The Biological Mom's VS "ME" The Stepmom
Why Is Being A Stepmom So Hard For Me?
I have been a step mom for 3 years and let me tell you, it has been hell. Not because of the children because they have shown love and respect for me, but because of the childish, catty biological mothers. It is already extremely hard to adapt too a child that is not yours but then when a deceitful person is the child's mom, it can turn into a living hell.
To make a long story short, it all started 4 years ago when I met my fiance through a mutual friend. He had already been married once and had conceived 2 kids from that marriage, a boy now 9 years old and a little girl now 6 years old. They had a bitter divorce a year before we met because she was a continuous cheater and he could not take it anymore. She took it so far as to move another man into their home while he was still living there but he stayed for the kids. Crazy Right!!! Anyway, in the course of the year that led up to us meeting, he started to deal with his sister's best friend, who was supposedly this innocent and church going girl. (Notice I said girl because that is what she has continued to act like)
They dealt for only 3 months and she was already throwing ultimatums about marriage. She pretty much threatened to end it if he did not marry her so she went and bought a wedding dress without him even knowing. He also soon found out that she had been dealing with someone at her job and lost his trust in the relationship. When she threw the ultimatum out one last time, he told her to either respect the fact that he had just got out of a bad marriage or leave him. So she did at her own free will.
Two weeks later, our mutual friends and he came to my home for a nice evening of fun, crabs and drinking. We hit it off and have been together every since. That's where the drama comes in at. For the first 2 months of our relationship she totally ignored him. She did not call or even attempt to get back together because she had her other man. All of a sudden she called one day and said she was 2 months pregnant. Of course he did not believe it was his because she had been with this other guy at the same time so he asked for a test from day one.
For the whole 9 months she was nosey and calling all of a sudden everyday. Come to find out the reason she all of a sudden wanted him back was because the other dude had coincidently stole her car the day she called with the news. She already had knew she was pregnant when she was 2 weeks so why did she wait so long to tell the supposedly only possible dad?? So I guess she wanted my fiance back now because she found out this other guy was a jerk.
Once the 9 months had came, she gave him a bogus due date and had the baby 2 weeks before without calling him to be there because the other guy was there at the hospital. Two days before the fake due date, he called to tell her that we were moving and wanted to give her the number so that she could get in touch with him. Out the blue she says, "I already had the baby" , it was a boy. To our surprise she had kept it a secret because she had this other guy thinking he was the father too. Until one day when the little boy was 4 months. The other guys mother started to question whether or not this was really her grandchild. She volunteered to pay for a test and it sure came out he was not the father. Remind you all this time she was telling my fiance "I am not giving you a test, its yours". Of course the other guy up and left because of her lying to him and his family and she really got bold then.
Every since she has been a true BITCH!!!! She called me up over twenty times telling me how she know he still loved her and he did not want me and so on. We started having major problems because she would pop up at his job, call the house playing on the phone etc. Me and his ex-wife had never had problems until she came into the picture. She started this fake friendship with her telling her all these lies about me so that she would not befriend me. In other words, she did not want me in the picture at all!!! Soon they both started teaming up playing on my Myspace, Facebook, phone etc. It really became a circus and my fiance was in the middle. They both told him if you are with that girl , you cannot see your kids. He asked why, and they had know answer. Remind you they both had new lovers that had been around the kids and we had been together the whole time just us two. The new little boy is now 3 years old and she says she does not know why I am involved and he can't meet me even though I have never did anything wrong. Why can't the kids meet me but they can meet all these various dudes who were only around for months and then disappeared into thin air. The second baby mother is now also pregnant again by another guy after meeting him only 3 months before. Sad!!!
The whole issue is that from hearing what happened with there relationships with my fiance, they are jealous because we are still together and I treat him right. I do not cheat and I have my own place and a job to support myself. I do not make a habit out of having babies to be supported by men and/or child support and I do not live in my mothers house still. They are very miserable and they are out to ruin our relationship. Now my fiance has to go to court just to get visitation. If they do not get their way, they do catty things like threaten that he will never see the kids again or they block his number so he cannot call and then tell them, "he doesn't even call you".
The kids have called and have always spoke and been respectful so the final straw came a few months ago. The ex-wife kicked it off first. She had the kids call and she was in the background telling them to not speak and they started yelling "wheres my daddy at?" I told them that is not the way you talk to adults but she was coaching them so I cannot blame them. My fiance corrected them and cussed her out, that was when she dropped a bombshell that the kids were not even his!!! He always had wondered because she had got caught cheating during the marriage but he still claimed them and kept supporting them. To say the least, he was of course devastated. A week later the other girl did the same thing because I guess they were working together to work my nerves. They called and I said "Hello" to him. They were on speaker phone and we heard her too telling him, "You don't have to speak to know one but your daddy". It was very childish and hurtful to me. I was so fed up I threatened to leave him after 4 years because of this mess.
Till this day it has not gotten better at all. They are getting worst and I am afraid that when the kids do finally come over or get older, they are really gonna hate me. Ain't no telling what is being told to them by these childish women. It has been so depressing because I feel like it is my fault he cannot see his kids but of course he tells me not to think like that. I wish that I could have a normal relationship with these kids but it seems nearly impossible.
PLEASE TELL ME, What Should I Do?
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