Modesty Quotes from Older Women

“Older Women” in this title is a label of honor, quoted from the godly mandate, “These older women must train the younger women . . . to live wisely and be pure.” (Titus 2:4,5) They are selected because they do what the revered “older women” are counseled to do.

All five women are outstanding teachers and authors. They deserve commendation for taking the high road with presentations on issues--purity and modesty-- which many would rather not touch. Between them, there is a wealth of resources for ministry to women and for women.

The following quotations are useful as discussion ice breakers in a youth group, or in a mentoring session where other “older women” participate in guiding the younger toward a life of beauty and modesty.

The violet flower symbolizes modesty (according to gardenguides.com). Photo by James Petts
The violet flower symbolizes modesty (according to gardenguides.com). Photo by James Petts | Source

Lisa Bevere

Lisa Bevere is a Christian author, television program host and international conference speaker. The following quotes are from her popular book, Kissed The Girls and Made Them Cry: Why Women Lose When They Give In.

  • Men are not inspired to protect women who are naked, but instead to conquer and violate them; they want to protect those who are clothed.
  • Men like to flirt with, and sometimes even date a wild child, but those women aren’t usually first on their lists for marriage or motherhood.
  • Wearing a low-cut, cleavage-revealing top is called suggestive. What does it suggest? That there is more than what you now see, and I may let you look closer since I'm already willing to give you this much of a peek.
  • Your enemy wants to strip you, make sport of you, and merchandise your body, but your heavenly Father wants to clothe you with beauty, strength, dignity and honor that will endure.
  • God looks at the heart, and we shouldn’t judge by appearance . . . but we still live on the earth, and everyone here looks at the exterior, because only God sees the interior.


Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Nancy Leigh DeMoss is a Christian author, one of her most popular books being Lies Women Believe. The following are quoted from interviews and her radio show, Revive Our Hearts, which inspires women to godly womanhood.

  • If I determine to live my life for the glory of God—that will affect why I wear what I wear. It will make me think about what I wear.
  • An immodestly dressed woman is giving away something that doesn’t belong to her. This principle of ownership means that you and I are not free to dress in any way we please. We’re accountable to God.
  • Starting young means dressing your daughter modestly now. Don’t put her in skimpy outfits when she’s little expecting her to change her look once she grows up.
  • Modesty is really a way of thinking about God, about men, and about ourselves.
  • True beauty is internal and spiritual. We ought to honor God through the way we dress, but our outward appearance should be a reflection of an inward spirit that’s pure and submissive to Christ.


The white violet is associated with chastity (per GardenGuides).  Photo by Hagerty Ryan
The white violet is associated with chastity (per GardenGuides). Photo by Hagerty Ryan | Source

Elisabeth Elliot

For more than ten years, Elisabeth Elliot hosted a radio program Gateway To Joy, in affiliation with Back to the Bible broadcasts. She also authored several books, one of the most popular being, Passion and Purity from which some of these quotes are taken.

  • Modesty means to be free from undue familiarity, from indecency, from lewdness, pure in thought and conduct. Speaking of modest apparel, it means decent, seemly. The opposite of modesty is conceit, boldness, immodesty, brazenness, lewdness.
  • Prostitutes dress obviously, so as to draw attention. It’s their business, isn’t it? The last thing that a Christian woman is thinking of is being like a prostitute.
  • Holiness has never been the driving force of the majority. It is, however, mandatory for anyone who wants to enter the kingdom.
  • The will of God is not something you add to your life. It’s a course you choose. You either line yourself up with the Son of God…or you capitulate to the principle which governs the rest of the world.
  • It seems disrespectful to me to see ladies in church in very short skirts or skimpy, sleeveless tops. I would imagine that it could be distracting to men who are trying to keep their minds on God.


Dannah Gresh

Dannah Gresh is a champion for purity and modesty. Her first book And The Bride Wore White is one of her most popular. The following quotes are from Secret Keeper: The Delicate Power Of Modesty.

  • You were created as a masterpiece and you are one of God’s expressions of beauty. Short, tall, thin, thick, freckles, big eyes, small ones . . . it doesn’t matter.
  • Modesty is a great paradox. Though an immodest woman creates insatiable curiosity in a guy, it is the modest girl whose heart he most desires.
  • A girl’s modesty is first noted by her external presentation, but if it’s not followed by the confidence of internal modesty, she still forfeits the power of her virtue.
  • You cannot limit the power of your modesty to just what you wear. It is also controlled or forfeited by where you are willing to go with guys, why you go there, and how you act.
  • The allure of immodesty is not in what is seen but what is not seen. Modesty issues a challenge for one man to romantically earn your virtue.


Ellen White in 1899.  Released to Public Domain
Ellen White in 1899. Released to Public Domain | Source

Ellen G. White

Ellen G. White is an inspirational writer who lived, most of her years, during the nineteenth century. She wrote on many varied topics, and her most popular work, Steps To Christ has been published in more than 100 languages. The following quotes are from various publications.

  • It is right to love beauty and to desire it; but God desires us to love and seek first the highest beauty, that which is imperishable. No outward adorning can compare in value or loveliness with that "meek and quiet spirit. (Education)
  • True beauty of dress consists in its simplicity . . . What do these devotees of fashion gain? Only the satisfaction of being admired, like a butterfly. (Health Reform March 1, 1874).
  • A modest, godly woman will dress modestly. . . The one who is simple and unpretending in her dress and in her manners shows that she understands that a true woman is characterized by moral worth. (Review and Herald, November 17, 1904)
  • Our clothing, while modest and simple, should be of good quality . . . It should be chosen for durability rather than display. (Ministry of Healing)
  • Do not make yourself the subject of remarks either by being overdressed or by dressing in a lax, untidy manner. Act as though you knew that the eye of heaven is upon you, and that you are living under the approbation or disapprobation of God. (Manuscript 53, 1912)

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manatita44 4 years ago from london

A good hub, and very useful for the young. Ellen G White and especially Elizabeth Elliot describes Modesty quite well. It is essential that we carry ourselves well and exercise restraint. Not only to avoid disrespect, but to feel good about and to love ourselves also.

Our decorum and unpretentiousness goes a long way to making us pleasing to the eyes of others, and in helping us to go forward in life. So your sharing, together with the thoughts of other writers, do show an urgency and a neccesity for living a modest life. Ultimately we need to go even further, but modesty is a great start.


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MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Manatita44, thanks for affirming the urgency and necessity of modesty. I really appreciate your solid input.


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meow48 4 years ago from usa

thankyou so much for sharing this with us. it was truly an inspiration. take care.


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MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean Author

You're welcome, meow48. Always glad to share inspiration.


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stricktlydating 4 years ago from Australia

Great topic and a lovely collection of quotes!


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MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, strictlydating. I also think they're lovely. Hope my readers will find them helpful.


Miranda 4 years ago

I'm 15. I really like Lisa Bevere's quotes, they are very true. Thank you for sharing, they are very helpful=)


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MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Miranda, thanks for visiting, reading and commenting. I am thrilled to have a teenager like anything on my site. I commend you for your interest in modesty. Check out my "Purity Quotes," for more from Lisa Bevere. Stay Beautiful! Stay Pure!


Miranda 4 years ago

Thanks, I will.


Avy76 4 years ago

Awesome advice for all women to follow and all in the name of God :)


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MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks for your affirmation, Ay76. Blessings!


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Scholar Claudia 4 years ago from San Bernardino

This is exactly what young girls today need to hear. Even when not from a religious, or monotheistic, background, the logic and pride in dressing modestly is portrayed well. I can't agree more with the idea of women holding themselve to a higher standard than the animalistic nature of our society, coming from the community I did, some formal education on the topic might solve many of our sociatal problems. However, I can't help but think mabey society has push our feminine youth to these indecencies. At a certain age, its only natural for a girl to try to get a boy's attention, but our media, fashion and modern youth role models don't set a good example on how to do this. It wouldn't hurt for more guys to take a little more responsibility for their own actions and thoughts. If a girl next to you is dressed indecently, don't gawk, then mabey some of this trend will disapear.


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MsDora 4 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Claudia, you are perfectly right on all fronts. I have recently begun to address the males, and hopefully will get their attention. Thanks for your comments.


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Jane51 3 years ago

Love this hub! So helpful in a day when young woman don't know and are not taught that there bodies are firstly given to them to glorify God.


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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean Author

Jane, glad that you like the hub. This is one of my popular on purity. Its our duty as older women to teach these things to the younger women.


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techygran 23 months ago from Vancouver Island, Canada

Dear MsDora, This is certainly a relevant topic and while I agree that it is young women to have guidance from older women, I also have run into a sort of reluctance for some to listen to / heed those they see as "dowdy old fogies". I guess I fall into the "lax, untidy" category, if that means wearing very casual clothing, and perhaps that makes me less than credible to young women? I am happy to say that my daughter-in-law started early in instilling a sense of modesty in my granddaughters. As Claudia suggests, though, there is a lot of competition for their attention and when they draw pictures of girls (they are avid draw-ers), the girls in the drawings-- supposedly their peers-- wear the skimpy clothing of MuchMusic videos, lots of eye make-up, piercings, and tattoos. I also hear that it is difficult these days to find tops that are not cut to expose a lot of chest. I also see kids wearing what look like leotard tights, but with no skirt over, and not even a long sweater. I believe this is a real spiritual battle zone. Thank you for this article with suggested books. I will be sharing this extensively! ~Cynthia


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MsDora 23 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Cynthia, thanks for your input. I believe the young women can recognize modesty in casual as well as old-timish outfits. "Decent" and "appropriate" are included in Paul's description of modest wear. Yes, there is much business out there for seamstresses who will sew modest apparel. Pleased that your granddaughters will have a Christin definition of modesty to live by. Thanks also for sharing.


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peachpurple 23 months ago from Home Sweet Home

beautiful quotes, would be best used for women's day


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MsDora 23 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Peachy, thank you for reading and for that very good suggestion.


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elle64 23 months ago from Scandinavia

As always good entertainment, and something to think about.


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MsDora 23 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Elle. I appreciate your kind support.


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DDE 23 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Hi MsDora you have thought of a wonderful title. So true and younger women do need a certain amount of advice from the older women. Thinking for oneself is a great way to figure out what is right from wrong. Also, nothing wrong with seeking guidance from the experienced individuals.


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MsDora 23 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Devika, thanks for your affirmation. Just hope that the younger women think the same thing you and I do about this topic.


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whonunuwho 22 months ago from United States

MsDora you are a wonderful inspiration. Thank you for your fine work. whonu


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PegCole17 22 months ago from Dallas, Texas

Great words on a much needed topic of concern to our young people and some not so young. I love the quote, "Starting young means dressing your daughter modestly now. Don’t put her in skimpy outfits when she’s little expecting her to change her look once she grows up."

It is a lifelong process.


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MsDora 22 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Whonu, I appreciate your encouragement. Thanks!


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MsDora 22 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Thanks, Peg. Lifelong also because we tend to target only a certain age group; then we find that we have to include all ages.


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Romeos Quill 22 months ago from Lincolnshire, England

A very informative Hub you've highlighted here MsDora; a quiet and gentle spirit in a woman is certainly of great value. I hope you and your mum are doing fine this year and send best wishes for your continuing good health and well being.

Perhaps some of the younger women may find this article useful so sharing.

Warm Regards;

R.Q.


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MsDora 22 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Romeos, Happy New Year to you, too. Good health, productivity, prosperity and God's favor. My mother and I are blessed and grateful.

Thanks for your encouragement on this article. Modesty is among my favorite topics and I pray like you, that some young women will be influenced for good.


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ologsinquito 22 months ago from USA

I think modesty is important, and not just for young women. I see way too much skin everywhere, and, much of the time, it's not attractive. This is a good reminder.


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MsDora 22 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Ologsinquito, thanks for your observation. I agree that most of the near nudity we see is ugly. If we can just be honest with each other, that might help.


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Jackie Lynnley 22 months ago from The Beautiful South

Maybe I am just centering in on the appearance but I think it says so much Dora and that many women do not realize that the words coming from their mouths does not match how they appear (which can include speech) and who they befriend. Christian women I believe should not want to show off their boobs and/or their navel and bare hips or anything suggestive. How many people will take us serious or listen to anything we say if we are not living up to what we speak and being modest always not just when it suits us?


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MsDora 22 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Jackie, you raise a very valid concern. We can destroy our witness by looking or sounding like we represent a cause which is different from the one we promote. Thanks for the observation.


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MarleneB 20 months ago from Northern California, USA

I'm like you, MsDora - When I see women in church in short skirts and cleavage, I think it is disrespectful. It's disrespectful to God and it is disrespectful to men who might be dealing with lust and other sins of the flesh.

When I was a worship leader, some of the female band members challenged me about what to wear. I had one rule that I expected the ladies to adhere to: No cleavage! There was no mistake about how I felt about this. So, one day (the devil made them do it) all the women wore shirts with cleavage. I excused them from singing in the band.


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MsDora 20 months ago from The Caribbean Author

Marlene, they just had to test you; didn't they? Glad you stood firm. Thank you for sharing.

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