~ Prayer for Marriage Restoration ~

Giving up “Me-ness for We-ness”

~ PRAYER FOR MARRIAGE RESTORATION ~


Marriage is ordained by God! It was meant to be a Covenant relationship sanctioned by a Covenant God! A Covenant is a sacred vow witnessed by God! For Christians it is the most solemn agreement that one can make between a man and woman!


A Covenant requires sacrifice it represents the merging of two lives. The “two becoming one.” This does not mean one gives up their own personal identity. Two strong hearts join together as One! They cleave together not out of neediness, but because of an undying Love & Commitment and the desire to have a loving complimenting companion!


Many marriages are dissolving for a plethora of reasons! Many are and have been “unequally yoked” from the very beginning. Many have embraced worldly concepts and the idea of “what is good for me” takes precedent. It is important to continue to ignite the flames of love, honor, comittment, communication, respect, passion and understanding! Many couples allow marriage to become a secondary priority and treat it accordingly. Slowly, but surely they begin to allow their needs to be met outside the marriage as well! Many have allowed manipulation and deception to embed itself in the relationship that only smothers intimacy! Many have behaved so repulsively towards one another that respect and sensitivity have been cast into the sea of unforgiveness! Many have allowed domestic violence and abuse of all sorts! Many are bound by compulsion and ambivalence that only serves to vamp the very life out of one another… Instead of building a healthy home environment. They build a marital nest of confusion, turbulence, pain and unhappiness. Marriage was never meant to be a competition of wills nor a degrading of one another’s character. Divorce comes about because of the hardness of the heart. Divorce is leaving many casualties!


If you are a believer and you married without truly first seeking the Lord repent. Pray daily for your spouse and your marriage. Ask the Lord to lead you from this point on. You cannot change anything that has happened. "The Lord will never leave nor forsake you." But you on the other hand must humble yourself and now earnestly seek His assistance going forward from this point on. Start today inviting the presence of the Lord within your heart & your home.


Life presents many challenges as well as Celebrations! Marriage is about learning how to commit to someone who you can learn to be transparent with. To build and share an ongoing growing, loving, lasting mutually satisfying physical, emotional and spiritual relationship. To nurture, one another and give each other healthy space as well. To have one another’s best interest at heart. To celebrate and encourage each other through the challenges that life presents from time to time. As you now move forward toward building a healthy strong fulfilling marriage together, begin to sincerely live your lives to please God. In the Lord you can discover everything that you will ever need for life & living. Allow Him His place within your marriage and let Him use you to spread that love to others as well! Just think how life would be if this was really the case for most marriages! God really has a marvelous workable plan for marriage! Instead, God’s design for marriage is constantly being pushed to the background! Too many instead embrace infidelity and alternative sexual relationships and listen to bad ungodly, ungodly advice…..



If you are at a place in life and you know that your marriage is not all that it is meant to be… Or if you are having an affair either emotional or physical … Or if you never really thought about the vows you made or the seriousness of marriage…. Or if you have let anything and everyone come between you and your spouse... Know it will not just get better on its own. Marriage like anything else of value takes work, are and maintenance! You must do something, don’t continue to just live in a mystic haze of unhappiness! Repent! Which simply means to CHANGE it! Keep in mind you can only change yourself! Think about it! Had you ever really thought about it; God totally knows what’s up? You are not fooling Him! Start by giving the courtesy that you extend to your friends, coworkers, acquaintances, lover, strangers or whoever else to the one who you supposedly committed to Love, Honor, Trust and……


Again, and I think it is worth repeating that divorce comes about because the hardening of the heart. Here is what the WORD of God says: “And He answered and said to them, “What did Moses command you?” They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce, and to dismiss her.” And JESUS answered and said to them, “Because of the hardness of your heart he wrote this precept. But from the beginning of the Creation, GOD made them male and female. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh; so they are not longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what GOD has joined together, let Not man separate…” Mark 10



Take some time and really think about where you are going in your marriage? Have you taken a detour? Pray this prayer or pray your own prayer if you are seeking restoration for your marriage! It is your heart that the Lord is concerned with! Not how you make things appear to others. Embrace the powerfulness of TRUTH! It is here you will discover the TRUE LOVE that can only come from being connected to God! Life is precious! You can never ever really be happy when you jump from relationship to relationship without dissolving the former conflict. It just builds up and gains momentum and at some point those issues will appear again. Learn to allow the LORD to purge you from all that Baggage! Give yourself the gift of breaking the cycle of dysfunctional and sometimes generational unhappy relationships. COME OUT OF DENIAL!!! It’s never too late! Commence to commit to discover and learn healthier relational dynamics then actually implement them in your own marriage NOW! Pledge to committing to the building of a lasting, secure, committed, satisfying, realistic, rewarding, marriage where Love, Respect and mutual concern take the helm. And let "Jesus take the Wheel!” Begin to give up “Me-ness for We-ness!



Father God,

We first want to say Thank You for being our God and our Father! We Thank You Lord, that we have You to come to at anytime, anywhere and in any and every situation. Lord we Thank You for Your precious Son Jesus Christ who sacrificed His life that we may live life to its fullest. Lord, we come in the name of Jesus asking that you would open the pathway for healing for ________ (name of spouse and his wife ( husband) and restore their marriage. As your servant Lord I come realizing that you know what the needs are here. Without saying Lord you alone know what is going on, and all that has ever happened!


LORD GOD, I pray that you will allow healing and reconciliation to take place. That whatever hurts or disappointments they have experienced can be mended through the power of your undying eternal Love and your precious HOLY SPIRIT! We realize Father that they cannot change anything that has happened. But, they can go forth together keeping, renewing and once again honoring their vows. Father we realize that much spiritual warfare is about them. We realize that it wants to divide and separate them. We ask Lord that they invite you into the messiness to bring about order! Lord we realize that ALL of your promises are true. We ask that you endow them with the necessary strength and wisdom to endure.



Father, WE ASK that you would knit their hearts closely together and allow nothing else to come between them. Lord we ask that they both take personal inventory, repent and seek forgiveness for any wrong doing. We pray that they extend love and patience to one another and that the lines of communication, sensitivity as well as understanding are once again opened. We ask that you will allow all the pain, hurt suffering and disappointment to begin to subside. Lord we ask that forgiveness is welcomed by each of them. Lord we ask that you would allow your JOY to flow once again from heart to heart between them. Father, we ask that you direct them as they seek you first in building trust, transparency and both physical and emotional intimacy. Father we pray peace over their household. Lord we Thank You for being who You are and we realize that ALL the power, ALL the honor and ALL the glory belongs to You now and forever, and for this we give you the PRAISE. In the WONDERFUL name of JESUS ....…


Together commit to; TRUST GOD in & for everything! Remember this; Only with GOD does the impossible become POSSIBLE! Know this; Everyday is a precious GIFT from the LORD! Live everyday to please GOD! ~ "TO GOD Be the GLORY!!!" ~

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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK

A big AMEN to your prayer. May God restore any lost love between Couples and unite them even stronger as a family.

I have just clicked on one of the books and found out it was written by you. How brilliant is that. Wow! I'm so honoured to be reading your Hubs. Thanks and I wish you success with the books but most of all that the messages get across to the people.

Best Wishes. :)


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itakins 6 years ago from Irl

Amen!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

Amen,and Amen, Lady D, Very inspiring and enlightening hub.thank for sharing all the wonders and disappointment of marriage. Godspeed. creativeone59


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Lady E, AMEN! God is able! Divorce has been taking too many casualties. Listen to the news and look all around us! We need to pray for marriages! I know it truly is possible to have a Great Marriage!

Yes you are so right! What is most important is that others are encouraged! It is my desire to give them Hope and seek out ways to improve their marriage. Which restores the family! Which yields happier children ~ We all win when this happens!

Thank you! We just celebrated our Anniversary I am so Thankful! Thank you for sharing your comments and as always it is a pleasure! Please do come again! Love & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Itakins, AMEN! Thank you for taking the time to stop by! Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Creativeone, AMEN! Thank you for sharing your comments! Yes let's pray for marriages! Thank you for taking time to visit. I appreciate you! Love & Blessings!


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Philipo 6 years ago from Nigeria

Nice hub. Indeed true love can only come from God. Thanks for sharing and educating. Remain blessed.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Philipo, Thank You! I agree and you are quite welcome! Thank you for stopping by and sharing, Blessings!


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Williamjordan 6 years ago from Houston TX

Amen


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Williamjordan, Thank You! Blessings!


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donotfear 6 years ago from The Boondocks

Strong, dynamic stuff here.....sizzling with the Holy Spirit!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Donotfear, Thank You for taking the time to stop by and share your comments! Please do come again, Blessings!


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skye2day 6 years ago from Rocky Mountains

Hi Deborrah, Wonderful hub. You prayer was beautiful. I bookmarked, read and linked it out. My hubby and I are goiing to pray it. Thank You. Equally yoked is key. Hardening of the heart is from the enemy. I pray your words reach many marriages. Christ is healer. He can restore. There is one way Jesus. Your writing is annointed by our Father. The Holy Spirit movement is on girlfriend. I am so grateful to our Lord. Jesus can and will restore, that is the good news. You said it. I am grateful my David and I both worship and love Jesus. We have a wonderful future ahead.

In his name. Love ya + + +

PS did you get my comment to you from never never give up, I do not know if I got it right? Reply when you can ok

Hugs


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Skye2Day, You have such a wonderful spirit! Thank You!

I am praying for you and your hubby! You are right about the hardening of the heart! Yes! God is a Healer and a Restorer! He is also the Captain of your soul!

You go girl! Yes! "The Holy Spirit movement is on.>" God really is AWESOME! He is able as well! Keep looking to Him and not the circumstance. I can say this because I know you are not in Denial! ("because that's in Egypt" as you say)

Keep looking up! Be encouraged as you encourage others! God is with you and what matters most is that you: "TRUST in the LORD with ALL your heart! And lean not to your own understanding in ALL your ways acknowledge Him and HE WILL direct your path.... Keep moving forward in the Lord, Love & Blessings!

PS. YES! NEVER NEVER GIVE UP!!!


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stars439 6 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

Very nice hub. God Bless You


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Stars439, Thank you for taking the time to stop by, Blessings to you and yours!


Holy Hunter 6 years ago from Alberta, Canada

I tell you, the two becoming one thing is very true.

Your debts are their debts, and financial downfalls bring you both down, and their problems become your problems.

Yes you feel it all together.

But marriage is great.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Holy Hunter, Yes it is! Marriage is a Great! Thank you for visiting and sharing! Please do come again, Blessings!


katie 6 years ago

Please pray for my marriage. My husband is having an affair and wants to leave me for this woman. We have been married for 30 years. Please pray a Hedge of Thorns around him.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Katie, I pray that your husband will see that he is walking in the flesh. He has allowed his insecurity and weakness to control him. He has forsaken the Lord's Way and entered into a web of wickedness! I pray he will see the error of his ways...

Katie, Continue to seek the Lord daily. I pray that the Lord strengthens you and comforts you! Continue to pour your heart out to Him. I pray that as you do His Holy Spirit fills you with His Peace! That you feel His presence and His Love. May He allow His Light to shine through you and keep as you go through this holding steadfastly to Him! Know that the Lord loves you and you as His child are very dear to Him! He will never leave nor forske you... In His Love, Peace & Blessings!


Nita 6 years ago

This is so true. Husbands and wives are just throwing in the towel. I don't under stand. My heart is broken and I am not sure how to fix my marriage. He left, wants the divorce, but still comes around and takes me out.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Nita, You are in a difficult place. Take some time and get your bearings. Divorce is becoming so popular that many are walking away from their commitment to marriage. They do not fully realize they have been deceived. The "grass is not always greener on the other side."

A Great marriage takes work! Do not give up easily! I suggest not letting your husband use you like a "revolving door" coming in and out as he pleases because it is convenient. He will not respect you in the long run... Make some decisions and stick to you plan. Submit yourself to the Lord for protection! This will let him know that you are to be respected!

Again this is a hard place to be, but it is important that he not see you as a doormat! You will begin to feel better about yourself as you respect you for the wonderful person you are! This will also protect you from any possible threat of sexual transmitted diseases and let's him know he can't have you and whatever or whoever he wants at the same time. Be ecouraged!

My prayers, thoughts and concerns are with you. Pray for your husband. Know that the Lord is there for you and LOVES you. In His love may His peace be with you, Blessings!


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DivineScribe 6 years ago

AMEN, THANK U, THANK U FOR THIS "PEACE"


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

DivineScribe, So nice of you to stop by! Please do come again! You are so welcome! In His love! GOD BLESS you!


asam 6 years ago

thank you.


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Asam, You are welcome! God Bless!


Bal 6 years ago

thanks.


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drpastorcarlotta 6 years ago from BREAKOUT MINISTRIES, INC. KC

I STAND in agreement with this Hub and your prayer, IN JESUS NAME!!!!! Wonderful Hub DeBorrah, wonderful!!!


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Asam, You are welcome Blessings!


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Bal, You are welcome! Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

DR PastorCarlotta, Amen! PRAISE GOD! "For where two or three come together in My NAME, there I AM with them..." Matthew 18 FATHER, we ask continued BLESSINGS upon those who seek you for restoration of their Marriages!

Thank you as always, Much Love, In HIS Name, Joy, Peace & BLESSINGS!!!


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justamber 6 years ago

Beautiful Prayer! Thank you for all the information!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Justamber, You are quite welcome! Thank you for sharing, so glad you are inspired! Please do come again! In HIS Love, peace & Blessings


tania 6 years ago

thank you, ps. debby.. my problem now is that we are not equally yoke. We have a very deep spritual gap. I am too much spiritual for him, and he is too world minded for me. Please help me... I have been married for 8 years and have 2 kids, please pray for us.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Tania, You mentioned that you have two children. Notice how they are learning and growing…. Your husband although an adult is a spiritual babe and still quite worldly... Therefore the burden to create a balanced home environment tends to weigh on you…. Your positon is not an easy place to be; but you must begin to allow Him to see more of the benefits of your spiritual growth!

In order for change to take place you will have to shift gears. Find moments were you can encourage him... It is the Lord’s Grace that will help you! God's Love and His patience will KEEP you as you extend more patience to your husband. This does not mean compromise your values. You do not have to give him and overdose on the Word… Just allow him to see more of the Word alive in you… Just maybe this will get His attention and begin to draw him… See I Corinthians 7. My prayers are with you! In His Love, Peace & Blessings!


LaToya Hunter 6 years ago

Please pray for me and my husband Dante that GOD restore are marriage on his foundation and that he cancel my husbands plans of divorce and separation coming this Oct. we have 4 kids and 13yrs of Marriage. Please pray for us while I STAND in the Gap and wait on the LORD to restore my marriage!!!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Latoya Hunter, Yes I will continue to pray that the Lord’s will is done in your husband’s life and that he will turn to the Lord! Whatever is going on with your husband the Lord is aware.

Keep looking to the LORD for direction. I am aware this is a difficult time so in the meantime make sure you spend time in prayer and meditating on the Lord’s Word. Turn your focus to your children I am sure that they are hurting as well… Although difficult try to be even more patient with them… It is during this time it is important you cleave to the Lord and allow Him to be your strength. As you lean on Him and TRUST you He will give you inner Peace! All of God’s Word is True. Meditate on these Scriptures

“He will give you perfect PEACE!” Isaiah 26 Rest in knowing that “Nothing is Impossible with the LORD!” Matthew 19. Your strength and dependence on the Lord may be the very thing to turn him around….

In the Lord's time He will work everything out for your GOOD as you TRUST HIM...

May the Lord Bless & Keep you as you lean and TRUST in Him. In His Love, Peace & Blessings! GOD BLESS YOU!


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Char M 6 years ago from Pacific Coast

Thank you for this hub. My husband and I are both Christian and we are just resolving a separation. THis both our second marriage. I thought by marrying a Christian this time things would be more on the same page, but he has forgotten God between us and our relationship with him. We are working through this. I pray about it and I see pastoral counsleing. Any advice on how to get him to go to the counselor as well?


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Char M Thank You! I would recommend that since both of you have been married before suggesting to him you need someone who will be neutral and encourage implementing Christian principles and concepts. With the world continually moving toward being so liberal where marriage is concerned it is so much easier to “do you own thing.” This gives couples less of a barometer by which to determine what is right… This is also why we see the rising percentages of marriages in a flux….

I would ask him to set some time aside when you two can talk calmly. Incorporating a weekly date night is a good idea! Perhaps suggesting making a list of 5-7 things you both would like to see happen in your marriage, exchanging it with one another and see if there are any common desires… This is in order to begin establishing better communication and intimacy… The things that are difficult suggest leaving those to discuss with a counselor. Make it a point to do some things differently in order for the outcome to be favorable…. Let him see in you the benefits of pastoral counseling... God Bless You!

Thank you for sharing, In HIS Love, Joy , Peace & Blessings! …


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Char M 6 years ago from Pacific Coast

Thank you so much for this helpful advice. It makes so much sense- all of it. Thank you for taking the time to respond and I will put this to use.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 6 years ago Author

Char M, You are so welcome! God Bless You!


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Prayzes 5 years ago

Sister Ogans, what a beautiful illustration of the most remarkable and mystifying covenant; the institution of marriage established by our awesome God and Father. Thank you for serving in this capacity to pull down and root out falsehoods perpetuated by the enemy in the hardening of hearts. And, again thank you for reminding us of God's plan for marriage,to take us from glory to glory, faith to faith, and strength to strength. May God continue to bless you and your loved ones as you continue to bring Him glory.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 5 years ago Author

Prayzes, Marriage indeed is a "remarkable and mystifying covenant" It is sanctioned by God which many fail to remember or respect...

It is my desire to expose the spiritual warfare that continuously tries to eliminate and redefine "MARRIAGE GOD'S WAY!" You are right "the enemy" is hardening many hearts... This is why we must present GOD'S WAY!

What is so beautiful about the Lord is that He allows us to choose.... It is important that we are mindful of the consequences when we go against His prinicples...

God designed marriage to be a beautiful lifelong fulfilling relationship between a man and a woman with HIM as the CENTER. Afterall He made us and KNOWS what is best for us!YES! It is designed "to bring HIM GLORY!"

We must begin to honor God in our marriages...

Thank you for stopping by to share! In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!


manish masih 5 years ago

i am married since 2003 with my wife , for 5 yrs after marriage we were together nd were blessed with a daughter in 2004 nd had a happy married life, due to my transferable job i went to Bhopal (700 kms) from Delhi where my wife stays with our daughter and her old parents (my wife is the only child). while living alone i felt it difficult to stay alone, but due to some reasons (I don’t know what, she never told me) my wife refused to stay with me, i frequently visited my family so that they specially my wife do not feel my absence. In due course we both did some small mistakes against each other but I always loved my wife nd never thought of any mishappening to our marriage, never thot of even separation, but my wife started avoiding me since last 1 year. Since 4 months she even stopped talking to me, nd told me that she don’t need me anymore, nd want to live alone with the child, even then I used to visit her frequently, nd never lost hope cos I believe in our lord that he can do miracles. Please pray for my wife so that she change her mind and leave if the satan is working in her life.i am doing every possible way to bring her back to me, praying to the lord day nd night, sending her audio tapes of marriage restoration, pl i badly need ur prayers.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 5 years ago Author

Manish, The distance has helped your wife become emotionally independent and detached from you! Ask her to pray and consider spending some time with you to reconnect! Ask her to think about the vows you made to God and one another and ask her to give you the opportunity to make things right. Express to her your sincere desire to live out those vows…. Let her know that you LOVE her and want to rebuild a lasting fulfilling, satisfying marriage together with her... And a safe, loving home environment together for you child…

FATHER, first as always we come again to say Thank You because you are our Creator and Maker! Lord we want to acknowledge a need for your guidance. Lord, this is a difficult place for Manish to be; but LORD we know that you are able! Father, You know Manish’s heart and as he continues to petition you that you will please grant the prayers that are in your will. Lord, we ask forgiveness for any sin that hinders him from drawing closer to you… Help Him Lord to be patient, forgiving and steadfast! Impart to Him your Peace and open his understanding to his path forward… We pray that she is receptive and open to rebuilding a marriage that honors you! Lord we THANK YOU for JESUS and acknowledge Him as Lord & Savior…. We will continue to give you the Praise & Honor as he goes through...


joyz 5 years ago

Thank you for sharing such a wonderful prayer.... i will use it to pray to GOD daily...

Please pray for my husband and me that GOD restore our marriage and let us reconcile. We had being married for 2 years and have an adorable son. Due to power struggle, we had drifted part.. He wants out of this marriage. He had left, closed all means of communication with me and have plans for divorce.

Pray that GOD will soften his heart and cancel my husband plans of divorce. Pray and seek GOD for his forgiveness. To forgive us for being so self centered and to forgive us for all the wrong doings that we had done to our spouse and to our marriage. Pray and ask GOD to give us the grace to forgive each other too.

Pray and ask GOD to remove all resentment and anger that had sink into our heart and grant us understanding, sensitivity and the sense of commitment to each other. Also ask GOD to transform me into the kind of wife and mother and transform my husband into the kind of husband and father that GOD wants us to be.

Kindly pray for us and i will also continue to do my part while waiting for GOD to restore my marriage.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 5 years ago Author

Joyz, You are so welcome! I am glad that you have been encouraged!

It is unfortunate that this has happened. You are not alone there is much spiritual warfare coming against marriages... GOD TRULY IS ABLE! Continue to pray for your husband and seek God’s direction. Although you are apart use this time to strengthen who you are and take personal inventory as to how you can improve. Start becoming all that you can be with the LORD at your side. Take some time and think about the things that brought you to together and ways to improve your communication. The only person we can change is ourselves. Since you have a child together one way or another you will have to have some type of communication.

Just becoming aware your behavior is a start. Humbling yourself before the Lord as His child will help you immensely! Ask Him to help you how to better respond to your husband… Treat him as you would like to be treated. You can do this and still be firm. Ask the Lord to help you give up any resentment… I pray that the fruit of His Spirit begins to flourish in your life. (Galatians 5)

You cannot undo what has been done but you can go forward in the Lord! Remember change starts with you… I agree and stand with you in pray on your heartfelt requests in petitioning the Lord for His forgiveness…

I pray that the Lord’s will is done in both your lives… Be encouraged! There is ALWAYS HOPE in the LORD!

May the Lord Bless you! Keep looking to Him and meditating on His Word! Thank you for sharing, In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!


Maria hernandez 5 years ago

My husband william werchek and I where newlyweds under alot of pressure. We have a premi baby and a young special needs kid. we where surround by his unsupported family and friends that did not want us together because our marriage got in the way of his party life. he was a new believer and when going got tough he did what both our parents did and much what this fast paced society has taught us to do which is walk away from a marriage when is gets hard. Now he wants a divorce right away and I believe he is dating a girl. That he is convinced is everything I wasn't. We have a divorce case on feb 8th 2011 and i have no legal representation since he was the main bread winner my children and i have lot of struggles.we live in a different state from nowand It seems like there is no room for the children and i in his new life. and he has let go of god.I feel like the devil robed this family and believe it can be restored. I do not blame my husband for the destruction of this family there was alot of newlyweds selfish mistakes and hot tempers which we both where guilty of that tempted him to walk away. However I believe all that can be undone and this family can be saved please pray for my family that we may not be another statistic and this marriage can be restored


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 5 years ago Author

Maria, No doubt that there is much spiritual warfare that has surrounded your marriage. It always wants to pull you away from being centered on the Lord and divide and conquer… As you have shared the pressures have been great about you…

Partying for many can be a distraction… No doubt the influences around your husband were not good because they encouraged him to escape his responsibilities to his wife and children. This was easier for him to do since he lacked positive role models as well. However this still does not at all excuse his behavior. Accepting his responsibilities and being faithful to his commitments is the very thing that would help him grow and flourish…

Hastily entering into another relationship is just another form of escape… He needs to first confront his own feelings… What is interesting is we cannot change anyone but ourselves. Your heartfelt concerns are much warranted and you have much on your plate… But see this as the perfect time for you to grow closer to the Lord and seek HIS WILL for you… The path ahead will be difficult but you can accomplish much with the Lord at your side!

I suggest you go to a nearby court house and seek legal advice. They can possibly refer you to legal assistance and waiver fees for responding to the paperwork he has filed. Try to see this from a different perspective; This does not mean the end but the beginning of a new start … Continue to pray for your husband it is wonderful that you do not blame him and can see that he has been spiritually blinded…. It is not over yet and YES God can turn him around…

Pace yourself and use your energy to fight for a better life for you and your children. Take advantage of any resources that are available to help you and your children… Your husband is weak and you will show him strength as you arise to the occasion responsibly... This will also help you in building a strong secure environment that your children truly need... Sound spiritual advice is what you need now… Focus on the Lord and spend time in HIS WORD… The Book of Philippians has much wisdom and encouragement throughout!

“DO NOT be anxious about anything, But in EVERYTHING, by PRAYER and petition, with THANKSGIVING present your REQUESTS to GOD. And the PEACE of GOD which transcends ALL UNDERSTANDING will GUARD your HEARTS and MINDS in CHRIST JESUS!” Philippians 4. I pray that the Lord strengthens you as you continue to seek His Will for your life above all else. May the LORD give you HIS inner Peace as you go through this journey… There is ALWAYS HOPE in the LORD! Allow the Lord to lead you, In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings! GOD BLESS YOU!


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darrylcrawford 5 years ago from Philadelphia PA to Tucson AZ.

VERY WELL SAID. I KNOW GOD IS PLEASED WITH YOU BEING A BREATH OF FRESH AIR FOR THOSE THAT NEED GUIDANCE AND STRENGTH IN THESE TRYING TIES. THE ENEMY HATES TO SEE 2 FLESH /2 PEOPLE BECOME 1, ON 1 ACCORD, THERE ARE A MIGHTY FORCE IN THE NAME OF JESUS.

THANK YOU AGAIN.

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Antony 5 years ago

Dear brothers and sisters in christ,

Please pray for the restoration of my marriage to our lord,we have a babygirl,we have been living separate for the past 3 months,I love her a lot.I tried to talk to her,but she never answers my call.I messd up big time.I used to Drink almost every day,never respected her.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 5 years ago Author

Darrylcrawford, Thank YOU and you are so welcome! I pray that others are encouraged to pray and intercede in behalf of their marriage as well as the marriages of others…There is much spiritual warfare going on about us to hinder marriages. It is important that we KEEP in mind what God has to say about marriage! I think it is also very important that the couple remembers that the vows they made were to GOD as well…

Yes! There is power in being on one accord in unity within marriage!!! God created and ordained marriage! He has always intended that it be the Ultimate Beautiful Fulfilling, Committed, Monogamous Relationship between a man and a woman…

Thank you for sharing, In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!


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Antony, It is important that you spend quality time with the LORD in prayer and meditating on HIS WORD! PSALM 51 is a great place to start!

Take the hurt that you are experiencing to HIM and allow HIM to fill that void! Sincerely ask the LORD to help you take control over your drinking and deal with the pressures of life while not being under the influence of drinking. The Lord is aware of everything that has happened... This is the time to reach out to the Lord and lift your wife and child up in prayer as well as ASK HIM to GUIDE your path forward…

I pray that the Lord opens your wife’s heart and places in you as well the patience, self control and love necessary to restore your marriage. I pray in the Name of Jesus that forgiveness graces your hearts and the door of communication is opened…

Thank you for stopping by to share and I pray that at some time you will visit us with a “PRAISE” to the Lord! Your Victory is ALWAYS in the LORD! In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings


i need  5 years ago

my husband left a month ago please prayer fr restoration


kimi 5 years ago

Hii..My husband says he does not love me anymore and wants out.but i want to say my marriage.please pray for me...thank you


Young Love 5 years ago

Your prayer is beautiful. I have been married 1 month. The day after we got married, I found out my husband had been cheating on me throughout our relationship and engagement. We are long distance most of the time because we are both in the military. My heart is broken and I am contemplating a divorce. I question his love for me and why he even married me. I've been praying so hard for guidance. He left for training after we got married and I am unable to talk to him for 2 months. The pain is unbearable. I am lost and confused. Can a man that did this to me change? Should I try to work on the marriage and PRAY that things get better and he doesn't cheat anymore? Help... Thank You.


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I need, My prayers are with you and your husband. I stand in agreement with you in the Name of Jesus that your petition to the Lord be granted... Whenever he comes to mind whisper a prayer for him. God knows exactly what is going on… During this time draw closer to the Lord and allow Him to fill the void… Freely express your feelings to the Lord... Seek Him and spend time with Him each day “Trust in the Lord with all your thine heart and lean not to your own understanding in ALL your ways acknowledge Him and He Will direct your path…" Be encouraged! In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 5 years ago Author

Kimi, You are in a difficult position! I am not sure your husband really understand what marriage is about? Somewhere along the line he has lost the connection... He does not realize that marriage is about commitment... Just KNOW that the Lord will never leave nor forsake you! It is important that you spend focused time with the Lord in prayer and meditating in HIS WORD. Pray for you husband and his fears... I pray that the Lord opens his heart and his spiritual eyes... Pray the marriage prayer as well as however your heart leads you!

God Bless You and Keep the FAITH! TRUST GOD!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 5 years ago Author

Young Love, My heart goes out to you because your husband has been unfaithful. Everything that you are feeling is quite natural… You have a right to be angry… But do not let it make you bitter. Instead let it make you Better & Stronger! I don’t think he realizes how much he has hurt you, by succumbing to his weaknesses... This is an area that you are stronger… Long distance relationships are difficult for most... However what is good you and your husband are in the military and KNOW about discipline! Some are able to compartmentalize their lives and separate their personal life and make excuses for impulsive moments. Since He knows the responsibility that discipline entails I think it is quite possible that when he knows how much he has hurt you it can be the catalyst to help him become stronger.

He can change but he has to want to. You cannot change him… But GOD CAN! Love is powerful! You are right to PRAY for him! Your husband may be afraid of intimacy and getting close to you because it entails transparency! When he realizes that marriage is a partnership and that the sexual intercourse experience is NOW ONLY between the two of you, you can work this out! He may not fully realize or grasp that this is an exclusive time of physically bonding reserved for the two of you! There is a phenomenal exchange that takes place that many do not comprehend. You literally give yourself to one another! Set some time aside and write your heart to him and tell him that you want to start anew … But you need to acknowledge your hurt and you want to restore TRUST! It is important to speak the TRUTH in LOVE! Continue to bring him before the LORD! Use this time apart to express your hurt and allow the Lord to heal your heart! God Bless You!

Thank you for stopping by to share, Be encouraged! Please do come again and let us know how you are doing! In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings! GOD BLESS YOU!


kimi 5 years ago

Thank you, Deborrah.


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Kimi, You are welcome, God Bless!


Meresha Pkns 5 years ago

marriage restoration prayer intercession; Been married 30 years, husband , have Cancer treatment,(Radiation, Chemo)..has been and is atill struggling with two blood Clots (one in each leg) and he has moved out, says, he is taking care of him only, don't need my help, "His needs take precedent, we have 2 kids, 1 grown daughter, one Special needs Son, (21), at home though he walks, it is total care as he has memory loss..Itake total care of him..Husband been gone amonth, though he has come home, only to get some more of his things, I have expressed my Love and desire for his well being, reminded him of our convenant marriage vows, , he has turned a deaf ear to anything of godly value, I am a Minster and he has long since quit going to Church with ot without me..I invite him at intervals and he say no. Now, He will not even keep our son so I can Go to Church to minister, without the added stress of seeing after our SOn..He makes up excuses.lies why he got to be gone, Driving when the eye doctorss have told him to quit driving. (dangerous) I have been Praying, meditating and reading..Believe in God to restore, heal my husband mind to be of Chirstlike mind..now he does not acknowlledge the lovw, compassion, kindness, family values, denies his shortcomings in health and family values..take comfort in seeing me suffer and struggleas I am not working and he has the Job(teacher) I struggle with the crumbs. under tremedous stree due to providing for me and my Son and my daughter (want to help her as she might need cause he has drwn on paying any bills eithe way..) He Living very nomadic, I think he is xperience a male Hormone imbalance..from Chemo/rediation treatment..he was so positive proir to that then now, a Ball of anger and confusion..and wanting to be a mindset of individual "We are not a Us" that what he has said...Praying interceeding, mediating..not sure where to turn to for counseloring(he refuse to Go, wen asked) i seek a Christian Counselor that will not embrace Divorce, (not divorced), one that will really imbrace Mark 10, Though Tired, Fighting for my marriage and revered up, cause he is worth the Fight. Please interceed with me and Ronnie A. Perkins He will Hear Good and turn from his wicked, ungodly ways..as i work on myself, more like Christ in jesus name I humbly submit. Meresha Pkns


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Meresha, There is much on your plate. Dealing with a husband who has cancer, an adult special needs son and an adult daughter needing financial assistance is a bit much. Your husband’s decision to leave is selfish. However I believe he is terribly afraid. The cancer is overwhelming and rather than focus on your needs and those of your children he is driven by anger & fear and has opted to just leave... Quite often when one has cancer there are underlying issues that have not been addressed and are literally eating away at them... Cancer itself represents a physical internal war of the cells multiplying uncontrollably, destroying healthy tissue originating from a malignant tumor. He is also probably feeling trapped as well and feel his time is limited…

Your husband has decided to flee not realizing that whatever is bothering him will continue and further aggravate the cancer. He may be able to run but as soon as he quiets down those feelings of anxiety will return… I am pretty sure that he feels guilty about what is going on with the family situation yet feels helpless. The last thing your husband wants to hear about is his marriage vows. If he did he would not be able to come and go. He is perhaps feeling a bit slighted because you cannot just focus on him...

For a season him being away may show him in the long run this will not make things easier... Pray for him. When he comes by don’t preach to him he knows you know the Word. See him for the hurting adult child he is. It is important that you have a talk with him and set some boundaries. You must put your energies into organizing your home life. You must be patient and in control when you talk to him so wait until you can handle it. Tell him the next time he comes by you need to talk, this gives you time to prepare… This will also help your husband to better respect you and your time. It is sad but he is being irresponsible and you have no choice. However for this season you must and can rely on the Lord! You may have to take it moment by moment but you must TRUST the Lord to get you through this.

Sometimes the Lord allows the impossible to happen so we cannot doubt that He "Will NEVER leave nor forsake you" The Word is TRUE & ALIVE! It is the Peace of the Lord that you truly need now! You are running on empty and need a spiritual revival yourself. Checking into respite care for your son so you can be relieved from time to time to go to worship and have personal time as well is much needed. You cannot continue to go on empty…

Start meditating on John 14, whenever you become anxious pray. This will draw you even closer to the Lord. Seek wise sound counsel, during this time you must be strong and develop additional coping skills as well as pursuing some assistance for yourself. Don’t make any hasty decisions… With the Lord you are more than a conqueror… Remember God can really do the impossible. My prayers are with you...

There are no easy answers but there is Always Hope in the Lord! In HIS Service & Love! God Bless YOU!


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sweetie1 5 years ago from India

Hi Deborrah,

Nice hub, marriage got nothing to do with the religion. The people got married even before Christinity came to this planet. Not unless both work hard for marriage, it wont be sucessful. Both got to care for each other and show respect and share every responsibility and burden of the home and society together , only then marriage would be sucessful. If people do these then they wont need courts or worship places to support their marriage.


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Sweetie, From the very beginning of time on this earth God created marriage. He designed it to be a loving, nurturing, intimate, transparent fulfilling relationship between a man and a woman. If the couple honors the Lord in their marriage it can truly be successful! A good fulfilling marriage is possible! God's design for marriage has not changed...

Thank You for sharing, your thoughts, In His Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!


Jenn 5 years ago

Please pray for my marriage. Only after 6 months of marriage my husband is taking the time to think about if he wants to stay or leave. He is holding on to his anger, hatefulness, and resentments. PLEASE pray that god snatches that anger and give my husband love to hold on too. Today marks my 6th month anniversary and we are separated. Please pray that my husband decides to fight for his love.


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Jenn, It is disheartening that after such a short period of time your husband is so angry and disenchanted in the marriage! I believe perhaps he entered into marriage with unrealistic expectations? Marriage is about love, partnership, commitment, loyalty and working through the kinks, tests and trials of life and growing together. It is meant to be a fulfilling, rewarding and…. But it has to be a mutual effort. It is possible that he has not really learned how to process his anger and he is projecting it on the marriage rather than dealing with it and pressing forward. He has to make a conscious effort to take responsibility for his part in the marriage. Good communication is a big part of marriage! He really does need prayer!

Whenever your husband comes to mind pray for him and ask the Lord to open His heart! I believe that his anger is masking a lot of his hurt that he has been harboring for a while perhaps before you were married! Anger also masks fear… While you are going through meditate on the Lord’s Word and seek His direction. Begin to strengthen yourself so you can respond to him patiently. Allow your love for him to motivate you to trust the Lord to direct you… Psalm 32 is quite enlightening and can be reassuring! When the opportunity presents itself tell your husband you need to talk! Perhaps share this with Him? It is important that you talk to him when you can remain in control and model to him the strength that he is lacking….. Let him know how much you love him and want to work through this. It is important that you share your feelings with him and let him know that you are concerned about him.

My prayers are with you!


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Man from Modesto 5 years ago from Kiev, Ukraine (formerly Modesto, California)

Love also grows cold when a person allows the heart to drift to someone or something else. The devil raises up witches and even women who don't really understand what they are doing to go out and lure pastors away. The ex-Satanist Dollans talked about this. He said that once they realized they could not destroy the pastors with their prayers, curses, and sacrifices (sent demons, principalities and powers), they decided to destroy the ministry instead, through adultery.

The heart also cannot be led away with pornography. This saps the flow of attention and care for the spouse. All evil things should be removed from the home.

The strongest path for all conflict is to draw closer to God. In time spent with the Holy Spirit, He will reveal to you- in love- what needs to be removed from your heart, from your house, and from your life.

Peace, MFM


E. Rodriguez 5 years ago

Dear God. I make this prayer for my marriage and my loved wife Grace. I ask you to restore us because it is your will that the family stays together and no divorce. I ask you God to return the grace and the love that she once felt for me and do it bigger every day. Take off any person who is in our midst and put it away . I pray God and I ask you to deposit your love in the heart of Grace and she returns to me and be one with me as you have said in your Word. Restore this home. I repent Santan in your name Lord Jesus. In your name I trust God, in the name of you your son Jesus, Amen.


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Man from Modesto, There is Absolutely NO power stronger than the LORD! The tactics that satan has always used has not changed. It is his desire to tempt, discredit, slander, and pull any and everyone away from living to please the LORD! The Word teaches us that whenever you are tempted you have allowed the desires of the flesh to overtake you… GOD NEVER TEMPTS US! This is why it is so important to keep your marriage vows or commit to not have sex outside of marriage. “We should NOT commit sexual immorality, as some of them did…” I Corinthians 10. God has given us proper marriage boundaries and they do not change regardless of your position within ministry!

It is quite true! Drawing close to HIS HOLY SPIRIT is crucial so you can better discern when something is NOT of GOD! A loving, committed, fulfilling marriage is truly possible when both spouses remain faithful, and have an ongoing desire to mutually meet their marital needs…

Thank you for sharing, In HIS Love, Peace & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 5 years ago Author

E Rodriguez, I stand in agreement with your request to the Lord! Lord I pray in the Name of Jesus that he begins to honor his marriage vows he has made to You and his spouse! I ask Father that You draw he and Grace closer together and that their marriage becomes all that it can! Lord you know the situation! You know his heart…. Let your love and forgiveness abound in this marriage as they work towards restoration! Please give them the Joy, Happiness , Grace and Peace that comes only from knowing you! Give them the strength and courage to allow your will to be done in their lives! If it be your will bind their hearts together in your Love, In Jesus Name


Heike Sanfie 5 years ago

I thank God You God bless you true women of God Please Toch and agree with me in my Marriage Prayer My husband and i has been seperated for 4 months now and I really been praying for a miracle to take place and God restore our marriage he has drifted off in to the world....we only been marriad for one year and a half thank you so much for allowing god to use to cas the devil is attacking on marriage and its time to fight


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Heike Sanfie, You are so welcome! Be encouraged! I pray that The Lord brings the two of you closer together! Draw closer to the Lord and pray for your husband each day! Seek the Lord's direction for your path forward!

In HIS Love, Peace & Blessings!


James Edwards 5 years ago

I am I'm desperate need of a miracle from our father. My wife of 9 years has asked for divorce because of my actions to her and our 2 children 7&3. I have turned my life over to God since then and I have been working on healing myself but I'm afraid it might be too late. My wife went to see a lawyer yesterday to file for divorce and my heart is breaking. Her heart is hardened by my actions and she is convinced that I can not change and this new "tactic" will be short lived and I will revert back to my old ways. I am praying daily several times a day for strength and courage to keep these changes in my life forever and also for the Lord to soften her heart and allow for a reconciliation. I pray for a miracle that Jesus can intervene and save our marriage and our family. Please pray for myself and Lisa that we can reconcile and live fruitful lives as a Christian couple and family and to cast Satan out of our household and our hearts. God bless you and your faith

James


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 5 years ago Author

James, your pain is evident… Your wife is hurting too! So much so that she wants to divorce herself from you. It seems that you have come to the realization that things need to change? But you must be patient with your wife she did not get here overnight! You must continue to work on changing the things that have caused this pain between you… It is never too late to improve yourself. She needs to see a change in you. Right now she is in a protective mode and rightly so. This is not usually an instant process; therefore you must learn to be patient. The patience that you acquire will help you in your future relationship with her one way or another. Allow her some space to process her pain and let her know that you want to learn how to really love her and build a better marriage.

No doubt that you CAN change with the LORD! But it must be motivated because it is the right thing to do. Your wife moving away from you has allowed you to take a look at yourself. Pray for her and have compassion for her; you know what it has been like to live with you… See if you can set up a time to talk to her in a neutral place where she feels safe. Let her know your intentions and ask her for some time. If she won’t see you in person call or write her a note. It is important to begin to establish good communication. Reach out to her! Let her see your willingness to change… It is very important that you are sincere there is nothing more powerful than the TRUTH!

Father, we ask in THE NAME of JESUS that you open their hearts to your WILL and your WAY! Help them to begin to surrender the pain of the past and to move forward towards the future… You know without saying the depth of the pain they are feeling... Allow this pain to motivate change. Draw them closer to you! Help them to learn better coping and communication skills. Father we pray for their children and that their love ones will be compassionate and concerned enough to love them through this… We realize that marriage is ordained by you! Help them to recommit and honor their vows... We pray Lord that they are able to work through this pain and relationship changes and move towards a better marriage. We THANK YOU LORD for your constant Presence! We THANK YOU for being our FATHER & our GOD! THANK YOU for your HOLY SPIRIT! May they reach to you and seek Your direction in THE NAME of JESUS we ask these Blessings….


Kristen 4 years ago

What if my husband already divorced me and I still pray for reconcilliation? We have 3 children and do not communicate. He has become verbally abusive and cruel and left me for a friend. I thougt he was the best inour marriage and now he blames me for everything and wants to see me hurt. I have been praying for 2 years to have God stop the divorce and restore us.. Things have been ugly and worse.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago Author

Kristen, Continue to pray for your husband! Seek The Lord for what His WILL is for you now! To remarry, marry again or remain single? You will always be connected to your ex husband because of the children you share! The issues that separated you are still present since there is no communication. Take some time think about it and perhaps write him a note! Tear it up; this is so you can begin to get the resentment out… Then see how you feel and write him another note and this time perhaps send it to him? This way you can begin moving forward!

Your husband is hurting and bitter. This is no way to start a relationship! He cannot move forward as well... You both have now had some space… Think about the marriage realistically take responsibility and admit any fault on your part? Let this become a learning experience on how to build a better marriage… What not to do! The marriage you had is gone… But you CAN start anew with him or with another or… One way or the other you will have to begin to establish some type of communication with him! Otherwise this gives conflicting messages to your children as to how to resolve conflict! Please do not speak bad about their father to them... Continue to PRAY! In The Lord you can discover Peace! God truly is ABLE! You must humble yourself and seek His direction above all else… Be encouraged & GOD BLESS YOU!


Nian 4 years ago

I allowed myself to drift from GOD during my marriage, and that led me to committing adultery numerous times. I played a VERY significant part in the break-up of my marriage. My wife and I separated, and now she too (as I) am an adulterer.

I ask that you pray for our forgiveness, as well as restoration of our faith and our marriage.


jen 4 years ago

My husband told me he was no longer in love with me and moved out of our home 8 months ago. We have 3 beautiful children and have been married for 14 years. I miss him every second of everyday. I pray morning noon and night for us. He visits the children often, but avoids me and barely talks to me. He communicates with me via text and email. I want my marriage back so badly I ache. What does the Lord want me to do? I am feeling helpless and hopeless.


Christine 4 years ago

I am desperate for a prayer! I need jesus! My husband and i. R thinking about divorce. We always have issues he gets mad over any little thing. He doesn't like to talk about our problems. We have 4 children. He's always in a bad mood! He blames me for everything. What can I do?


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago Author

Nian, What has happened to you is happening to so many so you are not alone! The good thing is you now realize that you want to do something about it! Set some time aside and write your wife a letter of apology and honestly express your guilt and shame of how you are feeling! This is for your eyes only… Review it carefully and then tear it up and throw it away! Pray and pray some more! Then give her a call and see if she is willing to talk to you! Express to her honestly how you are feeling and your remorse for what has happened. If she is not willing to talk to you write her a fresh note expressing how you feel!

Remember with The LORD; “ALL things are POSSIBLE!” The marriage you had has ended… but this does not mean that you can’t build an even better, committed satisfying marriage together! It will take some time because you both need to build trust! With all that you both have been through you CAN make a conscious effort to start anew! You must be patient and make sure that you are sincere in pursuing restoring a renewed marriage together! God is able but you must be honest with your spouse as well as with yourself!

Father, I pray that You guide them in their efforts to build anew a marriage that is honorable in Your sight! Help them to be transparent in their intentions and their emotions with one another to build a safe marriage with transparency and trust! We thank You Lord for Your Grace & Mercy knowing that You are a forgiving and loving God! Open their eyes to Your Will & Your Way and direct their path forward in the Name of Jesus!

God Bless You!


marriedandlonely 4 years ago

Thank you for this blog and your beautiful prayer for marriages. I've been married for 26 yrs. My husband and I are both saved but we have been having problems with intimacy over the last 10 yrs. It seems that christians don't address this topic and how sex plays a very important part in marriage. My husband and I don't have sex on a regular basis and this has caused distance between us. I want to save my marriage but I don't know how.

I'm not proud of it but I did go outside of my marriage for intimacy. I knew it was wrong and it made me feel awful!! I have repented and asked for God's forgiveness.

The world offers suggestions for sexual dysfunction but again Christians dont address this. I would like you to pray for my marriage.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago Author

Jen, You are in a painful, difficult place… But you are not alone! Praying keeps a continued line of communication open to The Lord! Although your prayers may not be readily answered in the manner you would like, know that they are not in vain… You cannot change your husband but you can strengthen your relationship with the Lord who can change him… The fact that he says he is no longer in love with you tells me he does not really understand what love is about! If he did he would not be able to just walk away! There is another influence somewhere…

There are so many pressures and much spiritual warfare surrounding marriages today that is making it easier for many to give up! 14 years is a long time to be married rather than to deal with the issues at hand many leave not realizing that the unresolved issues continue! Yet they think that leaving solves the problem instead it presents a new set of challenges…

You must begin to shift your focus! This does not mean that you give up hope! It is okay to want your marriage back. But not just on any terms… Take more time building good healthy relationships with your children and a nurturing home environment! Creating a balance for your household now that your spouse has left is important! Spend time with others who reinforce good principles in your life! Know God still has a purpose for your life. You must move forward and allow the Lord to fill the void you are feeling as you heal! Spend more time listening to The Lord and allow Him to speak to you through His Word! Whenever your husband visits he will be able to see that you have not just put your life on hold… Use this time to deal with business or take care of other things around the house during his visits…

Moving forward does not mean that you jump into another relationship but that you move closer to the Lord trusting that HE will bring you through this…. It is during difficult times our character can be refined and strengthened. Restoration is a process, but it is important that healing first begins to take place with you! Trust God with the outcome! God Bless You, Peace & Blessings!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago Author

Christine, I PRAY that this marriage prayer was helpful! Even if it is in the wee hours of the night, set some alone time aside to spend with The Lord and openly express to HIM how you are feeling! Get out the resentment and then begin to respond to your husband differently! If you continue on the same way the results will be the same! It is hard to build a good marriage when the lines of communication are down… Begin to embrace responsibility for your part…. When you are in a patient mode tell your husband that you two need to talk! Give him some time and patiently approach him again until you decide on a time the two of you can talk. It is important that you discuss where you are in your relationship! Look him in his eyes and see that he is hurting! Ask him what can you both do to make things better? God is just a Prayer away! He is everywhere you are….

Father, I come in the Name of Jesus asking You to give Christine the strength to confront the issues that are hindering their marriage from growing. Impart to her your patience as she begins to discipline herself and submit to your WILL & WAY! Father, God, we love You and Thank You for Your constant presence in our lives. I ask that You open her spiritual eyes so that she is able to better see the path before her… Draw her closer to You in Jesus Name!


Travis 4 years ago

Thank you for the prayer. I will be saying it everyday. I'm strengthening my walk with the Lord. Please put myself and my wife, Judy, on your prayer list.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago Author

Marriedand lonely, You are not alone! You have fallen into a rut along with many others. It is easy to let things just go and on and before you know it, years have passed! The good thing is all hope is not lost! You cannot change what has happened but you CAN start from where you are! A good marriage takes time and work! Time to start planning some marriage dates….

Sexual intimacy is a time of physical bounding! It is a time that “two become one!” physically. I recommend telling your husband that you would like to set some time aside and talk about your marriage! The communication lines are down and need repairing. This is a process but it can be restored! It is important that you speak to him in terms of what you would like to see happen rather that place any blame on him! Make sure that you talk to him at a time when you won’t be interrupted and are in control of yourself! It is important that you keep your goal in mind to restore your sexual intimacy as you speak… I am sure that you have been hurting. Being lonely in a marriage is hard! If you are willing to move forward tell him so and let him know that you love him and are still interested in him. Forgive him if he has hurt you and beginning talking same steps forward…

I am glad to hear that you have repented! Praise God! If there are physical reasons why you have not been together I recommend seeing a doctor. They are experienced in the physical workings of the body and can well advise you & your husband! No need to be ashamed because this is what they are here for! “ The marriage bed is undefiled” in the eyes of The Lord! So wanting to restore and better enhance your sexual relationship is natural! It is also partly the reason you are feeling lonely. Thank you for sharing, please let me know how it works out… God Bless You!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago Author

Travis, You are so welcome! I pray that this is helpful! There is "POWER" in prayer! Never underestimate the POWER of The LORD! Be encouraged! Continue to seek and discover ways to enchance your marriage! Good communication is important! Being considerate, affectionate, caring and loving is important. PRAY together with your wife as well! Take time to build transparency, emotional and physical intimacy! My prayers are with you & Judy! I look forward to a PRAISE REPORT!

In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings! GOD BLESS BOTH OF YOU!


Williams 4 years ago

Please pray that God deliver my husband out of his adulterous relationship with his ex-wife. Pray that God speak to him clearly to turn him away from sin. Pray that a hedge of thorns be placed around them, so that they flee from each other. Pray for restoration of our marriage in Jesus' name.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago Author

Williams, This is sad and quite unfortunate! It is also one of the reasons that when on remarries they should do all they can to make sure that the previous marriage has been dissolved… This become more difficult if adultery was involved here as well… There is a bond that takes place that goes beyond paper! The flesh has memories and the couple will be attracted to one another since they are so familiar with one another! In this case since they have resumed a sexual relationship each time they come together the former bond is reinforced! This puts you in the midst of an emotionally dangerous triangle! (you both share a husband and one another...)

My prayer is that you draw even closer to the Lord! I also suggest you not join yourself to him as long as he has physical sexual relationships with his ex… When you do it reinforces the triangle! Mercy! I pray that the Lord directs you and releases your husband from adultery… This is a vicious cycle that needs to be broken! He must desire to be free from this… God is not pleased with this...! Fervent Prayer and times of fasting are recommended until a breakthrough! There is a spiritual cleansing that needs to take place here in order for restoration to take place. I pray that the Lord’s will is done in your lives! This is a difficult situation as well as spiritually damaging…. Please seek the Lord above all else and mediate upon His Word Psalm 4 is a good place to start! “Answer me when I call You, O my righteous God. Give me relief from my distress; be merciful and hear my prayer…”

In HIS Love & Service, Grace, Mercy, Peace & Blessings!


Trusting God 4 years ago

Thank you for creating a blog for helping build healthy God center marriage. I have been standing for my marriage for a year and half. During this process I rededicated my life. God has truly soften my heart to stand on behalf of my husband. Its not a easy assignment but rewarding one. I have been taught what God original design for marriages. I'm in a bible teaching church that say you declare the ending before the end comes. When God see's you heart and see's you want your marriage He'll send you to His word, send people you way to agree in prayer, her sermons on how Jesus heals marriage. I spoke NO DIVORCE in April 2011 when I was served with divorce. papers. I cried New Years Eve because I was going to celebrate New Years Eve in church a married women. My husband moved out 4 months ago. We communicate daily by texting. Don't let anyone tell you God can't heal you marriage. Speak only the word over you marriage, wear your wedding ring and stand in FAITH no matter what. I pray daily for prodigal spouses to have their hearts soften and labors to cross they paths. Also imput your spouses name in Isaiah 29:24 and Acts 26:18. God's word will never return void. So please keep my in prayer for strength to receive my restored God centered marriage.


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Trusting GOD, You are so welcome! I LUV your name! It shows that your heart and focus is in the right place... There is a lot of spiritual warfare designed to break up marriages! Prayer and drawing closer to the Lord is important! Seek Him constantly for direction! Rededicating your life to The Lord is a step in the right direction! So glad to hear that you are amongst a ministry that believes in embracing God’s principles for marriage! This is the kind of encouragement and support you will need as you stand for your marriage!

No doubt your husband is hurting and or has unresolved issues! What has happened cannot be changed! Acknowledge your concerns to the Lord! Begin to release any resentment for your husband leaving and then begin to welcome love! Begin to respond to him differently as you allow the Lord to direct your communication with him. Let him see the change in you! Think of ways to show him that you care and allow the Lord to move upon his heart! Don’t try to manipulate the situation in any way! But discover ways in which you can improve yourself & how to have a better marriage! In the meantime allow the Lord to fill the void! Allow the Lord to begin to heal you at this time he is away… Your husband will begin to sense a difference in you! Keep in mind the importance of implementing the Lord’s Word in your life from day to day! Lift your husband up in prayer and trust God to lead you through this… My prayers are with you and please let me know how you are doing...God Bless you!


Machelle 4 years ago

Amen!


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Machelle, Thank you for stopping by... God Bless you!


Eddie 4 years ago

Thank you for your prayer DeBorrah. My Melodie filed for divorce on Dec. 5,2011. It was my fault. Over the years, little by little I began verbal abuse. It as just jokes or teasing in my eyes but to her it caused her heart to grow cold against me. I allowed satan to come into my home & marriage. Foolishly! I was addicted to porn only she never knew about it. When this happened, God got my attention & broke me. I just couldn't stop pouring tears or even eat or sleep, until I looked up from rock bottom & gave God all my burdens & my life to live it as He needs me to. It's all God 100%. Never going back to who I was. Never! I ask anyone to pray with me that God heal Melodie's heart & her rebellion against our marriage vows to God. I will treat her like the queen God intended me to. I give my word to Him. Please pray for our love. She's still in our home just in another bedroom. Thank you, God bless.


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Eddie, You are so welcome! I pray that you find encouragement in reading some of the comments of those who have come before you! You are not alone and know that there is always “HOPE!” with the LORD! What has happened cannot be undone! You have made a big step just by taking responsibility by admitting that you have been at fault.

It is important that you get at the root of your verbal abuse… It can be very damaging to any relationship. In most cases it is because you really do not feel good about yourself…. Therefore you lash out and it is quite often at someone who is close to you! The addiction to porn is further evidence that you do not feel good about yourself… It is important to know that the porn is a deceptive seduction! It has been designed to appeal to your weakness and reaches far into your pocket book… The images you see have been altered to entice you in every way… All of the above has been a part of the divisive spiritual warfare to come between you and your wife. Praise God that you are free and can now focus on rebuilding a Solid Rock foundation on the Lord! This will help immensely… Spend time with the Lord and seek out His direction forward…

One good thing in your favor Melody is still close by! You must allow her to see a genuine change in you! You must build a bridge and begin to respect her NOW! Treat her with tender love, sensitivity and care sincerely as you would an honored guest… Be patient with her because she has been deeply wounded and needs to see that you are changing and will not abuse her again… Do not force yourself upon her… Give her the space and time she needs t o heal…. Pray for her diligently! TRUST GOD to lead you… Most important you have given your word to the Lord! Revisit your marriage vows and keep in mind your recent vow to the Lord! In the LORD you can discover everything that you will ever need! It is more important than anything to be real with the Lord! ALL things are POSSIBLE with HIM! My prayers are with you!


Eddie 4 years ago

DeBorrah thank you for your insight. You have helped me see things I hadn't thought of. Use your gift to pray & help heal others that the Lord sends to you. May the Almighty father bless you in all you hold dear in your heart & provide you in all that you need. Bless your sweet heart.


sunny 4 years ago

hi,

good to be hear i too have a marriage problem ,

my fiancé just says he doesnot want to be with me or any woman we have been in haelthy relationship for 6year with one son and i love him so much but he has no love and care foe me and even his son

please get me prayers to say and interced for me too.

sunny.


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Eddie, I am so glad that this has been helpful! I believe that it is your own willingness to truly want to make amends is what is helping you the most. By taking a self examination you have begun to take responsibility for your actions. This is wonderful! I am sure this will help many others who read this as well... My prayers are with you! Thank You! Your encouraging words are appreciated! God Bless You!


Trust God 4 years ago

Eddie please rent the movie "Fireproof" and invest in book The Love Dare. I have been a stander since July 2010. Trust in God no matter what satan says, your wife, and others. Search the scriptures in what God says. Holy Spirit will guide you in all truth. I pray every Monday night. I will add you and your marriage and agree that God will resurrect your marriage. Before you can expect a change in your wife know that God is going to restore you back to Adam before sin. Then you'll be able to put your armor and fight for her with unconditional love and prayers.


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Sunny, I have some concerns! I pray that this is received in the spirit in which it is intended! This is not a marriage problem; it is a problem with commitment! After six years together as well as having a child your fiancé still has not been able to make a commitment! This is not healthy because it leaves you insecure and unsure! This type of relationship is sort of like renting a house from month to month not knowing how long… In contrast in marriage you buy the house and together commit to build a home environment! You commit to grow together for a lifetime...

It is not healthy living with someone who does not love you or their own child! It is important that you begin to make some goals for you and your child and then share them with your fiancé! It is important that you find out what is his intentions toward you and his child! Will he take responsibility? Listen attentively! Although it is not easy you must begin to make some plans for you future! After being with someone so long in this type of situation it is often hard to move forward! You deserve more, and so does your child…. It may be that your fiancé is insecure himself, he is not sure of what love really means or that he really just will not commit and does not love you! One way or another you must begin to make some changes… Sunny you are not alone and you must look to the Lord for direction…

Father God, I pray that Sunny will begin to look to you for direction. That you will open her eyes so she can clearly see her path forward. Let her know that you Love her and her child and you want what is best for them. I pray that you place people in her life that will help her through this serious and stressful situation. That you will give her the courage and the strength to make the right decision in regards to her future! I pray that she realizes that you want more for her and that you are available to her, in Jesus Name!


Eddie 4 years ago

To stander 2010: God bless you for your service to Him. I will search for the movie & the book. I can testify that each day someone has kind words for me & people are praying for my situation. I hadn't gone to church in a long, long time. This happened & I gave all to God, but it's so amazing because people are just appearing out of nowhere to encourage or pray for me. It's not coincidence. It truly is the hand of God unfolding his plan before my eyes, all just because I asked. I can see things out of nowhere being changed. Melodie found an apt. She says she needs to move out & the divorce is almost final, but it doesn't really matter to me. I truly know somehow all will be well. There's handsome men & sexy women everwhere and satan says give up all is lost, but Melodie's my covenant wife given to me by the Lord, in the same way we never knew each other from a different town, but everything just fell into place like magic & we married. Everyone is afraid of satan & demons because of movies in Hollywood, & he is powerful but I learned for a believer who has Christ in their heart is above all of satans lies & deceits. That's all he can do just lie & put doubt in us. Jesus paid in full for our lives & victory on the cross with his shed blood. Amen. I too will join in and begin to pray for anyone whose been hurt & deceived. There's too many broken homes.


Trust God 4 years ago

Deborrah, your information and prayer is wonderful. I wanted to know before I post anything would u mind if I gave Eddie a site that will encourage him and teach him how to be a stander?


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Eddie, Continue to TRUST the LORD to lead you! Always keep in mind that HE has Ultimate control! There is a war waged against marriages and families and many do not reallly realize that satan's plan is divide & conquer... Your VICTORY is in the LORD! You are already winning because you are becoming a man who TRUSTS GOD! KEEP LOOKING UP! "BLESSED is the man who DOES NOT walk in the counsel of the wicked..." Psalm 1. GOD BLESS YOU!

I think perhaps you and Trust God can be a support for one another!


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Trust God, I think that it is wonderful that you are reaching out to "HELP & ENCOURAGE!" Eddie! This is what it is all about! May you both "STAND STRONG IN THE LORD!"

Thank you for stopping by to share, In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!


Eddie 4 years ago

Trust God, I didn't know what a stander was so I looked it up. Thank you for the prayers & links. They are powerful. You can feel God's authority over you when praying in His name. He touched you go reach out to me & there's no way I can express how much you sent me on my way, in the right direction. I'll be 49 next week, but I feel like a child that just learned to tie his own shoelaces. My eyes are open & clear. I am absorbing God's word & can't get enough. I'll never figure out why He waited so long go get my attention. I do know I have to save my marriage first. Then get my son & 2 daughters into His light. He's asking me to do something important for Him, I just don't know what that is yet. It'll come to me when He's ready. Right now I fight for my wife & family. For anyone who's directed to this site, God wants you to fight for His name & His word & do not be ashamed to speak up for what is holy & right. Expose the lies of our enemy!! In Jesus name, amen!


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Father God, I THANK YOU for this day that You have made! Thank You Lord for Your continued presence and direction! THANK YOU LORD for YOUR HOLY SPIRIT! THANK YOU LORD for allowing those seeking to strengthen their marriages to gather together here! I come in the Name of Jesus asking You to continue to bring those who seek to strengthen their marriages into closer fellowship with You! To realize that it is important to seek You above all else! To spend time in prayer and meditation in Your Word seeking Your direction! Then to apply the principles of Your Word to their lives!

Father, I THANK YOU because You are a Healer and a Deliverer and with You all things are possible! I pray that those seeking to reconcile will confess, repent and move forward with Your guidance. Help them LORD through the consequences of past decisions as they lean and trust in YOU! Lord continue to reveal any darkness that hinders their path forward! Help them to STAND on YOUR WORD! I pray that they continue to grow in Your Grace & Knowledge!

Father, I THANK YOU that You are The SPIRIT of TRUTH! Open their eyes so they may see clearly the direction You would have them to go! Thank You Lord for the presence of Your precious Holy Spirit that is available to all who are willing to invite Him into their situation. Thank You Lord because I know that You are able to make a difference! You know the hearts and the true intentions of those who pass this way. We ask in Jesus name that You will grant the desires of their heart that are in alignment with YOUR WILL In JESUS NAME...


Trust God 4 years ago

God knows what we need and He speaks to those that can give you it, encourage you and stand in agreement.

My husband in July 2010 told me after celebrating our 7th wedding anniversary the month prior June 2012 he didn't want to married anymore. I was shocked and knock down by emotions. It came out of nowhere! My testimony is at 17 yrs old I was raped by a friend and NEVER told anyone or received help until Jan 2010 and had just finished my counseling in June 2010. I told my husband before we were married because he had a right to know. I carried those scars and pain for 17 years. I was 34 when I was finally healed from the rape. My kids and I was going to visit my parents for 3 weeks. I had told a close friend when I came back I was working and by Jan 2011 I would be moving back to my home state. I am military spouse. While visiting my parents God had other plans. I was raised in church and went to church but as a young adult it was religion not relationship. Where I reside Holy Spirit lead me to a bible teaching church and I had been attending for a year. I heard God tell me NO I wasn’t leaving and it was time to know the truth. You see I was married but like so many others didn't know what a God center marriage was. God striped me of bare and starting building me brick by brick. God planted a seed of unconditional love for my husband. When my husband return to drive us back from our 3 weeks vacation at my parents. I apologized to my husband for not understanding my hurt from childhood caused him hurt. I was depressed at times and truly took my husband for granted at time. By no means my husband had any right to cheat during our marriage but because I was broken and hurt for 7 years of our marriage I his (wife & rib) wasn’t covering him, our marriage and myself with prayers against Satan attacks.

You see the enemy has us so focused on past hurts and issues that our attention are on those things and not the real FOCUS of putting Jesus’ Christ first and covering your blood covenant marriage with prayers, fasting and unconditional love.

“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because you have rejected knowledge, I will also reject you, that you shall be no priest to me: because you have forgotten the law of your God, I will also forget your children” Hosea 4:6

You see the world mocks marriages and views marriage as a contract and not a covenant. God created marriage and Adam and Eve didn’t have a marriage license or a witness meaning other human beings. Marriage was until death not until you or I didn’t do something right or when you didn’t feel in love anymore. Unconditional love is just that Un-Conditional…. There’s nothing that can remove the love because love is a choice and not a feeling. People are walking around with a divorce decree and are still married in God Eye’s…. they wonder why nothing is going right. If God is leading you to stand and fight in the spiritual realm for your wife and marriage then God is speaking to your wife the same thing.

God worked on me first and since I have been obedient to my calling to stand everything has worked out for me. My husband filed and had an attorney in April 2011. I was a stay at home mom with our son who was only 18 months while I was served divorce papers. I cried out to God and said why? You called me to stand. I didn’t have any income. I trusted God and spoke NO DIVORCE. I forgave my husband and continue living and walking in unconditional love. God sent to base legal and my parents helped with my filing fee to my response to papers. You see I only had 20 days to respond. I had friends that prayed and fasted with me and spoke life. Then in July 2011 I was being taken to court to remove me from our martial home, for me to pay child support and also lose our 2 children But God sent to an attorney and my brothers gave me the retainer fee. To God be the Glory his attorney canceled court that very morning of our appearance. Then Satan came again. I was summoned to attend mediation in Aug 2011. I cried to my attorney at the end because she knew I didn’t want a divorce. I walked away praising Jesus’ Christ because He defended me. I was awarded custody of our children, martial home, my truck my husband purchased a year before, and enough money to pay our mortgage, truck payment and utilities monthly. My husband had to move. I forgave him and still been before God and covering him in prayer. He has moved out but we talk daily and communicate better than we every have in the past. You see because I stayed quiet and allowed God to move on my behalf nothing has gotten in the way of my RESTORED MARRIAGE. I spoke NO DIVORCE IN APRIL 2011 AND CELEBRATED THE NEW YEAR MARRIED AND I STAND ON NO DIVORCE!

NEVER TAKE OFF YOUR WEDDING RING AND STAND ON GOD'S WORDS AND PROMISES!!!!!


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It is important that as we grow in God’s Love we remember what His Love is! Love is patient, Love is kind, It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in TRUTH! It always Protects, always Trusts, always , always perseveres! LOVE NEVER FAILS! I Corinthians 13.

Many confuse Love with their feelings and also with lust! The Love of God is unselfish and wants what is best! GOD is LOVE! HIS Love will always prevail because it lasts FOREVER! It is important to keep the lines of communication open in our marriages! To continuously build intimacy and become transparent! As we do this we build a nurturing environment where one can be healed and delivered of any past issues! Together you and your spouse can grow together in a loving trusting safe and secure marriage!

What has happened cannot be undone! But you can move forward allowing the Lord to direct you! Our marriages are important to God! It is the first Covenant relationship between man, woman and God! God’s desire for us is to have a loving, committed, trusting helpmeet (spouse) someone to grow together with and mutually your physically, emotional and sexual needs can be fulfilled together. Each marriage is different because we are all different! God is the same! God is totally aware of everything that has every happened in anyone’s life! This is why it is so important to consult Him above all else! Invite Him into the center of your marriage! Be encouraged! Always Pray for your spouse and trust GOD to grow HIS LOVE in you! May He continue to knit your hearts together in LOVE! REMEMBER HIS LOVE NEVER FAILS!


Trust God 4 years ago

Deborrah,

Thank you so much for the insight and your site has been encouraging to people who have believed Satan lies. Yes we each have to seek God for our lives and marriages.


Matt 4 years ago

My marriage is ending. I don't want it too. I appreciate your prayer and hope God hears and answers me.


Eddie 4 years ago

Matt, I feel your pain & my prayers are with you for your marriage. God's will is for marriages to be for a lifetime in peace & joy, according to His will. DeBorrah has been blessed with a gift to express God's love & desires to you. Listen to her! Myself & others are praying for you. No more divorces!! Seek God.


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Trust God, I Pray that you continue to find comfort in knowing that the Lord is with you! PRAISE GOD! That HE has opened your eyes to see the spiritual warfare…! It is not by coincidence that more marriages and families are breaking up than ever before! I truly believe that the solution is found in the LORD! Inviting Him into the messiness and seeking His direction makes all the difference in the world! Especially since marriage is the first institution He created! Thank you for sharing, your testimony it will help and encourage others as well! GOD BLESS YOU!


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Matt, Although your marriage appears to be ending please see it as an opportunity for a new start! What has happened cannot be undone! But this can be the catalyst for you to make some changes. Keep praying for your wife! Ask the Lord to show you what changes that you need to make personally … As you make changes ask the Lord to give you the opportunity to share your desires with your wife! If she does not want to listen be patient!

You both are hurting it is pain that drives one to want to end a marriage! You can build a better stronger marriage together but it will take time, patience and forgiveness! Know that all is not lost with the Lord! Place your focus on Him and entrust the future of your marriage to Him! "His Mercy endures forever!” The Lord is a Healer He can restore…. He knows what is going on seek Him above all else and allow Him to teach you more about His Love! God hears your prayers. You must begin to spend time with the Lord in Prayer and meditating upon His WORD so you can better see your path forward! Be encouraged and God Bless You!


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Eddie, Thank You for encouraging Matt! It truly is as you say: “God’s will is for marriages to be for a lifetime in peace & joy!” AMEN! The Lord has Blessed you to see the spiritual warfare that is coming against marriages! It is vengeful! But God is able! We will continue to pray that those seeking to restore their marriages will seek the Lord’s Way for Victory! I pray that those who pass this way will be encouraged… May you continue to find strength in the LORD knowing that He is available 24/7! May He continue to lead guide and direct you as you implement His principles in your life! GOD BLESS YOU! "TO GOD BE THE GLORY!"


Chris 4 years ago

DeBorrah, Thank you so much for posting this Hub. I don't know if you knew when you started this that there would be such an overwhelming response or attention. I am currently in the middle of a difficult separation with my wife (though just physical and not legal) and she is speaking that she does not want to be married and wants a divorce. Through the past 8 months I have come to realize who many people go through this and we never see or hear about it. This has become the taboo topic amoungst peaople and especially Christians. THINGS CAN BE RESTORED! I hope everyone see and hears this and does not give up. We serve an amazing and awesome God! Who wants marriages resored wants Godly homes! We know that if what we ask for is in His will and purpose..He will hear and answer or cries and parayers. And I can say this from withnin my situation. My wife and I see each other a minumum of 3 times a week. Have dinner together, talk etc... And yet even 2 days ago she told me...I do not want to be married..... We are separated and eventually divorce came up. My prayer every day is "Lord....How do I love my wife..teach me...and reconcile us....give her Grace to face pride and work on us." Nothing is ever one sided.....but it takes two. What I truly believe will change and restore a marriage is a focus on God and Prayer. I do not understand fully how prayer works...I don't think anyone does...it is a God thing and a spiritual thing....but I know what He asks us is to be obedient. Listen to what He asks and remember our vows....Till death do us part..well... she and I are still breathing so that kinda takes care of that. Please I will post changes that I believe will happen but....Can I ask those reading to pray..to earnestly pray for my Marriage to my wife? I believe with all my heart if she and I can go together to see a Christian Councilor that we can work through this...please pray for Pride and forgiveness.... We have simple financial issues to work through and communication....both are workable and fixable...these are the ONLY reasons that she was unhappy... It is SSSOOOO hard...and hurts like an open wound every hour of every day. Yet..I know who I serve...This is for His Glory...That I may not boast..I have been told how honorable I am, how good I am to her even through this questioned...even looked down on for this..yet my answer is the same..I know what Gods will is in my life..I want this to be for Him. Please...pray with me......


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Chris, You are so welcome! I was not aware that the response would be so far reaching! The Lord had put this on my heart to reach out because so many are going through tumultuous times within marriage..

Thank you for stopping by to share! There is so much spiritual warfare to underestimate the value of Marriage God’s Way! It is my desire to encourage other to seek The Lord to get their marriages back on track as well as to promote keeping marriages flourishing! God is a God of Restoration! All things truly are possible with Him!

I PRAY that something has been said to encourage you here!

It is great that you see your wife often. When you see her this is a marvelous time to LISTEN and OBSERVE more! Look for the opportunity to actually demonstrate that you care by showing more sensitivity to how she feels…. Her not wanting to be married tells me that she is hurting and feeling restricted in some way by the marriage? No gimmicks or hidden agendas… Just a sincere desire to recapture and restore your marriage speak volumes! As you TRUST GOD she will see more stability in you! Allow HIS Light to shine through you! God is able! YES! GOD is AWESOME! There is absolutely nothing that HE is not aware of ANYWHERE! There is no better source or resource! Spend quiet time meditating in His WORD! Then Apply what you learn... Continue to honor your marriage! Too many readily operate as though they were single which only further complicates the situation…

It is very important to be prayerful! Take a personal inventory and move forward in your efforts to restore your marriage. It is well worth it! You want to start by admitting to the Lord and yourself that some things need to be different and ask Him to show you the way! Life is about improving and becoming more of who you were created to be! Creating a healthy nurturing home environment for yourself will help the Fruit of HIS SPIRIT to flourish in your life. You cannot change what has happened nor can you change your wife. BUT GOD CAN! You CAN Pray that she becomes all the Lord would have her to be! Allow her to see a change in you! As you change you will respond differently to her, this will get her attention.

Father, I Thank You Lord for giving Chris a heart that desires to restore his marriage! I pray in the NAME of JESUS for him to seek being at Peace with You Lord while he is going through… Father God, continue to open HIS heart to Your WILL & Your WAY! Fill the void that he is feeling with Your Presence! Thank You LORD for the promise of Your Comforter, Your Precious Holy Spirit ALWAYS being with us! Let him know that He can reach out to you in His pain and awkward moments! LORD, I ask that You place those around Him that will support Him in his efforts to restore his marriage! We acknowledge you in this matter Thank You and please continue to lead guide, grow him in your grace and direct his path in JESUS NAME! BE ENCOURAGED! "TO GOD BE THE GLORY!"


4 years ago

please pray for my marriage. My spouse and I both need to communicate with each other and learn to compromise on a daily basis. AMEN. Please help us God, AMEN.


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A, A suggested point of communication is to ask your wife to read some of the comments shared here. Ask her to share how she feels... If she does listen! Be encouraged!

Father God, We first come to say Thank you for your continued presence in our lives! You know the situation in this marriage Lord and I pray that you will draw them closer together. Please open up the lines of communication between them! Bring to their minds the memories of the Love that brought them together. May they become humbled in your site and trust you for direction! Let kindness, consideration and forgiveness abide with them as they go forward in JESUS NAME.


Kim 4 years ago

This is an awesome prayer. Thank you for sharing. My spouse walked out Mar 16, 2010 for another woman. God had already revealed this to me in 2009. I was not where I needed to be spiritually. In October 2011, I totally surrender my life to God-giving Him all my hurts and pain. As I turned my life over to God, I was told by God to STAND for my husband, which I refused to do initially. BUT, God has a way of getting your attention. He start to attack my finances as he was my spouse, along asking me "WHAT IF I HAD TURNED MY BACK ON YOU". I immediately became convicted and start to STAND in January. Not only was I standing, but I start to FAST and PRAY as well. Feb 2012, my church went on a corporate fast and God spoke to my spirit saying be specific in what you want. I begin to pray for his salvation. Feb 16, 2012-I received a text stating he had been praying over and over again and needed God to save him NOW. My prayers were beginning to be answered. But, God was not done. My spouse had to move from the current location, but God plan was not his plan. They were not able to get another apartment nor was they able to get the money to move in a house without credit check. Long story short-God had start talking to me daily, and revealed to me he was going to restore my marriage. Feb 26-he went to church with us-(although his girlfriend was upset) God was working. He received the anointing, I told him that God was bringing him home soon. We continue to pray. Mar 1-he asked may he move into the spare bedroom, his girlfriend and him decided to cool it for a while, but once again, GOD is in the blessing business. They stop having relations in Jan; she is 20 yrs younger than he, totally opposite of me. The plan they agreed to was he is to move in with me get his bills and money right then they get back together. But, when you know God has another plan your plan do not matter. She is now telling him she do not want to talk to him because she can't handle him living with me. But, we are now in counseling, have prayer 2xs a day and bible study daily. In addition, we are seeking God as a family. Hedge of Thorns and Protections are awesome. BUT, I had to surrender it ALL to God and allow Him to minister and work it out. I have NO expectation of him, but all in God.


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Kim, Thank you for sharing your experience! There are so many going through difficult times in their marriages. Your experience will serve to give them hope! Each marriage is different but the pain, stress, heartache and disappointment for those going through a difficult season can be alleviated to some degree just by knowing that they are not alone! It can give them some ideas as well…

The LORD is the Major component to bring forth healing! Once you surrender your will and your circumstance to Him the burden begins to shift! The problem or issues do not always go away immediately but NOW you have acknowledged your need for Him to intervene on your behalf! That in itself gets you halfway through… Because you are working on your part! You have committed to do things His way! Good counseling provides a neutral safe haven to work through some of the issues that have become barriers!

Fasting & Praying has marvelous benefits because it teaches us discipline and balance! It also keeps you better tuned into a listening mode! Listening is a big part of prayer! As you pray you must take time to listen as the Lord directs you! Humility then overrides pride as well!

It appears that you husbands girlfriend was not in for the long term… Too bad she did not have a problem with him living with you in the beginning! This could be a real beneficial teachable moment for him because your commitment is evident. Praise God for “The Protection Hedge of thorns” May the Lord continue to keep you strong and restore your marriage you are certainly headed in the right direction… Be encouraged! God Bless You!


Tracy 4 years ago

I thank you for this mighty prayer, my husband and I have been separated for 5 1/2 months and I keep asking God to turn this situation around. I do trust and believe that God will restore our marriage. Please pray for us.


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Tracy, Thank You! I pray that you are continually encouraged as you read and ponder some of the testimonies of others here! God truly is able! During this time of separation concentrate on your spiritual growth! Lean and Trust upon the Lord! Take it a day at a time and look, Hopefully towards a better and brighter future! What has happened cannot be changed! But embrace the principle that your trials have come to make you strong! You cannot change your husband but you Can continue to pray for Him… “All things are POSSIBLE with the Lord!”

You and your marriage are important to the LORD! Spend time with Him in prayer and meditating upon His Word! Allow it to encourage, convict when necessary, change, shape, restore and replenish your soul! Spend some time PRAISING the LORD as well! TRUST GOD! In HIS time He WILL work this out for the good! My prayers are with you!


Laura C. 4 years ago

I am asking for prayer for my marriage. My husband has left me for another woman. He says he loves this woman. He does not come around often and he has isolated himself from his whole family. I am praying for my marriage to be restored. I am desperate. we have three children and they are angry. I need my family and my marriage to be healed. Pray for me please.


Tabitha Leo 4 years ago

i visited your page and wow its great. Am praying for my lost marriage my baby's dad walked on us a long time got himself into another relationship but he still comes to support that child and he always says he loves and cares about me but i am like i don't know please join me as a pray so that i get the secrets about this relationship.


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Laura, My prayers are with you! I pray that you are comforted by some of the other heartfelt comments that have been shared.

Your husband like so many others is misguided when it comes to love! Take this time to grow even closer to the Lord and seek His comfort and His direction. Although it may be difficult pray for your husband everyday! Sincerely share your heart with the LORD (see the sample prayer above) As you pray share your hurt, resentment and feelings of rejection with the Lord! Don’t keep it bottled up inside… This will help you from becoming bitter. Bitterness can turn to depression. Entrust your husband to the LORD! Know that you husband has been caught up in the latest trend. He is unable to see clearly spiritually. By isolating himself it is easier for him to not responsibly look at what is going on from all perspectives… It is also easier not to think about the vows you two made together…

Allow the Lord to NOW take first place in your life. No doubt you are in a difficult position. Seek the Lord daily and meditate on His Promises! As you take direction from the Lord your inner pain will lessen. Take this time to work on your inner healing work on becoming the “Best” You! Trust the Lord to bring you through this… Try not to place the children in the middle of all of this! Instead in the meantime work on building a peaceful home environment and stronger, loving, healthier relationships with them... Begin to see each day as a day of new beginnings... God truly is able! GOD BLESS YOU!


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Tabitha, It is clear that your baby’s daddy is confused about what love really is. If he walked out on you and is with this woman and is telling you that he loves you, shows you that he still does not understand commitment! For some dysfunction is a comfortable unhealthy place to be… The relationship he has with this woman provides much insight. Are you sure that you want to be in a relationship again with someone who so irresponsible? It is no secret that he does not know what it means to be in a faithful committed relationship!

You and your child deserve more. Begin to set some standards for yourself. If he were to return to you, you could possibly be in the same place again this woman is in… Respect is an important part of marriage. I suggest exercising good healthy boundaries with him! Yes, allow him to see and relate to his child. But let him know that your standards have changed as you relate to him differently! Work on your self esteem and building a better life for your child! Children learn much from what they see…

Think on these questions? What are some of the qualities you would want in your marriage now? What are the changes you can make in your life as far as personal growth? You said it has been a while, so start preparing yourself. Wanting to be married is honorable and so is having a healthy marriage. Yes working through the issues is possible! Each time you see him have some healthy dialogue to see where he is. Encourage him to grow as well… A good place to start is encouraging him to be honest with this lady and with you as well as you move forard! Remember a good marriage is built on trust and good communication.

Please let me know how things are going! GOD BLESS YOU!


Adrian Jr 4 years ago

This prayer is one of the best ones I read. My wife moved out a week ago. She moved in with her parents and took our 2girls with her. She has a harden heart. My actions were mostly emotional hurt. I was not emotionally there for her. Which I understand her. I know my faults and not denying it either. Yet I really didn't know I was hurting her. The routine got the best of us. I thought we were okay. She never told me my faults. She keeps everything inside. I pushed her away without intension. I have changed my ways. She knows and has seen my changes. Started going to church on my own with my girls. Gave my problems and marriage to God. I love her so much. Her mistake was she never told me how she felt and drove her away instead of talking about it. We never had strong communication. That really killed our relationship. I miss her so much. I get to see my girls but I want my family back. She wanted to end our marriage of 12yrs. She moved out to think about what she wants. I tried everything to help the situation. She just can't forget the past. Everyone tells her to really think about it because its not easy. I think she is confused and really hurt. She stores everything inside. I tried talking to her but all she does is get angry and gets frustrated. I pray every single day and night for Gods miracles to save our marriage. Great hub awesome prayer. I just wish my wife can read it. I don't want to seem like I'm forcing her. She is very stubborn and just doesn't want to hear it from no one. Please pray for me and my wife to restore our marriage. I love her dearly with all my heart and soul. I feel like Satan is out to destroy my marriage and has a hold on my wifes thoughts. In the name of Jesus please bind Satan and the demons that are in her mind, heart, body and soul.


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Adrian, It is never easy when a couple separates! I am sure that this was a difficult decision for your wife! But look at it from her perspective from a moment! You have admitted that you were not emotionally available for her, so in essence you moved away from her. You where there physically but not emotionally and this caused her to feel rejected. It is wonderful that you are taking responsibility for your actions. But she needs some time to recover!

You say that she holds everything in and does not share how she is feeling… Since you know this, it is important that you gently chip away at the walls she has built around herself. She feels alone and has developed unhealthy ways to cope without you. Marriage is about learning how to share intimately on many levels… Something you both need to get better at.

Now that you are changing this is WONDERFUL! But, it did not come about in time to stop her from leaving…This does not cast all the blame on you. But now that you have some insight and time continue to work on you! You are heading in the right direction! Woo her back by communicating differently. Share how you feel patiently in little ways without pressuring her. All that pain is locked up inside of her and it is keeping the “hurt” alive! This is why she gets angry and frustrated. (It may not necessarily be demons)

Love is powerful! A part of Love is being patient and wanting what is best… This time apart can be used to help her heal while she is away… Praying for her every day is wonderful! Whenever you interact with her be considerate knowing how she feels. Seize the opportunity to put little deposits of Love into her. When the time is right ask her if you could talk to her in a nice setting somewhere. Then listen to her… You must win her trust! As you do you can help her overcome her fears and replace it with trust! Remember you have not been there for her and she really needs tot know that you will be there for her now. You can make it through this… This may take some time but you can win her over. You can build a better marriage… Be encouraged! My prayers are with you! God Bless You!


lisa 4 years ago

I need PRAYER For MARRIAGE RESTORATION. I need a health marriage with love care. my husband seems to be tired for our relationship. I don't know if I am in the light relationship because for how we talk to each other. He seems not happy most off the time. I just dont know what to do.we have been together for 5 years. I just want God to show me if this person is for me.


Emmanuel 4 years ago

I need prayer for marriage restoration,I am encountering spiritual attacks,sometimes hearing evil voices against my destiney and my blessings.I need spiritual empoerment,I need prayerlife restoration and devine restoration to repairs evvery area of my destiney in the the name of Jesus.I want God to lead me and guide me.


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Lisa, A healthy marriage starts with you. Acknowledging the need is a good place to begin! The Lord has given you the power to do this. Start today allowing the Fruit of His Spirit to flourish in your life. Spend time Meditating upon HIS WORD! Start with EPHESIANS 5. Seek the Lord’s way in your life above all else. Allow HIS Light to shine through you. Your marriage vows contain a commitment to the Lord as well as to your husband. As you fulfill that commitment you will become happier. You cannot change what has happened, nor can you change your husband, but you can go forward!Surrender your marriage to the LORD! He can change both of you!

You have learned in these five years what does not bring you the happiness you want. I am sure that there has also been some good days… “What GOD has joined together, let no man put asunder” Commitment is an important part of marriage. Reclaim the Love you have for one another! Pray this prayer and pray your own words from your heart! TRUST GOD to help you! Let today be the beginning of becoming one with your husband and building a healthier marriage! God Bless You!


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Emmanuel, You must begin to shift your attention to the LORD! There is NO POWER stronger than the LORD! Invite the presence of the LORD around you right now! GOD’S WORD teaches us that when we “resist the devil, he will flee.” A prayer as simple as “LORD help me and guide me in the path that you would have me to go right now in the NAME of JESUS!” is most powerful! God knows your heart! He is attentive to your sincere cries but you must invite and welcome Him into your situation. During spiritual warfare it is a great time to begin practicing “praying without ceasing” This is a time in which you acknowledge and welcome the LORD’s presence all throughout the day!

Meditate on HIS WORD! The WORD has cleansing power and can purify your thoughts! Start with Psalm 4 & Psalm 24. Take your time even if it is just one or two verses at a time. Embrace the words and apply them to your heart. ( Please see my devotions on Psalms and the Proverbs here on the Hub Pages as well) Know that you are not alone. I also recommend checking with your doctor to make sure that you are physically and mentally okay and let him or her know that you are experiencing some anxiety. Know and believe that GOD is more than ABLE! It is important to know that GOD will never direct you to do anything that goes against His WORD! Be encouraged! Keep in contact and Please let me know how you are doing!

Father God, I come to say THANK YOU for Emmanuel and that we are able to come to You at anytime, anywhere and at anyplace! Father, we acknowledge You as being our Sovereign LORD there is none greater than You! We THANK YOU for Your Son JESUS CHRIST & Your HOLY SPIIRT! Father we come today in behalf of Emmanuel who is being taunted by the forces of darkness. We ask that your Comforter Your Holy Spirit guards his heart and replaces his anxiety with hope! Draw him closer to You LORD. We KNOW that you are LIGHT and in You there is no darkness! Allow Him to feel Your presence and Your Peace! As He mediates upon Your WORD open his spiritual eyes and ears so he can see and understand . Father God, we Thank You in advance and we realize that You will “never leave nor forsake” him. Make Him aware of your everlasting Love and surround him with others that will encourage and strengthen him in JESUS NAME… Emmanuel, Trust the LORD! God Bless You and Keep You!


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Path 20 hours ago

My Name is Ms. path tom, I was married to my husband for 13 years and we were both bless with three children, living together as one love, until 2009 when things was no longer the way the was [when he lost his job]. But when he later gets a new job 6 months after, he stated sleeping outside our matrimonial home. Only for me to find out that he was having an affair with the lady that gave he the job. since that day, when i called him, he don't longer pick up my calls and he nothing since to come out good. Yet my husbands just still keep on seeing the lady. Until I met a very good friend of my who was also having a similar problem, who introduced me to a very good love spell caster. But i told her that if it has to do with things that i am not interested, but she said that it has nothing to do with pay first. but the only thing he was ask to do was just to go and buy the items to cast the spell, and that was what she did. And she gave me the spell caster e-mail address and phone number. When i contacted him, i was so surprise when he said that if i have the faith that i will get my husband back in the nest three [3] day, and off which it was really so. but i was so shock that i did not pay any thing to Dr.Magbu but my husband was on his knells begging me and the children for forgiveness. This testimony is just the price i have to pay. This man Magbu is good and he is the author of my happiness. His e-mail address I HAVE REMOVED THE ADDRESS!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago Author

WARNING!!!

PLEASE DO NOT SUPPORT THE SOURCE MENTIONED HERE! This response is to show you how the spiritual warfare continues to attempt to get people to compromise and seek any source. This will only result in further harming and or eventually destroying their spouse and marriage! Pray for Ms path tom that she resists this source immediately!

Ms path tom, This is very sad. Your situation is critical! It is unfortunate that your husband left you. He has succumbed to his flesh and disrespected you as well as dishonored his vowels. He and the woman he works for have chosen a destructive path…

I am not sure where you are in your belief. But my counsel/advice is always Bible based godly counsel. In no way shape or form would I support any type of hexes, spells, potions or spell casters of any sort whatsoever, they are of the occult wickedness and from darkness. It opens you up to the darkness and demonic activity. I pray that you be honest with your husband and tell him what you have done and why! Then pray sincerely and fervently with and for him. This is a form of mind control. It is not good or wise that you consider this man and what he does to be okay... This only further compromises your ability to have a healthy marriage. It also further weakens him and instead of you having him the darkness hovers over your marriage and both of you are susceptible to more demonic activity! Please spend time meditating on the WORD of GOD.

Please anyone who reads this know what time it is… The WORD of GOD is POWERFU! God is the Designer of Marriage. Keep Him in the Center of your marriage . If You have not allow Him His place. “Resist the devil and he will flee” Pray and yield yourself to the LORD in the NAME of JESUS!


Trust God 4 years ago

Iince July 2010 I have been praying for my marriage to be restored. I had my eye open to my mistakes and breakdown for my part in ourmarriage. Even though my spouse filed last year for divorce and I stood on God's word. Just recently I was told my husband has free will and if he pushing for divorce then I just accept. I was als told that I am using scriptures for what I wan only. I believed that marriage was created by God and we could invite Him into our marriage. That nothing is impossible for God and He could restore any area of our marriage. That prayers changes thing. The divorce is not final and I have been expectation that my husband would come home suddenly and my marriage is restored.


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Trust God, Taking responsibility for your mistakes in the breakdown of your marriage is a step in the right direction. Continue to pray for your husband and that the LORD'S WILL is done in both of your lives! With GOD; "ALL things are POSSIBLE!" Prayer does change things... Be ENCOURAGED there is ALWAYS HOPE in the LORD! God Bless You!


Brenda 4 years ago

I am in need of some prayers to help save my marriage. My husband left me 3 months ago. He had left about 5 years ago for a brief period but we were able to work things out, so I thought at the time, but in fact we really didn't seek any help and we needed help. I am so broken hearted and realize we could have done something and now it seems as if my husband feels there is nothing we can do and is wanting a divorce. I have struggled with trying to talk him into counseling but he is set on getting a divorce. After a month of separation and struggling with feelings of God not hearing my cries.......I called on a friend that lives 10 hours away, crying. She suggested I come to visit, so I packed an headed out right away. Along the way I cried and prayed and friends called to see how I was doing. Half way there I turned the radio station to hear some christian music, something to lift me up. I stopped on a station that had a women talking about a group of woman about sexual abuse. She asked all that had been abused to please stand and decided to go to each individually and speak some scripture to each woman. As she approached one woman that had been abused as a child from her uncle, the woman said a prayer. She had struggled with feeling dirty and asked God if he would tell her she was not dirty, then she would trust that she was not dirty and would be able to let it go. So the speaker approaches her and the first words out of her mouth was, "You are not dirty". the woman collapses in her chair realizing that God has answered her prayer. I sat there in amazement thinking how wonderful it would be to have God speak so clearly and quickly. I thought, that's what UI need! So the rest of my trip I spent thinking about that and once I arrived at my friends home, we talked, I cried and on my last day there, she took me up to the moutains, where there are beautiful streams and waterfalls. As she took pictures of this one waterfall, I sat on the large boulders next to it. Then suddenly I thouhgt, I'm going to ask God a specific question and prayerd silently, "God if you will show me a heart shaped rock, then I will trust there is hope for Dave and I". Almost felt silly praying it, but right after I said it,my girlfriend stopped taking pictures, turned, walked towards me and picked up a rock and said, "Look a heart shaped rock!" Yes, I was speakless and realized at that very moment that God was speaking directly to me, answering my prayer and I realized he had been with me all along. He had lead me on this journey and I felt blessed. Though I wasn't sure what to do after that. I have been in contact with my husband and he has been very loving to me but still wants a divorce. So as I tried to stay contected and communicate, I am feeling the need to step back and give it to God 100%. I really need some prayers. I know God is helping me through this and it's tough to just trust, but I am trying.


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Brenda, You are not alone! GOD has shown Himself to you, what is going with you is important to Him. You are moving in the right direction by praying. Continue to intercede on behalf of your husband… Your husband CAN do something, he can work along with you he can change! But will he, will both of you be able to work through this?

The illustration of the woman is a wonderful example that God can place someone or something in your path to let you know that He really does care. Things can change. But you can only do your part. You cannot change your husband but GOD CAN! You can show him a better way by responding differently. A change is necessary for different results. Spend time meditating upon the Word of God. Be patient with yourself and your husband as wel... Allow the Fruit of the Lord’s Spirit to ripen within your life! “Do not be anxious for anything, but in everything by Prayer and Petition, with Thanksgiving, present your request to God." Philippians 4.

No doubt you have been through a lot. Use this time to work on becoming a better you. As you respond to your husband differently he will see the change in you. It will either draw him or drive him… Continue to TRUST the Lord to bring you through… Know that The Lord loves you and wants what is best for you! Stand on the Lord's WORD!

Father God, we Thank You for your Faithfulness. Lord, we Thank You for making your presence known to Brenda. Father, we ask that you continue to draw her closer to you. That she seeks you above all else and continues to allow You to direct her path forward. Father, we ask that You open the heart of her husband as well as his spiritual eyes and ears. Father, I pray that they resolve their differences in a way that pleases you! Lord, we ask in Jesus Name that your Peace is upon her and that her Trust in You continues to Grow! We pray that Your will is done in their lives as she moves forward. We REJOICE knowing that the earth is yours and the fullness thereof, the world and them that dwell therein… In Jesus Name

Discovering the “heart shaped rock” was confirmation that the Lord was gracious to allow that to be, to reassure you of His presence with you! Yes! There is Hope! So continue to embrace that moment… God Bless You!


Vickum 4 years ago

Hi everyone,

It's wonderfull hub, and I myself seek for help with my prayers to restore my marriage.

My wife left mid may after three weeks of arguments about property we were trying buy.

But problem is much deeper- its me, caused her heart go cold

over 20 years of marriage.

I would disrespect her opinion on almost anything, starting from little things to matter like what lot to buy from builder.

As arguments were taking place I would make inappropriate comments about her parents and sister.

Now when my heart is broken I realized how much she means to me, I broke my marriage wows, I let my pride take over our relationship, I put my needs first, avoided communication with her thinking that she should apologize or start talking first.

We have two kids-6 and 19 and they both live with her at parents house.

My wife doesn't want me to contact her at all , only trough lawyers, I wrote her a letter of reconciliation and my lawyer passed it to her lawyer at our 4-way meeting but she reacted cold and said she would achieve more if she goes her separate way, that problem is me and all the emotional pain I've caused to her over years.

At this moment separation agreement is drafted and my wife wants me to sign it, house to be sold and assets divided.

But I'm still hoping that miracle will happen. I pray everyday that God will restore our relationship and marriage.

Please help with your prayers and God bless you.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago Author

Vickum, Welcome! Confession is good for the soul. It allows you to get out the bitterness and anger that is brewing inside. You are making a step in the right direction. Now you must begin to mend your heart with patience, compassion and self control. Start by being patient with yourself and others.

Those little arguments with your wife and the unkind comments toward her family was your anger and resentment leaking out. Breaking your marriage vows is a further response to the anger and hurt you have been carrying. You trying to control her and… Your wife has been hurt terribly by the one person she should be able to trust most and that is you. Her lawyers are protecting her as you should have. But this does not have to be in vain! You can become a better person from this and a better father and yes just maybe a better husband too…

Maybe the things should go or maybe not? They are reminders of how things should not have been. Things you can always get back. Since it is a separation agreement it tells me that your wife has not totally closed the door. Remember that you have hurt her terribly so a letter at this point is just words… Spend time with the Lord and let Him renew your mind with His WORD. I Peter 3 tells a husband to be considerate of his wife… As you change you will feel better about yourself and there will be less of a need to lash out and hurt… Prepare each day as though your wife is still with you and practice responding differently… Learn to take control by exercising self discipline. Your children need you so start by showering love on your children whenever you spend time with them. This will help them during this difficult time as well. Help them feel secure your wife will see a difference in them!

The most important thing you can do is learn to TRUST GOD and allow Him to lead you… Your hurt has served to open your eyes so Thank God! There is HOPE! You can change . Continue Praying for your wife each day. When you think of her ask the Lord to change you and open her heart…

Father God, I come to say Thank You for Vickum’s transparency. I know that you are able to make a significant remarkable difference in his life as he sincerely moves toward You. Father, I know that as He leans and trusts upon You, You can make Him into the man that you have created him to be. We thank you for turning his heart towards repentance. Lord, illuminate your Word as He spends time with you, let him know that you love and accept him and that you CAN work miracles in his life in JESUS NAME.

I Pray that you are inspired to move forward trusting the Lord to lead you and you draw closer to Him! God Bless You!


MEROMAN 4 years ago

hi there, i really appreciate this prayer as we speak my husband & I are not doing so well. In fact my heart is broken in peices i love him so much but i have done so many things to hurt him out of frustration. i am not proud of them in any way. Today he told me that he has never fully trusted me and he might never will. He has this big wall up from before we have ever met. i at the begining gave into him completely broke down all of my walls which people know it is an extremely hard thing to do. He took it for granted and completely broke my trust. He is big on assuming things and when we argue he turns things into a competition. It's so bad to the point i extremely dislike it when he tells me i am right. i want to spend the rest of my life with him, i hope this prayer with faith and hard work will help us out


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MEROMAN, You are in a good place because your conscious is now sensitive to your past behavior. So let your remorse marinate for a while. Now moving forward let this motivate you to make some changes. You cannot undo what has been done. Life is so precious so deciding to make a choice to spend less time in the regrets is good!

Collect yourself, set some time aside and tell your husband calmly how you feel without blaming him for anything. Let him know that it hurts you that you have hurt him. Stop the cycle of emotional abuse… The point is you are taking responsibility for your actions and beginning to mend your hurt. Resentment is toxic so release it, but not on him. Be to him what you would like him to be to you. Become a teacher rather than a destroyer. We are living in some stressful times but you can still relish very good moments when you become conscious of not letting harmful behavior dominate the relationship. It takes two to argue so instead try listening instead and see that his words are masking his hurt.

Trust is an essential part of marriage. When it is broken it needs to be repaired. Love, kindness, consideration, commitment and devotion can link you together again and help you build a stronger foundation. The fact that you do not even like it when he tells you that you are right shows that you have become accustomed to an unhealthy way of relating. Please don’t continue on in this manner. In order for things to change you must start by changing your behavior. Pray this prayer and listen in on some of the other situations here. But also pray and ask the Lord to help you change and then respond differently each time you interact with your husband. Love is powerful , Love is Patient and does not behave unseemingly… Love by taking control of your flesh, by disciplining yourself and taking self control! You say you want to spend the rest of your life with him so start building happier and healthier memories NOW. It will take hard work but you can do this. Be ENCOURAGED! God Bless you! I am sure that you both can work through this! Remember time is precious!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago Author

Viktor, WONDERFUL! You are so welcome! Your transparency here will help others who are going through similar situations. The credit goes to the Lord for opening your eyes, remember His Holy Spirit is with you 24/7 to help, lead, guide and to comfort you! So glad to hear that you have great support as well to encourage you along the way! Remain steadfast in your Praying! & Continue to draws closer to the LORD... We are all rooting for you... God is truly amazing. Thank You again & God Bless You!


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sweetie1 4 years ago from India

Very nice prayer. As they say marriages are made in heaven and when I get married it would last till I leave for heaven. Marriage is not like movies which is all happy ending. I have seen my Mom and aunts work very hard for their marriages. One thing we Indian girls are thought from early age is you are going to your husband's home in Palanquin but you must leave that home in Bier ( coffin)


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago Author

Sweetie, So nice of you to stop by and share! I am so glad that you are willing to wait to marry until you are truly willing to cvommit to someone for life! It is marvelous that you have really good role models... Marriage does take a lot of hard work; but it is worth it! This is why it is so important to share the same core values! Both spouses must be committed and willing to work together, grow together and go through the difficulties and challenges that arise in life as well as CELEBRATE the GOOD TIMES!

Thank you! & Be ENCOURAGED! In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace, Mercy, Peace & Blessings!


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sweetie1 4 years ago from India

DeBorrah, ofcurse both partners have to work hard and I dont think anyone marry to get divorce. But if you say you walk 50 and i walk 50 then there would be lots of arguments and fights but if you both say let me walk 70 and you walk 30 we would meet somewhere on way and doesnt matter who out of us has worked hard because it is not Me and You but US and it is our marriage. Those who have this attitude their marriages would always survive the test of time.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 4 years ago Author

Sweetie, It is very important that each spouse is mutually committed to building a lasting life long marriage... Marriage is what you make it! Those of you who are interested in getting married take the time to get to know one another. Those who are married should continue to make their marriage a priority! Keep the embers of Love alive! It really is possible to have a great, rewarding ever growing fulfilling marriage!


Karin 3 years ago

I ask for undeserved prayers. My husband of 4 1/2 years decided a month ago to file divorce. He had been lying to me for a very long time. We struggled early on but slowly moved forward. We moved into a house got animals and started the process of having children. He and I were doing so well with new jobs and also I was going to school. Then I felt that God was tired of our selfish ways not honoring him. Suddenly his job was not what it seemed, my success in school slowed as I kept needing more time, finances built tension between us, and after a year and half of trying no baby because of me. I felt ugly and undesried by my husband. We fought openly and never talked about it. Finally I came home from a trip with my family and he said he was truly thinking of divorce. I then, stopped in my tracks realizing this was my own doing because we strayed from God, so I changed my heart tried therapy even the 40 day love dare challenge and got a great gift of learning to love my husband unconditionally. I spent a year with no intamicy from my husband and learned to wait and forgive and love anyways even after all the lies and through the infidelity. I wait. Even though after a year of rejection my husband says he loves this other women and wanted a divorce long ago, he filed a month ago and yet I still ask God for a second chance to be what we were supposed to be. To prove that love does not have to die so easily. My family and friends reject this concept, even though we all are christians they dont believe he will change and think its best for me to move on and find someone else, but how can you ever love someone when you have given your heart to God and to this one other person, how is that unconditional love if you move on. I pray God hears my prayers for I pray day and night for my one miracle, for the marriage I was supposed to have, I may be young, only 25 but if this is the only love I get in my entire lifetime I will consider myself lucky, blessed to have learned the way to love, the way God meant for us to. Thank you for listening.


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Karin, Prayer is not something any of us deserve. “All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of GOD!” It is because of Jesus Christ we can humbly come to the Lord at anytime for any reason. Prayer is how we communicate intimately with our Heavenly father and when done sincerely He welcomes it!

When a spouse desires to divorce it can be devastating. I hear you when you say you strayed away from the Lord but have returned. Spiritual warfare is designed to divide and take you away from the Lord’s will and way. The principles you have learned in your 40 day “love dare” journey will continue to be helpful! Continue to be patient…

Infidelity is a sign of weakness that needs to be conquered in order to reinstate trust. It is easy to say that you love this other person. But do they really? If you truly loved them you would not get involved with someone else while you are already married. It is because they have allowed their unspiritual carnal desires to take control… Lust is powerful and so misleading and it mimics love. It entices one to fulfill their desires at the expense of others keeping you in a vicious cycle. He does not realize that by indulging himself he is giving himself away which only makes him weaker and less disciplined! He can overcome this but he must repent! Which means to sincerely make a change… He can learn the true meaning of love by your sincere efforts. Whenever you encounter him take a deep breath before you engage with him, and then ask the Lord to help you respond to him in a way that pleases Him. It is not always easy but “God is able!” You can be confident in the LORD! Love is powerful!

Family and friends mean well. But no one is in your shoes but you. How are their relationships? Advice is plentiful but by what authority is it offered? Since they are Christians do they not believe that God can do the impossible! Or is it that they think that you are not realistic and have given him enough time.

Karin, In your leisure read some of the other testimonies that are shared here! BE ENCOURAGED!

I want to commend you for being 25 and making the choice to forgive him and your desire is to move forward. You cannot change Him but God can. During this time continue to refine who you are and work on being the best you! Continue to look to the Lord and lift your husband up in prayer. Apply the principles of God’s Word to your life! You are a strong woman and as you spend time with the Lord He will mold and shape you into an even beautiful woman from the inside out! Allow the Lord to fill the void in your life and remain faithful to His principles. In His time know; “In All things God works together for the GOOD…” The Lord is with you! All GOD’S promises are true you can always TRUST GOD! God Bless You!


Karin 3 years ago

Thank you for your blessings and prayers. I struggle daily with my anger and my faith. One minute I am reading my bible and finding these testimonies of encouragement and the next minute I am feeling overwhelmed by Satan's doubts, fears, and anger. I constantly catch myself questioning and wondering how long must I be in complete agony. I cry everyday and night. I feel trapped and alone. I am the only one that even wants to save this marriage, my family, friends, his family and friends and of course my husband himself doesn't believe in this marriage or its restoration. I pray God can grant me some sign, some hope that I am not alone in this. I dont want to be doubtful or faithless, but I also am only human and feel very alone and discouraged. I have been struggling with finding a job that suits my husbands financial needs because he is always wanting more, so a work full time, go to school full time, take care of all the household needs, the animals, and trying to recover from all the emotional and physical burden of the infertitliy that pushed my husband away and to that other woman. I fear I have nothing left to give or fight with. I am not without a house or any real asset, have no job or income right now and had to move back in with my parents with my animals until I can figure this all out while going through with all the fighting over who gets what and the family determined that he is being unfair and taking too much and leaving me with nothing, but all I can do is sit while everyone spins around me fighting and I just scream out to God to make it stop to save my marriage and turn Satan and his followers away. Thank you again and I pray God hears my broken heart and helps me


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 3 years ago Author

Karen, The LORD hears your broken heart because you are His child. You must position yourself to hear His response... You are going through a difficult time and your pain makes you feel distant from the Lord. Although you feel alone know the Lord is with You! Life can be difficult at times! Sometimes it is good to just take a few moments and meditate upon how much God loves you! Being with your parents for a season is helpful since they can provide a safe space for you to regroup and plan your path forward.

You are not responsible for your husband’s choices he is an adult. Although there has been a lot of pressure upon you to conceive it is good to have a healthy environment to bring a child into. You have not failed it is all about timing and choices… If it is the Lord’s will one way or the other you can become a parent if it is your desire. Although separated from your husband you now have some time to think about what you would like to take place in the future. The only person you can control is you with the help of the Lord. Becoming the "Best You!" will help you better determine what to do going forward!

Respect your parents while in their home. Yet, express to them the need for some time to refresh so you can see a little more clearly and take time to heal so you can responsibly begin to move forward. In the meantime you can continue to still be helpful in the household there... Continue to seek the Lord above all else for direction it is in Him you can discover His Peace… God Bless You!


SJoy 3 years ago

Please pray for my marriage, my husband, myself, and my daughter. My husband is struggling with the thought of leaving to find better peace and happiness. He says that while he loves me, he is not sure he can live with me. I believe that he is letting worldly ambitions and selfish needs enter into his life. I am praying for God to soften his heart and open his eyes to a more clear view. I pray that he allows God back into his life and heart fully, as he has been trying to justify (God would want me to be happy). I pray that God helps me to get my life in order and be where I need to be to receive his blessings with this marriage. Your prayer spoke volumes to me and I will be praying in daily. Thanks so much for the love your words delivers.


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SJoy, I am glad that you have been touched by this prayer. I pray that the comments are helpful as well! Marriage is honorable in the sight of God! You are not alone! There are many others who are experiencing much spiritual warfare attempting to divide their marriages!

Continue to spend time in the presence of the Lord interceding in the behalf of your spouse and seek His direction!

Your husband is not secure within himself and unsure of what love really means. I believe that you are right saying that “he is letting worldly ambitions and selfish needs enter into his life” This is happening far to frequently in too many marriages. Your husband has not really thought about the fact that he not only made a vow to you but the Lord as well. Where is his FAITH in GOD? I know that you cannot answer for him but his actions show that he is not seeking the Lord for direction. He does not realize that his future happiness is contingent on making things right with the Lord! That is if he is a believer…

It is important that you become stronger at this time and implement godly principles within your daily life! Whenever you interact with your husband make a sincere attempt to be respectful and respond to him as the Lord leads you. This does not mean that you become a doormat. But you are allowing him to see the principles of the Lord operating within you! By doing so you show him a contrast!

You cannot change anything that has happened. But you can move forward confessing your shortcomings to the Lord and becoming all you can be in Him. Take this time to draw closer to the Lord! Please be even more patient, understanding and loving with you daughter! Help her to become more secure in who is becoming... This helps to make the best out of an unfortunate situation. It also creates a healthy bond between you and reinforces trust! I am sure that this is a difficult time for both of you! Keeping in mind this not between your daughter and husband .... It is admirable that you want to preserve your marriage. Make the Lord your focus and whenever this situation begins to weigh on you give it to the Lord. Whenever it is unbearable you know that you are trying to carry too much on your own! There is no easy solution so Seek the Lord above all else! May HIS Peace & Favor be with you in Jesus Name! Remember, With GOD "ALL things are POSSIBLE!" BE ENCOURAGED!


Edone 3 years ago

My fiancee left me with a 2months pregnancy few months to our weeding, he dumped me for another lady because of what i don't know. He said to my face that i am a looser and he never loved me, which i know its a lie, it was so surprising that he changed to a demon i never see in him. Then I noticed that the heart monitor was showing a beat! But this was only his pacemaker. each day has never been the same for me since that day. to worsen issue i lost my job and everything was like am drowning in an ocean i cant swim.

There was a day i was just surfing the net and i saw a website of this spell lady, PRIESTESSIFAAGREATSPELLPOWERS.WEBS.COM, she sound so powerful that i felt that she can bring back to me all that i have lost.

I contacted her through her email on priestessifaa@yahoo.com and she gave me hope that things would be back to normal with her spell, i did doubt because it was my first time to see spiritual work and since my liver could turn a demon over, so i believe anything can still happen. I gave her all details she requires to carry with the spell, An few hours later she came back to me telling that the gods reveals that the other woman did a very strong evil spell on me for my lover to start seeing me like and slot and hate me forever. This hurt even more than a nail in my head, i gave the spell lady a go ahead to do a go ahead to break and curse and return my lover to me.

The most happiest part i expected and came to pass but was so fast and accurate was that my lover came to me after 4days begging with his life that he never knew how things went like that, he went back, to that lady, he beats and push her out of his house and never to see her again.

Everything was like having my life back again all through this spell lady Priestess Ifaa. she is awesome and great with her spell and she is so accurate and fast with her work.

My lover and i are getting married this december and in few months from now i will put to bed. Priestess ifaa is a goddess. meet her and heal your broken heart too.


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Edone, My prayers and concerns are with you for taking such desperate measures! I must candidly and forcefully say that I in NO WAY support or encourage anyone using these methods you have mentioned They are in fact ungodly and are from the darkside. It is a choice to walk in disobedience to GOD'S PRINCIPLES! This is a dangerous form of idol worship! It is in direct conflict with GOD’S WORD! Although you think you may have temporary satisfaction this will result in far more harm to your relationship. It is a deceptive hoax!

"Those who live according to the sinful nature have thier minds set on what that nature desires, but those who live accordance to the SPIRIT have their minds set on what the SPIRIT desires. The mind of the sinful man is death because of sin, but the mind controlled by the SPIRIT is LIFE & PEACE, the sinful mind is hostile towards GOD! it does not submit to GOD'S law... ROMANS 8

I suggest that you be honest with your possible husband to be! This is NOT GOOD!

For a short period of time I will leave your comments only for the sake of PREVENTITIVE MEASURES! This happens when one is willing to compromise godly principles and I personally DO NOT AT ALL AGREE. I PRAY that others can see the folly and SPIRITUAL DANGER in going this route. I PRAY that the LORD opens your heart to TRUTH! “THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE!”


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 3 years ago Author

THERE HAVE BEEN several comments in regards to the use of spells and things of this nature.... IT IS IMPORTANT TO KNOW that these sort of practices ARE NOT of GOD! PLEASE DO NOT BE DECEIVED!!!


Impatient 3 years ago

SJoy

Going through the same thing.

My husband did leave me.


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Sjoy, This is a great time to spend even more time seeking the Lord's will for your life. As I said earlier you can not change your husband. But you can continue to pray for him. Use this time to draw even closer to the Lord! I Pray that He imparts His Peace to you during this difficult time... God will Never leave nor forsake you!

As you entrust your well being to the Lord He will begin to heal your inner pain. Allow the LORD to fill your void! "TRUST in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not to your own understanding. In ALL your ways acknowledge HIM and HE WILL make your path straight..." PROVERBS 3.

May our Heavenly Father continue to Strengthen, Bless & Keep you in HIS Love & care in JESUS NAME! GOD BLESS YOU!


Dorothy 3 years ago

Hi DeBorrah,i need prayers,i have been married to my husband for 5 years now,we have two beautiful children and another on the way,am 3 months pregnant.During our 5 year marriage,my husband has cheated on me 3 times but chose to forgive him.He recently started sleeping out and not picking my calls which made me suspicious until i discovered he was spending nights at a woman's house.When i confronted him,he decided to do it openly and now he is staying with this woman.I once called him when our daughter was ill and the woman picked his phone and told me she is the new wife i should stop distubing them.i feel so much pain everyday wondering how he would do this knowing am pregnant.He rarely comes home to see the children and when he does,its just for a few minutes.He even spent xmas and the new year with this lady.I pray everyday so he can come home coz we need him,am so confused coz i didn't see it coming.i love my husband and ending my marriage is the last thing i want.pliz pray for me


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Wow! You have experienced a lot in these 5 years of marriage. Children are a big responsibility and with another one on the way you must be a bit stretched emotionally. Your husband appears to have quite a problem with committing to his marriage vows… Running to the arms of another woman only further complicates his life. While he is away use this time to think about your future. You cannot change your husband and unless he changes he is headed for even more trouble! What if this woman were to also get pregnant? He really is not thinking!

One good thing is you have your children with you. Let this motivate you to make a better life for them… You are the one left to nurture them and help them feel secure. You can see in your husband that he has a weakness… Your children can benefit from your strength. No doubt that you are in a difficult position but you must be careful that he does not continue to use you… It is through your strength that you can show him a contrast. It is natural to want your husband at home with you but it is important that you not compromise yourself…

Father God, Thank you for being our God and our Father! Lord, I Pray that you strengthen Dorothy, and that she begins to look to you daily. Fill the void in her heart that this pain is leaving… Open her heart to you and her mind so she can see more clearly her direction forward. Help her to find Peace and Security in you. Lord give her the strength to place her FAITH & TRUST in YOU! Lord! Father we pray for her and her children place a hedge of protection around them in Jesus Name!

There is no easy solution. Try to worry less and PRAY more! Let each day become the start of a new beginning for you and the children… Take it a day at a time and seek the Lord’s direction! God Bless You!


Dorothy 3 years ago

Thanx DeBorrah for my prayer,i always come to this site to pray everyday.Thanx for the great advice,am now much stronger and dedicate most of my time to praying and my children.

May God bless u


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Dorothy, How wonderful that you have begun to walk in victory by nurturing your children... I am so glad that you are getting stronger! You are in a difficult situation yet you are practicing more self contol... You are a strong good woman and as you shower love on your children I Pray our Heavenly Father increases your Patience and inner Peace! Both are a Fruit of HIS Spirit!

I pray that what others have shared here encouraged you and motivate you to keep looking forward. You are not alone! We can always entrust what seems impossible to GOD! Having God in our lives makes all the difference in the world. Keep depositing love into your children... You are amazing, continue to take care of yourself as well and keep looking up! In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings! God Bless & Keep You in Jesus Name! PRAISE GOD!


O.B 3 years ago

I am a man of 46 from Sweden, which is separated from my wife after 17 years of marriage. We have three children together and are both Christians. There has been a lot of problems in the marriage because of all my past problems and my half-hearted relationship with God. Finally got my wife enough and threw me out. After I was thrown out, I turned wholeheartedly to God and started at Bible school and experiencing the wonderful miracles with my personality. God is really working in the depths of my life. Despite of all the miracles I experience, my wife decided to divorce and believes she has married the wrong man. She did not trust in me anymore. We were separated in October 2012. The divorce is going to be a fact May 7 this year if God does not intervenes. Needs a miracle of God.


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O.B, Today over 55% of marriages end in divorce. It has become a common resolve for a marriage that is lacking fulfillment.... I am touched by your openness and willingness to make amends. Your wife is hurting and has guarded her heart because of the past. Please do not let this discourage you from moving forward in your spiritual transformation. Let it motivate you all the more. This is wonderful!

Your wife is protecting herself from future hurt. You have admitted that your track record with her has not been the best so this is understandable. Being a half hearted Christian means that you have been half stepping and after 17 years of marriage she just may feel that you are still half stepping now. You are changing for the better for sure! But she may not recognize or understand the new you coming forth.

You have some work to do… Please do not give up hope! As you grow in the Grace and Knowledge of our Lord you will emit the Fruit of His Spirit! Your children will see and experience the difference in you and bear witness. They will share what they see happening in your life. Be real with them but trust God to open your wife’s heart again.

When the opportunity arises respond to her in Love. Seventeen years is a long time. No doubt she is a good woman since she has helped you to see the need to change. The divorce is not final and she is not sure that you are the right man! So Pray for her daily and remain faithful to your vows. The Lord sees your faithfulness. Trust Him to open her heart to you again and to guide you so your marriage can be restored.

You are an inspiration to many that God truly can and does make a difference in your life! You have seen the error of your ways... Be confident in the new man you are becoming… Continually yet gently woo your wife back… Be the sincere man that she cannot resist! You won her heart over before and you can do it again. " What GOD has joined together let no man separate!" Remember with "GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE!" This is a New Year and a good time to start anew. God Bless You!


glen moore 3 years ago

Please pray for my marriage my wife and I are seperated. I love her with all my heart. And want to honor my vows her name is Lisa. Thank you


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Glen Moore, As you go through this difficult time continue to draw closer to the Lord! Work daily on becoming the best you! Pray for your wife everyday and when the opportunity arises be patient, kind and understanding with her. Send her a short note and let her know that you love her and want to work through your problems... This will allow her to see that you are making some changes... My prayers are with you & Lisa! God bless You!


John R Starlin 3 years ago

My wife Jayna and I have been divorced a year and three months now. She has entered into a lesbian relationship. But I have never let go of the hope of restoring our marriage. I need help that God can and will touch both of our hearts to follow him and love one another again. I ask for prayer for the both of us that we will be delivered, forgiven and our marriage restored.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 3 years ago Author

John R Stalin, So sorry to hear this... No doubt you are in a difficult and painful place. Your wife is carrying her pain to another woman. Since there are alternative relationships other than "Marriage God's Way" some opt to go in another direction... Women need a strong intimate emotional connection and nowadays since homosexual relationships are accepted by many it makes it easy to venture into same sex relationships. Another woman cannot take the place of a man or vise versa...

Pray for your wife; as the WORD of GOD says "ALL things are POSSIBLE with GOD!" Keep believing the LORD and seeking Him for direction as you go forward building a stronger foundation with Him! Continue to draw closer to Him to feel your void. Trust God!

It will not be easy but whenever you encounter your wife do so in genuine Love! Be patient... Since she decided to move on, let her see a contrast! The change in you will be evident as you begin to respond differently. God readily forgives when your heart has sincerely repented! Accept His forgiveness and allow HIS WORD to be "A Lamp unto your feet and a Light unto your path..." Nothing is to hard for the Lord! My prayers are with you! May He multiply the Fruit of His Spirit within your life! May His Will be done in yor life in JESUS NAME! God Bless You!


Scott 3 years ago

Thank you for your page it is up lifting. May I ask you pray for my marriage as my wife left me 4 months ago and is now living with another man. She has not filed for divorce yet (Praise God). I have been praying nightly for God to speak to her and for her to return to me and our 2 girls. Her name is Crystal and I am Scott.


Judy97 3 years ago

Please pray for my marriage as my husband of 16 years has asked for a divorce. We have two children at home with us. He has not moved out (yet), so I am praying that he will not leave. He agreed to go to marriage counseling this past week, and after the first session he said he's not sure he will continue with the counseling.

His heart seems to be hardened. I feel this is spiritural warfare. I am praying that God will break my husband's strong will and soften his heart, and that he will give our marriage a second chance and that we will come out of this stronger and better than before.


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Scott, PRAISE GOD! So glad that you have been encouraged and inspired! We are living in some interesting times and there is so much spiritual warfare to divide marriages and families.

Know that God is Faithful! This is a great time to draw even closer to Him! He can help you understand even when it is difficult. Be patient with yourself and with your wife! She is looking for love in the wrong place. Let this be a time to embrace His principles even more so... this way God's Love will grow and flourish within you...

It is a blessing that you have your daughters in your care. Building a loving, safe, healthy, secure relationship with them during this time is most helpful. It helps to make them secure and can help you to focus...

It is wonderful that you are praying nightly! Whenever your wife comes to mind pray for her while she is away. Know that you cannot change anything that has happened... Meditate on God's Word and consistently seek His direction. "Husband,love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it. That He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the Word.." There is healing POWER in the WORD! Seek the Lord above all else...

My prayers and thoughts are with you and Crystal. God Bless You!


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 3 years ago Author

Judy, the fact that your husband is willing to go to marriage counseling and has not left the family home is a good sign. Although he is not sure he wants to continue tells me that he is hesitant to deal with the emotional issues. Confronting marital issues in front of someone else is difficult. I suggest giving him a little more room in the next session. Try to allow him the freedom to express himself first. This helps him to unravel and feel that there are benefits of having a third objective party present.

His heart is hardened because he is concealing his pain. He is insecure in letting go of the past and moving forward. You are in a difficult position but you must be the bigger person and exercise patience. Your marriage is worth fighting for. You will need to daily adorn yourself with the spiritual armor. This will help you build confidence in yourself. This allows him to see a change in you.

Keep in mind that you cannot change what has happened. But your goal is to recapture and build embers of love to build a new fire. Give this all you have. Focus on your children and their needs when or if you feel down. Your labor of love is not in vain. Your marriage is worth fighting for... Read some of the other stories on this post & BE ENCOURAGED! I look forward to a PRAISE report! Praying for you & Remember; With God by your side "ALL things are POSSIBLE! God Bless You!


Bradln42 3 years ago

DeBorrah I'm not sure how this works. If I post somthing and ask for your advice how do I know if u responded. please send me an e mail at sparky_funboy@att.net. I am just resantly divorsed and I want to reconsile the marriage but she is doing every thing she can to avoid talking to me. I would like to tell you my full situation and get you advice. I also feer that she spending time with the rong man see when I have our 4 year old son and she comes to pick him up he is afrade to go with her becouse of some of the things my son tells me he does to him.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 3 years ago Author

Bradln, I suggest that you read some of the other posts here. I think that they might be somewhat helpful? Your situation appears to be very serious and the subject very sensitive. It appears that you need immediate attention to your situation! You have a responsibility to make sure that your son is in a safe environment with you as well as when he is away from you! I suggest you make arrangements to see a therapist in your area as well as call child protection services!

In HIS Service,

God Bless!


Bradln42 3 years ago

The only real problems we had in our marriag was the arguments we had about the amount of time she was spending on the computer and the house cleaning. I started getting jeluse and upset with the amount of time she was spending on the computer when we did talk about things they would tern into arguments. With both off her parents dead she felt the only place for her to go was the womens shelter. I have been prying to God and looking to his word to improve myself to make myself a better person and he has reveald to me the mastakes that I've maid in our marriage. I've been reeding in the bible and learnig how to be a better husbend according to God's word but she is not religes as I am and doesn't look to God's word and see's what he says about divorse and being a wife. If I try to tell her or show her she will just see it as a ploy to get her back. I also been praying to him in Jesus's name to give me the words to say to her and for to see that the problems in our relationship weren't as bad as she thought they were. She also sees this divorse as a chance to to live her life on her own becouse befor she met me. Her dad (who was a verry controling and manipulating) raised her in a verry shelterd and isolated life and used her emotions and feelings to controle and manipulat her. I know this becouse her tryed doing it to me the first nfew years her and I were to gether.

Now she tells me that she has her own life and her own friends now. I feel if I tell her about what my son has been telling me she will see it as just a ploy to come between her and this guy she has been spending time with. Now I don't know how to acked around her or what to say to her without over whelming and pushing her further away from her. So I've praying to God that she sees me in her hart that I'm steel the man she fell in love with and that she did choose right the first time. I too was half way with God and that is what coused the enamy to sneek in that jelasy.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 3 years ago Author

Your concern for your son should be addressed immediately. His well being should be a top priority! If your fears are not warranted then apologize if this is not the case. Either way your son is hurting, children do not normally lie about abuse. You should not let being misunderstood stop you from talking to your wife if this means that you can prevent more harm from happening to your son.

There is no doubt a communication problem between you and your wife as well as a lack of trust! A good marriage is built upon trust! It is good that you have been studying the Word. Now step out on Faith and show your wife that you are a concerned, trusting and loving father and you want what is best for your son. Your wife is hurting and is very vulnerable be sincere in your efforts to help your son. Your compassion for him will show her another facet of you. Be patient with your wife you have allowed your insecurity in the marriage to push her away. She really needs to see a display of strength and stability! Pray for her whenever she comes to mind! Be persistent yet gentle until you address the situaton regarding your son! God Bless you!


Ebony 2 years ago

Hi, I am 25yrs old My husband left me with three kids and having affair with plenty women. I am trying to be strong for my kids but im so shock i don't know how to feel. I'm so so hurt. We moved up here to Orlando and every since we been here, that when he started doing these things to me. I'm so scared for my kids that they might lose both of us cause of me being so depressed and i don't have a job and i been with him almost 7yrs


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Ebony, Your situation is serious. You want to begin by getting yourself some help so you can get stabilized. This is important for you as well as your children! You are in a crisis and need to see your doctor for a thorough physical exam. "The Center" is a place in Florida that can help you as well. Here is the link http://www.thecenterorlando.org/services . They can better direct you to what is available to you in your area. If needed call this hotline 1-800-784- 2433 if you feel like you are too depressed. They can help you as well! In the meantime remain prayerful and know that you are not alone. It is during times like this you can reach out to the Lord! He is right there. A simple prayer such as "LORD HELP me and direct me is sufficient. You are young and have much before you! If you can't be strong for you do so for your children they need you! Love on yourself and take care of you first and then you can work towards resolving the situation with your husband. My prayers and thoughts are with you. Please let us know how you are doing Be Encouraged and know that the LORD LOVES YOU!


Michael Lee 2 years ago

Amen and thank you for this prayer. I am currently separated from my wife, and I was losing hope for reconciliation. When I read this prayer, it felt like a weight was lifted off me. Though, the situation feels one sided, this prayer gives me hope and inspiration. Thank you again and God bless.


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Michael Lee, PRAISE GOD! The Lord is with You! Anytime your wife comes to mind PRAY for her! You cannot change anything that has happened. Ask the Lord to reveal to you any personal changes you need to make. Your wife is hurting... Whenever you encounter your wife be patient and loving. Allow her to see and experience the change in you.

Only the LORD knows everything that has happened in your marriage. Look to HIM for direction. 'TRUST in the LORD with ALL your heart and lean not to your own understanding in ALL your ways acknowledge HIIM and HE WILL make your path straight!" Proverbs 3 Be ENCOURAGED know that the LORD is there for You! So glad that you have been inspired! REJOICE in the LORD!

In HIS Service, Peace & Blessings!


Johnathan 2 years ago

Great article.

Please pray for me and wife to reconcile. My wife and I have been separated for a month and a half. We have a 28 month older daughter. I have been devastated, but praying and believing earnestly. I know God is at work because I have seen signs of this. However, my wife's family has been discouraging her from reconciling with me. My wife has had a fear of her family disowning her if she does.

Also, my wife is concerned about what other people would think if we reconciled after they've advised or assisted her to leave me. I know God's will is for restoration. My wife's family are Muslim and I am not, so this adds to their desire to see our marriage fail. I am asking for prayer that in the name of Jesus, her family as well as Satan is and will be bound from impacting our marriage as well as impacting and influencing my wife's thoughts, ideas, and decisions regarding us. I ask for prayer in the name of Jesus that my wife get the courage to stand up to her family and return home with our daughter. Also, that when my wife returns that even if she is disowned by her family that God is and will prepare her heart for that and give her strength and courage to follow him and return regardless of their reactions, threats, or decisions against her.

God Bless you and thank you.

Amen


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Johnathan It is unfortunate that you and your wife have separated. While she is away continue to make plans for your family’s future. It is wonderful that you have been spending quality time with the Lord, continue to pray for your wife and daughter. Whenever time permits you to see your wife be patient and loving with her. Rather than pressure her about her family show her a contrast and instead let her see that you love her and miss her. If you are concerned about your wife's safety and well being I suggest you talk to the local authorities and ask them to intercede on your behalf. God is able to do the impossible. Continue to trust Him for direction. So glad that this article has been helpful! Be encouraged by some of the others that have shared here. Lord Bless You!


SANJIB PORE 2 years ago

I am Sanjib Pore 32yrs and my wife Jeenia Ghosh 31yrs, we got love marriage 6 yrs ago. But our marriage life no good as common husband and wife relationship. She is not frank. We have distance in relationship though we are CHRISTIAN. Most of the time she is ill and not done any work of home. I am working a private hospital. We are not free each other. We are no good relationship most of the time she ignore me for relationship and want avoid me. We have no family life as common in marriage life. Most of the time she want to spend with her friends and relative and TV. Before our marriage she badly affect by DEMONIC power. Much time she wants divorce me. But I am not clear what the reason for divorce is? She told me She love someone before our marriage. But most interesting for me that she meet with Him one. Now she feels adultery for our relation. Our relationship is not like common husband wife according to her. She feels SIN in our relationship. Now she lodges a divorce file.

Please tell me I am wrong or right or else her. What I am doing right now. Please help me in JESUS NAME AMEN?.(Kolkata,india)


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Sanjib Pore, Lord Bless You! You are in a difficult position. Your wife is suffering emotionally and it is apparent that she has a lot of unresolved baggage. It is really tuggging at her heart!

Your task before you may not be easy but worth it. However you can overcome this as you build a stronger relationship with the Lord. You must stay close to the Lord and seek His guidance. As her husband you must try to stand strong and be patient with her. Patience is a part of Love. Treat her with gentleness and kindness. When the moment arises share with her how you love her and want to work through this difficult time with her. Set some time aside where the two of you can talk and really listen to her with your heart. Feel her hurt and pain allow the Lord to lead you in the moment to reach out to her in love. Try to not place too many demands on her. Hug her when you can to let her know that you care. Let her know that you want to move forward in your marriage...

Read some of the previous situations before you here. Pray this prayer or your own personal prayer in your words!

Begin praying for your wife as well whenever she comes to mind! You are not alone and your sincere efforts to build a stronger marriage will not go unnoticed by the Lord! So BE ENCOURAGED! Please let us know how you are doing after you have begun to work your plan of restoration. Be pstient with yourself as well, take Care! Lord Bless You!


tandy 2 years ago

i also need prayer to restore my marriage.my husband wants out and i have tried everything but he always says his love for me have died been married for only 1and7mnths.he has totally changed to someone i don't know..i need prayers


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Tandy, Father God I ask that You draw Tandy closer to YoU! Lord God allow her to feel Your Presence and fill the void that she is feeling. Lord, God allow the Fruit of Your Spirit to manifest each day in her life as she submits to Your WILL & Your WAY! Tandy there is nothing more POWERFUL than GOD! Remember "GOD IS LOVE!" Read the experiences of those who have come before you here... Lord Bless You! Pray for your husband whenever he comes to mind! Stay close to the Lord and work on becoming the "Best You!" Spend time each day in the Lord's Word and Embrace it's principles. Allow the Light of the Lord to flow through You knowing "HIS WORD is a LAMP unto your feet and a LIGHT unto your path!" TRUST GOD!


Sharon 2 years ago

I would like to ask if you would pray for my marriage restoration. My husband left our kids and I Sept. 2012 for another woman. He left her March. 2013. He tells me hes not coming back that he doesn't love me and never did. He live 4 house from us and we see each other every day. He has now been coming down every night and plays on the xbox with our son sometimes he even has dinner with us . Even if I dont ask him he will just go and get some. I know God I warking in our lifes and that he will come home his words are only words of the devil. He went to the christmas contata with us and he loved it. I will keep standing for our marriage. He does'nt go out much at all maybe ones every few monthes. but when he does it like he looks for every reason to be mad at me. He gets so nasty and hateful and wont look and me. I need streath, hope and understanding. My love for him is stronger than ever. And I think God with out all of this I would not be where I am with him . Thank you and God bless.


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Sharon, Your husband is very insecure and unable to make a serious commitment. You must establish some healthier boundaries for him when visiting with the children. I suggest giving him a schedule of visits that are convenient for you. Set some time aside and have a discussion with him let him know how you are feeling. He will continue to do what he has been doing since there are no consequences. Ask a relative or good friend to come by and visit with you when he is there. This will help him realize that he cannot just come by at any time. Right now he has many of the privileges of marriage without the responsibilities. No doubt his actions display that he is conflicted. Know that this situation is also be a bit confusing for your children. Allow this to motivate you to bring more consistency to their lives. Respect is an important part of a marriage. There is no need for him to change if he can just come and go as he pleases.

Father God I pray that you give Sharon the insight, strength and courage to make some changes. I pray that she will cling closer to You and seek You daily for direction. Help her Father God to respond in a way that pleases You whenever she encounters her husband. Lord through You all things are possible. We thank You for Your loving presence and Your Holy Spirit. Lord may Your will be done in her life in Jesus Name!


Mauricio Whitley 2 years ago

Please pray for reconcilation between me and my wife. We have been seperated for three months and she is now.beginning.to see another man. She tells me God had sent her to him and I don't believe that. I want to make things work with her and I love her so much. I cry at night when she goes to see him and I can't sleep. I miss our little play trash talk moments, our tickle wars, and our night's when we just cuddle up to each other and watch movies together. I hurt this woman first and I now fear that there is nothing I can do for her to change her mind. I love her so much and am willi.g to go to the ends.of.the earth for her. Please help me


Angel 2 years ago

Deborrah, please pray for my husband and I. He has filed for divorce and I have filed for a protective order; many outside influences has enabled and encouraged his hardened heart towards me...and now mine towards him. Please pray that The Lord give me strength and delivers his will towards our marriage, I can't help but think if The Lord had not intended for us to be together...he wouldn't have brought us together; on the other hand I can't help but to think, maybe his will is for our marriage to be over...I'm so confused...please pray for us. Thank you.


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Maurico Whitley, It is unfortunate that your is wife involved in an affair? No doubt she is hurting and this has caused her to seek another man for comfort. Set some time aside to calmly talk to your wife about your marriage . If she is not willing to talk then I suggest you write her a letter and explain how you feel and your desire to reconcile. Choose your words carefully. Read it over before you give it to her. Remember this is to let her know how you feel. Each day work on improving yourself and pray for your wife as she comes to mind. You do not have to go to the “ends of the earth” but you must learn to be patient and take responsibility for your actions. Since you admit you have hurt her she needs to see that you are changing. This will get her attention she will sense your sincerity. You are not alone, Be encouraged God is just a prayer away! Lord Bless You!


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Angel, Oh my, this is an unfortunate situation. Emotional & physical pain has become a part of your marriage therefore the distance is warranted for now. When communication between husband and wife are not productive it allows much to come between you. Take this time to really think things through. Please do not be impulsive here which is easy to do when “confused.” I repeat; Take some time to think things through and then make a plan and get busy. You must pray for your husband and seek the Lord’s direction daily. You cannot change what has happened but you can begin to work on you. You must begin the process of resolving your personal inner conflict and the dealing with the emotional pain you have inflicted upon another... Restoration is possible but it takes hard work and dedication. Until one or both or you are ready to humble yourself and admit wrong the distance helps to prevent further damage. Whenever you encounter your husband you must begin to respond differently. More of the same will not change things. Communicate to him that you want to work things out. I suggest seeking a Christian Counselor and writing your husband a letter sharing your desire to possibly reconcile your differences. In the meantime you continue to work on you! This will be necessary if you remain in the marriage or divorce. Otherwise the residual baggage remains with both of you. Lord Bless You!


Jen 2 years ago

Deborah, I see how God uses you so much and how He has given you so much wisdom. May He continue to use you and bless you! I have a lot of issues with my husband but God once restored my marriage in the past and now the past is hunting us back again. About 4 years ago my husband was abusing alcohol and drugs and being unfaithful to me. I was always praying for him and all those issues until one day things got out of hand And I had no choice after praying, fasting and asking him to go to counseling but to put a restraining order due to things he was saying and doing in front of our two children. After that and being separating due to the court order my children and family assured me that he had changed which it was true and he accepted Jesus and he asked for forgiveness which I did and accepted him back. Things were fine but recently we started fighting again and even though he is a changed man and never went back to his old ways of addictions, he mentioned due to an argument that I recognized I have fault in that he couldn't believe that I kicked out of the house and how I never gave him sex, etc, etc. The truth is that I have problems with sex and it always have been painful and difficult for me and I lack interest in it! The past came back in a conversation and he told me that he shouldn't have never return and can't seen to forgive or understand why I put a restraining order but at that time he had made comments that I felt put my life in danger but I was told by him that the lack of sexual relationship and the fact that I couldn't fully trust him to travel for his job and how he felt we were room mates had led him to make the decision to leave me. I recognize that I have a lot of faults due to my sexual problems and lack of interest and sarcastic comments and feel that he has the right to have a normal relationship I can't seem to give him but feel bad for my children to have to go through this again. Please help me on how to pray as he says that there are too many other issues holding back and I kind of feel that I don't want to hold him back but had always tried to be a Godly and praying wife.


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Jen,

It is wonderful that you and your husband were able to get back together. It is a blessing that your husband has not returned to his addictions as well. Marriage is a spiritual union were “two can become one.” Sexual intercourse is a part of marriage where husband and wife can come together and be physically, spiritually and emotionally one.

You have mentioned that you have some “problems with sex.” I suggest you talk to your doctor and let him or her know that you are having some difficulties in this area. They can recommend some things that you can do to help you prepare yourself to begin having mutually satisfying sex with your husband that can relieve the discomfort. If there is a physical issue that needs to be addressed they can help you with that as well.

There is some unforgiveness that needs to be resolved as well that will hinder you being unable to relax emotionally and not be so tense as well. This also attributes to your lack of desire and or possibly your hormone levels may be low, in either case your doctor would be must helpful. Remember a good doctor understands and knows how bodies function physically no need to be ashamed.

You and your husband have been through a lot and have managed through some difficulties. That same perseverance can get you two through this. Set some time aside when you can talk to your husband openly, calmly and honestly about how you are feeling. (No sarcasm allowed please) Let him know that you need him to listen and freely share how difficult this has been for you. Say to him this is how “you feel.” Use "I feel" Let him know what your desires are and speak your heart; then allow him to respond. Clear the fog that continues to hover and hinder your marriage. What has happened cannot be undone but you can move forward building a better stronger than ever marriage… Yes it will take more hard work

Know that sincere prayer goes a long way and God can heal the hurts that have hindered the two of you from coming together. The lack of sexual intercourse forbids the two of you joining yourself together in Holy Matrimony. This time of intimate sex is your time to fully express yourself to one another. God knows your heart and of course He knows exactly where you are… Ponder on the Word!

“each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to the wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife body does not belong to her alone but to her husband. In the same way the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to the wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for at time…” I Corinthians 7. If you read on you will find that this is a command. Although a command it is not meant to be a grievous, brutal command but assures us that it is a valid desire because the marital bed is honorable in the sight of God! Yes the Lord can help you find your way to a satisfying sexual relationship. Be Encouraged! I Pray that this is helpful! Lord Bless Both of you!


Bella 2 years ago

My husband and I have been married 5 years and together for 8, however he has moved out of our home and rents a place. He has been gone for the past 8 months and I cant believe that he would have done this to me being all of what I've done for him and with him. He is with someone else that I've learned and has been for he past 5 years or maybe more. He has also cheated several times and I've forgave him but its like he has a lot of anger and hate for me and no matter what I do its like he don't seems to see that I actually love him. Anyway I'm a Christian and I too need a Special Prayer and I'm asking you to please Pray for us.


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Bella, Your husband has a problem with loyalty & commitment! Use this time to draw closer to the Lord and develop your own personal intimate relationship with Him. Focus on building a stronger future with the help of the Lord. Pray for your husband whenever he comes to mind. Ask the Lord to help you give up an resentment towards him.

It is possible to build a better marriage but your husband must make some changes first as well as yourself. Do not compromise godly principles to be accepted. Becoming the best you is the best thing that you could do. Your change will be a reflection to your husband. Respect is a important part of marriage. You must first respect yourself. Spend some time each day in the presence of the Lord. Be Encouraged! The Lord will never leave nor forsake you. May His Will &Way be done in your life. Read again the Marriage Restoration Prayer. My prayers are with You! Lord Bless You!


Aurash 2 years ago

My common law wife and i are seperated.....her anger has caused courts to grant me custody of our 2 beautiful children, we have divorce in process but she and i both agree theres still a small amount of hope left in making things healthier between us, idk what to do, im broken b/c we both have been unhealthy in our relationship to each other that its toxic, im asking for prayers to bring us closer and not be angry about the past...she believes i never wanted to marry her in front of our lord, but now its gettin hard and i wanna show her that lil glimpse of hope is a reason we can still hang onto to work for what we both wanted......i dont wanna throw away ten years when theres still hope, i pray we can both be healthier and better for each other.....im lost, confused, not sure whats the best move to make......her heart and mind battle for power, i pray that things between us can get better to work for that real marriage we both have wanted, and never attempted in faith......


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Aurash, When you are angry is not a good time to make life changing decisions. You need to allow your wife some time to cool down. Set your pride aside for a moment. Then you need to apologize to her for not helping her feel more secure in the marriage. Your two beautfiul children need two dedicated parents who are willing to work together to build a healthier HOME environment for them rather than a battlefield. When your wife & children come to mind lift them up in PRAYER!

You have it in your power through the help of the LORD to make changes. You just have to be willing to exercise some self control. Write your wife a letter (for your eyes only) and tell her how angry you are then tear it up! This gets some of the anger out. Ponder upon it a moment then commit to move forward. Your wife may not readily be onboard because you need to show her that she can expect something different. Not just in words but by your actions. You must be patient with her and your children. You must TRUST GOD to help you. You must be sincere and strong. Remember how it was when you came together and work on recapturing some of those lovely moments and bulding more of them.

There is much spiritual warfare to break apart marriages and families today. But anything worth having is worth fighting for but not with carnal methods. Ask your wife to give you some time and give your marriage another chance. Keep in mind that The Lord is with you every step of the way. You just have to be willing to do things HIS WAY! You must begin to walk by FAITH! & TRUST GOD! Then begin to make it right...

Having A BEAUTTFUL marriage commitment ceremony is something you both could work towards looking forward to together as you begin again... Lord Bless You! & Your family.


Aurash 2 years ago

THANK YOU for your kind words.....its been almost 2 months since she has been gone.....but the past 2 weeks we have been really communicating what she wanted and what i didnt give....she has been there to support me in my careers as an artist, a pro fighter and now a teacher, and a blue collar worker....i understand i carried my pride and ego from my fight career into my relationship, and everyday i do pray and seems like HE is truly listening and bringing us to that point to where shes asking me to give her the same love and support she has shown me these 10 yrs....i pray HE can help out with the things i cannot understand let alone change.....she asked me an hour before ur post to make her life worth while as shes made mine.....but thats where im stuck....b/c all these years she gave me her heart and soul, and when i was able to give it, i kept it to myself..... i was selfish b/c of a mentality ive had instilled in me.....i pray the lord can help me set aside my pride, my ego, and let HIM guide me to the way to make her life worth while, during our seperation her father passed on and i was not allowed to go to the funeral, and with all those emotions of court, her father passing, and her losing a beautiful home we both built these past 5 yrs.....HE is slowly bringing and givin us the hope that we can have it better..... i just pray that it gets better before it gets worse.....again thank you


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Aurash, I suggest that you openly and transparently share with your wife! You well stated that; "i was selfish b/c of a mentality ive had instilled in me..." That is a great revelation to accept. Apologize and sincerely let her know that you want to change.

You cannot change what has happened! You say you want the chance to make things right therefore you must demonstrate this by changing your actions! The LORD CAN HELP you! The discipline you acquired to train as a pro fighter can come in handy. You must use love, care & patience to win her back. You cannot control her actions but you can control yours. You may have to sit in the corner a moment or two and allow her to emotionally attack you in order for her to release her hurt & pain. Then seize the moment to gently hold her and allow her to feel sincere comfort.

You must make it a goal to start fresh making a new and better home environment working together. It may not be easy but worth it. This is one of the most important battles in you life. Commit to Stay encouraged and remember GOD is just a prayer away. Do it GOD'S WAY & you will have the VICTORY! Lord Bless both of you! Remember no matter what CAN GOD works MiRACLES!

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