Men Who Wear Lingerie | Why You Should Tell Her You Wear Lingerie Early
It's not impossible to break the fact that you like to wear lingerie to a girlfriend or wife years after you begin your relationship, but there are several strong reasons to come clean early on in your relationship, and I'm going to outline them here.
Firstly, your worst case scenario.
Well, almost worst case, absolute worst case is being caught out in
lingerie without having told her already. In this scenario, you have
been together for quite some time, have an established long term
relationship and you decide you want to come clean about wearing
Now, as I mentioned before, this does not have to end in disaster in any way. If you have a strong relationship and you maintain a high level of trust, intimacy and communication between each other, you may very well find that she is accepting of it.
However, you run many risks in this scenario, especially if intimacy and communication have been waning, which is often the case in relationships where one partner hides a deep part of themselves.
In this case, the revelation may lead to shock and heartbreak. She may feel that she doesn't really know you. She may feel betrayed. She's likely to experience a wide range of negative emotions in addition to dealing with the lingerie wearing itself. Guess what is likely to occur in that situation? She's more likely to react negatively to the news than if she had known all along. She's more likely to treat the lingerie as the enemy. People who have established a status quo are usually more resistant to change than those who are experiencing a quick series of wonderful changes, often referred to as falling in love.
The best time, in my opinion, for you to share your lingerie secrets with a woman, is when you two are falling for one another. No, don't spill it on the first date, but when you are becoming intimate and feelings are developing and you are in that heady, sweet romantic rush – that is the time to tell her. In this context, your confession is a sign of trust between you. She will feel flattered and special that you chose to share this with her at this time. And if she really likes you, then odds are, I don't care what she would have said three months ago before she met you, she won't mind you wearing your panties. Love is blind, love is accepting. Love, in its early stages is a form of chemical madness. Women put up with ridiculous things in the name of love.
Know this, above all, your wife or girlfriend wants to know that she is important to you, she wants to be your one, your only, your everything. If you deny her parts of yourself and she discovers them after many years, it is as if you were cheating on her, but with lingerie. This might perhaps seem irrational to a man, but trust me, to a woman who perceives a threat to her relationship, anything can be an enemy, even a pair of pretty pink panties.
Telling her early on allows you to ascertain whether or not she will be a suitable partner for the long term, (there's nothing like discovering your partner is a horrible fashion bigot after ten years,) will put her in a better frame of mind regarding the news and make it something you can share with one another.
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