Anti-Valentines Day

Why I don't do Valentines day!

This is my second Valentines Day with the love of my life. We are a perfect match! We don't fight, we respect one another, we love, we laugh, we have fun, we are each others best friend and we DONT do Valentines Day.

It's just another thing we agree on. Why do we need a specific day to say "I love you?" or to let the other one know how much they mean to us, we do that every day. I realize a lot of couples appreciate a day that they can give a lavish gift, or treat their loved one to a spectacular time...some of them because they are super romantic, others because they've dropped the ball most every other day in the past year. Shame!

Love is not a day, love is an ongoing commitment and an ongoing appreciation for one another. If you're counting on one day a year to make everything "right", you my friend need to re-evaluate.

For those of you who are just so romantic that you can't help but use the day as another excuse to be mushy..good for you! I don't buy into the commercialism! I don't need flowers, chocolates or diamonds. I have actually received all of those things "just because" since last Feb 14th. Now that's a good man!

Am I Jilted? Nope! Just tilted in my view of what "retail" has turned Valentine's Day into. They have taken advantage and have given an out to the men and women who haven't been doing their jobs all year round (and what an expensive price to pay, assuming you do V-day in a big way). My ex husband was all over Valentines Day (he was a cheater, go figure!) Wait! Don't blow a gasket, I'm not saying that if your lover spoils you big time on February 14th, that they're up to no good. They really might just be super romantic and want to spoil you, I just hope that they know the importance of the other 364 days of the year as well. My ex husband did not, but my new man does.

Yes, February the 14th may be a huge deal, but in my home I know February the 13th will be just as loving, and the 15th will be as well.

This doesn't mean I won't be eating chocolate on February 14th, it just won't come from a gigantic red heart shaped box trimmed in pink lace!

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picklesandrufus 4 years ago from Virginia Beach, Va

good points. enjoyed your hub! vote up!


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Marlena Oechsner 4 years ago from Wisconsin

Great hub. For the past few years, my boyfriend and I passed on V-Day too (although I ended up secretly buying him movies that he loved). This year, he refused to celebrate. He said that since I spoiled him the last few years, we would go without this year. Then I caught him hiding a box of chocolates! He swears that's the only thing he bought and says we should just spend the day together. There is too much of an emphasis on Valentine's Day. I agree...why can't every day be just as romantic? When you wait for just one day out of the year (not including birthdays, anniversaries, etc), you forget about all the little things that add up. What about the time he brought you flowers for no reason? Or the day he drove all night just to see you? There are far more romantic things to look forward to than February 14th...


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cheatlierepeat 4 years ago from Canada Author

Thanks ladies, I was just sitting here wondering if It was weird that I didn't feel the need to celebrate V-day. Wondered how someone so in love didn't have the desire to jump on the supposedly most romantic day of the year. It came out of the blue last year, it was the week before my first Valentines day with the most loving, caring, romantic guy I had ever met when I announced "Hey, btw...I don't do Valentines day!" I thought he would think I was crazy or something... a chick (I know bad term) passing on Valentines Day? But it was almost like he was relieved as I'm sure it was huge pressure to have to try and out-do all the already wonderful things he had done so far in our relationship. How can I possibly make him feel more loved on the 14th, than he did on the 13th...I couldn't, I can't!

The hub literally took about 7 minutes to write, I could have said so much more but I just wanted one message to get out: Love the one you're with 365 days a year, life is short and if you are counting on one day to say I love you it's not enough.


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cherylone 4 years ago from Connecticut

Nice hub, and I happen to be one that feels Valentine's Day is way too commercial. When I am with someone who wants to celebrate I usually get a small thing and a card that I made myself. Who needs all of those expensive chocolates and decorative animals? Not me! :)


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cheatlierepeat 4 years ago from Canada Author

Agree! There is such a fine line of romance and pure cheesiness. I don't knock people who celebrate the day but I think it's way to commercial. It also bums out a lot of single people and that makes it kind of sad as well. It's more about pressure now, than just feeling loved.


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cheatlierepeat 4 years ago from Canada Author

Marlena, that is too cute. Secretly buying things, if I bought chocolates they would be eaten by me before the day even arrived.


Marietta 4 years ago

I always look forward to Valentine's Day -- or more specifically, the day after, when all that chocolate is on sale for half off!


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cheatlierepeat 4 years ago from Canada Author

Awesome Marletta!!!! Ok...I officially celebrate February 15th, not the 14th :D

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