Nice Guys Versus Badboys
Some women, mostly young and impressionable, are attracted to the badboy types and while they might be fun for a while they aren’t good long-term partners.
Badboys may seem more exciting in the beginning but they do not make good husbands or fathers. You’ve heard the saying: Nice guys finish last. It's a term meaning that if you are too nice you are in last place.
Why are girls attracted to badboys?
Badboys appear to be confident, outgoing and strong. It’s a carry over from Neanderthal days when it was important to have a man who was capable of keeping her safe from predators and other males. These thrill seekers are seen as adventurous and brave. She thinks the assertive macho man is a better protector and provider, when in many cases these guys will save themselves and leave Juliet in the dust.
We’ve moved on and now men no longer need to protect women from danger. Some of us realize a man doesn’t have to carry a club and be bigger than life to make a good husband.
Nice guys are better husbands and fathers.
Why you should forget the bad boys:
One Night Stand
You may think that since you are only looking for a fling and not looking for a commitment it’s okay and you have nothing to worry about. You are wrong.
Women have this little problem of falling in love with men they sleep with. Naturally this doesn't happen every time but we can't always control our heart.
Rebels tend to be risk takers, many don’t use condoms and some even break the law.
Don’t let them talk you into not using a condom no matter what kind of tale they weave. They aren’t worth it.
Condoms are not fail proof; sometimes they break.
Use one anyway.
Greater risk of STD
Since they are less likely to use protection they are more likely to carry diseases. Being more sexually active means he will more than likely leave you with a souvenir that may last you a lifetime.
Bad boys are more likely to cheat.
It amazes me the women who whine about not being able to find a good man but habitually look for the same type badboy. The last one cheated on you and yes the next badboy will too. It’s what they do. They enjoy that image and brag about it to their friends. You are no different and can’t change him.
They do not change.
Excitement doesn’t pay the bills.
Partying and carousing is expensive so unless he has a great job (most of them don’t) or comes from a family with money, you are going to have to support yourself and him. These guys are notorious for borrowing money from their girlfriends and oddly enough some are stupid enough to give it to them.
Even if his parents are wealthy they may eventually get tired of his behavior and cut him off. I’ve seen this many times.
Looks aren’t everything.
Women need to wise up and realize that just because a man is good looking, muscular and self-assured doesn’t mean he’ll be a good husband or father. These are the guys who love ‘em and leave ‘em often with children. They are the dead-beat dads we all hear about and the low life who often ends up in prison. Do yourself a favor, take another look at that nice guy you know and give him a chance. He’s not boring he’s reliable; last time I looked that’s what makes a great husband.
Leave them at the curb.
If enough women stop paying attention to these guys they would slink back to the alleys where they belong.
Look for a guy who has a stable job, isn’t a thrill seeker and will be there for you through thick and thin. You’ll be surprised; just because a man doesn’t act macho in public doesn’t mean he isn’t exciting behind closed doors. Those shy geeks will surprise you once you warm them up.
How do you know if he’s a bad boy?
Where do bad boys hang out?
One of their favorite places to congregate is a bar. I’m not saying all men in bars are bad but a large percentage of them are. Many either have a drinking problem or they are looking for one night stands. Those looking for a long-term relationship seldom look for a woman in a club. Some are socializing with friends and on rare occasions you can find a nice man but your chances of finding a player are much greater.
How do you spot a bad boy?
They have a cocky attitude, no respect for women and a big ego. They come in all races and flavors and all speak the same language. They think they are God’s gift to women and you should be thrilled to be seen with him. If he asks you out you are lucky. (No, you are his next victim.)
Passion doesn’t pay the bills
Sure hot monkey sex is fun and makes our blood boil but after a while it simmers down to a low heat so why not find that nice guy who starts out on low. You’d be surprised how sexy a nerd is under the sheets.
Find a man with ambition in a career, not pursuing as many women as he can. Look for a guy who has his priorities in order and respects you as a person and not just a sex tool to make him feel good.
A hunk looks good on your arm but he won’t last, will leave you heart broken and with a lower self esteem.
Where do you find nice guys?
They are all around you. That man you only want to be friends with just may be the man of your dreams. Try being more than friends, which may lead to dating.
That nice guy who works in the computer department and doesn’t say much but works hard could be the one.
Nice guys won’t say lines at a bar, brag about his accomplishments or how much money he has. Nice guys are humble and will let you make an assessment yourself.
He won’t sweep you off your feet, demand your attention or flirt with your friends.
Find a man who will make you feel special for the rest of your life, not just one night.
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