One-night Stands; Was it as good for you as it was for me?

Remember that night?

There's not too many subjects I shy away from, including talk of the bedroom...or public restroom....or backseat of a car. Wherever you may have had a one-night stand I want to get to the bottom (no pun intended) of this topic.

One-night stands occur under many circumstances; bad judgment, curiosity, physical desire but no desire for commitment, instant attraction, an extra-marital affair, a thrill or experimentation. Depending on the situation, some people remember and some people would rather forget.


Other types of one-night stands; Anonymous Sex

Anonymous sex is similar to casual sex or a one-night stand, but I would define it as even more casual and more pre-meditated. I would also consider it more risky as well. There are online groups, forums, ads for people looking specifically for this type of encounter.

But I don't want to discuss the online world of risky sex or planned sexual encounters. I want to talk about the good old-fashioned 'whoops' or 'what the heck' kind of one-sight stand. Where do men and women differ on the topic, if at all, and why do people engage in a one-night stand.

Easy boy....calm down...

The How To's of Happily Hopping in the Sack Hastily

Apparently there is certain etiquette involved when engaging in a one-night stand. Unbeknownst to me that there was a polite way of hopping in the sack last minute with someone you barely know. Perhaps it falls into the discussion one has while frantically unzipping zippers and tripping on that damn sock that won't budge off your foot.

But yes, there are how to's involved; two consenting adults who establish and understand the perimeters/boundaries of the relationship. Be safe in regards to using protection and for ladies you may want to let someone know where you're at or have a back-up plan. Don't forget to thank your partner for a lovely evening- I'm actually joking about this, but it would be polite. Also don't forget all your clothes and belongings because you may not see that person again and if you forgot something...awkward.

Not-so-hot Horizontal Trot

My experience with a one-night stand was not at all similar to the typical hot movie scenes with two people ripping each others clothes off and knocking down every piece of furniture in their path, leaving behind a fitful scene that would put Hurricane Katrina to shame, dripping sweat like the perpetual precipitation in a rain forest.

After three long, committed, and eventually unhappy relationships I decided to throw caution to the wind with a Calvin Klein underwear model I met at a club in the city- I'm not so much bragging about him being a model as I am at the humor of him being an underwear model. It kind of chokes a person up when you ask the innocent question of 'What do you do for a living' and the answer is 'Pose in my undies'. Yikes!

He was gorgeous, funny, and had lots of money to spend on me. Sounds like I'm bragging again, but it's going to prove my point. With all the requirements of a desirable partner, it was by far the worst sex I've ever had and I don't think anyone is truly happy about their one-night encounters or maybe I'm the only one. Fake and awkward would best describe that night. The only thrill I can see is in the spontaneity aspect or if it's an affair, it would be the thrill of getting caught. Either way, there is no way a one-night stand is satisfying.

Of course every one-night stand has a silver lining, well, not really, but I found one here. I learned something about myself and that wasI get pleasure out of knowing someone...the hunt, the chase, flirting, the ongoing banter, and each encounter getting better and better, building up to a real climax. Whew, I'm getting hot!

Tease me

"Hate to sound sleazy, but tease me, I don't want it if it's that easy" Tupac Shakur

Ain't Nothing Like the Real Thing Baby

Most people engage in a one-night stand, in general, because they are not looking for their future wife or husband, yet they desire some sort of companionship. Again, I will argue here, it is a superficial short-term fix and will not satisfy one's needs for real companionship. Also, who are you to determine when you are ready to meet that special someone- that can happen any time, at any age. Often multiple one-night stands are necessary to fulfill the long-term needs for companionship that most human beings need.

Sometimes we would like to feel close to another person, but are one-night stands the answer? For many modern women, this is a way of life now. They are too busy chasing dreams, higher education, and careers to have a meaningful relationship or family with someone. I don't know the statistics, but I'm willing to bet women's one-night stands have increased exponentially in the past couple of decades.

As a woman, I was taught that you can 'Have it all'. This is a modern lie because by the time women are ready to start a family, they have found out that not many ideal men are available (without baggage especially) and it isn't that easy getting pregnant or being pregnant at age 35+. One-night stands may seem like a solution at the time when we aren't ready to settle down, but a better lesson would be learning to live with ourselves and by ourselves first.

Men on the other hand typically have a strong need for sex and if they aren't ready to settle down then one-night stands are an obvious choice. The issue with this is by the time they are ready to settle down they are accustomed to exciting flings and easy sex without strings so the joys of a relationship are lost. They believe relationships should offer that type of thrilling one-night stand sex. The joy of relationship sex is knowing that person, getting pleasure out of pleasing that person because you care about them. In other words, men who have one-night stands are desensitized to sex as a something deeper and meaningful. Their expectations of sex are forever comapred to their one-night stands.

Not Knowing is Half the Battle

You're fighting an uphill battle by not knowing who you are having sex with. It can lead to a plethora of problems, including false rape charges, real rape, and sexually transmitted diseases. Not to mention my personal problem with one-night stands; awkwardness. Nobody likes any of these and with that in the back of your mind, how exciting is casual sex now? The allure is often greater than the conquer. The mystery about a person you hardly know can give you mysterious symptoms (of an STD).

Yes, a one-night stand can serve it's purpose. But it's like treating the symptom and not the cause. Why do you need to engage in casual sex? Are you running away from a real problem? What do you have against relationships? Is it the aftermath of breaking up with someone? Are you acting out in some way for attention? Is it really fulfilling? What effect is it having on you? A one-night stand takes more than one night to think about and effects you long-term in one way or another.

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dashingscorpio 4 years ago

It pays to be have safe sex whether it's with a one night stand or someone a person may be dating. I agree with you that one night stands are different for men. They aren't "spontaneous". Having been a young adult during the disco 70s & 80s era I can assure you that most men headed out to the nightclub hoping to get laid. When the DJ announced "Last call for alcohol" every guy in the bar looked at his options. A lot of the one night stands ended with the exchange of phone numbers even though neither party really planned to contact one another. On the other hand if it was a "mind blowing" experience for the couple odds are they would get together again. I suspect a lot of one stands take place when people are on vacation or out of town on business. It seems the further people get away from home the more daring they become. :-)


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gregas 4 years ago from Corona, California.

Hi Izetti, One thing with one night stands is, if it is planned to be a one night stand, it is usually a one sided plan. There is the coyote night, to put it politely, when you went to bed drunk, awoke with the person next to you, with his/her head on your arm so ugly that you would rather chew off your your arm than wake him/her up. Very good hub. Greg


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia

Absolutely loved your Hub though I have a totally different perspective (as a woman) on one-night stands.

First of all....I love sex! Like food and water...something natural for me and always something to enjoy the best way possible.

I had quite a lot of one-night stands, I enjoyed every single one of them, I loved those years of complete and utter simplicity and awkwardness I never really experienced.

It was absolutely fullfilling in the way that I was looking for. After many break-ups, bad sex and living the life 'I was supposed to live', casual sex gave me the opportunity to reinvent myself as a woman, as a player and as a sexual partner.

I learned from being with so many different bodies, desires and sexual levels, waking up one day and feeling ready for the next step. A relationship.

It took another two years and then I found my guy! And trust me...The love and the passion is explosive and fullfilling for we both know, how to please one another because of valuable experiences. It's even better.

I wouldn't want to share my life anyway with a guy who didn't hunt around for part of his life. Seems a healty and natural fase to me.

Loved your hub so I said:-)Voted up, shared and away!!!


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SilentReed 4 years ago from Philippines

One has to assume that both party in a "one night stand" are after a good time and not there to look for a lifetime partner (There is of course that possibility) Sex is the icing on the cake. One can enjoy the cake (good company, good food, good conversation) and the night is not a total lose. Besides...too much icing is fattening.:)


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

dashingscorpio~ you bring up some good points. Yes, sex is different for men and women, but I think more women nowadays are committing later in life so sex and one-night stands are fulfilling the same need for women as they do for men- just to "get laid". THanks for stopping by.

Gregas~ very funny comment- thank God I never had a coyote experience, but for my experience maybe I should have been more drunk- lol.


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Escobana~ I love sex too, just not the way you do. But that's OK, I think more women now are like you and one-night stands can certainly be a good alternative to being in a bad or dead-end relationship with someone.

I had a "booty call" for about a year or so but I hate to say it there is more intimacy in a booty call than a one-night stand and you know the person- you know what they like, they know what you like.

I'm glad you've found a good guy and still have that passion. That's a treasure! I did not want a relationship when I met my husband. I was attracted to him and thought maybe a short-term physical relationship would be nice, but we ended up falling in love and I'm still attracted to him.


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LauraD093 4 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

izetti Great hub! It brought me back to the good ole days or rather the "Not so good ole' days." Married for six years now and sexual with the same partner for 11+ years I may be no authority but the "sowing of wild oats," really doesn't change much generation to generation but as you pointed out cyber-forums make the hunt perhaps even more clinical and er... need specific lol! Although I don't envy those out in the dating world now-a-day(s) 20 years ago I would have printed this hub out and used it as a do's and don't list. Well written and funny hub for this going grey stabled mare. ty.


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Triplet Mom 4 years ago from West Coast

Izetti - Great hub and voted up. I only had one, one night stand in my life. Your typical met a guy at a bar scenario. Funny thing is that after it was all said and done I actually ended up meeting up with him again about a year later and we started dating. We have now been married for 17 years. I don't think that is a normal one-night stand.


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Escobana 4 years ago from Valencia

Hi Izetti!

Thanks for your reply on my comment. I have to say you're right...a booty call means more intimacy than just that one time.

I actually had two or three booty calls at the same time for some years, for the simple reason that the sex was great, the companionship too and our desires were similar. Meaning we didn't want to be really committed to one another.

I even told the two or three guys they weren't exclusive for me and they appreciated my honesty.

Still I am far more fond of that real commitment I have found right now for the mere fact that love makes everything so much more intimate and profound.


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Silent Reed~ Yes the icing on the cake sounds fabulous. Some men I have met and had a great time with spur of the moment, great conversation, etc but did not have sex with them....darn! THanks for stopping by.


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Laura~ I've been married 6 yrs now too and I had not so many one-night stands but a lot of good old fashioned fooling around. Fun times! Online dating makes one-night stands easier to come by I'm sure but perhaps not as fun because the hunt and spontenaity isn't all the way there. I don't envy those dating now either- I think we got out of that about the right time. tHanks for the great compliments on the hub!


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Triplet mom~ great to see you on here. Yes your one-night stand story is not the way it usually works and that's a good thing for you guys. How funny!


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Escobana~ love does add that extra something that one-night stands just don't have. I have been down a path of not being honest up front when i wanted more of a casual relationship and almost a year down the road I broke it off and turns out the guy was in love (he never told me though) and I wasn't even close to that. So honesty definitely is the best way to go for anything casual.


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TheManWithNoPants 4 years ago from Tucson, Az.

So ... wanna do it?

Okay, okay, I'll straighten up. You did a good job of breaking down this seemingly simple subject. Your good like that. My second wife, Laura started out as a one night stand. I was living with a girl who seemed very normal at the time, but she saw me going to lunch with one of my female employees one day. That night she asked me if I would watch her daughter while she went out with the girls for a while. She was only gone a few hours, but when she came home, she was insane and tried to stab me. I jumped into my car and went to the Holiday Inn bar where I saw Laura sitting at the end of the bar and talking to the bartender, who I found out later was an old high school friend of hers. Turns out she was celebrating because her divorce had just become final. I went home with her. Before we left the bar. She made it clear that she wasn't looking for a relationship, and just wanted to do that bad thang. I was stoked about that of course, but that great one night stand turned into a 10 year marriage. Where are still friends too. One night stands are excellent as long as everybody takes a shower before and after. That old deal about leaving the bar buzzed and moving straight to the bedroom is flawed. Gots to be squeaky clean fo sho!

Excellent job here sis. You still got it kid!

jim


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Jim~ so funny. Yes I agree about the showering. Good tip! That's a couple of people who said their one-night stands turned into relationships. I admit my husband was going to be a booty call for me. I wasn't looking for anything serious at the time. I think I need to continue this hub into booty calls versus one-night stands. That would be interesting which people prefer.


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independentwriter 4 years ago from the Snowy Northeast

Excellent hub, as usual you have shed light on a subject that I think everyone has dealt with. I personally have not had a one night stand, however, I have had several booty calls before settling down.


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

independentwriter~ thanks for the comment. Booty calls are better than one-night stands anyway...in my opinion.


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jeremejazz 4 years ago from Philippines

hello nice hub :)

I'd like to write stuffs like these too


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Thanks jeremejazz!


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jeremejazz 4 years ago from Philippines

Right.. superficial short-term fix and will not satisfy one's needs for real companionship :)


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FIS 4 years ago

Of course if this topic shows anything it would be that the need for real companionship is not our only need. Some needs are superficial and short term but are needs none-the-less.


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

jeremejazz~ thanks...yes totally agree. Some people mistake the need for companionship and have one-night stands.


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

FIS~ nice to see you here. Great point about the difference in short-term and long-term needs. still think some people mistake the need for companionship for wnting something short-term.


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FIS 4 years ago

Iz... there's not doubt that people get their needs mistaken all the time.. if that weren't so.. their wouldn't be an obesity epidemic which can only be happening when people eat more food than they need and exercise less than the need.. why would sex, love, companionship be less confusing? Add in excitement, pleasure, chemistry, romance and God only knows what else.. and how could it be anything less than confusing.


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

As usual...great points FIS. I agree...nothing confusing about that.


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prasetio30 4 years ago from malang-indonesia

I heard this many times, but I had never try at all. I rather believe "love" than "sex" just for fun. Thanks to remind us about this topic. Good job and rated up!

Blessing,


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Thanks Prasetio! Sex with love is far more satisfying than sex without love...but that's just my opinion. I don't think some people are truly being honest about enjoying one-night stands.


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FIS 4 years ago

Sex with love is more satisfying. Sex without love is pretty good too. People have discussed this for a very long time. Once upon a time people thought that sex and love were the same thing. In fact, there are a few passages in the Old Testament where it seems fairly certain that the word love is being used when the word lust is more appropriate, I don't know if this is a flaw in the English translation which makes it a characteristic of Renaissance English thought or if it's just a reflection of the way people thought in the Bronze Age. One thing that you don't see a lot of discussion about is love without sex, which... in all of history before Viagra was pretty important but, which seems to be too painful for people to talk about. People want their sex.


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LauraD093 4 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

izetti I have a terrible cold so am taking advantage of re-visiting some of my favorite hub-writer's work out here within the community. I will take a peek at some of your latest as well. Seems like I will not be playing out in the Pittsburgh sunshine today--but rather reading and admiring the view from my home-office window. I really enjoyed this particular hub the first time through and it is great the dialogue it has created. "Buzz" is always a good thing.


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clairemy 4 years ago

Enjoyed reading your hub. Love and lust are definatley different. But for lust with love works.


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

FIS~ history and historical books were always extremely romantic in the way that there was only one person for each person...'til death, etc- nobody ever thought of separating the two. That is partly (old) religion's effect on society. I had a hub out long time ago about sexless marriages. It's an interesting topic.

Laura~ hope you get better and thanks for stopping by.

Claire~ thanks for comment


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Dolphan5 4 years ago from Warwick R.I

I stumbled across your profile ( no I have not been drinking, wellllll maybe 1 or 4) while reading a comment you left at rabbit's thread on Who should play Wonder Woman.

The title got my attention, and I just wanted to point out that

My wife and I will celebrate 25 years of marriage this July. She was a virgin when I first met her(whoohoo 1 for me)and I was a player before I met her. I'm not bragging just setting the stage.

Your article made me reflect (nicely done).Looking back

I can remember some very good times and some very bad ones as well.

I'm not a fan of one night stands! I think they serve no useful purpose for self discovery or any other discovery for that matter that could not be accomplished in many other less dangerous fashions.

Truth be told having been on both sides of this issue,I'd take the intimacy I enjoy today over a fling or a booty call or what have you. The depth between 2 people that come from time spent together and dealing with lifes up's and downs is part of that intimacy.

It gives it a power you can and will only understand when you get there, and it is there.

Now people will do what people will do and I'm not chastising anyone, The advantages of a strong monogomas relationship will never be eclipsed, that's what I've learned.

That's my 3.5 cents worth (Inflation ya know)


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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Dolphan5~ well said and your 3.5 cents are worth all 25 years experience you have in your marriage. I completely agree- I got out of a long-term relationship and thought I'd try a one-night stand. I was disappointed...no self-discovery in that experience...did nothing for me.

Thanks for bringing some entertaining humor to your comment- those drinks served you well. Maybe I should try drinking and hubbing too (provided its not a hub violation). Thanks for stopping by.


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Dolphan5 4 years ago from Warwick R.I

Thanks for the response Laura!

I enjoy your wrting style, It has all the necessary componets. Good subject,right amount of humor,actual research knowledge(you got it yourself) and a diplomatic element as well. I'm a follower now, and waiting for the next article. Till then CIAO!


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Michael Ray King 3 years ago from Palm Coast

Very interesting Hub. Well written and presented. Never had a one night stand, but the thrill of the "fantasy" of one does linger in the recesses of my mind...


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izettl 3 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Some would say its worth it and others would say its not. I prefer to know someone better


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Michael Ray King 3 years ago from Palm Coast

I would have to agree in that while the potential thrill looms as temptation, I'm a relationship person and will only enter in to something with "future" rendezvous in mind. The bottom line reason I suppose I have not had one is that deep down I feel a one nighter would be very selfish. I feel good sex is a sharing and is sacrificial. I love your hub and the fact you address this subject so frankly. It has made me think. I like that.


jeanine 3 years ago

wow, just to read these comments from men, blows my mind... the comments about intimacy from men is very refreshing but alas I don't think any man who post here would be an alpha male anyway... so that's not a bad thing just my own beliefs about Alpha males... they tend to comment live and are so busy with the one night stands that they don't strike me as readers who comment on hubs...lol... not speaking from my own personal experience just I have three sons... one alpha and two betas... the Alpha wouldn't nor does he have the time to ever even think about sitting down and reading something like this... it's just not in his nature... and besides he can't seem to get away from the women who unbelievably just throw themselves at him on a daily basis... just saying... all of these mens comments are so sweet and sincere and I love to hear them but the one nighter guys will not be commenting so we might be getting a warped look at what one night stands are really about from the guys perspective...


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Michael Ray King 3 years ago from Palm Coast

Hey! "Beta" guys as you call them (us) have a "guy's" perspective. Do the alphas have some sort of monopoly on the guy's perspective? lol! I think I know what you are saying, but we guys who integrate our intellect with our emotions tend to resent the "macho male" attitudes. We also wonder (far too often) why many women bemoan these single-focus men who only appear to want to boost their egos and conquest totals.

I suppose this falls into that age old need to understand the "alpha" male's modus operendi. Most of the rest of us males don't believe they have one other than self pleasure and to shore up some deep rooted self esteem issues.


jeanine 3 years ago

at first when I looked at my alpha, I thought the same thing as you..... but as he grew older, it had very little to do with his own pleasure or appeared that way... he fell in love first and was headed in the right direction, but then she hurt him pretty badly, so he went from good boy to super alpha man... and it looked like he was just trying to kill the pain... very sad in ways...now years later after laying all the women down that came his way, and there were a lot, he has finally found someone again... as it turns out, he many have been more sensitive than the betas, and you would never think that of an alpha or I wouldn't anyway... it doesn't matter who sees him, the check out girl, the stewardess, even my sister all think he is gorgeous and they all want him... strange but true... here's the kicker, you would think this would be the most selfish man on the planet, but he's not, he runs a huge business and always takes care of his people.... even to a fault he is that forgiving... so that being said... I have noticed as he has grown older he is alpha in so many more ways than just the sexual side like when he was younger...truly is an amazing guy... can you tell I like him as well...lol...lol...all of you guys have certain alpha traits and that's why we take you... lol... and you thought you took us right... but with a true alpha, there is not much defense from a woman's perspective... it's primal... it's the most natural state of sexuality for the woman... it's as if the alpha has some kind of secret weapon... hurts so good....but seriously, my alpha's "modus operendi" seems to be grounded in taking care of others... yeah and you would never see that just by looking at him... he looks like ... oh no here comes mister beautiful... and he is... but he has matured into one of the most beautiful people I have ever met... if the first girl he fell for had treated him right... I don't know if he would have ever looked at another woman... strange but true...


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izettl 3 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Time's have changed and beta guys may even have an edge on alphas. First of all we are living a lot longer and alpha guys usually die younger so a beta guy is the best to go with if you want to raise kids. Second of all beta guys have a lot more characteristics they utilize than alphas. In my opinion, they are well-rounded, and I think an advantage for raising kids as they can be nurturing as well.


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ellaamelia 3 years ago from LA, California

I think one night stand is extremely worst think because no one can understand it.... I have no words to discuss on this topic but about my view one night stand is just a sexual satisfaction for the people.....


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copywriter31 3 years ago from Port Neches

I don't know how any curious reader could resist the temptation of opening, then devouring this hub! You have a gift for creating GREAT headlines . . . I scanned your profile, and was instantly taken in by your headline-filled creativity. Also, I admire your writing style. Your articles naturally flow, and you have a special knack for choosing the perfect syntax; not too stuffy, yet highly intellectual. In 5 words: You are an excellent writer . . . I look forward to reading existing and future Izettl-composed works of art.


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izettl 3 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Ellaamelia,

You are certainly entitled to your opinion. Thanks for stopping by. I'm not a real fan of one night stand either but they are very prominent in western society.

Copywriter,

Thanks for stopping by. I think I realized my "headline gift" while on yearbook staff and school newspaper....many years ago. I always got looped into writing everyone else's titles. It was fun. I like to play with words too. I've been both condemned for my writing style and appreciated so I'm glad you're in the latter group...thanks so much for being a fan. I appreciate because I equally respect your hubs too.


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copywriter31 3 years ago from Port Neches

Hey there, izettl - Appreciate your comments, as always! I think we may have a mutual admiration talent appreciation going here. That's fine. I never heap compliments when they are not warranted. I am attracted to your work. My background includes a virtual lifetime of copywriting; on and offline. I know what I like and I'm not afraid to express my sincere appreciation for real copywriting talent. Believe this; I have never complimented ANY writer on HubPages as I have you. My appreciation is real and heartfelt. I truly love your work!


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izettl 3 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Copywriter,

I am one shade from blushing. I love to write and honestly I have to express myself sometimes in an extreme manner to get enough attention that people will pay attention to a message that either speaks to them or doesn't. I've always loved to write but the last few years I have concentrated less on the writing than on the message and I think this works for me. Seems like it works for you and I thank you for that. I'd love to fine-tune my craft but I have two small children so the details sometimes get overlooked. hopefully the message doesn't. Speaking of messages I really enjoy the diversity in your hubs. I also enjoy anybody who can make me think so yes the mutual talent admiration is there.

A hub like this one is not written for message but rather for fun and that's always important too.


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copywriter31 3 years ago from Port Neches

A hub like this one may be written for fun, but real talent is needed to make, even this playful subject, come alive . . . and you've succeeded! Signed, a real admirer,

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torrilynn 3 years ago

this was an amazing hub well written and well thought out. very detailed i loved the quote and the way that you added a sense of humor to the subject at hand. voted up .


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izettl 3 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Thanks torrilynn


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Denmarkguy 3 years ago from Port Townsend

Interesting coverage of this topic... I can say that I "learned about me" from one-night stands.

I found myself with the opportunity twice... and discovered (to my embarrassment and dismay) that I "couldn't" with someone I didn't feel a deeper connection with-- and these were a couple of attractive women and I was in my early 30's with a hefty libido. It felt like the whole thing was just reduced to "a performance"... and I pretty much hate "performing" (at ANY activity) so I "lost interest."


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izettl 3 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Denmarkguy~ it was hard not having a bias view on this topic cause one night stands never "did it" for me. Without knowing someone deeper, I wasn't able to truly find out if I was attracted to them. Looks arent everything as I learned. One guy was a model, but still I wasn't attracted and lost interest as you said.

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