Pursuing the Bad Boy

There is a saying that good girls always like the bad boys. The bad boy is the one who is good looking and really does not know how to treat a girl but for some reason girls keep going back for more no matter how horrible this guy treats her. What is it about this bad boy that girls keep going back to?

Some girls feel that they could be the one to make the bad boy settle down. They feel that they could be the one to change the bad boy's ways. The truth of the matter is that they cannot. If someone does not want to change no one can make them. The only way someone can change is if they want to change. You can do everything and anything in your power but if they do not have the will power to be good and to be true to you they will keep on being a bad boy.

Why would you even want a guy who does not want to commit to you? I mean if you are looking for fun that is one thing. If you are looking for a serious commitment why do you keep going to a guy who wants variety and only sees you as a booty call? The more you keep going back to him the more you are going to have your heart broken. This guy is not going to call you every night like you deserve. He is not that type of guy. So go out there and find a guy who is looking for commitment because they are out there.

If he has a past why do you even want to go down that road? Do you know the consequences there are? Bad boys are nothing but trouble. They go nowhere in life and they are the types of guys who have been in and out of jail more than someone changes a pair of shoes. You cannot have a nice house with them because they blow all their money on things that they really should not be getting involved in and you should not be getting involved with this type of guy either.

You need a favor and he will only do it if sex is involved why do you care about this guy? A guy who truley cares about you wants to be there for you. He will help you when you need it and not ask for sex. Of course all guys wants sex and they will think of that but a good guy will do you a favor even when you say no.

Have you ever chased the bad boy before?

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He lies. Why do you want to be with a guy who lies to you? Honesty is one of the most important part of a relationship. If a guy is lying to you about something small who knows what else he is lying about? You cannot trust this guy and you should not be in a relationship with a guy that you cannot trust.

You cannot trust a bad boy. He lies and he cheats. He needs variety. He is not the type of guy who is happy and content with one girl. He will cause you stress more than make you happy. Do you really want that type of guy in your life?

This guy will make you upset because he will throw you away whenever he wants and then comes back whenever he wants. To him a relationship is all about game playing and all he will do is break your heart. You deserve better. Do you really want a guy who is making you cry all the time?

Ditch the bad boy and go for the sweet shy guy. The sweet shy guy are the ones that make the best boyfriends and down the road husbands and fathers. They are the ones that will be by yours side through thick and thin. They will be there fore you when you have a bad day and wipe away your tears because they care about you. They are out there. So stop wasting time on the guy who does not treat you right and go find the guy who wants you and only you.

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dashingscorpio 15 months ago

"We adore those who ignore us and ignore those who adore us."

That seems to be the motto for women who are going through a "bad boy" phase. This leaves many "nice guys" dumbfounded.

I've said you can stick such a woman like this in a room with five guys where four of them are down on their knees extending their heart out towards her while the "5th guy" sits in a corner sipping on a cocktail acting as if she does not exist. That's the guy she'll want to get to know!

He's seen as a "challenge" or a "mystery". He'll make her earn his attention and affection. If she knows other women want him that just makes him more valuable! There's nothing like competition to make a woman go all out to (win) a man's heart. Simply watch "The Bachelor" TV show.

While the bad boy's confidence and arrogance are viewed as "cool" or "sexy" the nice guy's honesty, loyalty, and dependability are seen as "boring" and "predictable". A "bad boy" makes a girl's heart beat faster and a "nice guy" puts her to sleep. Nice guys get put in the "Friend Zone".

Eventually most women outgrow their "bad boy" phase after a series of heartaches and disappointments. They settle for a "nice guy".

Thus the old adage: "Nice guys finish last." often applies in real life.

Ironically "nice guys" always want the "cheerleader" or "hot girl" instead of the "nice girl". Sherry Argov wrote a bestselling book titled:

"Why Men Love Bitches"

Apparently it's not just women who pursue relationships with people who are toxic for their well being. They mistake "drama" for "passion" and love.

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