Men Who Like Strong Women
When I say strong women, I mean women who like to take charge in their relationship with men. That doesn’t mean they’re sadists or anything like that - only that they are natural leaders and prefer seeing themselves in the role of a leader rather than a follower. Now, for such women, finding men can be problematic. Wait, scratch that, “finding” men is easy, but actually making a relationship work for a strong woman, obviously requires a man who likes her dominance and, more importantly, is comfortable being the follower. This is the part that gets harder. You can’t have two natural leaders in a relationship without constant clashing and arguing. I should think two followers can probably get on much better than two leaders but that’s just a guess.
Are the numbers really so imbalanced?
If you can believe what online forums and communities seem to tell us about demographics, then you might think that there are very few strong women and a lot more men who are looking for them. Allowing for the fact that there are anyway nearly always more men looking for women in the dating game, there still appears to be an imbalance between strong women and men who like them. While I do believe that there are few truly strong women, I’m not so convinced there are that many men who like them as the numbers suggest. I’m mostly speaking from my own experience here so please let me know what you think.
Being a real strong woman
Emitting confidence and strength or being powerful are things that we see in people every day all the time. Women as well as men show this side of them mostly because highly competitive society requires this. But once you get underneath that façade, they usually reveal quite another side to them. Many who seem strong and confident on the outside turn out to be followers in their relationships. This is particularly common among women and this is why I believe there are so few women who like taking charge in their personal lives too. As one of them, I can easily spot the fake ones. It's one thing to be a leader in your job but it’s an entirely different thing being one at home too. Of course, hardly anyone is in charge 24/7 and that would be too imbalanced and exhausting for me anyway. Still, being in charge should come naturally to you and it should feel comfortable to be making decisions if you want to call yourself dominant in any way.
Finding men who like strong women
If you search the web, you’ll find countless dating services or forums full of men who say they’re looking for strong women. Seller’s market, right? Not so fast. Like I said before, finding people is easy but just as many women put on a façade of being confident and assertive, men are pulling similar stunts. Yes, of course, we all know about the macho façade that men put on. But there’s something else I’m talking about…
Strong Women only as a Fantasy
You see, the majority of these men have a vivid imagination and fantasize about being controlled by a woman. They get a kick out of that fantasy and this is what drives them to go online and search for them thinking they like strong women. That dream usually involves a woman with supermodel looks incidentally. Really analyzing it, they’re fantasies basically objectify women just as they do in most other fantasies - only with a little spice so to speak. If you think about it, the industry that sells such fantasies is definitely not helping us real people here.
But fantasy is not reality and when it comes to actually living together or committing to a relationship, then things start to look very different. Suddenly they will notice that not being in charge seemed a lot more fun when it was just a brief game to be played with a doll of a woman. But when it comes to being told what to do even when they don’t want to do it and even when the partner is not wearing that sexy outfit, that’s when the real test comes. That is when you find out if he’s really into being a follower in the relationship. I would like to see some numbers on how many of those men are actually around - definitely a lot less than those who just say they like strong women.
The real thing does exist
Perhaps I overstated the problem a little. Because I can testify that real men who like strong women definitely exist and, yes, I mean those who are willing to take on the more submissive role in the relationship permanently. Though my experience in reality is that both sides must be a little flexible and both sides tend to have an area where they are in charge after all. Nonetheless such men definitely exist. They are few though, that much I’m sure about. I can’t tell if there are more strong women than men who like them or vice versa. But once you get past the commercial element of online dating and things like that, probably there are similarly few on both sides. Just, for men, finding assertive women in the first place is significantly harder, while for women it’s the keeping that gets hard.
I’m hoping to hear some diverse opinions on this matter.
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