Why I don't do Valentines day!
This is my second Valentines Day with the love of my life. We are a perfect match! We don't fight, we respect one another, we love, we laugh, we have fun, we are each others best friend and we DONT do Valentines Day.
It's just another thing we agree on. Why do we need a specific day to say "I love you?" or to let the other one know how much they mean to us, we do that every day. I realize a lot of couples appreciate a day that they can give a lavish gift, or treat their loved one to a spectacular time...some of them because they are super romantic, others because they've dropped the ball most every other day in the past year. Shame!
Love is not a day, love is an ongoing commitment and an ongoing appreciation for one another. If you're counting on one day a year to make everything "right", you my friend need to re-evaluate.
For those of you who are just so romantic that you can't help but use the day as another excuse to be mushy..good for you! I don't buy into the commercialism! I don't need flowers, chocolates or diamonds. I have actually received all of those things "just because" since last Feb 14th. Now that's a good man!
Am I Jilted? Nope! Just tilted in my view of what "retail" has turned Valentine's Day into. They have taken advantage and have given an out to the men and women who haven't been doing their jobs all year round (and what an expensive price to pay, assuming you do V-day in a big way). My ex husband was all over Valentines Day (he was a cheater, go figure!) Wait! Don't blow a gasket, I'm not saying that if your lover spoils you big time on February 14th, that they're up to no good. They really might just be super romantic and want to spoil you, I just hope that they know the importance of the other 364 days of the year as well. My ex husband did not, but my new man does.
Yes, February the 14th may be a huge deal, but in my home I know February the 13th will be just as loving, and the 15th will be as well.
This doesn't mean I won't be eating chocolate on February 14th, it just won't come from a gigantic red heart shaped box trimmed in pink lace!
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