You think he's cheating on you...and you don't know what to do

telltale sign of cheating: lipstick or perfume on your man

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This is the ONLY advice you need to follow if you suspect your man is cheating on you.

You think your man is cheating on you. The thought has at least crossed your mind. Something he may have said, or done, may have sparked a little doubt in your mind the he is being loyal.

It is far too easy in this situation to say " No, he's not like that," or " he wouldn't do that to me."

Let me tell you: He could, he can, and he will.

When you start suspecting your man is cheating on you, this is your female intuition raising a huge RED FLAG. You need to listen to what you think deep down in your gut, because this is the voice of truth that you NEED to hear and listen to.

12 tell-tale signs that he's cheating on you:

  1. He's broke because all of his cash is going to the other woman.
  2. He's been putting you down lately or picking fights with you (this is a tactic they use to ease their guilt).
  3. They get defensive if you question where they've been or ask about females that he has been spending time with.

  4. The first thing he does when he gets home is take a shower.
  5. He has all of a sudden been meticulous with keeping his physical appearance up.
  6. He doesn't have a lot of time for you, and he may have told you he's "working late" on many occasions.

  7. He goes out at night, a lot. He may use the out with "buddies" excuse. When he's out, his phone is off, and goes straight to voicemail.
  8. He's been getting a lot of calls/texts lately. He may act like he's in a rush to get off the phone.
  9. He puts a password on his phone.
  10. He hasn't put a password on his phone and you notice a lot of unknown numbers. (Beware, men will list their other women as businesses or names of men so you won't second-guess the calls).
  11. Your sex life is non-existent
  12. He asks you where you are all of the time. You think he's being concerned. The reality is... he's making sure he won't get caught in the act.

If any of the above behaviors ( or anything else you may feel is "sketchy" has been happening for an extended period of time, its likely that he is cheating on you. I don't recommend confronting him off the bat. He will lie. Men lie through their teeth because the last thing they want is to be confronted by a female.

10 things you can do to INVESTIGATE if you expect he's been cheating on you:

1. Closely monitor his phone activity and take notes. If he answers calls around you, does he act rushed to hang up with the person? Can you tell if it's a female? If you have access to his phone and can go through it without him knowing, DO IT. Take note of all of the names and numbers in his phone book. Write down all incoming, outgoing, and missed calls. Make sure you notate the times and length of calls. If you're lucky enough to have the password to his voicemail. Check his messages from your phone often. If he doesn't keep his voicemail password protected, check his messages from his phone. Keep the following in mind: He might clear his call logs out ( a clear sign that theres something going on that he doesn't want you to see), He may store the other woman as a business or under a male's name, so that you won't pick up on it. Question everything. If he keeps his phone password protected, that is a clear sign he is cheating.

2. After taking extensive notes over a period of time on his call activity, do you notice any trends? A lot of late night calls? A lot of calls to the same two or three numbers? Perhaps some really LONG phone calls? Any phone numbers that raise your suspicion, call them. If you get the voicemail and its a female voice, you've found the other woman. If you get an automated voicemail, keep calling back. If you can't get access to his phone, intercept his mail and take his phone bill. No, its not a charming thing to do, but he's lying to you and all bets are off, just do it.

3. Pay close attention to his car. Are the seats moved around? If the passenger seat has been moved, especially closer to the dash, then its likely he had a female riding with him. Turn the radio on. Is it tuned to a station different than it normally is? Check the CD player for any unrecognized discs, or for any romantic or sexy music. Is your man suddenly keeping air fresheners in his car? Make sure you look in the glove box, under the seats, on the seats, all through the back seat for any sex stains, female hairs, condoms, condom wrappers, stray underwear, or any other evidence of another female.

4. Check the pockets of his clothes frequently. Look for receipts that may indicate a purchase for another woman, look for condoms or condom wrappers, look for anything that might indicate his cheating. Also check his wallet. If you can get a hold of his bank statement and credit card bill, even better. Check for restaurant charges, movie theater charges, hotel charges, shopping charges, and so on.

5. Pay attention to how his guy friends are acting around you lately. Has there been a change? Do they seem a little uncomfortable around you now? Maybe a little avoidant? Keep in mind that when men are having an affair they usually brag to their buddies. They think they're slick that you're in the dark. Listen to his conversations with his friends, does it sound like they have a new string of inside jokes? Does anything sound amiss to you? Whenever possible, talk to his friends as much as possible. If you can, try to catch your man in a lie through gaining information from his friends. Please note that you cannot let his friends know you suspect him of cheating. Guys will always cover up for other guys. However, you can for example ask your mans friend "JIm" what he did this weekend ( when your man isn't around) if he says he took a road trip to Colorado Friday- Monday, you know that your man wasn't being honest when he told you he was with "Jim" on Saturday night.

6.If he calls and asks you where you are, or ask what your schedules going to be like, LIE. If he doesn't know where you really are at any given time, he has more of a chance of getting caught in the act. If you live together, and you can find time, drop by your house on break, at varying times of the day, even if he's supposed to be at work. You may very well drop by the house at 2pm on a Monday, and catch him in the act because he wasn't expecting you to be there. You can also try dropping by his job once in a while. Try not to make your prescence known. Oh, was he out to lunch? Does he USUALLY take his lunch with him and work through his lunch hour? You might want to take a quick drive around the area and see if you spot his car at any local hotels, restaurants, bars, etc.

7. On a night that he's going out with his "buddies" try to follow him. You have to be really discreet. If you don't think you can follow him without having him realize it, have someone you trust follow him. Did he do what he told you he was doing? If he told you he was going to be at such and such a friends house, drop by there with an excuse like " I'm locked out of my house, is my man here?" If he isn't, boom, he's lying to you.

8. Pay close attention to how he functions in his relationship with you. When you ask him what he did today, or yesterday or what have you, is he over explanatory? Does he take a long time to think up what he did? Does he look to the left ( a signal he is lying), does he avoid contact? Has he been so busy lately that he doesn't have time for you? Has he stopped buying you things, taking you out for special nights, or has he been sleeping over less? Does he seem really stressed out when you try to talk to him? Have you been fighting a lot lately? Men who cheat find themselves in fights with their significant others because they are on edge as they know they are two timing, they become more and more defensive and guilty acting.

9. Stop initiating physical contact with him. Don't be a cold fish, but let him make the moves and observe. Is he as "hot and heavy" for you as he used to be? Does he tell you he loves you anymore? Is your sex life dwindling? Does he withdraw if you initiate contact? If you ARE still having sex with your man. Use protection, you don't know who this other woman is or where she has been.

10. After you have gathered enough evidence and are pretty damn sure there is a possibility that your man is cheating... DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

You may not have been lucky enough to catch him in the act, but if the signs are there, and your gut is correct, that is just as good. You can try to confront him, but very few men fess up. If you do confront him, do you believe his excuses? Listen to his gut.

Again, IF YOU THINK YOUR MAN IS CHEATING ON YOU HE PROBABLY IS.

Now some of you might be asking " Well I can't be 100% sure he is cheating on me, I don't feel right breaking up with him, innocent until proven guilty."

And my response is: If there are any signs that lead you to believe your man is cheating on you, you should leave him RIGHT now.

Are you going to wait until you find him and the other woman in your bed? Are you going to wait until he brings home a STD? Are you going to wait until he decides to leave you for her and you're left with no integrity?

If your man is being hot and cold, displaying sketchy behavior, is running around at all hours of the night doing god knows what, racking up numbers from women, getting his phone blown up by females...that's enough reason to leave him. I don't care if you have kids with this person, if your man is cheating YOU DO NOT GIVE HIM SECOND CHANCES What type of example would you be setting for these children if you took your man back? That its okay for men to act like this because women are so forgiving? Come on, you have more self-respect for yourself than that.

Giving your man a second chance only shows him what a sucker you are, and remember, once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater.

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John Chancellor 8 years ago from Tennessee

Lady,

You give some wonderful tips and advice. However I would caution women about two things. The first, some men have a violent side to their personality. Once caught, they can try to punish the woman. I would advice a woman if your feelings are strong enough to act on, it is probably time to move on.

I think a lot of women believe that they can "change" the cheating man. That all they need to do is show love and understand and he will change. It really does not matter the nature of the shortcoming, changing is damn near impossible. Be realistic. If you are finding unacceptable behavior, face the facts and find a safe way out.

The basics for a healthy relationship are communication, trust and respect. If the trust is gone, you should be also.


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marisuewrites 8 years ago from USA

John, you give great advice. Most people can change only about 10% of their behavior 10% of the time. eeek I read that somewhere and don't remember where but it sounds about right. Now, of course people CAN change more, but they don't.

If it's dangerous, and often can turn that way when someone cheating has been "discovered" -- get out fast and quietly. It all goes to hell in a hand basket when women say the proverbial "I'm leaving you!" Just go. Get safe, then yell all you want.

good info....Marisue


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Jykeith Comal 8 years ago from Cincinnati OH

Wow, glad i'm not your man lol


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lady luck 8 years ago from Boston Author

Good point John, I will have to revise and say " Get out quietly and safely and don't let him know where you are and THEN call him threatening to neuter him"


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SweetiePie 8 years ago from Southern California, USA

This is a very informative hub for those who are trying to find out if their significant other is cheating.  Last night I the news I heard many people are now hiring love decoys to determine whether their spouse would ever cheat.  What are your feelings about this issue?  I really cannot say I am for or against it as I have never been in that situation, but I was just wondering what you thought about it given this hub is about cheating.


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Jykeith Comal 8 years ago from Cincinnati OH

I see we've been busy.....hmmmmm


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ousisf 8 years ago

if I suspect my man of cheating I'm going to go on that show (can't remember the name, but it's high drama!)


suga_daddy 8 years ago

wow this is very nice idea


canubhonest 8 years ago

well we've all heard it time and time again.. but I have come to discover that they will cheat regardless if that's what they are use to. some people just are simply not happy with one person. They have yet to fall truly in ... yeah... whats the word... oh yeah... LOVE. I am clueless to what that really is... but good clues and good advice.

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Jykeith Comal 8 years ago from Cincinnati OH

Is flirting wrong ms lady?


Ryan 8 years ago

You are a nutjob...that's way too intense


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creative.one 8 years ago from BC, Canada

Ryan and Jykeith, I think Lady was trying to convey that these measures should be taken IF you suspect cheating, and IF you really want to find out for sure. I really don't think she meant for women to go around constantly checking on someone for no good reason. As a woman myself, I can attest to the thought crossing my mind with just about every relationship (had one experience as a very young impressionable girl and was blind sighted), however; if I suspect, I just read stuff like this on the internet and check cell from time to time (thankfully, I have never found anything that really indicates cheating). Lady Luck, great hub for those who really want to find out :)


b-------b-e 8 years ago

they're all f**king losers i don't trust mans any way


Lexy 8 years ago

I heard that men don't pick fights to overcompensate guilt. They overcompensate guilt with showering more attention to their women. Suddenly giving gifts, over-sugared attention, but everyone is different. Maybe some pick fights, some shower more attention. But I can understand the showering more, because if they do that, the women would do less investigating and less curiosity.


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dai losinski 8 years ago from Surrey, UK

Hi Lady Luck,

You could try a book called 'Affair Detector'.

Go to http://www.AffairDetector.fw.nu

Good Luck,

Dai Losinski


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VILMADOESNT 8 years ago from United Arab Emirates

Frankly speaking, when you have the strong feelings that your partner is cheating you, he/she really is... and finding out whether it's true or not will hurt u even more..

Well, in a relationship, ups and downs  really come... and some treat the downs as trials which, when you passed, will make the love even more stronger...The best thing to do is to communicate and find out why the partner is cheating..Man is by nature polygamous, and this stage really comes to a man ( so they say)... If u want to hold on to the marriage ties that bond u, forgiving the spouse and healing the wounds will make u go a long way.

But, the second time he does it... its the right time to kick his butt out of the house!


Paul 8 years ago

Really, this is all good if you absolutely MUST be on a quest for the truth, but in my opinion if you've lost trust to the point that you are going to go through these types of fire drills, then the relationship is on its last legs anyway. Time to exit.


karen 8 years ago

i think everybody is of the opinion to leave him and its right too. But actually when u land up in such a situation its difficult to handle. I have been married since 3 years now and my husband doesn't want to tell his frnds and world that he is mairr(we did court mairr) and he plans often cricket tours with gals from different countries whom he meets on internet. have caught him 2ce but haven't gathered courage to leave him


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privateye2500 8 years ago from Canada, USA, London

Hi lady luck - you say :  If there are any signs that lead you to believe your man is cheating on you, you should leave him RIGHT now.

Are you going to wait until you find him and the other woman in your bed? Are you going to wait until he brings home a STD? Are you going to wait until he decides to leave you for her and you're left with no integrity?

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WHY on earth should the woman be the one to leave the home??  Geez. They have a 1/2 million $$ home - WHY should the woman LEAVE? In any case, these days most states and in all provinces they have No-Fault divorce--it doesn't MATTER AT ALL what the spouse is doing or has done - assets are split 50/50. Violence, affairs, NOTHING matters - 50/50 split.

 

You say: that's enough reason to leave him. I don't care if you have kids with this person, if your man is cheating YOU DO NOT GIVE HIM SECOND CHANCES What type of example would you be setting for these children if you took your man back? That its okay for men to act like this because women are so forgiving? Come on, you have more self-respect for yourself than that.

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If the woman decides to forgive the man and btw - WHY would the kids know anyway unless you TOLD them) - then you are not sending the kids any wrong messages or any messages at all.

 

My sister is going through this but it is more complex, she used to drink (alcoholicly) ; he used that as an excuse to have an affair - AND he told the kids about the affair, that *daddy wasn't happy* - blaa blaa...that mommy was a *loser* basicly - and so forth.  My sister is nearing (I fear) relapse over this.

What do you have for advice about THAT ONE!?

 

What a mess!

 


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Aya_Hajime 7 years ago

Personally, I am a big supporter of communication. If at any point your man is not fulfilling your needs, you should have a talk with him about it. If you reach a point where you must resort to following him around, and tracking his phone calls, I think it would be much healthier to just end the relationship. If there is no trust, and no communication, what are you trying to save? Unless you are trying to get evidence to help your case in a divorce settlement, there is no need to "catch him in the act".


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sun goddess 7 years ago from davao city, philippines

great hub... my friend has been praying for answers... It's true what they say about women's intuition. can't go wrong... This might be able to offer her a little consolation..... :)


Emma Michelle Leake 7 years ago

Great hub, cnt believe hw dead on u r lady! 2day, 2 of my m8s av told me tht they've seen my boyfriend wv anothr grl. the tell-tale signs are almost exact, he's hard 2 gt hold of on his mobile, whn he gets bck he always tks a shower, + b4 he cms round + sees me, he's trnd dwn our days 2 gva, my plans etc... he goes mad whn im out wv the girls + tells me 2 cm bck 2 him? things r gtn fishy evry day. im gna carry on reading 2 read ur tips, cz i dnt know wht 2 do, cz i love him? shld i believe my m8s?


maya 7 years ago

Boy it's tough. I've never experienced a cheating spouse myself. I've been the woman that someone has cheated his wife with. It lasted only a month. I just didn't think it was a good idea at all for me, heck I want my own man. didn't want to play the second fiddle. many wives from my impression usually are too scared to find out anyway, and they just ignore the warning signs. Ignorance is bliss they say, until it bites them on the ass. They could find it if they look, but they just don't want to. Scared to find out what they might really find. So they live in a probably so called co-dependency relationship w/their husbands. It's a choice.


Holyman 7 years ago

Be careful, ladies. If you open another person's mail to review their phone bill, you've commited a federal crime in the US. If you even access his phone bill without his knowledge, you can be opening yourself up to civil liability and local prosecution.


MissGoodGirl 7 years ago

I want to say this- My man had started blaming and accusing me of cheating on him and i was always told that the accuser is the abuser but i did my own investigation and he is not cheating on me but yet he has left me cuase he thought i was cheating and now i cant even get him to talk to me or even come back home ...What do i do?


Pyro 7 years ago

There are a few other signs. I broke up with my ex around feb of this year actually I should say he broke up with me. I suffer from severe deppression and he knew that from the start that my sex drive and intamacy level would flux up and down. Well I noticed that he never had money to pay the "rent" which I thought was his acohol habit. But then he said that he would get me a Christma's gift.. I actually never received it even after I gave him his. When I gave him his Christmas gift he had the nerve to tell me he wasn't going to wear the celtic love knot necklace I bought him cause it was Pewter. That was sum what of a red flag there but then he took me out to eat one night told me I could order a salad and a main course but I had to keep it under $40 but he himself ordered almost more then $100 on himself and then told me I had to tell the room mate that I paid for it or that his room mate was going to up his rent again if he knew that he had money, semi major red flag as I look back....then when he started counting the days since we had sex that worried me and till I went to visit him to break it off he broke it off first was like "I'm not making you happy so I think we should go our separet ways cause you never want to come over here any more." I told him I didn't like coming over cause his room mate was a drug dealer. then he swear up and down that he never cheated on me and kept asking me if I cheated on him. And that was the final and most major red flag. when I came back two weeks later to collect my clothing and pillow from his house I found a pair of panties that I know could never be mine, in my clothing. I asked him how long those had been in my clothes and he said I don't know.

so lady luck I could talk to you more on actual red flags do to all my ex's but I just can't type any more. And most of the red flags you don't even have to do investigation on. Especially if you boyfriend has a boyfriend. the boyfriend of the boyfriend if your very good friends tells all on yours on his and your male lover. Just a word for some women your man may not be cheating on you with a woman he may have a male lover that he wants you to know nothing of. Bi men in the closet. Or gay men that play straight.


laura610 7 years ago

Very useful for someone who wants to drive themselves to a full-on breakdown, but come on! It's my opinion that the one doing the snooping always gets the worst deal. I've done it (although not to that extent), and the issue here is not that he is or isn't cheating, it's that you feel the need to spend your precious time acting like a stalker! If you're doing any of these things, you must already know the answer. Put the phone logs away, and just ask. And then leave.


honey bee 7 years ago

i have been with my partner for 11 years and lately think hes cheating, he is always on the internet and i think he is chatting to other woman , he has even sent someone a picture of his penis . he hasn't been working lately and he never really leaves the house but i suspect somethings not right, im heartbroken because i really taught we had something great, we also have 2 kids who adore their daddy . please help im a reck.


jennifer v. 7 years ago

interesting hub!


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Nickny79 7 years ago from New York, New York

Wow, sounds like someone speaks from experience here!


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Amber90 7 years ago

The one thing that really it off for when was that his phone was always cleared of previous calls and text messages...sure I was being sneaky but my intuition was right. If he is on the phone daily and his log is empty that is a pretty good sign....just make sure your birthday is coming up b/c you may be ruining your own surprise (funny but sad story from a dear friend who was a little too suspicious)


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roughnecksmile 7 years ago

You, and women like you, are absolutely crazy. I'm shocked to hear you advise your readers to follow their men, spy on them at work, use his buddies, open his bank statements...

If the GOVERNEMNT did that to you, you could SUE... and win.

This is terribly disturbing. Women that behave like this, who think this is acceptable, display this behavior whenever they deem necessary. Often, it's before the Man ever cheats, and usually forces him away from her. You were nuts before... you just kept Genie in the bottle while you were letting him spend his money on you.

This post is dangerous. This is not just being "sneaky" at all. Sneaky, is when you tell him you're working late, but instead you rush home to cook a hot meal and throw on some perfume so he can enjoy a you being a "lady" for once, not a competitor.

He's not good to you? Leave. Don't take his money. Leave. Suspicious? Deal with it or leave. Maybe 90% of women today are so screwed up, this is the only way they know how to treat a man? Screwed up? Who else thinks FAT means "a few extra pounds"? Men sure don't...

Feed me. Love me. Shut up. Men will love you forever. You talk too much...


bklynblonde2006@yahoo.com 7 years ago

once a cheter always a cheater , what goes araund comes around and if he loves u he wont do it but ih he do hes a looser ungreatfull


Justic2b 7 years ago

Tell me what the hell your supposed to do when you move to a small hick town that he,s from with him and you lost everything in a relationship before him and are trying to start over again thinking he might be the one to finally be alittle honest.But turns out to be worse then any other relationship you,v been in.I know no-one here his family is right across the driveway .Ran my car into the ground letting him use it to supposedly earn a living.Yet now uses daddies vehicle.I have very little money .ALL and ALL trapped.and know all to well the game of him going out on me.He is Very slick


Yvette Kelly 7 years ago

I think that when you reach the stage when you have to start following someone around then its time to get out.But in this day and age of AIDS it is an act of survival to make sure you are not with a cheating man.Usually if u are having doubts I believe where there is smoke there is fire but make sure that you yourself have not had straying thoughts as that usually translates into you not trusting your partner.It is a mind thing!!!


Stephanie 7 years ago

Thanks, this was great...

I actually think Ive been cheated on so much in the past that I just am unable to trust the man im with now. Which is a shame,... Also. After reading the signs, I'm more confident that he's not cheating.. he is so open with all info.. and phone, facebook, emails... etc


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Air Filterer 7 years ago

Ha, very interesting piece. A friend of mine says cheating is a part of marriage because a man just can't stay with only one woman. Going further, he said that's why God, or nature, or whatever you want to call it made sure that there are far more men than women (something like 5 women to one man). Funny, but there's some sense in that, isn't there?


joel dewit 7 years ago

This is way too one sided. sounds like this article is condoning a behavior that is very suspicious and paranoid.


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Interbiz 7 years ago

Interesting hub!


iya 7 years ago

I think that this is a very interesting post. roughnecksmile, you are somehow right, the spying thing goes a little overboard, but come on! How can we know if the guy is cheating if we are just gonna sit there and do nothing??

If there is anyone who I can agree with is Mr. Chancellor.

In a relationship, always put God first. I'm sure that relationship will last. :)


jhoe 7 years ago

very wonderful advice...I have been married for 10 years later I have an instict that my husband is cheating on me...just like what u said about anonymous numbers sometimes name of a man but the message is really suspicious. So i started to notice his action and everything about him until one day one message came telling about a child that's really melts me away having a child to another women knowing that we have 3 children and he doesn't have any jobs to support us...I was very angry. I ask him if he had an affair he denies it so i make my own investigation and its true its very painful to me especially to my children but i decided to leave him for good. So my self respect is still there hope i can move on right away.. give me some tips on how to move on because honestly I still love him but everytime i see him all the sad memories comes out.


Ellie Perry 7 years ago

Really, now...bottom line....who really cares. You can't control another person or their choices. If you like the cheater, stay in the relationship, if you don't, or are too angry to deal with the situation then leave. If you are a married person, move to your own place and see him when YOU want. If you are a religious person, and feel the need to stay, assure yourself that God will repay every hurt you endure, (then you can hang out and watch Him do it, while you remain peaceful with your inward smile).

A person who is totally upset and unable to get over being cheated on must examine his/her own emotions. Are you so upset because your partner did it first? And...how good are we all, anyway? Any one here hit perfection yet? :-) Love, Ellie


kim  6 years ago

ok, now question for you all... what do you do if kids are involved!! I want out and am scared to leave bc of kids!!


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stricktlydating 6 years ago from Australia

I agree with your statement "IF YOU THINK YOUR MAN IS CHEATING ON YOU HE PROBABLY IS" yet so many women stay with him because they don't actually have concrete evidence. You don't need it usually you can just sense it. By not acting on the feeling you can be causing yourself embarrassment because some of those closest to you already know about it.


jean 6 years ago

how dare anyone who has not been in this position judje. I am a widow...3 young kids...fell in love later with a man who lied to me from the start. I adored him and believed in him...so what now...alone forever? I have to be sure...or I won't stick to it. I still love him...just won't put up with this rot. Hope those of you who have been blessed with "silver spoon" live where there has been no adversity are able to in some way understand the pain the rest of us endure every day. For me this will mean the loss of my home and security as well.


jj 6 years ago

I found out my man was cheating in april and he came after me and told me he didn't want to break up and i gave him a second chance. Things were ok for a few weeks and then i started to feel as if something was going on again. he denies it but the signs are there to me wot shall i do


Married but in love with someone else  6 years ago

hey! Listen... I have been married for 3 yrs legally, along he broke up with me FEB14th 2009, we were still living together,we have a 3 year old son, but I have to admit I do think about my ex eventually, soon later I moved to my parents house. I work with this guy and I fell in love with him of course he is a supervisor and I am just an employee with the title of customer service representative, now I feel that he is cheating I recently heard he is still messing around with some girl he used to before, could it be true or just a gimmick? Please help me since my heart can't take it anymore.... PLEASE HELP!! send me an email if you have to comment or give me advise. THANKS!

hotlatina0535@yahoo.com


Saengdao 6 years ago

Eveything that's on this page is true but I was brainy enough to check his voicemail.If I didn't snap out cheating on me he will probaby kept seeing her.


wow! 6 years ago

I have to say that all this is way spot on for sure. but what about teens? adults aren't the only ones who have to worry about cheating. And honestly to "JUST LEAVE" is easier said than done!!! because you really do love the person and you want to believe that they can change its hard. I don't ever want to experience cheating for myself I think I would find someone to hurt the cheater personally...because me along with every other person DOES NOT deserve to be cheated on EVER!!!! so men don't do it, its so NOT cool, and its SO NOT okay either...if your really that unhappy just end things doing go STEPPING OUT!! i mean that is so childish!!!GROW UP A LITTLE!!!GAWD!!


Debbie 6 years ago

They all cheat. Why suffer anymore? F it, just get on with your life and cheat back.


lalala__ 6 years ago

i don't think you shud jus look through his with his permission. when u n ur guy r together pretend like u left ur phone n u need to call sumbody. once u have the phone jus look through n if he questions y r u lookin through it jus say that your curious. if he gets mad then ask him is there sumthin in ur phone dat u dnt want me to c?

& if leave once u think hes cheating dats jus fukd up.. u don't relly kno if he is cheating on u! wat if he wasn't? whos stupid now?


kayla 6 years ago

I have been with my man for a year exactly now.. I seem to have a tendency to spend exactly a year with someone then they cheat.. or i catch them on it..

Lies.. hiding e-mails.. going on to dating websites.. ext. always after a year...

we are not getting any younger... if your going to cheat.. why not just stay in an open relationship.. save both party's the stress involved with moving on once again...

my issue in this case..

I have talked to all of his friends... who all say he could never cheat.. including two of his ex's...

Now.. I have found three pairs of panties that are not mine.. two were old and ratty.. (possibly came from the washer..an old tenant) we had just moved in not to long before that...

But then a third pair which were new.. hmmm..after i took the washer apart...

....he says(oh they are yours and you don't remember them) ....i don't think so.. i bought all of my own...

he swears he isn't cheating, and that what ever force is making these things show up. Is ruining us, and the best relationship he has ever had.. and he does not want to loose me.

But yet then he belittles me all that time..

I feel he is covering things up, just like the others have in the past.. make me feel bad about another issue so i am not directly thinking of this issue...

how does underwear just appear... then a bag with a neck warmer in it.. no idea.. its not any of my Friend's.. or anyone who has been over.. where does this stuff come from if he is not cheating? and why make me feel so bad all the time.


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PATTY 6 years ago

It was an August night at the club on the Groton Submarine Base when I seen him he was

at the bar with his friends I could not take my eyes off of him maybe it was his beautiful Green

eyes that caught my attention. I sat at the table with a few friends of mine then was getting ready

to leave to go to another club when his friend Steve came to stop me. I asked Steve what his friends

name was and he told me so I told him that I thought he was very cute and gave him my number

to give to his friend and told him to have his friend call me and Steve told me well what about me

and I said no that tell your friend that if wants to call me he has my number and then me and my friends left.

alot of people think that fairytails come true when you meet that certin someone that makes your

heart jump and when you kiss them its like the 4th of July going off in your head . They wine and dine

you treat you like a queen and they make you feel like your the only one in this world for them he seems like

the perfect person you go away to a caribbean Island for 1 week then the time comes when you both feel

its time to make the next move and make love and you do and its so wonderful that you feel your toes go

numb and right then and there you think he is the one. He is 5'9 about 145 pounds Black Hair and Beautiful

Green Eyes that you have ever seen it seems like love at first sight. Then he tell you about himself and that he is

in the Navy stationed on a Submarine and that he goes out on missions and sometimes he is gone 3 months

to 6 months at a time I still wonder if he is the one for me. So you decide to give it a shot and then he leaves

for 3 months and your heart is broken and you have a calendar and everyday he is gone you put an x on the day

and you write him 3 to 4 times aday because you miss him so much. You call the base to find out when the Submarine

will be pulling into port and you get the time and date. You get so excited because he is on his way home and

you cant wait to see him. you get all dressed up and look very sexy your the first one at the pier and your

sitting in your car then you see the Submarine coming towards the pier and you wait until the ropes and

everything is secure and you see the hatch open and the men coming out and you wait to see the love of

your life you run to him and throw your arms around his neck and kiss him and tell him how much you miss

him then he gets his stuff and puts it in the car and you go home your so happy to see him and you ask him

about his trip but he cant tell you because its a military secret so you just hold hands all the way home

you get to your house and he gets out of his smelly cloth and he jumps in the shower to get all cleaned up

you sneak in the bathroom and slip off your cloths and make love in the shower and then go out to dinner

if he is not to tired all you both want is to be in echothers arms all night long. then you still wonder if he is

stll the one. You date for 1 year and it seem like the Navy owns him he is always gone and you still do the

same thing with the calender and letters. Then he ask you to marry him and you think about it and then

you say yes so he buys you a ring and then its gone to sea again and then you find out that a navy man has

a woman in every port so he is never lonely so what ever country he is in what goes on there stays there

until he has the nerve a few years later to tell you. By then your already married and you find out that the

submarine is getting stationed in Vallejo California so you decide to drive across country to meet the

Submarine when it gets to Mare Island in Vallejo California it takes you 3 weeks to drive across country

its so beautiful to see everything. then you find out that your exepecting your first child and your so

Happy and you meet all the other wonderful Navy Wife's and you all become friends your husband goes

out with his friends and plays pool and soft ball and you go for a drive in up in the wine valley and the

mountains are so beautiful. your husband works long hours and is always tired when he comes home you

feel so alone and start to think Is He The One? You learn to deal with not feeling alone because you now

have a baby boy to keep you busy while your husband is working long hours and your also very tired

being up all night with a baby and being up all day with the baby you finely get 4 hours of rest when the baby

takes his nap from 10:am to 2:pm and it never ends at all the baby grows up to be 1 years old and it just

never changes samething every day. Then your husband puts in for a transfur and you go back to

Conn this time your in Manchester Conn then you find out that your expecting your second child in

Febuary so you get a Doctor that's not Miltary because the base is 1 hour away and you husband is on shift

work that's very hard on you and your kids because of the hours he works you both hardly see eachother

and you feel for your son because there is no father figure in his life because all his dad did is work

all day and night and afternoon so we met some of our neighbours that had kids the same age as my

son so when his dad was working we would go over and have coffee and let the kids play it really

seemed to take my mind off of my marriage and seeing my son happy was worth it. even though his

little sister was still to small to play with the older kids my son was 2 1/2 when his sister was born

but its so hard to make friends when they are military because they leave and you loose touch with

them. Well then he put in for a transfur and he got put on the USS Fulton so we deciced to buy our

first house in Norwich Conn it was really a nice house I got a job at a department store and got

my days off when my husband was working so I could be home with the kids and sometimes I would

have to bring my kids to work with me and he would pick them up on his way home. I really thought

he was the one and that I had it all my marriage was everything I hope it would be a loving husband

a house and kids but there was something missing in my marriage no passion the magic was gone

the man I married had changed in so many ways we never went out he was always to busy for me

and the kids and when I would come home from work he would be asleep and before I left for work

I made sure dinner was ready and I had my son's cloths out for school. we never seen eachother

it was always hi and bye. Then he got out of Retired Navy on a medical discharge so he filed for Social

Security Disabilty and we moved to St Croix USVI in 1987 it was Paradise alright it was a beautiful

place to live the beach was just so beautiful and you drove on the left side of the road so it was alot to get

use to and the Food was out of this world. It was ok if you was retired and had no kids and just

wanted to spend your time on the beach. It was boring there I got my daughter into horses when

she was 2 she was riding horses and then I had got a horse and I would teach her things she

needed to know about horses. when she was 7 years old I put her in Pony Club she was a fearless

child when she was on a horse soon she was jumping and then she was testing horses for parents

who wanted to buy horses for there kids so she was sorta a ginny pig and would let the parents

know if the horse was safe enough for there child to ride. But even being there in St Croix I

was so unhappy I was bored to death My husband had opened up a motorcycle repair shop and

he was always working from morning till night I would get so mad because I would cook dinner

and tell him it was ready and he would never eat a hot meal and it just upset me so much. I was

soon asking him if I can go on motorcycle rides with him when he went out with his friends and

sometimes he would tell me NO and other times he would be nice enough to ask me if I wanted

to go and I would take the chance and go. But still I wondered if he was the one I was so lonely

in Paradise I had a husband but there was nothing no passion at all in our marriage I had even

thought about leaving and packing up my kids and come back to


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powerfulminded 6 years ago

This all stems from lack of honesty.


Heartbroken 6 years ago

I have been married for what would be 19 years this year. I was 16 when we met, he was 18. We got married 2 years later. He has owned his own business for 4 years now. 3 years ago, he got an office in a building, and that is when everything started to go downhill. He spent alot of time with his secretary and her friends, and less and less time at home. In fact, he was hardly ever at home. The weekend before I left, I said, "Don't you want to celebrate? This is a big deal"! He said, "What, so I can help you pack your bags"? He had never been that cold to me. We had always been best friends. Now, he says his secretary, who no longer works in the building he's in, is very protective of him, but they've never had sex. And, he was with a woman from the office building walking downtown and someone took a picture of them. I have asked him numerous times if he has had sex with anyone else, he denies it, I've been feeling it in my gut for a long time. I am very sad, I feel like I've been lied to, I feel like I lost something very special to me. We are still friends, but it is very hard to be around him without asking him if he has cheated, and when I do, he says, "This conversation is over". I asked him to call his old secretary so I could ask her and he didn't want to do it. When he finally did, he texted her if it would be ok for me to call her and ask her if they were having sex. Nice. She texted back, "No, she's acting like she's 8"! What is that? He's not the same person. We were going over pictures of us from many years ago, and it upset me so much that I had to bring them to my house. He has asked about them once in three months, and has not requested any back. It is very difficult to know how done he is. I have told him, "It's the fact that you built this other life and didn't tell me, and then I left, and you are not upset at all".


scaredhurt 6 years ago

i think my botfriend of a year is cheatin and we have a daughter and one on the way...why i think this well for one the sex has changed he is either "not fillin good" or "just not in the mood" he left the go to two stores it would be mabe an hour trip if you use the excuse he did " got lost in krogers" he was gone for four and a half hours ( both stores are 5 mins for the house)the day my daughter was born he went to clean his car out and take a shower ( just used the water and took the trash out when i called 2 and a half hours later he was just gettin to the appt. ( 20 in from the hospital) he forgot it was Valentine's Day and went to get me something from the dollor tree and then said he was goin to his dads ( was gone all day ) we didn't even have sex he don't play with our lil girl like he used to he. when we do have sex its done i about two min ( not even kiddin i timed it ) so i don't know they say if you accuse then they will cheat so i don't but my gut and every one eles says differintly this passed christmas we tried to have a three some with my close friendcause he wanted it ( it was supposed to be them on me) well it was him on her and me in the floor feelin like shit it took him 30 min to even notice it was botherin me he look at her the way he used to look at me that's when things changed he was just fine with her ( my frined) stayin with us until about tow or three months after that then he wanted her out BAD so i need some advice please tell me what u think if you don't want to relpay on here e-mail me at brittanycopley@yahoo.com please give me your feed back


Amanda 6 years ago

Hey girl listen to me very carefully, YOU HAVE NO FUTURE WITH THIS "MAN". And please please use protection from now on. Its either drugs, women, or he has completely lost intrest in you. The lame excusses shows that he doesent care one iota about his behavior and how its hurting you. And he shows complete lack of respect hopefully he's not violent. Leave quietly if so.

My Story:

I was single for about 3yrs and loveing it. However I think some ladies know where Im coming from when I say that it can get old after a while,(fighting off the 5-1 ratio mentioned previously) finding that in our quest for the perfect husband who will treat us all like our daddies did when we were princesses, becomes more and more of a fairytale. Everytime I met a guy not all but most it was the "hey mamma wooty woot woo lem'me holla at you",you look good blah blah blah, OH WAIT, I wont f*k U on the first day so F*k me right. Ok. I kinda got this bad tast in my mouth of a man. Calling them as i see them, "cheater" "liar" "dead beat dad" even the ones with girlfriends. I relized like all women, find the best one I can, were my princess costume while tailoring his crown for king.

And that's what happened, love at first sight! It was amazing, taking me places iv never been, fillin my head with concepts i hadent heard befor, family loves and approves of him, and he dident mind THE CHASE, although I dident put much of one on, still lightyears away from "sup im sean" tiffany dident say she had a homegirl".

Anyway, the next two years go by fast, he's my hero, my hole world, he is my prince charming in real life, the man i thought i had always heard and dreamed about, girls you know if you've been in love, but hes starting to tell white lies, more often, and the lies start getting bigger somehow. And to more people, until one time at 2am, this powerfull urge for a ciggerett comes, he says verbae' hey hunnie im just gonna go ahead and go to the store for a pack of cigs, ill be back in 20mins. Ok, i say, go ahead, be carefull, (tha poe poe) I love you, he says iight be back in 20 mins, mind you i walk to this store from time to time when i feel a little froggy somedays and its only 3 blocks down the street. 20min turns into 45......1hr, not trippin yet, because hes been kinda playing with me like this, ya know 10min late one time 30 the next, whatever. He came home right befor i had to leave to work at 7am. He has our only car, after wreaking my truck, them my nissan, then my crown vic, and a rental car in between, w/no job. you cant describe the lividness, if that's a word. Complete silence for the next 24hrs, no call on lunch, I finally asked, wtf in this gd mf world do you gotta f'n do for 4 hrs in the weeeee hrs of the f'n morning. It was on. however never in the smallest corner of my mind would i have thought that he would do what he did next. I never was hit as a child, hard enough to anyway remember, I had a few runs with females but, never a man, and he dident just do it, he kept doing it. All in all, after that i was no longer the same person i was, After the i love yous and im sorry and fake tears of apology down his cheecks convinced my stupid dumb ass to feel bad for him, and share some of the blame on myself. I never belived a word that came out of is mouth from then on.

but i want to, because he wants me to.

and now im in a cycle where, i am soooo lost in trying to desperatly to find the truth, somewhere, i have lost a piece of my mind, saintity for sure, but mostly the other half of my life, I still love him, I still want him, i want to be the one that makes him happy,

I worrie about if he's cheating on me with women, but what do i do if its not girls but drugs. I don't see myself leaving him so if you have advice please have some i can use.


Jen 6 years ago

Well what about if you have Trust issues but u are suspicious someone is cheating on u?? Is it your intuition or paranoia


Little girl 6 years ago

Amanda, your story is not much different from mind, but just one different is you are together, for mind we are far from each other since i wait him to petition to be with. On sunday last two week, he still on phone with me and told me babe i will call u back on 10pm at ur time but since then i never hear from him again, once again on Tuesday morning i call him but i hear women voice said he with her already. But before this he alie me that he have no one before that's why i'm engage with him. But once i heard the story from lady she said she being with him for more than 10 years already but they just not do the marriage certificate. I'm really shock to hear that since my date interview nearly arrived. I asked for talking with him but she said he crazy right now, he have no job but i knew he still but he just not go to work. in total i realize what he told me all are cheating, i wonder is p


Alexandra 6 years ago

i felt sick reading this,

when you are in a relationship

you don't have doubts that end like this,

with you stalking and going behind his back.

if you DO act like this, then you are NOT in a

relationship. when you are in a relationship you

DO NOT act like this, because relationships are built

on love, respect and trust. this "guide" I would say

lacks some kind of love showing to your significant other, no respect, and no trust at all.

IF you think hes cheating on you,

just ask him (if you have any proof that's good I quess, but if you're just feeling that he has been different lately, then just tell him that), tell him how you feel - VERY exact.

Love and respect people,

/ Alexandra L.


loveely dodo 6 years ago

Sometimes, i get so upset about cheating talk but it is essential we discuss it. I am in Love with this married man who's wife resides in different country. he lied about him being unmarried and i discover after 5 months later. He is a renounce cheater. He is a university professor and he even sleeps with the students. I carried food for him one morning and caught him in bed with another woman. I have lost all love i havefor him but I am stuck because he helps to pay my masters program fees. please advice me. so depressed and confused.


anonymous 02 6 years ago

You so hit home if you have a feeling that he is cheating follow your instincts. My first husband cheated when, I was in the hospital having our son. He was late and guess where?? I still don't know and really don't care. I had this burning urge to pick up the phone and I questioned why would I want to do that and it was a feeling that continued until, I picked up the phone and hit redial and the other woman was on the line! Unfortunately, my mom was just leaving or I'd left with her and never looked back but, I stayed and he became abusive and more suspicious! I finally left but, I waited til, I absolutely hated him even today after, 21 yrs he makes me sick to my stomach on a good and funny note he's ugly as hell and I still look good and young! He tells my son that, I was the only good woman that, he ever had and everybody else has cheated on him! Can we say life is a bitch and him crushing on me makes me ill! barffffff! Ladies what goes around comes around! They will eventually want you back and please for laughing purposes give them the cold shoulder and move on even if it's mr. right now, move on, mr right now doesn't mean sleep with them by the way male friendship is good! I don't put up with shit now!


Little Girl 6 years ago

To Loveely Do Do,

I understand your feeling, you got the same where i was before my ex. is cheated on me that he unmarried and have no one in his life since 2004 its truth that he never married but he have someon


kittycat 6 years ago

I am going through this now, i think my husband is having an affair. I have looked everywhere and have found nothing, computer (history has been deleted, call logs deleted. I have confronted him on it more then once and he says that he is not. I told him i want his cell phone/text logs and i gave him until monday (tomorrow). Never second guess your intuition, it is more then likely correct. AND the only reason i even suspected him cheating is because i have heard a few partial conversations between him and his 18 year old son.


jojojojojojo 6 years ago

I live in london and my boyfriend lives about 100 miles away. I went to see him and found condoms on his bedside table (he went out clubbing the night before) and also he had condoms in his wallet all unopened. He had no plausable excuse and stated he kept them incase I have a period. We don't use condoms. He then said as long distance relationship he uses them to masturbate in to protect sheets. I told him do you know how ridiculous you sound.... He also went on a boys night out in another city and stayed in a hotel. I could not get hold of him until the next afternoon. Phone kept ringing but he never answered. His excuse no network. PLEASE this is the UKs next largest city after London he went to. Now we fight all the time and I get all stressed when he going on night out with guys without me as I live 100 miles away. He becoming more distant etc. Says he lowes me but does not feel that way at all. I know it sounds a ridiculous question but love is blind and you don't want to believe it but is he cheating on me?


daisy 6 years ago

Interesting hub, thank you!


me  6 years ago

uh this is ridiculous. every clear thinking woman knows that if they catch their man cheating on them it means that he's giving her a free pass to cheat on him as well. so actually its a good thing because then you can have an entire harem of men and he'll never have the right to say anything about it

drrr.


Sucker 5 years ago

OK...I have caught my man two times. The first time was a little after we moved in together, At first he would just act a little distant...and the sex got less and less, Then he started accusing me of cheating on him w/ one of my long time friends, Eventually he started picking fights w/ me, and leaving for the night and turning his cell off before he got home. I never stalked him, I never went through his phone, I really didn't even question him on anything, The only time I even mentioned it was one evening while we was fighting over my so called infidelity I let him know that I was not cheating on him with anyone, and I do notice all of the changes in him, and that a suspicous mind is the sign of a guilty heart. I said that I am not going to drive myself Crazy thinking about what I know he is doing, and when the time is right for me to find out God will let me know. Well the very next night at work I check my Email and there is a message from my sister Subject- FWD I'm Sorry, I thought you should know!

It was a forwarded message from my sisters Myspace. A woman in my town giving me dates and times that he was out with her...Telling me she was with him in my house while I was out of town taking care of my sis, Gave me details of my home down to the color of my sheets and her phone #!!! I call her, we talk for a little while and get more information...PROOF...!!!! GOD IS GOOD!!!! I print out the Email, and then call him...DENILE!!! they only kissed, She was only in the house one time, she didn't even go into the Bedroom.She's only doing this because after they kissed he felt bad and cut it off with her and SHE'S Psycho!!! Well here's to all you ladies who believe that if you just ask they will tell you, Given the right proof-WRONG WRONG WRONG They will lie straight to your face until the day they DIE!!!! Needless to say I stay with him. BRAINDAMAGE!!!!

The second time-I had noticed all the same signs (that's Most of the time they do not switch it up to much...They're not that creative) So I mentioned my feelings to him on more than one occasion...giving him the opportunity to confess...No Luck! I did try to go online and look up our phone records and the password had been changed...Hmmm...So I asked him about it he said That he changed his cause I had changed mine...no I didn't...any way I waited and let it go for some time, and one night out of nowhere it popped in my head that I should try to check our phone records again, Somehow God Bless it I was able to access the records on my line YAY! Found out he had been having long conversations, I'm talking like up to 3hr phone conversations, in the middle of the night while I was at work...I work 3rd shift. and it all started the 2nd night I was in the Hospital..Sweet Right!!! and carried on through the holidays Christmas, Thanksgiving, New Years, My Birthday, Valentines Yeah I now know why he sharted a fight and stayed out all night Christmas!!! But I am a sucker and am still with him cause right now I really don't have anywhere else to go, where he can't find us...Did I mention we have a 9 year old daughter together? I am just sharing my story to maybe help other women, If you think hes cheating, he shows the signs and you feel it in your heart...He is and will most likely never admit to it so if you can get out DO IT!!!! cause he will do it again!!!!


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parkersarah8415 5 years ago from USA

Well, most of the things are correct and possible, but others are less likely to be caused by cheating. Nice hub!


UDHTK1212 5 years ago

Hey guys, i kinda need some help. one month ago i started to have this feeling that he's cheating on me. He started to hang out a lot of his friends, let me go out with my friends withoun investigating me and i found a way to reach to his cell phone i found 2 messages from someone called Rony (man) but the messages were flirting words and love and bla bla so i took the number called it and there it was a girls voice. i confronted him, the messages were gone and he told me he's never seen those messages and the number belong to his co-worker Rony w he hasn't talked to him a long time ago. i asked one of his friends to give me Rony's phone number and i called him, he said he had the number and he's sold it. i don't know if the man who answered me is really Rony. i re-called the woman i told her i read her messages, she apologized and said she sent it to the wrong number she meant the 6 instead of 9. so i asked a friend who work in the phone company to check me the # that ends with 6 he told me it doesn't exist and my boyfriend keep denying and swearing and over-reacting. what should i do? how can i get him?


confused 5 years ago

i don't know what to do ... ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, and were trying for a baby! but something just isn't right, i can feel it. the past couple of months hes been working more and more late nights and early morning (hes a personal trainer) ... i ask him where you going, he says hes got a client =/ ... things bother me, like when we go out with his mates he says if they ask were just mates and i always ask why and he makes an excuse up, he can tell it hurts me but he doesn't change it, "were just makes" what a LIE!! also he has recently put a password on his phone, he doesn't know but i know his password ... and i looked, wish i didn't now but i checked his call log, he phones, he received and has missed call off these women, not only that i checked his messages, the same women he has messages off. i read them and its clear he is totally flirting with them, but not only that leading them on ... he has pictures of his penis on his phone, ive never ever seen this pictures, he hasn't even sent them me.he has picture messages saved off these girls too ... i can see why, there goregous and not me! ... then ill look the next day and the messages and phone calls have been deleted =/ .... recently he has been saying we spend to much time together (we live together) and now every friday and saturday he leaves me to go out with his "mates" ... well one night he texted me saying "im sat at the other side of the bar, theres a path to it, walk in through the enterence and follow it round, ill be waiting for you xxxxxx" ... i rang him right away, shocker he didn't answer.... i relapied "wrong person" .. he then texted me right back saying what you on about wrong person, i replied saying you damn right know what im on about, if your meeting another girl, let me know and ill pack up and leave ... he didn't replie me until he got home and came straight into bed for cuddles, i hate that when you know hes been with someone else because you can smell there tartish perfume!! ... tears were running down my face!!

i confronted him many times, to see if he would admit what hes doing ... no luck!! what a shock!! i remember when we first starting dating/going out he use to ask me if i was cheating on him, he know i would never do that because of my past relationships! he feed me the line "you know i would never hut or lie to you, i would never cheat i know how it feels and you mean the world to me, i am the luckiest person on the planet to have an amazing trusting girlfirend like you, i cant wait to have a family and getting married, i love you" ... then everything i use to get things like this, i use to think how stupid am i, of course hes not cheating ... im such a dumb ass, the feeling that he was cheating never went away...

well the shocker is, im pregnant with his child!! i haven't told him ... ive been really distent with him recently i need time to think, should i put myself throught this any longer, or should i leave? should i bring a such an amazing thing into the this world knowing that the babys dad is a lier and would hurt it as much as he has to me.

i dunno what to do, i love him so much and don't want to be with anyone else, he means the world to me! stupid i know,

i need help, any comments would be 100% helpful. men and women please replie soon as possible!!


LEAH 5 years ago

WELL ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT MEN CANT EVER MAKE UP THEIR MINDS. WHAT EVER HAPPENED TO THE HAPPILY EVER AFTER? IF MEN HAD THE COURAGE TO ADMIT TO WHEN THEY ARE WRONG I GUESS MAYBE SOME PEOPLE WONT BE SO SCREWED UP(EMOTIONALLY). NOT TO BE SEXIST OR ANYTHING BUT THE MAJOR SOURCE OF HEARTBREAK THAT A WOMAN COULD EVER EXPERIENCE WOULD BE WHEN A MAN IS CHEATING ON HER. I HOPE MY FUTURE HUBBY DOESN'T GO DOWN THAT ROAD LOL OH AND YOUR ADVICE MAKES TOTAL SENSE..


Sophie 5 years ago

"confused" i read your story and it really broght tears to my eyes...you don't deserve a man like that...What he's doing is WRONG and you should not stay any longer with him,no matter how much it hurts...i know because i have a daughter 2 year old with my fiancé and i suspect that maybe he has cheated on me after 4 years that we've been together...the reason im suspecting him is because i heard a conversation with his friend...even though i search for evidence i havent found anything..


confused 5 years ago

"sophie, it brings tears to my mind every time i think about it, every night i lay their lieing next to him wondering what the hell im supposed to do ...

for everyone that has read my story, i still haven't told him, but its getting harder to lie about me being pregnant! the sickness is kicking in the tireness and the mood swings.

but i still love him, but i know i cant say with him.


confused 5 years ago

well i did it guys, i ended the relationship!!

i told him about the baby too, and we've sorted a reasonable thing that we can both work to. we talked like adults for our own good.

i just wanna say to every girl or boy that believes there in a cheating relationship, look at the picture clearly and don't look into anything without a clear mind!! things can easily start from nothing, then your mind can explode with silly things.

if you want to do something about the cheating relatinship then ask yourself are you 100% sure the other half is cheating? if yes, then think if you confront the partner can it turn violent? if no, then go ahead and do what you think is best!! leave!! if yes, take more time to think, where you going to go? is there other people involved, i.e children ... make sure you can go somewhere safe!!

but if anyone has ready what i have put, then just have faith in yourself, you can do it. its better when its over and done with ... you never know your partner might even realised what they have lost!!

never give up on relationships just because your previous one was bad, remember there is someone who will love you back and not do anything to hurt you!!

my love goes out to all the people who are confused, upset and hurt. things can only get better for you!!

love confused xxx


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dotty1 5 years ago from In my world

fab hub.... arghhh I am agreeing with the 'if you suspect then he propbably is ' thing ...female intuition is a powerfull tool...yeeas i hear u men yawn, however it has never let me down..Don't get me wrong there are naughty ladies out there too, but I am and always will be when men continue to lie and cause pain then plead undying love, why do it to yourself love? gorden bennet its hard enough to find a mate that dosent irritate you so why mess up?? don't be greedy boys


Charmaine 5 years ago

My female intuition tells me my boyfriend is cheating. He gets sms'es and then keeps the screen closed away from sight when he replies, and then quickly deletes the messages. He keeps his phone off when he's home, and it's password protected.

What else can it be?


lizzDRO 5 years ago

I think it is ridiculous that you people actually think that it is perfectly fine to basically "STALK" your significant other! I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years and he has NEVER cheated. Maybe I am just lucky?

But if you suspect a cheater, don't be a psycho about it... LEAVE! Let's not act like we're in junior high... Seriously.

IF and WHEN a person is truly in love, their love is STRONG and to love someone you must TRUST them, so if you don't trust them, you obviously don't know the REAL meaning of love!!

People say all the time, even people I am not FRIENDS with, that it is not possible for my fiancé to have not cheated on me... That we've been together so long, and I say "I don't know what kind of relationships YOU'VE been in, but I'm 100% positive he isn't cheating on me. Yes, we've been together for a good amount of time.. But ever since we met back in high school we dated. We lost our virginity's to each other. We simply fell in love. Our love is genuine and I am lucky enough to know that he isn't cheating."

It doesn't make me BLIND it makes me PROUD.

LOVE IS TRUST... Idiots (:

-DRO


I was cheated on.. 5 years ago

Yes, I stalked him. No, I am not in Junior High but what many "happy" women don't realize is that us, with the strong intuition, simply have to know, because we are vulnerable, in love, blind etc. If you don't know for sure and you give him a chance to talk to you, he will manipulate you no matter how smart of a person you are. Why- because you are in love, don't see yourself without him, and are afraid of staying alone. Because of all of these factors we need to know for sure what's going on. My guy has also told me how he finally met the right person, we clicked, i am his destiny, i will have his child, yet, on the other hand, he has been communicating with so many other females from the beginning of the relationship. I went through his phone records, was also able to find a caller id to see whose numbers they were- i was in shock but, who wouldn't be?

This just happened to me and I feel sick to my stomach. I feel that I am not lovable- that a guy needs more than just me. I blame myself, but, then again when I think about it I also realize that he is cheating, not me. Why? I don't know. I would love to know why men cheat but still stay in the relationship.

I am simply confused but I know that I will be able to move on now- not right away when it comes to my emotions, but eventually it will happen.


wife is mad 5 years ago

I never thought anything until my husband left his phone on counter and went to work out.He always had a password on but this time i could see the phone wasn't locked,Lets just say it didn't take long to find text messages from multiple numbers that were extremely explicit.I decided to a search on the numbers,most of them came up anonamous but was able to find one that matched 954 899 5683 or ironically 954 899 love.I come to find out this hooker has been getting cash from my husband for a long time and playing him while he was playing me.I am glad i can vent on this site although i have been helping to make her life a living hell like mine.I found out her identity julia m rabolli a realtor by day i suppose and a hooker whenever some asshole pays her to suck or f.... or god only knows what.Anyways i find out shes a nova student and payed a p.i. to watch my asshole husband and her.lets just say her school,her work,her family and anyone i can find knows who she really is now and my husband has his coming also.Im gonna hit him where it really counts,his wallet.p.s. for any other wives out there the irs loves to know about these prostitutes and getting cash without reporting it.I think I am going to write a how to get even manual if anyone is interested.Ill let everyone know when Im finsihed writing it.


sully410 5 years ago from California

I'm totally going thru this right now. Got married last April, didn't really know him, just had his baby and my 11-year old is totally in love with her new dad, I learned he had porn issues while pregnant and he behaves very secrerive lately with the phone and his work. Now I just gottta come up with an exit plan...thanks for this article and the comments.


Debbierey6 5 years ago

One thing I have learned by being in a relationship for ten years, (we are not married), is #1 it doesn't matter if you are Angelena Jolie, or Paris Hilton, or the most beautiful women in the world. Men WILL cheat! It is in their nature! They simply can not refuse the act of sex, whether from you or another woman! #2 NEVER, i mean NEVER, accuse them without definate proof. I am talking

pictures or even videos!You HAVE to catch them in the act

or else you will fighting a losing battle Feelings or signs that you're partner is cheating are NOT enough! He will deny deny deny, and turn everything around on you! Tell his family and friends that you are crazy, bla bl bla! I am saying this from experience y'all ! Trust me !and Good Luck !


amy 5 years ago

hi guys i recently had suspected my fiancé of 5 yrs of being unfaithful to me no proof of course an he was always home with me so how did he do it?????

Well don't follow him to work and all this other crap don't waste money on a P.I do not go thru his fone its useless they will delete everything i decided i will buy a new sim card for my other phone with out him knowing well i msged him pretending to be a russian girl named dina aleksandrov made up name lol i made a voicemail got a russian friend he didn't know to record the voicemail with her accent send a few flirty texts see what he does he actually cam home and told me a strange girl was msging him but when he showed me he only showed me 2 msgs lil did he know i know how many were really sent i acted happy n cheerful very hard to do the next day i sent pics as he requested i got pics of google or u could get a girl u talk to that he don't know to get pics taken an send them he actually set a date told me he was going to his mums to help with the lawns as soon as he left i went to the place he was suppose to meet her suprise suprise he was there waiting i could see him he couldn't see me i sent a txt off my phone saying well well well do u do this all the time u will not catch them in act but close enough they r waiting for this chick to have sex with plus you have convos of him lying and saying wat he wants to do with this chick.. so advice so it ur self its easy simple an u def catch them or if u wanna be smart actually get a mate of urs he don't know or friend of ur siblings to actually meet him tell her to play along an wait 10 mins after they r in car togetheer n walk up to car ur self n see wats going on also works for men that suspect their missus of cheating....


kikaa 5 years ago

Avtar Dhami 38 of Sacramento Ca is a big cheater he is married and cheats on his wife.and have too many girlfriends.he is not satisfied with one person and his event planner bitch give him std.


lashaunda 5 years ago

this is real Im going to take this in to considerration. look at more stuff more clearly.


randal 5 years ago

All men cheat. if you love him then stay with him anyway. Or be with someone you don't love and be cheated also


chaz 5 years ago

this is crap advice.


lerato 5 years ago

Some men are cheates. I hate men who pretend to be all innocent only to discover how evil their itentions are. I believe in pay back. MY MISSION IS MAKE THEM FEEL HOW IT FEELS TO BE CHEATED ON.YOU BREAK MY HEART I WILL BREAK YOURS.


fashion 5 years ago

Great hub.once a cheater always a cheater.The best thing to do is to communicate and find out why the partner is cheating..Man is by nature polygamous, and this stage really comes to a man .

Great work.


a child once in a middle of this 5 years ago

it was just last year memorial day, may 31st 2010, my mom was suspecting my dad being all weird and all on vacation with an employee's family coming along. but every day since then, he and this employee kept seeing each other, my mom checked up on him every few days to see what was going on. my mom and dad owned a business. but the employee's alwasys weird. she cooks for us (although my mom makes the best meals), she usually wears slutty clothes, and she visits our house every day. then one day my dad came home without the house key and i found out that he gave the house key to our employee. uh-oh was my mom's reaction, although she had not one single idea why my dad was acting all weird. my mom ordered my dad to change ALL of the locks in our house, in case our employee creeped over here in the middle of the night and kill me or something (i was scared then...), so he did, but still continued the phone calls and late night works and whatnots! my dad soon quitting kissing/hugging my mom, quit sitting on the same couch with her, and they had arguments all summer long! my mom was threatening my dad that she was going to leave FOREVER. and my sister started crying, and they just yelling LOUDER and LOUDER. until i RAISED my voice so loud that they could hear me. my dad went outside to smoke a cigar, and my mom just sat outside crying. afterwards, a few months... like THANKSGIVING 2010, he invited the employee over and was like hugging her like ALL THE TIME in front of my mom. but i was like DAD, YOU'RE SO WEIRD... but he didn't care. by the time it was a week before Christmas. my dad started complaining that he was always broke, and i was like BUT YOU OWN A BUSINESS, AND IT'S ALWAYS BUSY. SO THAT DOESN'T EVEN MAKE SENSE. whatever was what he said. my mom found out two days before Christmas, but my dad wouldn't admit until like 16 hours later. he called up the employee and fired her. straight up. but of course, my mom and my dad are still together, although sometimes my mom still doesn't trust if and makes me go along with my dad everywhere we go (except the bathroom... because i am a girl) just to make sure he doesn't just caught up in the cheating act again.


julie 5 years ago

I had all of those suspicions and feelings from my boyfriend that he was cheating on me, from day 1 only wanting to see me on the days he wanted not on any other day or time i wanted to see him,and when he was with me he would have his phone on silent and always have his phone in his pocket,and always left the next day at the same time,its as if he had a double life and i started to believe he had enougher women,then after my nagging and moaning he moved in with me and was with me every night and day,but when he said he was just popping out to the shops he was gone for at least an hour when the shop was only 4mins away,and never wanted me to go when i asked if i could go with him he always made excuses,i started to check his phone when he was asleep,all these numbers came up that id never seen before as he only had few friends and family,i started to believe he was seeing prositutes,so i had set up his phone so i could spy on his every call, texts,and even hear him just as if he was sitting next to me when he was so far away from me and i was so sure that i would prove to myself so right in less then a week with this magic phone that my man was cheating on me all along,as i must have drove the man crazy with all my nagging questions and no evidence,but didn't believe any of his answers, so this was it im gona be single when i find out that my man was cheating on me all this time as i was lead to believe for the 2yrs 2gether, the weeks and months pasted and a year bugging his every move still him going out on his own just like he aways had done,but just to disapoint my mental paranoid mind once again hoping and waiting to prove myself so bloody right, that my man was to good to be true just because the way he acted walked or talked or didn't talk and i made his life hell, he couldn't wait to get 5mins of fresh air abit of freedom and space just driving in his car that's all he had ever done or went just a bit of free time for himself and never once had he cheated on me and im very surprised i never lost him such a good man who loves and adores me and his only crime in his eyes was he was just being him self,i no longer use the spy phone as i now trust my man but if i hadn't used it im sure we wouldn't be 2gether as i would have drove him away or dumped him for my own paranoid reasons.


Sick of platitudes 5 years ago

Hi,

I found my man cheating about a year and half ago. He still denies it even though I found him at sex sites on the computer and whores numbers on his phone. Since then he stopped using the computer and now uses a library computer because he doesn't want me "spying" on him. He also clears his call log/browsing history on his phone so there is never anything. I found an ATM receipt that was suspicious to me and confronted him. Now he destroys all receipts so I have nothing. I do not want relationship advice, only information about how to discover things. Please spare me the "just leave" garbage. It's none of your business why I stay. I just want to know what I am dealing with so I can protect myself.


Lisa 5 years ago

The big problem with the cheater is that once you suspect they change their behavior and then you are lead to believe you're a crazy person. When I found the whores phone numbers he said all he did was "make phone calls" and honestly, how can I prove otherwise? It's not like I was there. He said all men look at porn and that I was making a fuss about nothing but when I found deleted cookies to sex hook up sites and web cam sites he said he had no idea how it got there and that this stuff just loads on your computer when you visit a porn site. That does sometimes happen so how can I prove otherwise? If I push the issue I am a hysterical nag accusing him of something with no proof. The feeling of powerlessness and helplessness is overwhelming. If one had proof then you know you aren't crazy and even if you cannot leave at least you can protect your emotional health from his manipulative crap. You can write the relationship off even if you cannot leave it due to money issues and start planning ahead for the day when you could possibly leave. It's important to know the truth if for no other reason then to not feel like a fool.


Jess 5 years ago

NO just because someone THINKS someone is cheating doesn't mean they ARE. It's one thing to just suspect cheating because your paranoid, depressed, have anxiety problems, have been cheated on in the past or whatever. It's totally another thing to actually have evidence of cheating. I've been accused on cheating by multiple boyfriends in the past and I have NEVER cheated once. I'm sure the same thing goes for many guys.


Alexis 5 years ago

That is the best advice I've ever had. But my boyfriend and I are only 14. What would happen then? How would I know?


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John 4 years ago

Im deployed and i worry all the time about my gf cheating all the time cuz she goes out to the clubs with her slutty friends. How the hell can i fix this?


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beauty 4 years ago

i found used condoms in the bin i confronted him about them and he denies they are his.and now recently his been receiving calls every night some he answers pretending as it is his work friends but you can hear is a woman's voice

but he is always home,but on Fridays they knocking off early and he will tell me they have extended the time.

he always lie to me about things,i don't know what to do i don't want to live him because i love him what should i do


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Janine 4 years ago

I think once we get or gotten cheated on by our man or ex, We start going a bit over board thinking maybe is he doing it or no theres no signs I have been cheated on by my boyfriend our first year cause he was cheated on before by a girl.. So he tried to be the first one to do it. and because of that I couldn't trust him. I showed him how I felt about it and punched him out and I took him back to see if he would change.. its 4 years now and we have fights but not bad ones mainly me asking if he is fucking around he says no, I try and believe him. We don't use condoms I not let caught something from him... So he must not being doing anything like my crazy thoughts going through my head are saying lol. Some time I find a random condom hid behind things I ask and say u wouldn't do this if u weren't seeing someone else He just says I used it for myself and was to lazy to get outta bed. He still says he loves me like he did when we first met and he didn't even no me to even say that, He still holds me close and are sex is normal, slowing down a little cause of working.. he never comes back late and if so he will call me to say why, and I believes him but still half unsure.


nika 4 years ago

I think he's cheating at work...


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dj 4 years ago

These are all good SUGGESTIONS and good places to start looking, they are not straight answers that someone is cheating. I do over half of those items on that list and I don't cheat.....although my circumstances with work and such are not the norm


Rachel 4 years ago

You are nutcase... I have a life & bills... I don't have time to check all my own emails or texts... Let alone someone elses. Grow the hell up and stop hacking into emails and social networking sites. You just shouldn't date at all.


haha 4 years ago

This is dumb... i'm going to cheat on women MORE after reading this, now that I know how hard they will try to stop me, it will be that more entertaining to just cheat! Also, I think it will be a good way to find out of my women is a nut case or not. If she is doing anything that you suggested I can assume she is a nut case and just start dating the women I am cheating with full time... your dumb lady.


vunerablebbydoll 4 years ago

communication doesn't help (they lie and find ways to prove you are just paranoid or worse shout and stomp around) and snooping doesn't help (theres never anything incriminating). i guess you either put up n shut up or live a lifelong lonely single existance to avoid being hurt. being with mines put me on anti-anxiety meds i stress out constantly about whether hes lying or not but cant really talk to him about it out of fear of him getting angry (my ex was violent). i don't know whether its my mental health and hes a good guy or its 'intuition' that makes me so paranoid about being cheated on?


Female 4 years ago

i have a problem. I think that my husband is cheating on me. i tried contacting the girl in question but the reaction from my man was anger. evening treating to leave me if i dare to contact his friends again. he says he will do what ever he wants and i cant stop him. now he begins to clear all the massages on his phone and were ever he is going, even to bathroom his phone is with him. is all because i wont be able to have access to his friends in question. what should i do in this situation?


now what 4 years ago

so, I know that he is living a double life in another city. Do I tell her the truth about us?


sounsure 4 years ago

If u want to look through his mail without getting in trouble phone him/her and say ow you have a letter here im not sure what it is.. it looks important and they might just ask you to open it!! Any way i think my boyfriend is cheatin iv just had a baby and if i don't have sex with him he gets so pissed off with me but it still hurts and then he makes nasty remarks under his breath like ok fine just don't wonder why... what the hell is that supposed to mean!! hes also a bit secretive with his phone! He was on his internet bankin the other day and i sat next to him and he turned his laptop away and told me to f*** off some times he's on his laptop till early hours!! Is he cheatin or just a prick...... He trys making me think im crazy


Mark 4 years ago

I truly believe that this was a biast post by somebody who let there own personal experience get the best of them. Ask yourself this, is every guy in the world the same? Then why categorize them all in the same way. Did you notice my question was retoricle or however you spell it? It is a proven fact for in the most part woman are a more emotional, insecure, and jealous species. (species...lol). Anyway my advice to you woman who read this is that there are some good points and advice in this post, but to blatantly break it off because of suspicion sounds ignorant to me. You might end up making biggest mistake of your life. Can anyone see how this was biast yet? Anyway good luck to both sexes and always respect yourself and demand the same in return.


Alicia 4 years ago

This is mental. You have a suspicion he's cheating, and then you do ridiculous things like look for things like 'sex stains, female hairs' in his car, under the seats. It's obsessive.

Women are naturally jealous, and to use a little normal suspicion like this will only push him away because you're being too overbearing.

I say this as another woman: awful advice.


Kristi 4 years ago

That was a little much lol


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lonesome me 4 years ago

hi, my boyfriend is away taking a course, for 6 wks. I am going there to visit him half way through his stay, so he told me the other evening, a fella he's met was joking with him and told him he was gonna tell me about the little red head at the coffee shop he visits.... When we talk on the cell, everyday, I ask him where he is at he says he parked across the rd from the coffee shop. Am I being paranoid? I also found adult sites on his computer and a dating adult site? If hes not cheating does he intend too??? any suggestions????


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annoynymus 4 years ago

My boyfriend has cheated on me before about a year ago he went to prison for it the girl said he raped her its a long story but he was released without charges because the girl was a lier and wanted to make him pay her 6000 pound. anyway a couple of days ago i found 2 condoms in his room. i asked him what they were for he said for me and him. i believed him and then the next time i went to his apartment they were gone. i then had a strange feeling to go look in the bins and i did and i found the condom from before the wrapper without the condom and no sign of the other one and the blue pill he had before in his room. i confronted him straight away and i was shaking and felt traumatised from last year i couldn't stop crying and i wanted to go. he was stopping me and said its not me that used it etc i said whose is it then. and he said after 10 mins of me crying and trying to go tht he let some guy use his room and he mustve used it but i said wheres the other condom and pill then. he said he didn't know. i felt so brocken that i wanted to believe him but i dont know anymore. please tell me your opinion many thanks


Mich 4 years ago

All i have to say is once a cheater always a cheater. But remember this what goes around comes around.


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maria 4 years ago

Well last pasrt, once a cheater always a cheater. I cheated once when i was in my teens and felt so awful about it and never again did i ever do that. So it all depends on the person.


Trudy 4 years ago

Do the rules change when the cheaing is emotional and not physical. Cheating is cheating but I would like pinions from the group


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Jenny 4 years ago

My boyfriend broke up with me last week after two years relationship. We both are in high-school. He told me he no longer in love with me like the way he use to and just wanted us to be friends. I accepted his friendship in order to try and get him back i cried and pleaded for him to give me if i have done anything wrong but he refused. The day after he break up with me I told him that i will never give up on this one. So my friend told me about a temple called obolospelltemple@gmail.com this temple helped me to get him back to me and now we are together. All thanks to obolospelltemple@gmail.com i am Jenny


tina 4 years ago

I've found a great way to catch a cheater out!! My bf was spending more and more time away with work and becoming very protective over his mobile. We were supposed to be getting married and i was very suspicious of his increasinly dodgy behaviour, so i hired someone to test his faithfulness at www.honeytraponline.weebly.com.

I'm really glad i did because within 2 weeks i had solid proof that he was cheating on me - saved me the heartache and expense of a divorce!!!


Tim 4 years ago

This is like a manifesto for how to be a complete lunatic. I hope nobody takes this article seriously.....


micky 4 years ago

Thank you with all my heart for making all my wishes and dreams come true... My husband plays the horses all the time. You put a spell on him over three months ago. And he came home with $16,000. He won every race and every exacta that day. Thank you spiritual Dr. Messiah freemercytemple@yahoo.com for your spell help.


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Kylie 4 years ago

I want to say that my lover left me in Febuary. For few days now I have contacted many casters and bought almost ten spells without results. My ex wouldn't contact me, wouldn't answer my calls and emails. But I never lost hope because I knew we were soul mates. Dr. Ogun cast the most wonderful spell for me 1 week ago and everything has changed since then. We are close to each other again and he is calling me many times everyday. Thank you Dr. Ogun, your help is very appreciated! I will keep in touch with you and any one who desire's help should contact Dr. Ogun for help on this email address: Templeofloveandmoney@gmail.com


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Eileen Goodall 4 years ago from Buckinghamshire, England

Dr. Ogun the spellcaster from Temple of love and money? Seriously? Didn't expect this hub to have a punchline in the comments. On more serious note, good hub and as always ..... take care out there.


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supermom_in_ny 4 years ago from NY

Amen. I was married to a cheater. It's been 14 years since I walked away and he's still a cheater. Still have to deal with him because we have 4 kids, but I'm glad that I got out of that horrible marriage. Good riddance! ;)

Great hub. Voted up!


wienie 4 years ago

Well what happened to me is I was dating a guy for almost two years. Then I found out his ex girlfriend moved back to our town and started talking to him. She was a really bad influence on him and was ruining such a good relationship that we had. I didn't know what to do and I had tried a few spells in the past from psychics, but none worked to bring him back. When I finally tried from voodoo master the other girl got out of the picture and he came back to me within a week. There are definitely some powerful forces out there that can be a true blessing! The email is africa_voodoo@yahoo.com contact him and your relationship shall flourish


sanchex 4 years ago

my testimony goes to ultimate spell temple,me and my ex breakup 4 months ago and she told me that she don't love me any more and went to be with another guy.i was still in love with her and need her back i try to get her back but all my effort was in vail until i reach out to the internet for help and i saw a testimony of a spell caster,i decided to give it a try and i contacted him and tell him my problem.He cast a love spell for me and guarantee me of three days that my ex will come back to me and to my greatest suprise my ex come back to me and beg for forgiveness and promise never to live me again,i am so happy my ex is back to me again,thank you ultimate spell for reuniting me and my ex back together again.if you need him to help you Email ultimatespelltemple@gmail.com


gemgem 4 years ago

i have a baby boy with my boyfriend & i know for a fact he is cheating on me he has done it before when i was 9 months pregnant i don't want to loose my family can any one help me what should i do :(


Brenda L Rogers 4 years ago

Some very good tips here, thumbs up from me.

It's such a painful feeling when you "Think" you know he's cheating, but you just want 100% proof. If any women here want complete peace of mind, then I highly recommend Edward Talurdey's "Catch a Cheat". Here's the link: http://www.TheCheatTrick.com

Brenda


sonia 4 years ago

When the man I love broke up with me, my world fell apart. I had gone to several casters and I got no results or insufficient ones. I found alteroffiretemple@gmail.com and gave another try to retrieve my lover and restore the passionate relationship I had with him. I’m so glad I did and trusted him. He performed a spiritual cleansing to banish negative energies and cast a love spell. After 3days, the man I missed dearly started to call me and told me few days ago that he still loves me and wants to try again. Thank you


lizzy 4 years ago

I WANT YOU ALL TO HELP ME THANK drsabon,i am FROM canada.THE SPELL CASTER WHO MADE ME WHOM I AM AGAIN TODAY FOR BRINGING MY EX HUSBAND BACK,WHO HAS LEFT ME FOR PASS 5 YEARS AFTER TEN YEARS IN MARRIAGE WITH NO CHILD BUT TODAY AFTER I HAVE MEET WITH THIS WONDERFUL SPELL CASTER drsabon MY LIFE CHANGE FROM BAD TO GOOD MY EX HUSBAND START SEARCHING FOR ME AGAIN,I WANT TO THANK GOD TODAY I AM PREGNANT FOR MY EX HUSBAND 3 MONTH SO I MUST THANK drsabon FOR BRINGING HAPPINESS TO MY LIFE IF YOU WANT TO CONFIRM IT OR YOU HAVE SUCH PROBLEM DO CONTACT HIM VIA: drsabonspelltemple@gmail.com,


Rockenrich77 4 years ago

That was a awesome article, in my case it was turned around. It is nice to know and not to guess what is going on. Yes she played and I always tried to make head & tails out of everything but it was IMPOSABLE! That's cool though. I'm flying free. Good Night 2 all and 2 all a good night.


johan 4 years ago

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Last month, it was my birthday, the anniversary of my late husband’s death, and a time when I experienced another loss in my family. I was in total depression also because the gentleman I had been seeing for nearly a year decided to cut ties with me. All this happened at the same time, and my heart was broken. Then I found Dr.dodogods ’s email, and all my luck turned around – especially because the master did a wonderful spell of Love for me and my dearest companion, who decided he had made a terrible mistake by leaving me. We even took a much-needed vacation. It meant the world to me, and I have you to thank him for me. I send you Prayers dodogodssolution@yahoo.com. posted by.johan


tina 4 years ago

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Jessica Ruiz 3 years ago

My name is Jessica Ruiz from Florida I have to give this miraculous testimony, which is so unbelievable until now. I had a problem with my Ex husband 2years ago, which lead to our break up. when he broke up with me, I was not my self again, i felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worst, until a close friend of mine Lucy told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too his name is Dr Shiva. I email Dr Shiva the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before i knew what was happening my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me in just 2days and was so happy to have him back to me. We have two kids together and we are happy with ourselves. Thanks to Dr Shiva for saving my relationship and for also saving others own too. continue your good work, If you are interested to contact him and testify this blessings like me, the great spell caster email address is:hinduspelltemple@yahoo .com you are the best among all the spell caster online I hope you see my testimonies and also pray for my family too.


Brian 3 years ago

Hello, my name is brian sluk, I recently had a relation trouble that almose made me commit sucide, because the only one true woan i love was laft me because she travelled to finish her education in foreign country. she was no longer returning my calls or emails, till she clearly told me she is now dating someone else that life has to move on that i should do the same.

It hurt me so badly like my whole life is about to end, then i went online to know if there was anything i can do to change things then i saw people talking about a great spell caster whose email is templeofancientancestors@gmail.com, i did the same by contacting him because i needed her desperately and the spell caster did brought her back after 2days, we were now so much inlove all of a sudden, she started calling apologising, she calls morning, afternoon, and evening, just to make sure am okay.

The spell caster really changed everything to good if not i would have done something harmful to my self.

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maris mirker 3 years ago

i am maris mirker from canada.

My ex-boyfriend dumped me 0ne week ago after I accused him of seeing someone else and insulting him. I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me. I was so confuse and don't know what to do, so I reach to the internet for help and I saw a testimony of how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problem to him and he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my ex came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness. I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that, we are about to get married. Once again thank you dr okudu You are truly talented and gifted. Email: okudutemple@gmail.com is the only answer. He can be of great help and I will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful spell caster.


leslie Davenport 3 years ago

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Lydia 23 months ago

My life is back!!! After 2 years of Broken marriage, my husband left me with two kids, I felt like ending it all, i almost committed suicide because he left us with nothing, i was emotionally down all this while. Thanks to a spell caster called Dr Olawole which i met online. On one faithful day, as I was browsing through the internet, I came across several of testimonies about this particular spell caster. Some people testified that he brought their Ex lover back, some testified that he restores womb,cure cancer,and other sickness, some testified that he can cast a spell to stop divorce and also spell to get a good paid job so on. He is amazing, i also come across one particular testimony, it was about a woman called Julieta, she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 2 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped his email.After reading all these, I decided to give it a try. I contacted him via email and explained my problem to him. In just 48hours, my husband came back to me. We resolved our issues, and we are even happier than ever.ugbeninspellsolutiontemple@gmail.com you are a gifted man and i will not stop publishing him because he is a wonderful man. If you have a problem and you are looking for a real and genuine spell caster, Try him anytime, he is the answer to your problems. you can contact him on (ugbeninspellsolutiontemple@gmail.com)


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