who will be their confidante or best friend and more. You can't find someone like that if you are constantly judging a woman on her weight before considering her other qualities. Give the fat girls a chance! We may have extra cushioning, but we can do everything the skinny or average woman can—maybe even better.

Full-sized woman?
Full-sized woman?

I don't want to generalize fat or thin women, but I find that fat women often have more of an appreciation for food. Go figure! Most men also have an appreciation for food. You’ve heard the saying, "The fastest way to a man's heart is through his stomach"? I think this is true. Every man I've dated has appreciated my amazing baking and cooking skills, and if you asked them what they miss about me, they would probably first say, "Her tacos and burritos.” Well, you would think maybe this would keep them, but sometimes life doesn't turn out the way you would imagine.

All I know is that men need to change their perception of fat women and give us a chance. Men need to stop being so obsessed with looks and dig deeper into who a person is. I recently joined an online dating site, and so far all I've attracted are men my father's age or older. Yuck. I think you are much more compatible with someone within a few years of your own age. Maybe that's my own shallowness rearing its ugly head! But my takeaway from this online dating situation is that it proves to me that men just don't like fat women.

Just to prove this theory of mine, I posted pictures of myself when I was not so fat. The elephant in the room is the statement I make in the "What are your personal goals" section. I state that I'm overweight and one of my personal goals is to lose weight and get healthy. This is what men read before they run!!!! If you're a man, stop acting as if you've never done this. Face the truth and stop blinding yourself. You are shallow!

To make things worse, the site I joined is a Christian dating site, and I thought Christian men would be less shallow. Goes to show you that being a Christian doesn't impact a person’s shallowness. This is quite depressing to me as a Christian myself.

Before I end this Hub, I do have to mention that I did get a man who wasn’t my father’s age send me some instant messages! Yes, I thought, someone is interested in me for more than my looks.

Go figure the guy was a complete weirdo.

I think the solution to meeting a man is to either lose weight or give up on men and become a nun or lesbian.

Just kidding! I love the shallow idiots.

In a Nutshell: Be Confident

Sorry if you’ve heard it before, but it’s true. If confidence doesn’t come naturally, just recall some of the women who are heavy and beautiful. Adele, Queen Latifah, Kristie Ashley, Aretha Franklin, Dascha Polanco, and Missy Elliot, just to name a few. Channel any or all of these divas. If you need help seeing more models that look like yourself, check out the blogs such as The Curvy Fashionista or Fuck Yeah Chubby Fashion!. Last but not least, practice self acceptance. That critical voice in the back of your head? Turn it off. Be gentle with yourself over any mistakes, and never lose sight of the things about your life you love.

Maintain Perspective

The second most important piece of advice is to maintain your perspective. A real perspective, not one propagated by the media. According to the CDC, over 1/3 of Americans are obese. The average weight for women is 166 pounds and the average waist of a woman is 37.5—a size 18. This is the average, which means that a good number of people are above that. Does this mean that 1/3 of Americans never find love, or that the American woman of average weight or above is doomed to spinsterhood? The answer is of course not. They find a way to happiness—it’s just not advertised on television and in magazines. So will you.

Don’t Take Weirdos Personally

I sometimes file this under maintaining perspective. Don’t take weirdos personally, especially online. If you are hanging out on the subway or at the airport, what percentage of the men that you see would you want to date? Definitely less than one out of ten. So don’t begin examining your self worth when any of the other nine out of ten talk to you. Ignore them and keep meeting new people. On the flip side, don't take rejection personally. Again, keep perspective, and follow the same protocol—ignore them and keep meeting new people.

The first battle to fight is internal. Believe me, I know the hardship of battling through weirdos without becoming a nun. Remember: you are not in the minority, and divas come in all sizes.

Comments 117 comments

FatMan80 6 years ago

This is a joke. Women are just as likely to be "Visual". Fat men have the exact same issue. Women are just as bad.


FanManToo 5 years ago

I think women are just as or more shallow than men. I have been on a dating site and have met 7 very large women from the site. I like larger women. Each one has said they don't want to meet up again because of my extra weight. I find men don't mind fat women as much as women dislike fat men.


James 5 years ago

HI,

Thanks for your article. However,

I dont agree with this. First of all it depends how "fat" you are. People are shallow that is just us. But...when men see a 300 pound woman. Its hard to imagine making love to her. I mean...there is a point where you can see that women stopped taking care of her self and now is just processing the MD food. So please do understand that it all has limits. Nothing wrong with being a little chubby. But you ladies would not like to make love with a whale either would you ? ;)

I saw this website: www.datefatwomen.com and asked them about their clients. Although they did not give much. They could tell me that many man are interested in their service.


Hypocrisy is Invisible 5 years ago

You spend an entire article ranting about the shallowness of men for not preferring unhealthy obese women, yet have the audacity to discriminate based on age? A man preferring an attractive non-obese woman is personal preference just the same as you preferring men your own age is personal preference. You expect that you are allowed to have standards of attraction, yet men should drop their standards because you can't take personal accountability for your eating disorder? That would make you a hypocrite.


Ivebeenthere 5 years ago

You have a problem with food. What if somebody has a problem with drugs? You would probably run the other way and not want to get yourself involved with someone that has unhealthy habits. You need to find a healthy way to deal with stress not a destructive way. I think that is the thing. Over eating is a symptom and it takes some real soul searching to find the cause.


dawnis 5 years ago

THAT is a load of crap, i have been a large womamn ranging from 240-290 and i have more men than i know what to do with i am asked out consantly and my sex life is in full swingl u know why, becauase i see myself as attractive and sexy, i by nice trendy clothes, and acrves, have my nails and hair done,, and me are proud to take me out, so if u arent getting asked out, it because of u not them,,thats a fact, and am college educated mature 40 soemthing womm


santoshubpages 4 years ago

It is not at all shallow for an individual to choose against dating someone because they are fat.

Being a healthy weight is a metatrait which implies a host of positive traits: good genes, self-control/discipline, et cetera. There are also real health issues associated with obesity. The question is...why any sought-after man would choose to date an obese woman given options.

Men want the best possible mate, so it follows that they would seek a mate with the positive qualities that you boast as well as a healthy and fit body.

Given the health concerns and epigenetic impact of obesity, an obese mate is a poor choice if someone wants to have healthy children.

Short men are also strongly discriminated against in dating, however, by making healthy choices a short man will not get taller as a fat person can lose weight.

Clearly you are bothered that people don't want to date you because you are obese. If it bothers you, lose weight. If you can't lose weight because of a genetic problem or a disease then most men would not want to have children with you. If you don't know how to lose weight, I will happily help you, just send me a message.


Kristen 4 years ago

The major difference between a friend and a lover is attraction. Sex. Why go out with someone if you're not attracted to them? People don't find rolls of fat attractive. At least with fat -- unlike age or acne or cancer or just being, frankly, ugly -- you can do something about it. People need to get off their high horse with all of this "beauty is all on the inside" crap. Why is it ok to appreciate beauty in every other area of life, but when it comes to people, it's shallow? Hypocritical.


Jenny 4 years ago

Wow, some people were harsh here. Maybe they don't understand our frustration at times. First of all, she made it clear she's trying to get healthier and she even states that in her profiles. Second, it is NOT easy nor instantaneous to lose weight, the more weight you have to lose, the longer it'll take, and I'm not talking about months, I'm talking about years sometimes (that's if you're doing it the healthy way), so, is she supposed to be lonely all that time?

Anyway, to be honest with you, I think what's going on is that you're irradiating some insecurity. I know it's hard to believe that someone can be attracted to you because, like these people here showed you, most people are taught by society that fat means ugly. But believe me, some guys ARE attracted to big girls, they're harder to spot because they're scared to say it, just look at how these people reacted. Believe me, they get the same crap as well. But finding love is not impossible, what I'd suggest is that if you're able to do it, date foreigners, people from Europe are way more open minded and are more sure of themselves, so usually they don't need their family's or friend's approval to date whoever they fancy. Take my boyfriend for example, he told his friends from an early age that he liked fat girls and that's all he will date. He's dutch, by the way. Not only are European men beautiful, but also educated and real gentlemen. Try it, you won't regret it.


Mark 4 years ago

Let me ask you this: do you ever date men with a lesser education, income and income potential than your own? If not, you have no right to complain about men being shallow. Been out with any gas station clerks lately?

Irony is lost on many overweight, educated females. They still expect to be hypergamous, yet expect men to shed their evolutionary programming, which is to mate with young women who have healthy bodies.


Not Mark 4 years ago

There is no evolutionary programming regarding body type. Um, did you happen to read the article? At the top there is a picture of Boticelli's Venus. This may cluse you in to the "healthy body" (aka the sexy body) as seen through the eyes of people in the 1480s. A societal preference for fat or thin changes over time, and goes back and forth, and has little to do with evolution.

Also, education and income aren't the same as appearance. You DO know that deep down, right?


Tren Bolone 4 years ago

Actually, just like your weight, education and income are things that can be improved through hard work and that show you have self-discipline. So yes they are the same, double standards much?

Why should men compromise on this when women don't compromise on their height, income, age, weight and education standards?


Anonymous in New York! 4 years ago

It is shallow thinking because a guy is a christian he must also date women based on their weight. Guys like girls date based on health (mentally and physically). There is something to be said about insecure people having good personalities but this goes with anything - big nose, bad skin, crooked teeth - so this redundant rant from fat women holds no credibility. Also I workout every day and am skinny. There isn't anything larger women can do that a skinnier ones can. Most of the time it's hard enough trying to find a skinny woman that is able to. Don't worry before long there will be a pill, everyone will be skinny, and we will still live in a world with shallowness because we are only human. If God gave us no ability to choose perhaps the population wouldn't survive due to bad genes.


Choyp 4 years ago

Here's the deal: Men's preferences really have not changed much, especially in terms of appearance.

For one, the image you referenced was Renaissance-era, back when they only used male models, so what you're looking at is the body of a male.

Second of all, when feminine curves are discussed, you need to think along the lines of Rose in Titanic and less of Rosie O'donnell. When it comes to bodies, a circle is NOT a curve.

Third, the main reason men seem so much more critical about weight is because obesity is predominant moreso in the female gender. Polls have consistently stated that about 70% of BOTH genders will not date someone obese. The thing is, since guys are thinner, girls have more options.

Guys have a fairly wide variety of tastes, but most of those are hidden behind the fact that we pick the only thin or moderately-weighted girl in the room because she is the only one who passes that first weight test. On the other hand, that one girl in the room gets to make her choice, because the vast majority of the men DO pass the weight test.

Lastly, men and women have not gotten more shallow in that sense. In other senses, yes, we have. But as far as body type is concerned, our preferences have not changed much, the population has. nearly EVERYONE used to be thin enough to pass each others' weight test, after which personal preferences take hold. But obesity has quadrupled in the last 50 years. The only reason no one was complaining THEN was because IT WASN'T NEARLY THE PROBLEM IT IS NOW.

hypothetically, if 10% of guys liked big girls, there were 10% big girls. now, (hypothetically) 12% of guys like big girls, and 40-50% are big, leaving 25-35% of girls without dates, and 3% of guys who are not physically attracted to their partners.


lovebug21 4 years ago

so I read your article and i think it just comes down to attractiveness. i think girls with a higher bmi or boderline obese/obese can get guys if they're pretty. but once you go over 250 it all kind of blurs and you stop trying to look nice. ive seen this in all my 300lb friends. and btw anyone who says 300 is obese they're wrong. 300 is catagorized as morbidly obese.yes there is a difference ask a doctor. id also like to point out to the one girl who commented that cancer has nothing to do with looks and i find your ignorant comment appauling. as for acne it can be changed its also genetic and can be self inflicted if you dont wash your face. id also like to state that being fat is a social factor for men. like they care about genetics. let me ask you this, if you were dating a supermodel with an obese mother would you dump her because of genetics? no you wouldn't so dont use that genetics excuse cause i have a friend who throughout high school smelled and was obese and we all thought its was because she didn't take care of herself. turns out she went on the pill and went to a healthy weight.


Brad 4 years ago

I'm a 20 year old man and I actually think girls who are somewhat overweight are more attractive. There's kind of a limit to it though...I'm not really into girls who are straight up obese.


Mark 4 years ago

Fat women who cannot find love usually have ridiculous standards. I seriously doubt this woman considers men with smaller incomes and educations. Sorry, toots, but fat women are like poor men. If I earn $8 an hour, and expect a professional woman to date me, I will be single forever.


Steve 4 years ago

I'm a 49 year old man and have recently started dating a fat woman. She's got a beautiful face and lovey long dark hair - but she's fat. But you know what? That's not a deal-breaker for me any more (whereas 20 or even 10 years ago it would have been). And the reason is that of all the women I've ever dated (and I've dated more than a few in my time), she is probably the most "beautiful" on the inside. In fact she's incredible, and we are so in tune as people it is almost unreal. So much so that her surplus weight doesn't matter. Sure, it would be great if she would lose some weight, more for her own sake (healthwise) than for mine. But after "going for glamour" for some many years with the inevitable crash & burn at the end, I've reached aa stage in my life where I'm looking for a soul mate. And although it's still early days, I think I might have finally found her.


Brian 4 years ago

You know what, this is dumb.. Of course I want to date an attractive thin woman (which I am)... That does not mean I am shallow, it is what attracts me. Why is a man who is attracted to bigger women not shallow when they don't want to date thin girls...

I am training to be a United States Marine , and I tell you it is not easy...

I was 300 pounds, I could not do a single push up or sit up or run.. I am now 186 pounds and can do 44 push ups in two minutes and 60 sit ups in two as well. I can do 10 dead hang pull ups, and I can now run 3 miles in 25 minutes... I have learned to TAKE CARE OF MY BODY, and I damn well expect the girl who wants to be with me to do the same ( and I have her).

When I was fat, I didn't really take care of myself, I mean I showered, but I did not look good.. And then I would complain about why no girls like me.. Because why would or even should a girl have liked me before.. Why should I like a girl who has not done the same..

I can now do the things that I cannot, my boot camp date is in October and I can't wait.

And also, I want to put my hands around my girlfriend and be able to touch my other hand, I want to be able to carry her.. If the car was on fire I want to be able to pull her out of it. If she was falling off a cliff, I would want to be able to grab her and pull her up just by grabbing her hand.

And I am fully aware that beauty doesn't last forever, but if it starts that way, you will think that person is beautiful forever. But start off fat that will be how I see you.

And sexually speaking (and OMG, that is right dating is about SEXUAL ATTRACTION that is what starts the first spark of wanting to talk to that person) I don't think that I could ever be able to pleasure a fat girl the way I can with my current girl.. And you can also bet that I wouldn't do it with a smile... And I bet fat girls smell like tacos down there...

And why should I be polite on this answer, you just need to lose weight, and don't say that you are trying cause you even said that you lost about 100 pounds before and you gained it back , that is 100% YOUR FAULT...

I want to be a Marine, and I worked to be this fit, but what if just because I got stressed that I decided to start eating again and GIVE UP!

What would that say to my future (thin) wife: oh, honey I had a rough day at work so I quit my job. Oh, the guys made fun of me for only sleeping being married and bragged about sleeping with other women, so to prove them I had sex with another girl.. The kids are having problems that are too hard for me to handle (son finds porn. Fist fights at school. Teacher calls. Kills animal. Cuts themselves) so I walked away. Leaves Note: honey this life sucks and stresses me out so I am leaving you and the kids.

Is that a bit exaggerated, well yea, but whose to say that you won't do any of that, because you got stressed and quit dieting, who is to say that you won't quit anything else just because of stress..

So again, I took care of myself and I am about to go through the toughest challenge of my life and I expect my girlfriend to stay healthy just as she expects me to.. And we are engaged, when she is my wife , I want to present to the Corps, that I have a healthy family, a family that looks healthy and takes good care of themselves.

I could go on and on and on. But I am NOT shallow cause I want a thin and healthy girlfriend and she is not shallow because she wants a man to take care of her and provide for her.. So stop crying that no guy likes you and LOSE YOUR WEIGHT, is it hard? Oh hell yeah! But is it worth it? You bet! And I did NOT do it just for the Marine Corps (though it is a lot of it) nor did I do it for girls ( and yes I did use girls as a motivation to get fit) but mainly it is for MYSELF, so I can feel good about myself.. I am happy with the way I look. And I probably added a few years to my life.

So lose weight for yourself and for getting a guy.

Mind you, there are men who prefer big women, I am not one of them, but they are out there.

But don't complain when someone like me won't even consider going out with you.

By the way I am 21, I am not just out of high school.

-United States Marine Poolee


Brian 4 years ago

And excuse my grammar and spelling, I am typing in my iPhone..


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Richycholmes 4 years ago from Moseley, Birmingham, England

I would like to think that there is someone out there for everyone and everyone in their own unique way as something to offer to the world.

Personally when looking for a partner I do have to have an attraction but when you get to know someone better you get beyond that and they you grow to love them. Now for me love comes from having the same sort of things in common and some common ground on where you would like life to take you. You also need to have trust and respect for your partner. Without either of these it does not matter how they look as it will not work.

It is always important to remember that there is nothing in the world that is perfect because each persons perception of this is different. On the other side of this if you think about it we are all shallow because if we were not we would all fancy ever single person that we seen and no one would be different. Therefore in my eyes this does not exist. What does exist however is people having a prejudice towards people because of who they are, what they believe in or how they look. In my opinion being CRUEL to someone because of this is wrong and constitutes nothing more than common bullying really.

It is important to remember guys that we are all unique in our own ways and we all have talents that the man/woman next to us does not.

There is someone out there for everyone and with 7 billion people on the planet the good news is the odds are in your favour. The trick is to spot it.

Take care

Richy


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Sophitiia 4 years ago from space

I'm still young, but i'm overweight at 230. I'm mostly considered pretty by people, but I have the same problem as you as i can never seem to get attract guys my age, I also get the weirdos approaching me. I personally love overweight guys i think they are adorable, sadly i've never had a boyfriend because of my confidence drop and i can't really talk to people very well. I've recently started losing weight and i've been eating healthy and going to the gym. I hope my confidence changes and maybe i can find a boyfriend. I think it's actually alot harder when you're a teenager, teenagers can be so harsh..But i do agree, our society is shallow, i've had alot of girls be so horrible to me or look at me in the most insulting ways because i'm bigger than them, and i've had guys just look at me repulsively. but this rarely happens, it still hurts so much.

-sophie


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Richycholmes 4 years ago from Moseley, Birmingham, England

Hey there Sophie, I am really pleased that you are making the right moves that hopefully will help boast your confidence. Always listen to what your friends have to say because they are the people that care for you the most.

It is important to remember that you are very young and you have loads of time to meet guys. Just keep on enjoying your life and keeping good company around you.

Sounds like you are on the way to getting there so stick at it.

Take Care

Richy


Dave 4 years ago

I think it's funny when fat girls point out pictures like the painting shown above or pictures of Marilyn Monroe and compare themselves. Most of you are twice the size of those examples and have no feminine shape whatsoever. You look like a stack of hot biscuit dough. You don't look anything like a woman from the 1700's , the 1800's, or the 1950's.


Gav 4 years ago

To the O.P:

If that's the way you think that men think of you, no wonder you can't get a date.

You just need to either Forget that you're fat for a while, or lose some weight to make yourself more physically attractive to the type of man you're chasing, or go for a different type of man.

I'm a 35yr old healthy 5'10" man.

I eat lots, all day long, but I work all day and I'm busy with the kids and home life after work.

I've weighed just under 10 stone (60kg) since I was 18. So that's 17 years of eating Good food, plus some MuckDonalds, chocolate, candy, Chips, Kebabs, alcohol and many more.

I don't put weight on, because I'm active.

If any Fat people want to lose weight, you don't have to eat less, just DO MORE - BE MORE ACTIVE!!!!!!!!!

If you don't DO MORE, then unless you are incapable of doing so, then you are just plain LAZY!!

It's simple Mathematics::::

If you eat 1 Chocolate bar containing 200 calories

Do something that burns of more than 200 calories :-)

Good Luck


Anon 4 years ago

Hi there! Something has happened in your life, you haven't reached far enough in relationships, you haven't dated enough or you lack self confidence. There are lots of men like myself that would prefer a big girl instead of a thin one. And I'm talking BIG, but beautiful too. Being BIG is not the problem!


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wynnestudios 4 years ago from Phoenix, AZ

I don't descriminate. I love all kinds of women. I would consider myself and average sized guy and I never had a problem dating bigger women. I think it all depends on preferences. I admit, people can be shallow but when it comes down to relationship material, I want a woman that I enjoy being around no matter what. Looks fade as time passes but personalities are here to stay. I enjoyed your article and all the heartfelt information you included. Thank you. http://wynnestudios.hubpages.com/hub/10-dating-rul...


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cruztacean 4 years ago from Olympia, Washington

I have to call bull hockey on this article. I am queen size, and have been since puberty. Although I have excess fat that I need to lose, even at my ideal weight, I would still be on the top of the charts. I will never be "thin." But, I have never had trouble finding dates. Not since graduating from high school, anyway. Kids think all there is to life is looking like a model or an actress. Adults know better. Boys didn't want me. Later in life, I found that men did. I am now happily married.

First of all, let's not have double standards. Are YOU willing to date fat or unattractive (not the same thing!) MEN? Don't expect Brad Pitt if you're not Angelina Jolie yourself.

And, I disagree with the Marine above who stated that dating is all about sexual attraction. Some of us are mature enough to move past that, and see the inner beauty in a person who isn't so traditionally beautiful. I'd rather be treated good by a guy who doesn't look all that hot, than to have a hunk who treats me like dirt.


Brian 4 years ago

I must say, if I am walking down the street or in a grocery store or at a bar or rave and I happen to see two women, one of which is healthy and attractive and the other who is 100 pounds overweight (and yes, for some men, fat is ugly). They both happen to have very nice and sweet personalities, lets pretend that their personality is almost identical. Who do you honestly think that I am going to approach first? The nice woman that I am attracted to of course...

Honestly girls, ask yourself the same question: If you found two men, one who was very attractive and healthy while the other was fat and ugly. Both are nice and sweet, which one would you go for?

I mean think of a man's point of view, we are on the dating market looking for a girlfriend. We are on a roll, we look good and we smell good, we are most obviously going to try and get the girl we fancy and try to play our cards right.

Even if the man is fat, he still knows what he wants and he will try to get it.

However, we all know that there are men out there who like fat women and there are women out there who like fat men. But at least in America from what I have seen that is not the majority..

I am not shallow cause I know what I want, maybe the fat girl is shallow because she wants an attractive guy over a fat guy.

I refuse to lower my standards of what I want in a potential mate. If I want an attractive girl then I will not settle for less, and I do not substitute looks for personality because I want both.

A girl should also refuse to lower her standards as well and get what she wants.

If you stay fat you will find a guy who likes that but it may take longer, but if you lose weight you may be able to speed things up and get a date sooner.. Goes for fat men as well.

And I HATE it when people say "oh, I lost weight but gained it all back because I am a 'stress eater'"

You know what that is, that is an excuse for not going through with your diet and exercising.

I wanted to stop working out on numerous occasions because I felt incompetent and felt that I could never ever become a marine (which I am not yet, bootcamp is in 3 months) but I never did stop, I knew this was not going to be easy and I was not going to stop for anything. Of course my training is not done, I have 3 more months to train and then 13 weeks of hell and then and only then if I pass everything then I can become part of the brotherhood and say 'I am a Marine' but only after I earned the title.

Of course everyone is different and not everyone is joining the military, so find something to work towards... I say do not use the opposite sex as a only reason to work out, because you may find yourself quiting just because something did not work out. Use something else as a goal. I only used girls as a bonus to get healthy and as extra motivation, but I did not make them the focus.

Once you complete your goal and you are proud of yourself then someone will come a long unexpected... I was lucky to find my girl during the process and you may be too.

I don't understand why people just do not want to get healthier and condemn those who also want a healthy and attractive mate... If you would work yourself and finally loose all your weight then you would say the same thing, why should you feel condemned because you want some one who is healthy like yourself.

All bigger people need to stop calling us shallow and realize that you in fact are the shallow one because you expect us to lower our standards while not planning on losing your weight. You are the shallow ones for wanting us to change while you just sit there. I am not going to approach a fat girl over the cute girl on the other side, I am just not going to.

And you should not expect us to just because you have a good personality because my girlfriend is looks amazing in every way and had the sweetest personality that I have ever known and I love her.

So for those who say that looks do not matter and it's the person that counts, well I say that's crap because you can find an attractive person with a great personality just like I did, I am not going to settle for less. I love my girl more than anything and I am happy that I did not lower my standards or I may have never met her.


BBWLoverAdore 4 years ago

To me, a real woman is the fuller more voluptuous woman, not the skinny Barbie Doll type -- boring indeed!

Fuller tummy, arms, breasts and wider hips... now that's

a woman I enjoy. And let the truth be known... they are

far better lovers and have more passion than the skinny

rabbit types.


Dog 4 years ago

loose some weight, its UNHEALTHY to be fat


Falcon 4 years ago

I am an overweight man. I have spent the last 5 years alone, miserable, and blaming women for all my problems. Recently I have come to the conclusion that this may at least in part, be my fault. I used to sell major appliances to builders, and made really good money, until 2007, and we all know what happened to the housing market then. As soon as the money was gone, so was my wife, leaving me alone to raise our (then 3 year old) daughter. At that point I weighed about 225lbs (I am 6'03 and muscular so this is an ideal weight for me). I lost everything, but my child. My weight went all the way to 300lbs, and along with not having money, and raising a child, I haven't had much luck with women. Women are cruel, and my feelings were hurt, and I used to get mad and blame women, but the only solution is for me to lose the weight, or win the lottery. As a woman you are lucky, there is really only one obstacle to happiness with the opposite sex, weight. Men have 3 obstacles: MONEY,weight, and height. Obese is not attractive EVER, and neither you or I complaining about shallowness will make it so. Now the fact that most women in the U.S. are gold digging whores, that is a product of shallowness. Men don't typically use finance as a dating criteria.


HeligKo 4 years ago

I married a fat woman. She was miserable most of the time. She would want to be involved with me sexually and socially as she gained weight up to the point she felt disgusting. She would then crawl in her little hole inside her body and share angry outbursts at why I wasn't attracted to her. Which really wasn't the case. She rejected nearly every sexual pass I would make at her. When she would start losing weight, and would feel good about herself, she cheated on me. The psychology being that I was willing to be with her fat, so I must not be good enough for her thinner. As a Christian man I put up with this until she told me she wanted a divorce. I will never, ever be involved with a woman with weight issues again. They are miserable most of the time. After 14+ years of her crap all revolving around her weight, and massive amounts of money spent on products to help her over the years (products she wanted not me), I just don't have the time or patience. I thought as a Christian I was seeing past the superficial, but the truth was I was being a martyr and just didn't know it. Fat women do not take care of themselves. People who do not take care of themselves don't do well in caring for others. The same could be said of men, and I don't really care for the small percentage of people who actually have a health issue that prevents them from losing weight. Most people just need to get out a couple times a week and move faster than a stroll and eat less to have good results over time. Eating better and working out harder is even better. The short of it is, fat women are not attractive on the inside or out from my experience. They are usually exceptionally self centered people who want to blame other for their being fat, being alone, being angry, etc. Look inside yourself, and if you don't like how people respond to you, it probably goes beyond you being fat. Being fat is just an outward sign of how you view yourself.


Robert 4 years ago

Get over yourself Ms Piggy. Few people like fat women. We don't have to, that is the way things are. If you don't like it, change yourself. Like I said, get over yourself, WE have.


Michael 4 years ago

@Robert

You are being a rude, immature shallow jerk. And please don't speak for the rest of us, men because you're insulting my intelligence. For your information, after years of dating amazingly attractive thin women, I married a woman who is around 300 pounds and I am the luckiest man in the world. I've never been so happy in my life. She is my true soulmate. One of the things which I found really attractive was that she never brought herself down or felt insecure about herself. She has always been very confident about her personality and the body as well. Her energy and radiant smile melted my heart. Our mental and emotional connection is beyond human perception which is MUCH more worth than the outer looks. Some of my friends were really surpised with my choice because they didn't understand how she made me feel. After they met her and saw what an amazing person she is - they told me to never let her go or they will go after me!

It is all about how the person makes you feel complete and fulfilled, not about the size her/his hips or thighs. Physical beauty passes but your personality lasts forever. I'm not saying that being obese or skinny is healthy, it is not and if a person feels unhealthy they should do something about it. Do it for themselves not because somebody told them they are ugly or disgusting. My wife is beautiful and I'm absolutely totally in love with everything about her. BTW I'm a very successful market broker, 6'3" tall, fit and considered to be handsome so there you go, I'm not a miserable loser which you probably thought I am.

To the author of the article:

Be confident about yourself. I know it's very hard but men to find women who love themselves, much more attractive. If you're not happy with your weight because it makes you unhealthy or uncomfortable, lose it! However, as I mentioned before, don't do it because because you will have guy wanting to date you, do it for your own comfort. You don't want a shallow men, do you? Also, be more open to people, just because someone is much older than you, doesn't meant they are bad or uninteresting. Let's be fair here. What you get, is what you give. ;)

Good luck!

Michael


DMCFCC 4 years ago

@Michael, you and a few other men here have made me feel better. I'm an older woman who needs to lose weight and I am doing so, but in the meantime I was thinking of starting to date again and wondering if it was worth all the rejections. I started wondering if all men were turned off by fat women if it would be worth trying. But if there is hope, I will try.

People like Robert and that marine are common on the Internet because they can be anonymous here and can't be held accountable for what they say, no matter how cruel. I think there are people who look for blogs just so they can be cruel. It must make them happy or they get some kind of sick thrill from it. If cruelty were fat, they'd be over 1000 lbs.


Kevin 4 years ago

You have already said the answer.

I was at one point in my like 250 pounds of fat and now am 180 pounds of lean muscle. It is hard, but then everything worth doing is hard. You should exercise, it is the best way to relieve stress. Eating is not the answer and should be something you do out of the need to eat.

You should look up tips

One for me is like drinking water, if you fill up on water you do not feel hungry. You have eaten so much I would imagine your body believes that that amount is the norm. You should do things to make your body think its full until you eat a reasonable amount of food a day.


Mark 4 years ago

Michael said , "I'm a very successful market broker, 6'3" tall, fit and considered to be handsome" He also claims to be married to a woman pushing 300 pounds.

That's the beauty of the internet. If anyone calls you a liar, you will never have to provide proof. Michael, no one is buying your story. And like all people who get called out on the internet, you will most likely come back with the , " I don't have to prove anything to you" rebuttal. The transparency is not surprising.


Trish 4 years ago

I have to say I really appreciate the people who have been mature enough to stand up for the fat girls. Personally I get sick of everyone assuming fat girls just don't care. I was unfortunate enough that after spending a child hood as skinny as a twig at puberty I developed PCOS a disorder that puts your metabolism in the toilet and then at 22 to develop hypothyroidism further reducing my metabolism. This is all related to genetics I just happened to get the double whammy, one from each side of the family. I happen to be a very healthy eating vegetarian and have even gone so far as to try weight lifting 9 hours a week for 10 months to burn the fat. Without success no loss of inches, no loss of pounds. I'm even a nurse which results in the fact that I am always moving. Even my MD doesn't know what advice to give. There are a lot of women out there with these issues, we didn't give up, it's the lot we've been dealt and it would be nice if some people were a little more educated and understanding.


manufan1993 3 years ago

no is not shallow ppl can't help it if they not attracted to them I no it's about personality shallow means you only go out with someone because there cute nothing else I wouldn't mind having an overweight friend I just don't date them it's about personality but not to sound shallow or anything but a little bit of attraction aswell


bbthumper 3 years ago

I've read each and every one of these comments and have to say they have made me amazed, appalled, sympathetic, laughing, concerned and every other possible reaction. I personally can say I see both sides of the coin and also agree with most sides stated. First off let me start with, every single person is ALWAYS entitled to their personal opinion & preference! That does not make them arrogant, selfish or shallow nor does it make them correct or wrong.

The big problem I'm seeing here isn't just being overweight/fat/obese but rather unhealthy and/or not sexy to another person. Is it possible to be "fat" and healthy and sexy? I say yes. Are all "fat" women/men healthy and sexy? I say NO. Would a normal guy or gal find a "fat" person sexier if they had a better self esteem and outlook on themselves and in turn appear sexier to the opposite sex? Probably! Why is that? because if they feel better about themselves they will put off a vibe usually makes others see you in a more positive light. BUT that will NEVER pertain to all people because whether I like it or whether any of you like it~ Some people just don't like fat women/men just as some people will never find skinny men/women attractive. This is just how the world is and that is what makes life so much more interesting.

Now that's my 2 cents for the general idea of what I see going on in the world and in these comments. However, I would like to address a few specific comments made above. Some say, be more active or eat better and you will lose weight and be "more beautiful" then others say it could be genetics or a disease or an eating disorder. I have to say, I agree with the comments to tell someone to do those things, but I also understand those who still can't lose the weight. Now before you roll your eyes. I agree because whether you are 100 lbs or 300 lbs it will ALWAYS do you good to exercise and eat healthy whether you lose weight or not. BUT, for those of you condemning people for being fat saying this is all they need to do to be more "beautiful"~ that's a bunch of malarkey. They should do it to be healthier..PERIOD. I know skinny women & men who hate the way they look and have very low esteem because they can't have curves or gain weight or what not and that self loathing makes them not as beautiful. JUST as I know the opposite is true. Beauty will always be in the eye of the beholder. Healthiness and sexiness is in how you take care of yourself and how you present yourself to others.

So you probably wonder how I can see both sides. Because I've not mentioned myself till now but can only say that I've been on both sides. I've finally after years & years of fighting this battle realize it is what you see in your self that matters. But more then that you still need to be healthy no matter if it helps or not. When I was younger I used to model. I was very thing and no curves. I did pretty well as a model and yet didn't' have a lot of friends. People thought I was arrogant. Reality was, I felt like crap when I saw myself in pictures & mirrors. I had people telling me I was getting curves and to diet more. The reality was I was gaining muscle from dancing & sports. Then I got older and had kids and battled health problems. I worked my rear off to lose the weight, but never focused on being healthy. I did lose it though, and gradually got more friends and became more socially outgoing and had no problems with guys. Then at the age of 35 I got pregnant again. Guess what I found out--it's not so easy to lose the baby weight at that age. I currently have a 2 year old and 2 teenagers and am overweight. I do zumba 1-2 hours a day 5-6 days a week. I do yoga twice a week and also work on weight training 2-4 days a week for an hour or two each time. My daughter loves going to the gym to play in the day care when I work out. I have been doing this since I had her and maybe have lost 10 lbs total in 2 years. I eat healthy, drink lots of water and have been to the dr's to make sure i have no genetic problem or disorder that is causing lack of weight-loss. The doctor told me.. you are over 35 & your metabolism is slower but there is nothing health-wise wrong with you and as a matter of fact are in perfect condition for years younger then what you are. I also must mention (with being overweight still) I have no problems at all attracting men who tell me I am sexy. However, I am now happily married and feel wonderful. I am healthy and over weight and beautiful AND SEXY and can run circles around many of my skinny friends (literally). Not all men will see me that way. But that's okay because my husband does and I know I am doing everything possible to be healthy and to take care of myself no matter what the scale says.

The world today is just more focused on obesity because there is a lot of unhealthy eating and loss of exercise. And that's not going to change any time soon. So just remember, there are fat haters & skinny haters. If you can lose/gain weight great, if not then just be you and be happy with yourself and make sure above all you are healthy. The rest will come.


debrajane 3 years ago

I have to disagree with the OP. There are men out there who do find larger women attractive. Just as there are men who only find thin women attractive. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are dating services for people who are attracted to larger men/women and they are very popular.

What I find disturbing is how cruel and insensitive some of the posters on this hub have been. I agree everyone has the right to their own opinion and the right to voice that opinion. However, they do not have the right to do so in a cruel and rude manner. It doesn't hurt anyone to voice your opinion in a polite way. Just my opinion.


Tim 3 years ago

Okay then, why don't women date shorter guys then? It goes both ways. Many women unless they have an illness can lose weight. Short guys just can't get taller. Some women date shorter guys but not many.


debrajane 3 years ago

Tim, the answer to that question is probably because people are cruel, as can be seen in some of these posts. Tall girls have probably been teased their whole lives because of their height and dating tall men means they will stand out less and not be teased again. A lot of behaviors are learned, even including who we date based on the results of past experiences.


Guest 3 years ago

A woman should be able to enjoy physical activity, eat healthy, run up a flight a steps with out getting of breath, no addictions(including a food addiction), and maintain a healthy weight so we can both enjoy a long healthy life together.


JM 3 years ago

The image of a 300-pound woman sitting in an easy chair, straining to reach her bag of potato chips, lamenting her woes with a tearful, snorted, "Men should just love me for who I am!" Why? Do you love the guy who's struggled with making a living most of his life? Do you give a chance to the guy who works hard but has a face like ten miles of bad road?

I didn't think so. Your prejudices are justified. Ours make us pigs. Typical female.


writeframeofmind 3 years ago

I think the problem isn't men don't date big women, It just an insecurity factor that some men have within themselves. If you see that 300 lb woman and say No I don't want her then turn around a year to two later and she looks like a penthouse pet, you would have the change of though then want to go after her and end up her being taken by someone who appreciate her beauty both inside and out. So bottom line is that for us men, we need to learn and appreciate what a good woman she is. After all, there are skinny girls out there that treat you like crap and squash your heart like a grape.


Liz 3 years ago

I've been fat and I've been skinny. I grew up a skinny kid. When I'm skinny, men are all over me. When I'm fat, they are more scarce--if course!

That's life.

It may sound strange, but I don't like men all over me. I don't want every man I meet to want to have sex with me. I gained weight on purpose to keep men away. It is obnoxious to have strange men walk up to you on the street with a twenty dollar bill and accuse you of being a hooker.


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KewlWriter 3 years ago from United States

So much has already been said here but I would like to add something more. I grew up as a fat kid and was teased all my life. Yes, it was in my genes. Not gonna play the blame game but seriously wish my parents took better care of me and educated me about carbs, but they did not know any better either.

We live in a shallow society, where people are revered for their external beauty all the time. I, like you, complain that guys don't wanna date me may be because I am too intelligent (PhD in Cyber security) and intimidate them, may be because I am a brown christian chick living in a conservative state, etc. But the fact of the matter is I am overweight. I am 5"2' and 155lbs. It's not obese but I can see so many beautiful girls around me and I know I will never pass that first look test of guys. Just like you, I thought Christian guys would not be as shallow but I discovered most of the times they are more critical and conservative when it comes to finding someone to date.

Here, I must mention that I myself am a shallow creature and can't see myself going out with an overweight guy. I admit it I am shallow hence I am not a hypocrite. If an overweight girl like me doesn't wanna go out with a similar body type, why should I expect a normal guy to go out with me? That would be the mere definition of a double standard. Although, I must mention here that I've never been asked out by an overweight guy either. There's a running joke where I come from it goes something like - "All the guys run after Angelina Jolie and all the girls run after Brad Pitt". I think that is true in so many levels, everyone wants to be with a really attractive person.

As they say "When in Rome, do as the Romans do", I've decided to get with the program and hire a personal trainer (when I have the money in a few months). I have hypothyroidism and its hella difficult to lose weight by myself and have struggled for ever, hence the idea of hiring someone to guide me seems to be something I have to at least give a shot. I've decided that instead of complaining, feeling bad, lonely and sad, I should become "one" of them, the ones the society finds acceptable to find a mate. Not only this, but it is high time I take care of my health too. So loosing weight would the optimal and logical solution to the conundrum that I face every day.


Eeekamous 3 years ago

That's not true. I see plenty of fat women as well as fat men who are dating or even in happy marriages.


Andrew 3 years ago

Firstly, studies show that even fat women have more sex then skinny guys. Secondly, women are just as shallow and almost always care more about money or social status vs. character. In fact they are also shallow about looks. When I was fat I got no attention. Thirdly, well there is no thirdly actually.


Jake 3 years ago

Double standards galore. Just like all the women who rant and rave about equal opportunity... until the check comes.


jammy 3 years ago

i'm fat ...the questn why im still single bought me to read this article..i agree men dont like fat women...


debrajane 3 years ago

It's been a few months since I read this post and added my two cents worth. I've now read the additional posts and it seems the opinions are still the same. I am also fat. I am also single. However, I am single by my own choice. I have a young daughter and I do not want to date until she is older. Whether skinny or fat, there are still too many weirdos out there to trust around her.

Beside that point, I would like to add that I, personally, am attracted to larger men. And when I say larger, I mean over 250 lbs or more. I don't find thin attractive on men or women. I don't think starving yourself to look like some star or the idea of what "society" thinks is attractive is something a smart person would do. Looks are not important if you are happy with who you are. That happiness makes you beautiful, no matter what. Just my opinion.


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RobVult 3 years ago from Lexington, South Carolina

Let me make a couple of points. I'm a Christian man who dates, I am widowed. I am not shallow because I date slim ladies, your personal anger shows somewhat there- e.g. we're bad if we don't date overweight, please, show me that in Scripture... I am free to date what I am attracted to, period. I have obese friends, I have overweight friends. I do not date overweight women as I am simply not physically attracted to them. That's ok, it's alright because you can't switch an on and off button re. what you are attracted to. I have an M.S. in Health, I workout six times a week, I eat no desserts. In summary I work hard in my fifties to be slim and I will not date an overweight lady. Sorry, it's a freedom I have and something I can not help, I am attracted to slim ladies, always have been, always will be. I have friends that are fat, it's cool.


Gravekeeper67 3 years ago

both over and under eating are equally unhealthy. Personally I prefer middle ground, somebody who doesn't look starved nor somebody who looks like a walking heart attack, somebody who looks healthy. Not saying that's all I look for because personality is equally important, its just what I prefer.


Stephanie Kjaerbaek 3 years ago

If you want a thin woman to have four kids with, why? I would say a Russian tank would be better. That 'thin, hot, petite, tanned, toned' chick will be fat with flabby tissue, a protruding stomach that makes her look six months pregnant, covered in C-section scars, with stretch marks (real nasty ugly deep bleeding ones that look like a car accident/burn) from breasts to knees. The vagina will never be the same. There will be spider veins, flabby tissue, (no flat stomach), a bad back, saggy body parts, a hernia, constipation, hemorrhoids, vaginal scar tissue, episiotomies, shrivelled-up dry, saggy small breasts, baldness, melasma, bad acne, and an extra fifty pounds. Never really understood the point of picking out a 'thin, attractive' woman because 'of her genes' for 'making babies'. Why do men who like thin women want babies? She ain't going to be thin for the four pregnancies and a year or so after that, most likely never. Can't see the appeal of a thin woman pregnant four times to a man who is a 'visual creature'. What is visually appealing about destroying a good-looking woman's appearance? They also want women who 'eat like men' but 'look like Pamela Anderson'. I think not.


Stephanie Kjaerbaek 3 years ago

If you want a thin woman to have four kids with, why? I would say a Russian tank would be better. That 'thin, hot, petite, tanned, toned' chick will be fat with flabby tissue, a protruding stomach that makes her look six months pregnant, covered in C-section scars, with stretch marks (real nasty ugly deep bleeding ones that look like a car accident/burn) from breasts to knees. The vagina will never be the same. There will be spider veins, flabby tissue, (no flat stomach), a bad back, saggy body parts, a hernia, constipation, hemorrhoids, vaginal scar tissue, episiotomies, shrivelled-up dry, saggy small breasts, baldness, melasma, bad acne, and an extra fifty pounds. Never really understood the point of picking out a 'thin, attractive' woman because 'of her genes' for 'making babies'. Why do men who like thin women want babies? She ain't going to be thin for the four pregnancies and a year or so after that, most likely never. Can't see the appeal of a thin woman pregnant four times to a man who is a 'visual creature'. What is visually appealing about destroying a good-looking woman's appearance? They also want women who 'eat like men' but 'look like Pamela Anderson'. I think not.


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Maureen Carey 3 years ago from Cleveland, Ohio

. I know because I've heard this my entire life! Then men wonder why they can't find a nice girl who will be their confidante or best friend and more! You can't find someone like that if you are constantly basing a woman first on her weight! Give the fat girls a chance!!! We may have extra cushioning, but we can do everything else like the skinny or average woman! Maybe even better!

I don't want to generalize fat or thin women, but I find that fat women often have more of an appreciation for food. Go figure! Most men also have an appreciation for food. What's that saying, "the fastest way to a man's heart is through his stomach"? I think this is true. Every man I've dated appreciated my amazing baking and cooking skills and if you asked them what they missed about me, they would probably first say, "her tacos and burritos". Well, you would think maybe this would keep them, but sometimes life doesn't turn out the way you want it to turn out.

All I know is men need to change their perception of fat women and give us a chance. Men need to stop being so obsessed with looks and dig deeper into who a person is. I recently joined an online dating site and so far all I've attracted is men my father's age or older. Yuck, I think it is gross to date someone my father's age! I think you are much more compatible with someone your age or within a few years. Maybe that's my shallowness rearing its' ugly head! Anyway, this online dating situation proves to me that men just don't like fat women.

Just to prove this theory of mine, I posted pictures of myself when I was not so fat. The elephant in the room is the statement I make in the "What are your personal goals" section. I state that I'm overweight and one of my personal goals is to lose weight and get healthy. This is what men read and then they run!!!! If you're a man, stop acting as if you've never done this. Face the truth and stop blinding yourself. You are shallow!

To make things worse, the site I joined is a Christian dating site and I thought Christian men would be less shallow. Goes to show you being a Christian doesn’t change people’s shallowness. This is quite

Okay. Let me just say it like this! If men can't accept all of you, then they don't deserve any of you. Men think that it's okay to be shallow, as some of the men on here seem to think. But it's wrong and insensitive as well. Let's say that a woman is overweight so a man doesn't want her,,but the moment she drops 50 pounds, he's suddenly all over her. She's basically the same person inside, she just lost the weight. That goes to show you that he's not really interested in her as a person, he's interested in her body. Because if he was interested in her as a person, he would have gotten to know her a long time ago before she lost the weight. Men like that are transparent and you can see right through them, my advice is to steer clear of them and find real men.

As far as Christian men go, if they are only interested in women who are thin and skinny and meet society's standards of beauty, then that is wrong as well. As Christians, they are supposed to imitate the example of Christ who was never superficial. He doesn't care what you look like, dress like, or how much weight you have put on. All He cares about is the condition of your heart, of your soul. Everything else is irrelevant! Let me repeat that! Everything else is irrelevant! To make someone feel that they are somehow less deserving of love, time and attention because of weight is sin. Christian men must learn how to overcome this sinful world and are commanded to love everyone. If a Christian man is shallow, then He is not acting from love, but out of lust. No one has the right to make anyone feel bad about themselves or to make them feel unwanted and unlovable for any reason.

Is a fat woman less attractive than a thin woman? Certainly not! But these are the lies that the world would have you to believe.

Lie 1: You are not worthy of my affection until you lose some weight. You are worthy of affection. Weight alone doesn't equal how lovable or "unlovable" you are. We live in a very shallow, evil, cruel and secular society that feeds on everything the media says.

Pornography is a sin.

Robert, shame on you for calling her Miss Piggy. This only proves my point how stupid some men can be. Would Robert like it if he was put down because of his looks, weight. etc. No!

Men being visual creatures is only an excuse to justify shallow and cruel behavior like Robert's. While it's good to look presentable, you shouldn't allow anyone to beat up on you because you don't look like a supermodel. Men need to learn to grow up and stop dealing all the hate!


Maureenissadandfat 3 years ago

Maureen, your rant was just plain and ridiculous. Men are not going to change what they are attracted to. Fat women are not attractive. Too bad you don't like it. Call men "shallow" and "cruel" all you want, it won't change a thing. So, now stop complaining and go lose some weight Miss Piggy!


Truthis 3 years ago

See, fat gals like to compare themselves to fat guys, but there is no comparison. Fat guys know they're fat and expect to be treated that way. Fat GALS on the other hand want to be treated like a supermodel and NEVER speak of the rolls of sweaty fat and stinky va-jay-jay between their legs. Fat PEOPLE are gross, fat WOMEN are delusional AND gross.

It's not like you're missing a leg, pigs, it's not like you've been burned and you look like a horror show. No, it's just fat and you're JUST lazy.

GET OUT OF YOUR CHAIR!

Stop sitting down so much fat people. You sit behind a TV, a computer, a dinner table, and you never get up. You get so fat that your ankles and feet start bothering you giving you yet ANOTHER excuse no to exercise and eat less.

It's one thing to have LITERALLY a few extra pounds, but these exact women described above are NOT a few pounds over. A few pounds is like 5-15lbs. NOT 50!! And sure as hell not 100lbs. No, monsters, 100 pounds is NOT a few extra, it's an entire week's worth of groceries that's what it is. It's the weight of a 7 year old child, probably one you still use as an excuse for being big.. poor kid.. simply because you were pregnant.. ate for FIVE .. and didn't do a thing to lose any of it after you had them.

Women are.. first and foremost.. liars. More than men ever were. Why? Because THEY LIE TO THEMSELVES! Something men never did. What's worse is they then REQUIRE men to lie to them too. You have to be a master liar to be with a fat woman. She'll not only want you to tell her she's "beautiful" when in reality she is FAT AND FAT IS NOT BEAUTIFUL.. HELLO! .. but they will also require you to PRETEND like you want to have sex with them and call you a freak when you get "fat impotence" which,.. by the way guys,.. this is NOT a flaw in the system.

"Fat Impotence" is a NATURAL .. BUILT IN baby making instinct. Men are NOT meant to reproduce with fat women. They're unhealthy. ALL OF THEM! Either mentally, physically, or both. There is a REASON they are fat! This "reason" does NOT automatically deserve them sympathy or a flipping handicap parking pass. It deserves them LONELINESS until they reduce their weight.

I'm not saying NO ONE should ever be with a fat woman. I'm saying that fat PEOPLE can LOSE WEIGHT! That is all there is. There is no coloring outside the lines.. fat people need to lose weight.. period. One in about one MILLION people have an actual disorder that makes it so hard to lose weight that they need medication and GUESS WHAT.. THOSE people are ON that medication and they .. you guessed it.. lose weight. People that are on disability because they "don't want" to lose weight are LAZY!

Do NOT mate with these cows. If they have the ambition to lose, they're worth it. If they don't, not only are they fat and unattractive, they also have ZERO ambition in life and THAT is something you don't want to pass on to your children either.

END FAT ACCEPTANCE TODAY! ~ Lower Diabetes and Heart Disease Forever As A Result. Fat people do not live as long, this is called "Natural Selection". You're either part of it or you're not.


Ben 3 years ago

As a Christian man I have found that the vast majority of women living a Biblical life are of skinny to average weight. Most of the time fatness is caused by the sinful behaviors of laziness and gluttony.

So in finding a good wife, I would like to find one not living unrepentantly in sin. Just happens that the vast majority of those women are a healthy weight or currently working on weight loss.

Men aren't shallow for not dating fat women if they don't find them sexually attractive. Would you rather your husband want to have sex with you or the woman he's looking at across the room? Wanting to bone your spouse helps prevent infidelity. Men know this. What's the point of getting married besides sex? All emotional needs can be fulfilled through nonsexual friendships with women. The way to a man's heart is through his pants. If you want to marry, start offering something like a sexually attractive body that the man can't obtain through just friendship. Christianally speaking of course. I know most people do it before marriage.


Bob 3 years ago

Fat women are like mopeds. Fun to ride as long as your friends don't know you're doing it.


loreleiwatkins 3 years ago

i think one must have a positive and respectful attitude toward yourself and others, no matter age, size, economical position. i am fat, always been fat. and have dated gorgeous funny interesting man. curiously, many of them younger than i am. whatever you are and do, cut the complaining number of your life asap and just live up.

be happy.


loreleiwatkins 3 years ago

i think one must have a positive and respectful attitude toward yourself and others, no matter age, size, economical position. i am fat, always been fat. and have dated gorgeous funny interesting man. curiously, many of them younger than i am. whatever you are and do, cut the complaining number of your life asap and just live up.

be happy.


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Bianca Mccoullum 3 years ago from Fort Wayne

After reading the comments, it is confirmed: I'm doomed. However, I've adjusted to being single. I can not want what does not want me.


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Holly Dawn 3 years ago from Mount Pleasant, Iowa

I've been overweight or obese for the majority of my life (the last time I was skinny was when I was a newborn baby!) I have never personally had a problem with the opposite sex and now that I am in my early 30's I find that I have quite the active sex and dating life.

I also have an outgoing personality and a great sense of humor, I take great pride in my appearance and hygiene and I have a pretty face, I date and attract successful men who are not losers or even overweight themselves (even though I hold no prejudice against larger men or men with blue collar jobs).

Currently I am casually seeing a man who is a member of a drug enforcement task force and the assistant chief of the local fire department, I broke off things earlier this year with a man who was a gymnastics coach for a local college.

These men are nice looking, fit and respected in my local community so Bianca, you and other overweight women are not doomed, I'm speaking from personal experience, self confidence and a personality will take you far in life if you know how to work it.


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Bianca Mccoullum 3 years ago from Fort Wayne

Self confidence and a personality---I have all of that. Thanks, great post!


Karla 2 years ago

I was thin for most of my life and then got huge (200 lbs).. . I wanted to gain weight to be invisible to men, but, instead of being invisible I just attracted a different type of guy. It was the worse, as I truly enjoy being active and my size limited me and caused me to get injured. I am now thin again and never going back to that unhealthy way of life... I also have learned to appreciate the attention from men


Laura 2 years ago

Definitely a topic that can be discussed endlessly because beauty really is in the eye of the beholder but if we want to discuss "generalities" the majority of men do not want to date an overweight woman....in fact the majority of men want to date a "fit" woman and have very little patience for a woman even a few pounds overweight. I am 5' tall and have gained a little weight after a family tragedy....I now weigh 118 lbs....you guessed it....my boyfriend of 3 years said he can't deal with my weight!!!!


LOlJoker 2 years ago

This article is a Joke for sure. I've seen way more fat women with small men than I have fat men with smaller women. In fact, I have seen fat chicks that pretty much exclusively date thin/athletically built dudes and they get all the dates and sex they want. Let a big dude make up in his mind that he will exclusively date smaller women, you will then see an extremely lucky or extremely lonely individual.


Anon 2 years ago

It's simple.

"On the whole"...

1. Women prefer taller guys and women prefer guys that are in shape

2. Men prefer girls that are in shape

3. Having personality helps make up for short-coming in these areas but it doesn't change the above facts

4. We do live in a society where it is hard to stay fit and healthy, esp. as a lot of us grow up eating unhealthy but it's your life. You need to take control. The real problem here isn't men, it is your coping mechanism for stress, which as you say is food.


Extremely Offended 2 years ago

Well, to be entirely honest, some people commenting are too brutal, others are much too soft.

To start, I know what it's like to be a stress eater. I'm male, and actually still a teen, but I've dealt with a lot of stress in my life, more than the usual homework and bullies, but I won't go into detail. I try to force myself out of the kitchen, and sometimes succeed, which is why I'm not largely overweight, but I was. I still am overweight, but not as much, though I'd like to be lean or muscular, not overweight at all. So, I understand that portion. To everyone who doesn't get it, some people do react differently to stress than others. Stress, in large doses, can cause a number of problems and illnesses and abnormalities and odd habits. Sometimes people go days not eating, others eat like pigs. Some spend their time puking, some get dangerously bad migraines, others can't stop crying at the smallest of things. And from basic problems like those, more serious issues can occur.

Now, to the idiots who have posted that it isn't in our mental programming to seek young, attractive mates, you are wrong. Studies have, in fact, proven that seeking a lover is largely based on appearance because hormones make us want a mate who takes care of themselves and can therefore take care of a child. Attraction to large breasts, for example, is due to the male brain automatically believing that bigger means more milk, so we find it a sexy, erotic thing. A healthy body means the woman or man takes care of themselves, eats right, is active, and has a strong body system suitable for child bearing (for women). So, YES, it is in our brains to naturally seek healthier lovers.

On the flip side of that, some men are more brains than hormones and look into a girl and see her for her. I have been attracted to only a handful of women (I have high standards for an obese guy, if that makes any sense) and several of them were about as overweight as I am, maybe a little more or less. I was one of the few guys who found them beautiful despite the weight. My attraction to a girl is based on four things in the following order: Intelligence, Personality, Sense Of Humor, Appearance. The last two are optional, though the first two are mandatory. I can't find myself attracted to unintelligent or rude/vulgar/cruel girls. In this, I am very offended at being told to stop fooling myself and admit to preferring skinny girls. I really don't have a major preference on weight, so I am not fooling myself if I say I don't mind larger girls. Yeah, very offended on that comment. Not all men are hormonal pigs with no sense of dignity and will stoop to dating idiots for good sex.

Another note, women are just as bad, sometimes worse, than men. I have met plenty of girls that have outright told me, "Sorry, but I'd never date you. You're fat and I'm not attracted to big guys." Again, it is in their hormones and natural mind programming to be more interested in sexy men than bigger guys, which I hate. Believe me, I've been trying to lose weight. My issue is that I am expected to be the smart guy and people respect me for lacking a sense of vanity, even my family, so if I were to ever actually be caught working-out willingly in front of them, I'd lose that image. So I can only do anything to lose weight in secret or with a different excuse, if the opportunity comes. Probably that I'm worrying for nothing. People might respect me more if I wanted to lose weight and kept my pride low, but I'm worried it will ruin my smart-guy, don't-care-what-you-think-of-my-weight outlook. My own fault.

Another thing, as I just did, own up to your issues. You're overweight, so stop pushing it on men and blaming them. It is in their hormones. You need to also take a good long look at yourself and think, "Well, I have the personality. . .If I got skinnier, I'd have men begging for me." That thought is the only reason I've lost as much as I have, though knowing my luck, a sexy body would get me nowhere. For some reason, I've met girls who actually tell me, "I could never date you because you're so much smarter than I am and you sometimes talk and act like a girl." I am a bit feminine and I do get called "human dictionary" a lot, so I guess I don't even a decent personality, but oh well. All the same, you need to straighten up and realize that while part of the problem is hormonal pigs that you have unfortunately associated me with, you are also part of the problem. Weight is a factor in our lives that can be controlled with self-control.

All of that above said, I still do feel pity, a bit, for you, knowing how difficult it can be to lose weigh, especially when you're over 50 pounds overweight. I've been there. I managed to lose it in secret. I made up the excuse that walking was a good way to relax and unwind, which my family constantly tells me to do, as I am very high-strung, so they were more than willing to let me walk for several miles around town or down back roads anytime I asked if I could without a hint of suspicion. I did it almost daily during the Spring and Summer (good temperatures, peace an quiet of back roads that run through forests, excellent time for walking, does help relax and unwind).

Oh, and stop expecting so much. Just because a guy is 'Christian' doesn't mean anything. I used to be, of course, but recently I've given up on the title. The closest I come to believing in any god are the Greek Myths, which I love, but I certainly don't worship. I gave up belief in any of the current "almighty creator" gods that would snap their fingers and send you to Hell if you did wrong. However, plenty of guys I know that are Christian are far worse than I am. They can claim to be good people, but their hormones, lack of self-control, and overall personalities will mean more than any Bible passage they read when determining their actual dating preferences, or anything else for that matter.

Next time you write anything for all the world to see, try to be less biased and emotional about it and more logical and scientific. Logic, Emotion, and Instincts have to balance one another out if you want to get anywhere and everywhere. Follow your Brain sometimes, your Heart sometimes, and your Gut sometimes, but never always follow one or two and shut the other one or two out completely. Your Heart can easily cloud your better judgement. Bravery without Knowledge is Stupidity. A Heart that doesn't go for what it wants is destined to live in misery. You need all three to complete your life and you're currently basing everything far too much on your emotional bias.

In addition, I would be very grateful if you wouldn't generalize me with others of my sex. I find being compared to the majority of them rather offensive. To whoever said Europeans and Asians and all that are better to date, make of me what you will. I am always a gentlemen to the girls I date, making sure to buy flowers for every holiday, along with any other appropriate gifts, I am polite, and I always hear her opinions out before replying or contradicting, as I believe an intelligent woman should have an equal voice in a relationship. I have dated only two girls, actually. Most people find that strange for a 14 year old male, but I point this out merely to say I dated one girl who was, at the time, very, very large and another who was, literally, a model. An actual teenaged model. I dated the big one for several months longer, enjoyed being with her more, and I'm currently still trying to think of ways to get back together with her. She's skinnier, but she's still overweight, and I want to find a way to get back with her. Even if I had an eight pack, sexy pecks, beefy arms, and was just overall the sexiest man alive, I'd still want her back right now.

Please, never again write something that generalizes the male population, especially if you're going to be offensive about it. Most men, yes, are like that. Most women, yes, are also like that. However, there is a good percentage that have more taste, more emotion, and more control over their hormones. I hope you find one and I wish you well in losing weight.


Not owning your problems 2 years ago

People first notice another person's physical attractiveness, unless you've only talked on the phone or another impersonal way. There isn't anything wrong with that, because it can tell you other things about their personality. It's not completely shallow.

One woman has neat, clean, combed hair. Another woman's hair is dirty and unkempt. Unless there's a specific reason for that, you can tell the second woman doesn't take hygiene or personal care too seriously.

It's the same thing with people who are overweight. Most people who are overweight usually eat unhealthy foods, don't exercise, and simply eat too much. This shows a lack of self-discipline and less understanding of health and nutrition. If a man wants to have a child with a woman, who would he rather pick? The in-shape, slimmer woman, or the unhealthy looking overweight woman?

Instead of owning this problem, that you eat too much, don't eat the right foods, and don't exercise, you just keep looking for people who will accept you. Other fat people will accept you. You'll just keep acting repressed and agreeing with each other that everyone else is the problem, not you.

These men have no obligation to date you. If they don't find you attractive, they don't need to do anything they don't want to. You're not owed a partner if you can't take care of yourself.

Own your problems, don't make everyone else the problem.


Richard 2 years ago

Ya know that's kind of funny seeing as I've asked fat women who accuse men of being shallow that have said the exact same as you before and guess what? they can't stand to date fat guys.If you can't date a fat guy then you are your own problem.


roosh 2 years ago

Look author, this is an easy question to answer:

Back in the middle ages, being fat was considered healthy because people were starving and there was never enough to eat.

Nowadays, we have plenty to eat. The proverb goes:

In a time of famine, the fat woman is impressive. In a time of plenty, the fat woman is a gluttonous pig.

The same can be said for why sluts are shamed.


re-obese 2 years ago

Hmm is that a real question, why won't all men date huge women ? Well, do men HAVE to find every woman attractive ? That's basically what you are saying, actually complaining, that it's not fair. So you as a large woman, find EVERY man physically acceptable for dating and intimacy ? I'm sure NOT. you have your likes and dislikes so if you are upset about being large, stop eating, hit the treadmill. It's a simple equation, all the food you are stuffing down must be used up so IF you want to be slimmer, don't make excuses, be strong, just do it. I mean, come on, biggest loser contestants can do it when the hope of money is involved. Men can't force themselves to be attracted to a huge woman any more than he can force himself to look at a man, it's just not there if it's just not there. Do you expect someone to FORCE himself to be attracted to you ?


JT 2 years ago

How does the woman who wrote this feel about fat men? I'm sure she clicks past the fat or less attracitve men. Does she call herself shallow? Especially with online dating, there has to be some kind of spark., The only spark you can get while scrolling through pics is by looks, that's just the way it is. Deal with it. Yes fat people get a bum rap on dating sites, but it goes both ways. Don't call men shallow for browsing dating sites the same way you do.


Anonymous 2 years ago

All I expect is a woman who is as fit as I am. I don't think that's asking for too much and it makes sense. I've had issues before when I was with a girl who just wanted to sit on her ass all day. I wanted to go for walks, swim, hike or something. The desire for physical activity is usually seen in how fit a person is. Thus, expecting someone with a similar level of fitness works out well. Perhaps you don't want a man who is as fat as you. Hmmm?


shanna 2 years ago

With most of the comments it has proved my point. Men don't like heavy women, I have been married for 10 years and he says he's attracted to bigger women, I know he's full of crap because I catch him looking at porn which of coarse he is looking at skinny women. I don't believe for one second that any guy even guys who date big women are attracted to them. I believe all men are attracted to thin women they just settle and take what they can get with thick chubby or big women.


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Come take a run with me for an hour.......................


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Joshua 2 years ago

Do you really want to know why most men don't like to date fat women - and realize that I said "Most." Here is a list of things that thin/healthy people can do that fat people cannot.

1. Cannot fit into the booths at restuarants

2. Can barely fit into the seats on airplanes

2B. Can barely fit into the seats at movie theaters/concerts or anything similar.

3. Try to ride a regular street bike comfortably and without getting winded during the first 30 seconds

4. Try to take a bath, probably cannot fit

5. Can't jump on a trampoline

6. Too big/heavy to go on rides at theme parks,

7. Cannot join the Military

8. You have to go to the Big&Tall shop because other stores won't have your size.

9. Cannot sit in a chair without spilling over to the sides

10. Use Crutches

11. IF you are able to even sit on the floor, you won't be able to get up in a dignified way.

12. Too big for most water slides

13. Cannot sit on a persons lap without killing them - this is a big one

14. Can't really even look good in clothes

15. Toilets are too small for fat people

16. Difficulty wiping

17. Live past 45

18. Go parachuting

19. Bungee Jump

20. Having to use the scooter carts at grocery stores instead of a regular cart.

21. Go Hiking

22. Easily cut their toenails

23. Go Carts

24. Try to ride a horse

25. Walk between people in tight spaces

26. Easily go under a car to fix it

27. See one's own penis/vagina

28. Can't do 98% of sex positions

29. Hula hoop

30. Easily walk up stairs

31. Can't be picked up/held by your boyfriend

32. SURVIVE MOST LIFE THREATENING SITUATIONS

32B. Boyfriend can't even carry you to safety.

32C. If your falling off an edge, don't expect people to grab you - you will be like an anchor and take them with you, we don't want to die.

32D. If there is a fire and you are a couple stories up, you will probably break the trampoline that firefighters use to catch people.

You know why you cannot do any of these things? Because your too fat.

"Your too fat to do stuff."

Taken from this video called Joe Mamma:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvPciRmLSlU

Just skip to 3:11 and watch until 4:31 and you will hear even more stuff you cannot do - it may be a stupid comedy video, but it is true

And no, I am not trying to be mean, but really? I want a girl who is healthy.


healthyhuman 2 years ago

I am an active woman with a tall athletic stature. I love food. I love to cook, and eat what I cook, because...well, I'm really good at cooking! I love bread, and cheese, and sweets, but I also love being active. I do not snack or eat processed foods, but have a few sweets a few times a week. I only eat fresh and not a lot of red meats. My husband loves my cooking! Aside from societal preceptions of ideal 'beauty', there is an evolutionary/ biological ideology inbedded deep within the root of our pysche as human beings. That is, we are not supposed to be seditary, our ancient ancestors were always on the moving and working hard for their meals and shelter. A healthy individual is not fat, and actually not all healthy individuals are extremely skinny either. A healthy individual is fit and in shape. Either ends of the spectrum of being obese, or too thin indicates weaknesses such as inability to have control of oneself, or to educate ones self on nutrional information, perhaps indicates insecurites, depression, ocd ect. On this topic, bologically, it is not benifitial to pair up with an unhealthy individual. There is a reason why a healthy body weight is attractive. Because this is also an indication of mental wellness, and intellegence. You have the world at your finger tips. Spend less time on dating sites and more time researching what you are eating and how, AND WHY - to be healthy- for yourself- no one else... The last thing our society should give in to is peoples with bad health choises, just to stroke the egos and not offend anyone. You are unhealthy. This is not societies fault, not mens perceptions, or women who make healthy choisees. I am not tall and 'thin' because society thinks i should be... I am in shape because I am healthy and a choose to be healthy. I choose to educate myself and I choose to cook healthy, delicious foods. I decide when I eat and how much with self control and decipline.


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JC 2 years ago

Men are shallow because they're not attracted to overweight women? If a woman can turn me down for a date because she doesn't like my thinning hair, then guess what, I reserve the right to turn down a woman who weighs significantly more than a healthy 6'2" 180 lb man who runs 5 miles everyday! So yes, I'm saying that women are every bit as shallow when it comes to judging men. But here is the thing, my thinning hair is something that is completely out of my control... At least not without spending thousands of dollars on it! However, a persons weight is something that is usually very much within their control. I know there a some cases where it is not, but face it, these cases are rare! Most people are overweight for the simple reason that they eat too much, and exercise too little. This is going to lead the opposite sex into thinking that you do not care enough about yourself to make healthy lifestyle decisions. I apologize if that sounds harsh, but it is the simple non-sugarcoated truth!


unknown kid 2 years ago

this comment is to maureen carey if men aren't attracted to overweight or obese women that doesn't make them shallow what makes a person shallow is that a guy wheres a shirt saying no fat chicks is who we are attracted to would you like to be forced to be attracted to guys your fathers age it's same thing not all men are like that women do it to i know it's about personality aswell but it's the looks that attracts the person i can't date someone that i'm not attracted to i have obese friends how is it wrong to not date overweight women that is stupid that s like saying drinking beer is wrong i do admit there are some skinny women that i'm not attracted to i do admit i'm not the best looking guy there are women out there who are not attracted to me does that make them shallow of course not it's who there attracted to i know it's not all about looks but if i had a perfect girlfriend a supermodel and if she was using me i would tell her to fuck off but if there was a decent looking women with a nice personality caring and if i was barely attracted i wouldn't mind dating her


Gloomy Sunday 2 years ago

Sad, Sad human who does judge,


Doug 2 years ago

I want to snuggle and cuddle a fat woman but all women reject me for reasons I can only guess! The most likely two gusses are: 1. I'm not full of money and 2. I'm not crazed on intercorse. The only woman that went with me (14 years ago) actually married me, died of cancer in 3 1/2 years (we did not get divorced)Before her:no one.since her:no one.


Tim 2 years ago

I think we haven't evolved much ... Physical attraction is somewhat primal. I'm talking about both sexes. We see "healthier" appearance as more attractive to increase our chances of survival in the "wilderness" haha... Not having the willpower to control food intake also may raise a red flag to many - it is a weakness. Have you thought of dating fat guys?? Do you find fat men attractive? Seems that obese people are fixated on being accepted by "skinny" people (the perceived judgers) in the form of dating them. Date an obese man.


fatwoman 2 years ago

Christian men never want a fat woman. I don't know why. They are supposed to be the least shallow. I quit going to church and quit the church singles scene and met a wonderful man who didn't care that I was overweight. Go figure.


liam 2 years ago

Are you living under a rock? Some guys love woman regardless and I actually find thicker, and fuller woman are more attractive then skinny girls I prefer my woman in all shapes mostly except as strange as it sounds skinny. Im talking about like stick figures wel I look like it like this woman are great but shapeless woman are my least admirable if you have a personaility that helps whining doesn't :)


Tom 2 years ago

Getting winded by going up a few steps is honestly pathetic!

Say what you want, but we are not being shallow!

Besides do you really want to be pitied? Because that's what your asking for. He should go out with you even though your fat, he just needs to deal with it.

What you're asking for is to be pitied.

How can you say "I love you body, mind and soul" if you think she is ugly. You can say the words but you never really mean it.

Believe it or not but it really is all about sex - it is about sexual attraction... Yes, there is more to it than just sex but sex is still a huge part if it. The only thing different between your wife and your friends and family is literally "sex."

And I know what Joshua said was meant to be rude - but nevertheless, it is true.


Beating a dead horse 2 years ago

Obese is not attractive.


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Feminism is fascinating. Men are somehow manipulated by the evil media to not find overweight women appealing, yet all of these overweight women think that some Channing Tatum lookalike should want them. Do fat women suddenly fantasize about John Goodman or Chris Farley? Of course not.


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DragonFi 2 years ago

Well you're weight might not put people off as much as your insistence on crossing out words in sentences for no good reason at all.


Non lazy dude 2 years ago

Fat people are lazy. You got that big because you ate too much and lived like a sloth. Go to the gym and eat less than you burn and get over it. I don't date lazy women and women don't date broke dudes nuff said.


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My Gawd, where do these hambeasts get the notion they are owed love?


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So much misogyny and unnecessary hatred in these comments. Sad really, but hey the 'net will always be the cradle of idiocy, cruelty and cowardice.


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Ash 2 years ago

This blog was such an eye-opening experience for me. I'm in the health field and used to be very fit and active until I had some health problems that directly impacted my weight. It has been a very strange experience to have been very fit and then the polar opposite...and the sad thing is that people treat you very differently. I spent most of my life in long term relationships, no problems getting dates and guys being crazy about me but this was all when I was fit. When my weight transitioned after my last long term relationship, the dating world was a much different world than I had remembered it. Not that I was older and now successful, but because I was fat


Ash 2 years ago

I'm certain that most people want someone who in their eyes is healthy...just like we want someone who is free of addictions of any other kind. But the truth is, weight matters. I wish it didn't and it's not something I ever thought twice about when I was fit. We cannot help what we are attracted to. However, being this weight has actually been a blessing in disguise for me. Once I return to the weight that I had been comfortable with all my life, I will not be open to dating someone who fat shames...not because I have experienced being fat but because of the cruelty and ignorance of it. To me it would be on the same level as a woman shaming a man for being poor (but now had money)? Would you be able to trust that she would be there with you through the good and bad? Probably not. Shaming is superficial, judgmental and downright cruel but it's also in someone's full control which is why I will not accept it.


Bibiana 2 years ago

I am a woman who loves fat men, a female Fat Admirer. I do agree with you though- just about any woman of any size can get a guy to have sex with her, but heavier men are not so lucky. That stinks.


Hypocrite???? 22 months ago

You all are hypocrite. When you cannot stop eating, it is a disease just like a drug addict. Don't you think that if we could just stop eating that we could????????? DUHHHHHHHHH! No brainer. It's not that easy. Or we all would be thin and happy. Guys are very visual creatures. That is a fact. Science. When I was thin I had guys flocking to me, when I gained weight, no guys wanted anything to do with me. By the way women are the same way. Sometimes the beauty is inside, not the outside.


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pumpkincat210 16 months ago from Houston, Texas U.S.A.

I am not thin, not fat, but not what is considered ideal by media standards. I have a single "fit" friend that is active on the dating scene. We are the same age. Sometimes she'd invite me over to "evaluate" the guy she was dating and being married for 13 years I didn't really mind, although I did tell her that she should go with her instinct ultimately and not my opinion solely. After meeting several dates with her, she stopped asking me. I thought nothing of it until she told me that some of her dates wouldn't stop talking or asking about me or we seemed to hit it off. A few of them were people I'd consider if I were single, but I would not cheat on my husband, nor have a "flirtatious" conversation with a man who is not my husband. Maybe being overweight lessened the stress on the man's part to impress allowing him to talk more without feeling to much stress. Maybe the the same for me. Maybe they found me physically attractive or a combination of all. Since I wasn't trying to impress anyone I actually did inadvertantly, to the point my friend felt I was a threat. Of course people judge others first by their looks if that is what is presented first, but it doesn't necessarily mean that first impressions are the only impressions that person can walk away with. So regarding the people that are very anti-fat to the point of insulting and shaming, they would find another way to insult you (maybe not in the beginning) if you were "slim and perfect". That's the kind of people they are, most likely they are hiding something about themselves they hate and you wouldn't want to be with this kind of person anyway. Good luck on your journey, there is someone for everyone out there.


jane 13 months ago

my very fist boy that propose to me and i fell in love with him going a long with relationship for seven years i was just too fat by nature and my boyfriend told me he can't marry me because my fatness was too much for me to controlled after some times i experience that my boyfriend stop careering about me he was acting strange always complaining about my fatness. i take a lot to make me slim, more cafe and grapes even all, my fatness increased every day i was looking way of help and i found this email on internet was sheared ultimateherbalhome@outlook.com i contacted her if she can help me she said yes is very easy for her. i said OK let me give her trier she cast it for me and she told me in the next two months i will slim to normal stature. really everything happen as she said. i am very happy and my boyfriend said i am now his future wife because he see that my fatness was no more. i really appreciate Dr ultimate.


jane 13 months ago

my very fist boy that propose to me and i fell in love with him going a long with relationship for seven years i was just too fat by nature and my boyfriend told me he can't marry me because my fatness was too much for me to controlled after some times i experience that my boyfriend stop careering about me he was acting strange always complaining about my fatness. i take a lot to make me slim, more cafe and grapes even all, my fatness increased every day i was looking way of help and i found this email on internet was sheared ultimateherbalhome@outlook.com i contacted her if she can help me she said yes is very easy for her. i said OK let me give her trier she cast it for me and she told me in the next two months i will slim to normal stature. really everything happen as she said. i am very happy and my boyfriend said i am now his future wife because he see that my fatness was no more. i really appreciate Dr ultimate.


samrat 13 days ago

Let me ask you a few questions.

Would you date a man who was a few inches shorter than you?

Would you date a man who was bald?

Would you date a man who had uncontrollable severe acne?

Would you date a man with a feminine voice?

If your answer to any of these questions is "no", then please stop being a hypocrite and quit whining.

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