Musings on life

Who are we?

Why must we make life so complicated? Constantly asking, "Should I be doing this? What will people think of me?" Does the opinion of another person really matter?

Is there ever another human being that knows what is good for us as individuals? Not only in our public life, but in our private life as well, we look to our peers for acceptance. Do years subdue this need for acceptance or simply allow us to deal with it more easily?

Are we, as parents, forcing this same dependency on our children, so they in turn will grow in a world of insecurities? Where does one draw the line between delinquency and standing up for what one believes in? For choosing a lifestyle that is not considered normal by society we tend to torment ourselves with feelings of guilt.

There are, unfortunately, too few people in this world strong enough to pursue what some consider to be euphoric dreams. But then euphoria is different for each of us.

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tinarathore84 7 years ago from India

Hello Carmen..liked your ideas. wish we have more people with such wonderful thoughts.


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Carmen Borthwick 7 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Thanks for your kind words. I actually wrote this when my daughter was in her teens to reinforce my belief that one should always follow our dreams. My daughter is now 36, has been a professional jazz and blues singer for many years and is embarking on a new adventure in hairstyling. I'm glad I believed.


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KayBerries 7 years ago

Good questions to think about :)


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Carmen Borthwick 7 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Thanks KayBerries. I think they're questions we should all ponder.


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myownworld 7 years ago from uk

lovely thoughts...wish you had gone on writing more of them...!


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jacobkuttyta 7 years ago from Delhi, India

Wonderful thought!!!


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nikki1 6 years ago

wow..


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Hmrjmr1 6 years ago from Georgia, USA

Great Hub I've always been a Don Quitoe sort Keep reaching for the Stars!!


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

You look like it and I will, thanks for stopping by.


Duchess OBlunt 6 years ago

Carmen, I'm with myownworld, I would love to have read more. This was a great start to an awesome hub! Looking forward to more


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Thanks again, I guess I should do more along this line.


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shibashake 6 years ago

"What will people think of me? Does the opinion of another person really matter?"

I think it is difficult to totally totally detach ourselves from the judgment of others - but I do think it gets easier as one gets older and maybe more financially independent.

Also, it is the weirdest thing that sometimes the opinion of strangers matter more to us than the opinion of those we love. I think that it is not possible to please everyone, so it is best to try and please the ones we love most. :)

Great hub!


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Thanks for stopping in. Perhaps not totally, but did you hear of the woman who when she reached a certain age decided to just wear purple and red and do whatever the hell she wanted? Well I'm that woman... just joking, but I plan on being her one day. Yes, I agree it gets easier with age and that for a lot of people a strangers opinion does matter more... sad. As you say, try and please the ones we love most.


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keira7 6 years ago

I am happy to be your fan. Very good hub. Thanks. I will take the time and read all your work. Take care my dear and God Bless you.


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Thanks for coming over for a look, I don't expect you to read all that I've written. I try to keep up with writers by receiving emails when new hubs are posted, I think thats the best any of us can do.


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wavegirl22 6 years ago from New York, NY

Thumbs up Carmen! I am sending this one to my 20 year old daughter! I think we all need to be reminded that it is more than ok to be who we are .. it is imperative! So happy you became my fan;)


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Thanks wavegirl, I'm glad I found you on hubpages.


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wavegirl22 6 years ago from New York, NY

DITTO!


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k@ri 6 years ago from Sunny Southern California

Thanks for the thought-provoking hub! It is very important to follow our dreams, and so often others will tell us they are not attainable. But, each of us have dreams and ambitions that others cannot understand. We all have unique talents and abilities. Each of us responds to the world in our own unique way that another will never truly understand, not having been in our shoes. The best we can do for our loved ones is to support them in their dreams. :D


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

You're welcome and so right, we have to support their dreams and ambitions whole heartedly.


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loua 6 years ago from Elsewhere, visiting Earth ~ the segregated community planet

Social conventions based on group decision-making stifle the diversity of the mind...

Governments' intent are to control at all cost to include the impairment of the welfare and benefit of the human condition; and itis apparent when self-rule is not the order of the day... Any other means of governance is a form of master-control of trained zombies...

A little deep; but its quite accurate...

I would say your muse is a universal muse; but you stated it to be explored...


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

That I did loua... continue to explore. Thanks for the visit.


poetlorraine 6 years ago

good points made here, i have noted a few


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Thanks poetlorraine, I don't recall having two comments so close together before. Way cool.


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Cleanclover 6 years ago from Piece of land!

well most of us are approval seekers and we all want to impress others. What i found out is those who have god in their lives really are the only people who do not seek other people's opinion. Why? Because they serve only god. It's tough to impress so many people but we can easily impress god who loves us unconditionally. So, i have a beautiful relationship with my god, i do as he tells me to do and yes miracles do happen in my life, with the grace of god. :-)


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

I'm very glad for you, Cleanclover, that you have found happiness in your life. I don't believe it necessary to have God in your life however, to be strong and confident. Someone who loves another unconditionally and encourages them to follow their heart, thier dreams and is there in times of need can also help make you strong. Take care my friend and I hope you continue to experience miracles.


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HubCrafter 6 years ago from Arizona

Hi Carmen:

Life (like this Hub) is too short.

Come back here and blog like a woman! Lol.

HubCrafter


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

You're sooooo funny!!! BTW how does a woman blog?


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noorin 6 years ago from Canada

Hey Carmen, though the hub is short, its straight forward, to the point and thought provocative. Rated it up and looking forward to reading more of ur hubs so I will be following you.


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Carmen Borthwick 6 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Thanks noorin, appreciate the kudos!


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dutchman1951 6 years ago from Tennessee, USA

if you stop dreaming, you stop living and start exhisting....never give up

Jon


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HubCrafter 5 years ago from Arizona

Emotions are not the "deciders" at my house. (And it is an admittedly older house, lol.)

I've become an accomplished listener...to my conscience. It's taken some time to acquire the gift..but my hearing seems to be improving with age.

Faith matters to me. Faith in people, faith in God. They're not the same. They operate in different ways.I put my faith in people, then I wait.

I put my faith in God..then He waits, lol.

I'm glad I revisited this hub today.

Thank you.


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Carmen Borthwick 5 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Hi HubCrafter, thanks for the second visit. Always happy to hear from you.


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Eiddwen 5 years ago from Wales

A great hub which rings so true and I agree with 100%.

Looking forward to following you on here.

Take care

Eiddwen.


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Carmen Borthwick 5 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

Thanks for the kudos Eiddwen.


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juneaukid 4 years ago from Denver, Colorado

I enjoyed reading this hub on musing on life. I am reminded of what Robert F. Kennedy once said that some people dream dreams and ask why and I ask why not?


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Carmen Borthwick 4 years ago from Maple Ridge, B.C. Author

We all should dream whether asleep or awake.

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