Help For Narcissists Who Are Feeling Shunned

A true narcissist.
A true narcissist. | Source

This lovely girl

is a narcissist in every sense of the word. She loves herself a wee too much. Give her a mirror, and she is as happy as a kitten with a ball of yarn.

She is not really a bad person, but has this one hang-up: having to be "the" center of attention and all things have to be about her.

Recently, narcissists like this beauty and other narcissists are reporting that they are being shunned by family, friends and coworkers. The reason I can guess is that their trend of portraying a living definition of "vanity," has worn thin.

More images of narcissism

This pretty redhead narcissist could shame a mirror with her looks.
This pretty redhead narcissist could shame a mirror with her looks. | Source
To a narcissist, the more photos the better.
To a narcissist, the more photos the better. | Source
Loving one's self too much breeds vanity and vanity breeds resentment.
Loving one's self too much breeds vanity and vanity breeds resentment. | Source
Work that camera, babe.
Work that camera, babe. | Source
A narcissist always know how to smile.
A narcissist always know how to smile. | Source

And now I proudly present

" Help For Narcissists Who Are Feeling Shunned"

Helping narcissists presented me with a slight challenge, but I called upon my resources that are only known to me, and before long, I had this powerful list of things that can help any narcissist who feels shunned by anyone.

  1. Buy yourself a miniature bullhorn from any electronics store and when you feel shunned, start talking through this device and get the attention that you deserve.
  2. Buy louder clothing to wear to work or to go out on the town. The louder the better. No one is going to pay a narcissist any attention when they are dressed in a wardrobe that looks like burlap that has been dyed with Easter egg coloring.
  3. Get a facial every day. To keep the attention of everyone a dedicated narcissist should always have a super-clean face.
  4. Consider talking to a talented plastic surgeon and let him or her show you the many ways they can make you even more attractive and stuck on yourself.
  5. Have yourself some business cards printed up. They are cheap compared to the results they will give you. The card might read: Hello. I am Toddy McCluren. I am a narcissist and I need your attention. People will appreciate this fresh approach from you.
  6. Throw expensive dinner parties to lure those high-society friends who shunned you to come and dine as you present the new you to them. Oh, you will cry tears of joy when all of your old friends and family gasp with surprise at their new narcissist friend or family member.

Not all narcissists are women

This narcissist guy is always ready to pose for the camera.
This narcissist guy is always ready to pose for the camera. | Source

Why did the narcissists feel shunned?

  • People who saw them coming in bars, at parties and such, would frown and whisper nasty things like, "Oh there's that painful narcissist again."
  • Some people were so worn-out by the narcissist' image, they would actually lie and tell the attention-starved narcissist that they needed to run and see about a land deal that was ready to go through.
  • Some narcissists were simply ignored or overlooked for promotions at their offices.
  • One narcissist blamed his mirror for being too small, thus lowering his love for himself and leading to a low center of attention at social gatherings.

A final word on help for the narcissists

What you, the narcissist, can do, coupled with the tips in this story, to be "number one," to yourself and those around you.

  1. Be humble. You, dear narcissist, are not going to be "number one," with everyone.
  2. Be honest. There are just some uneducated, anti-social people who do not tolerate narcissists.
  3. Be real. If you have reached a certain level of personal appreciation, be happy and realistic with that level.
  4. Be open. Do not keep your feeling about being shunned bottled-up. Talk to other narcissists about your emotional storm. Understanding is a great medicine.

Note to the Narcissists: These tips and advice work. I know. I have used them.

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grand old lady 2 years ago from Philippines

I would look forward to a new hub about how you tried these tips on narcissists and an explanation of the responses you got after using them. Because in a sense, I wonder what definition you attach to the phrase, "it worked." That would be very interesting, indeed:)


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Minnetonka Twin 2 years ago from Minnesota

You always make me laugh Ken. It's refreshing to read about a narcissist from your funny point of view. It really brings the message home. Sharing


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DDE 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

Awesome! You certainly did you way through here and so interesting from your great mind I enjoy reading your hubs. Voted up, interesting and useful.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

grandoldlady (you are not old),

I will do my best to use the "It worked," when I find one of these narcissists who make our lives edgy and nervous.

How can one person love themselves so much?

That is your assignment to write about.

Thank you for your sweet comments.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Hi, Minnentonka Twin,

I have not heard from you in ages. How are you? Do you realize that you were among my first followers?

I hope that I have thanked you sufficiently for this kind gesture.

Thanks for this and all of your comments.

Visit anytime.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

DDE,

May I be bold right now?

You are a sweetheart for saying such kind things about this hub. I will not forget you regardless of how my health declines because you have been so nice to me.

I appreciate it.

Love, Kenneth


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Minnetonka Twin 2 years ago from Minnesota

I had forgotten that I was one of your first followers. How cool is that?? You have thanked me for it. I enjoy your writing immensely. Life is good over here. Have you been sick or something? I hope not but you just said your health is declining to DDE. You're in my thoughts and prayers if you are.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

@ Minnetonka,

Yes, in 2003, I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Neurothopy, both are incurable and hurt 24/7 in my bones, muscles, and nerve-endings. The Fibro I was told by a doctor at Kirkland Clinic in Birmingham, Al., that it will gradually get worse as time goes by and he was right. There are days that I hate getting out of bed, but with God's loving hand, I get up anyway.

I know that there are more people worse than I am. So I try to keep them in my prayers and focus less on myself.

But thank you and all of my followers, who ARE THE BEST on Hubs, for sticking with me even when I do not write for lengths of time.

That is the mark of good friends.

And you are that, Minnetonka.

Love, Kenneth


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Minnetonka Twin 2 years ago from Minnesota

I am so sorry to hear that Ken. after I read this, it rang a bell as I think you told me this before. From what I have heard, fibromyalgia is tough to diagnose-at least you know what you have. Is there any cure or relief for this? Your right-we all have a story of struggle-your certainly not alone. Praying for some relief for you my friend. I hope you have a good weekend in spite of this.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

My Dear Minnetonka Twin,

Thank you, dear friend, for the warm comments. I might have told you this in the past three years that I have been on Hubs. But no. Sadly there is no cure. And it is not only tough to diagnose, but tough to treat.

I get pain shots in my spine every three months and take pain medications as well as anti-depressants seven days a week and I will have to do these things for the rest of my life.

But, there are people with cancer who do not complain, so why should I?

I wish you, my dear friend, the very best and I ask you to keep in touch with me.

Your Friend for Life,

Kenneth


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Minnetonka Twin 2 years ago from Minnesota

Hey, it's ok to complain. You have to talk about it to help ease some of the frustration of what your living with. I'm on anti-depressants too-I finally got on them for good after my lung cancer diagnosis in '04'. Before that, I would go on them and think I was fine and take myself off of them. I have learned the hard way that I need to stay on them. No worries Ken, I am ten years cancer free. They gave me a 20% chance of making five years and here I am. Because I was a non-smoker, after five years it gets more and more unlikely that it will come back. Those were hard days Ken but you are living with this pain on a daily basis and I am so sorry for that. Even though cancer is scary as hell, at least It's behind me and I feel great. Just know you are in my prayers and thoughts. I sure wish they could find a cure or relief for fibromyalgia.


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kenneth avery 2 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama Author

Sweet friend, Minnetonka Twin,

Thank you for being here for me. I know that it is fine to talk, but I do not want anyone to mistake my talking for complaining.

I am so thankful to Our God that you are cancer-free. That means you and I will be on HP a long time. Maybe we can retire with a Gold Keyboard, huh?

Thanks for being with me a long time. You were among my first followers and I am sure of it.

Thank you again for your friendship first, then your following and YOU always know: I am here for you anytime.

Love, Kenneth

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