Growing Together? Or Growing Apart?
You may feel that you are in a relationship with "the one." But is this relationship changing you? As a couple, partners should grow together. One should not gain dominance over the other. Instead, you must both take into consideration the interests of each other and grow from there.
Relationships should never be dominated by one partner because, quite simply, it is not healthy. You should always both be learning something about each other to keep the romance burning. If you reveal yourselves too quickly, the chemistry between two people will die down quicker than a couple who are still "getting to know" each other. You should be able to keep your partner on their toes.
"How am I supposed to keep them on their toes?" Don't tell them everything about yourself in the first few months you are together. You should let them find out slowly. Your eating habits, hobbies, likes and dislikes, favorite restaurants, what food you like to eat. Even your idea of a perfect date should be kept secret for the first few months. Revealing yourself should happen over the course of a few years, not a few months.
If both partners partake in this, then there should be no dominating partner in the relationship. A dominating partner feels they have something over their other. If you are both able to hide something from each other, then you both have something over each other without realizing it. When one partner feels submissive, share another part of you that they do not yet know. This should bring the dominance and submission to a level playing field.
A final point is communication: communication is key! If you have something to tell your partner, say it. Don't beat around the bush. If you do not want to talk, then let them know that. Better still, if you have to say something, but don't feel you can talk to your partner (which should never be an issue in the first place), then see a therapist, talk to a friend, a family member, or even a pet. Communication is a vital key in any healthy relationship. If there appears to be none, then try a simple date night or discuss with your partner what might be causing this. You two should be able to talk about anything.
If you feel that you and your partner are in a healthy relationship, and you are both happy, well done! If you don't feel this, then you should sit down and talk to your partner. As mentioned earlier, communication is key! Remember to keep your partner on their toes, an reveal yourself slowly to them. You want to keep the romance alive for as long as you can while you two are happy together.
Happy exploring more sides to your partner!
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