Online Dating Advice: Six Tips To Pick Your Pics Wisely
Online Photos Can Make or Break Your Profile
Relationship advice has to include online dating, since millions of people are members of these sites. Thousands of happy couples have met their mate online. However, there are several factors that come in to play when creating an effective online profile that gets the desired results. Online photos are a crucial aspect of an online dating profile, and one that frequently gets overlooked.
It’s amazing how many single women (and men) drop the ball when it comes to posting decent online photos. A scan of any of the dating sites will reveal thousands of relationship seekers with horrendous pictures displayed for all the world to see. People don’t even realize that they are turning away potential dates with pictures that are a turnoff.
You Only Get One Shot at a First Impression
Imagine you are going out for an evening to a place where you might meet and mingle with eligible singles. Would you throw on a pair of sweats, run a comb through your tangled hair and declare yourself “good to go?” If you want to get the right kind of attention, probably not. You would make every effort to look your best. After all, first impressions count.
Well first impressions are equally important online. Outdated or inappropriate photos that don’t adequately portray how you look, or that send the wrong message, get passed over very quickly on the Internet. People are in a hurry, and they are quickly scanning these sites for possible dating prospects. The very first thing they look at are the thumbnail pictures that go with the heading of your profile. If it doesn’t have any aesthetic appeal, you are passed over in a split second. There are a few things to watch out for when posting photographs. The following tips can go a long way towards getting better results on a dating site:
Watch Your Facial Expression
A quick scan of any of the top dating sites reveals a variety of photos that leave the viewer saying “what were they thinking?” The facial expression in a picture really does say a thousand things about you. You don’t want to look like you’re in a police lineup. If you are frowning or grimacing you are not going to look inviting to anyone. Some of the cool artsy or Goth types might think they are making an impression - but truly, they’re just scaring people. Make sure you are smiling or at the very least have a relaxed, pleasant expression on all of your public photos. People respond well to smiles, online and off.
How Far is too Far?
Everyone who’s attempted online dating has dealt with the frustration of trying to look closely at photos that are taken too far away from the subjects. Full body shots are great, but you must have at least a couple of headshots that are fairly close up. If a potential date has to squint or look too hard at your photos to make out your face, they will quickly give up. Additionally, you will look like you’re trying to hide something about your face and get passed over. Have a friend or relative take some closeup shots from a flattering angle. This simple tip can lead to a big increase in responses to your profile.
There is Such a Thing as Too Close
Speaking of up close photos - the issue of camera angle needs to be addressed. Just because your smartphone is your favorite new toy does not mean a photo that you took in your car should be used online. Save those shots for intimate friends on Facebook. The close up shots taken from a weird angle on camera phones or webcams look downright crazy on a dating profile. You want close ups, but not that close.
Not The Right Forum for Family Photos
Everyone wants to look well liked and popular, but too many group photos on a dating profile can be a turnoff to eligible singles. People who may be shy or introverted will not be impressed with the volume of friends and relatives in your pictures. It can be downright intimidating to someone with a small family, or no family, to reach out to someone who appears to have dozens of close friends and a huge family. Plus, they may mistake a close relative, or friend, for an ex boyfriend or girlfriend - an immediate turn off. You need to stand out on your own merits with a dating profile. There’s always time later on to trot out the family vacation photos or introduce Crazy Uncle Joe. Your online dating profile is not the best forum to introduce friends and family. Keep it simple and just post photos of you by yourself.
They're Called an Ex For a Reason
We’ve all stumbled across online dating profiles that consist solely of photos where an obvious second person is cropped out of the picture. People who use these photos on their dating profile seem to be unaware that these photos scream “I’m still not over my ex!” The first question that crosses the mind of anyone viewing this collection from the past will be: “Are they really ready to date?” While the photos may be a high quality and are taken in exotic locations that you can’t replicate at home - it’s still better to leave them for your personal photo album. Take some new photos where you are obviously the only subject in the picture. It will not only help you move forward emotionally - but solo shots convey the message that you are alone, emotionally and physically, and are ready for a relationship.
Be Proud of How You Look in the Present
That photo your best friend took of you in college is the best picture, ever. So good, in fact, that thirty years later you’re still using it on your dating profiles. It won’t work. If you are dating in your thirties, forties and fifties - you must use current photos to represent what you look like now. Yes, you may have a few extra wrinkles and gray hairs, but your age will show on the first date anyway. No one likes feeling misled, and the first date will be the last if you subtly misrepresent your age. If your current look doesn’t appeal to them - they aren’t a match anyway.
Your online profile is the only thing prospective dates have to determine if you are a possible match for them. You don’t want to be out of the running before eligible singles have read what you’re about. One of the surest ways of generating interest in your online profile is by making the time to take some quality shots. Just a few simple photos can make or break an online dating profile. Great photos will improve your chances for meeting “the one."
© by Macteacher 2013
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