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Knowledge is power

Abuses of any type can lead to long term post traumatic stress syndrome.

Is topic "censorship" really warranted or necessary in our modern day society?

We must never try to shield the truth from our children. Learning the truth about physical assaults could very well protect a child, or an adult, from future episodes.

This is an emotional story about physical assaults on women, physical abuse, rape, attempted rape, and the emotional scars that the victims never fully recover from.

It is also a commentary regarding the recent assaults on women's rights by the "conservative" radical right wing faction in this country in their absurd attempt to (save money? or simply to "mandate morality" ? or perhaps to protect the bullies and rapists that they identify with).

This ongoing onslaught of assaults by politicians, and public insults to women, and minority groups, will do nothing but enhance their trauma, by forcing them to NOT report these assaults, and returning to back room clothes hanger 'closet abortions'.

Continuing to censure the truth will further denigrate the status of women by forcing them to:

endure pregnancies that are emotionally scarring,

forcing them to endure unnecessary medical procedures,

to endure endless emotional abuse by subjecting them to badgering from religious "counselors" ,

and unnecessary auditing by Internal Revenue Service.

(these are all proposed legislature by the conservative right wing bigots in American politics today)

These proposals are reprehensible at best. (badgering: to harass and annoy persistently). (oddly enough Wisconsin is known and the 'badger' state headed by a tea party bigot). It is equivalent to being abused over and over again without any vindication.

A case study

The following is an email i received from a friend of mine after hearing the news about the 'big wig' from I.M.F. recently arrested for rape. It certainly hit home, and sparked this email to me.

[It is being published here with permission from the writer]:

To: (d.william)
Sometimes people make me sick! Everyday I open the news at A.O.L. Today I see the headlines about the maid who was raped by the big wig some people are saying that she is trying a scam. How do they know this, until it has happened to them? They need to shut their traps!!
33 years ago I was attacked and almost raped by a so called friend , a university professor, a Dr. of Science.
I was a nobody, I dared not tell anyone for I felt they would not believe me, and the situation was of such where he picked me up and took me to his house! I was supposed to have dinner with him and his wife. His wife had left to go to another Island that day and would not be returning until the day after we were supposed to meet and have dinner, this professor failed to cancel the dinner that all 3 of us were supposed to have at their house. He picked me up and took and exited me to his house to supposedly meet his wife as per our (his wife and my conversation).
when I got to the house, and excitedly stepped inside from the threshold I could see that the table was only set for 2. I asked what was going on he then closed and locked the door and told me how much he had wanted me for years and know that I would not come to dinner if I knew that his wife was not going to be there. Of course I went berserk and asked him to take me back to town, (the house was way off the beaten track up into the mountains where the well-to-do live in the Islands at that time). For a few minutes I just stood there in a daze not believing what was transpiring. This is a man I had known and spoken to for about 3 years and we had no mention of sex or love etc in our conversations. we had attended concerts and other such functions in groups and on occasions walked back to our dorms together when the others when partying. He knew that I was married and had no interest in another relationship. I gathered from his conversations that he was happily engaged (married).
When he grabbed me and threw me on the couch at the same time trying to remove my underwear, It finally dawned on me what was about to happen. In an effort to get free I bit him. As he released me crying out in pain I jumped up grabbed the edge of the tablecloth and pulled spilling the food all over. Then I jumped up and ran to the television and knocked it over and grabbed something, I cannot remember what, and tried to break the glass door, all the time I was doing this he kept trying to get hold of me as I quickly eluded his grasp I kept saying tell your wife how this got broken, tell your wife how this got broken.
He finally gave up and took me back down the mountains.
I was so scared that I started to vomit and just could not stop.
To this day I thank God that he was at least not a killer.
At the time this happened I was working for a government agency that dealt with social work cases, because he was a Doctor of the social sciences, he would call the office at least once a month, and at least once a month when I picked up the phone and heard his voice I would drop the phone run to the bathroom and puke my retched guts out.
At that time I loved Arby's and when I visited the Island that this incident occurred on I would always duck into Arby's and have a sandwich. Then one day I was walking by about to go into Arby's, and there he was eating at a table in Arby's!. Three years later, I started to vomit as the whole horrible incident washed over me just like it had just happened! Needless to say I have not eaten at Arby's for 33 years!
Of course that was the real beginning of my failing marriage, as each time my husband touched me I would panic and I would get this reaction like I was having an asthma attack, and my skin would feel like spiders were crawling all over me.
After the divorce I did speak to some one , who did not know this professor. But, the horror still lingers.

(end of email - signature omitted for obvious reasons)

The never ending aftermath

When something like this happens to a friend of ours, this feeling of complete helplessness is so overwhelming it is almost unbearable.

It is also unimaginable that any woman, man, or child must ever endure such trauma in their lives.

There is so much of this evil going on in the world today. It is also extremely disheartening that any government party would ever even consider adding to this horrible trauma by denigrating this horror, and adding to it by attempting to pass laws that would make rape in any way acceptable, tolerated, or in anyway rewarded, in a 'civilized' society.

The only people who benefit from these ludicrous laws are the insurance companies, and the idiotic moralistic religious zealots who have no concept of what 'reality' really is, in any sense of that word.

by: d.william

"Rape" defined for the politicians, and the religious zealots who think it is always the woman's fault

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Stump Parrish 5 years ago from Don't have a clue, I'm lost.

I for one know the emotional scars that never seem to heal. 35+ years later and I am for the first time trying to deal with them. It's still touch and go and yet I cannot and will not stop what I am attempting to do for myself. It never ceases to amaze me what the right considers to be the correct course of action. They are more than willing to throw the majority of this country under the bus in order to cut some spending they see as unneeded. The largest drains on our ecomony never get discussed by them. If it is good for a faceless corporate entity it is good for the country. If it benefits the individual American, they want no part of it and will fight to see it destroyed. A trillion here and a trillion there to support the corporations profitting from war are what this country really needs. Helping the indiviual who has worked all their life and is still forced to rely on medicare for helth benefits must be stopped. Sadly they refuse to admit that one of the biggest problems with medicare is the abuses by the large drug companies they support. Not one to wish harm to another I am still curious as to how their story would change if they became the victim.


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d.william 5 years ago from Somewhere in the south Author

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Thank you so much for reading and your honest comments. I am so sorry you had first hand knowledge of the subject of this article. No-one should have to endure these things as a child, or as an adult. It certainly does leave scars on the psyche for life. The best we can do is understand and accept the fact that the victims of any type of abuse have no part in the guilt or shame of it, and self exoneration is a major part of healing that must be achieved in order to move past the pain, and the shame, of it.

For our own government to give credence to the perpetrators by putting women in these precarious positions under the law is in itself one of the most dastardly things i have ever seen in my life time.

There is no excuse for it, under any circumstance, and it is certainly shameful, and inexcusable, for any politician to even consider these laws just to appease their benefactors.


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Jillian Barclay 5 years ago from California, USA

Dear d.william,

This was very difficult to read, but important. A psychopath who rapes should be punished. Every rape should be reported. Yet, at the same time I understand those who are unwilling to report simply because our society requires that they be abused again. It is horrible!

And when our elected, male legislators act to pass legislation that victimizes women, they may not have committed the physical act of rape, but they become just as guilty.

Our Congress should be ashamed! Their recent actions are disgusting! Women are NOT their property! Let them legislate their own bodies, their own body parts, not mine. As a woman, I have the exclusive right over my body and I have the right and ability to think for myself. My body is mine, not the property of Congress!

They are just as guilty as the rapist!


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Credence2 5 years ago from Florida (Space Coast)

D, yes the ominous trend is that we appear to be moving backwards in how we deal with this issue. We have several GOP tea party candidates advocating that women must be made to carry to term pregnancies even after rape and incest. Women are to be no more than biological incubators. The "right" has yet to explain how they are going to control a woman's reporductive rights without impinging on her other rights as a citizen and human being. But thats the rub, isn't it? Lemons to lemonade.

This recent IMF scandal reveals the difference between American and French society. It was always acknowledged at winked at when French leaders are accused of moral turpitude in this way. It was expected. When Bill Clinto got caught with his pants down, they could not understand the American outrage, in their minds, it was expected and everybody did it. How could we bring down their "great man" over a little hanky panky? Well, here at times, no one is above the law and even the big shot can be brought down. The French would have been more than happy if this had been swept under the rug. But this fellow is a creep and there is too much light on him now to hide him, so he had to go. Thanks again D. Cred2


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Chatkath 5 years ago from California

Good job covering this unfortunate topic d. - many do learn to cope but rape victims are truly changed forever in many ways and I think the only way to survive such an event is to focus on personal growth and become an advocate for this still misunderstood, tragic cause and its victims. Thanks for sharing.


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Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain

my heart goes out to anyone who has been raped.

It happened to 2 of my friends under completely different circumstances, but both were horrendous.

l can still see the emotional scars on my friends many, many years later.

Thanks for bringing this subject up. Great hub.


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d.william 5 years ago from Somewhere in the south Author

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Thank you so much for reading and commenting. As a male i agree with you 100%. The recent governmental development demeaning women is an atrocity and those politicians should be hanging their heads in shame.

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Excellent comments. Thank you. Personally i hope they throw that old fart in the brig and lose the key. Another American shame. If there had not been forensic evidence proving he did this dastardly deed, he too would have simply bought his way out of court and out of jail. Frankly, putting those offenders in jail is not quite justice enough for me. They should be castrated, and dis-membered, if you get my drift.

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Now we must somehow overturn those radical laws that blame and punish the woman who has been raped, or barely escaped it. This is certainly double jeopardy for them and helps the abuser get away with it, by making women more reluctant to report the abuse. And those female politicians that are backing these atrocities against women, are NOT human women in my opinion, they are animals that should have to experience the very thing that they are punishing to know what in hell they are doing to others. The majority of blame goes onto the religions who firstly taught those old farts, as children, the evils of their religious beliefs, and secondly blame the politicians who are taking this ludicrous religious teaching to their jobs with them. Mandating morality has always been one of my greatest fears for humanity.

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Sorry to hear about your friends having to bear those emotional scars. I had lunch with a dear friend of mine yesterday and we talked about this article, and she (in her 70's), shocked me by telling me that she had 3 episodes in her life time of near rape in her younger years, and still has nightmares about those incidents.


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Spirit Whisperer 5 years ago from Isle of Man

A large part of what I do is treat people with PTSD and many of these are women who were the victims of rape. These women can be helped and they need to know that they do not need to spend their lives punishing themselves for something that was never their fault. The sad part is that most women never report the rape and many of them suffer the aftermath in silence. Thank you for sharing this very important hub.


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d.william 5 years ago from Somewhere in the south Author

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Thank you for reading and commenting. I sometimes wish i could reach all the abused innocents out in the world and tell them just that - it is not YOUR fault. But, on the other hand, if you believe in Karma, then perhaps it is nothing more than the cross they must carry for retribution for past wrongs. Even at that, with the knowledge of that Karmic possibility, the suffering, and self punishment should be negated by self forgiveness, would you not think so?


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Spirit Whisperer 5 years ago from Isle of Man

Yes, d.william I hear you but we must do our duty without judgement. It is not our place to say why a person suffers it is our place to serve and give love without distinction. I treat both the victim and perpetrator and the only reason I can do this is because I do not judge. Self forgiveness is the goal but when a soldier lies dying in agony on a battlefield do you say, "well you must have done something wrong in a past life" or do you get on with doing what you can to help? Forgiveness is not something people do naturally, it is something we must learn to do and that is the challenge.


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d.william 5 years ago from Somewhere in the south Author

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Point taken. my apologies for the seeming insensitivity. Though it was intended as more of a supposition than a judgement. I appreciate your pointing out how that comment must have sounded.


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Spirit Whisperer 5 years ago from Isle of Man

You are a very kind soul and there is no need to ever apologise to me.


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AngelaKaelin 5 years ago from New York

This is probably the most common violent crime in the U.S. And, if you talk about fighting back, you're immediately beaten down by other people. I am shocked that that this hub was filtered... It's a terrible crime because you can't even tell anyone about it without having to apologize for the language you have to use!

Voting you up - despite the censors.


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d.william 5 years ago from Somewhere in the south Author

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Thank you so much for reading and commenting. The way the republican party is attacking women in this country is atrocious. I cannot believe that even though they are staunch republicans, the female politicians are blindly backing their party, at the expense of all female rights in this country. And now we are being censored even in our speaking out about this abuse.

I will never apologize to the bigots who censure.


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AngelaKaelin 5 years ago from New York

I worked in a woman dominated business for years and we got it from both sides - right and left, dems and repubs. One is just as bad as the other. They both hate women and don't want us to be able to earn a living. But, some Republican decided to put forth some legislation in which rape victims would be called "accusers" or "rape accusers". I don't know if the legislation passed, but you will see this new term in ALL of the headlines about sexual assault now. If you want to prove this to yourself pop the term "rape accuser" in Google and you will see all of the results are from the past few months in 2011.

I'm also angry with the people who tell women not to defend themselves. If you can fight - if a 300 pound man isn't crushing your windpipe or he hasn't completely overwhelmed you from behind - you should fight. If you have a gun, you should use it. If he has a gun and you can get it away from him, you should try. I have been in all of these situations. But, I am not a T.V. "expert. I really believe there are a lot of perverts in this world - many in positions of perceived authority (I've been attacked by cops on 3 different occasions and fled an apartment, a job and a life because of a cop stalker). You have to be prepared at all times, which is, of course, impossible!

I wrote a little book of revenge spells for crime victims called "Black Magic for Dark Times" - I don't think there's another book with this concept and I've had to put up with a lot of comments from idiots since I published it. I believe the only way to stop rapists and serial killers is to actually stop them one at a time. Unfortunately, if you live to tell what happened to you, you frequently cannot identify the perpetrator. Uniformed perpetrators usually hide their identity from you. This book is for helping victims cope. At least, a couple of the criminal perverts in my past are prematurely dead of natural causes - this means they are no longer "public servants" in a position to beat, strangle, terrorize, rape and abuse people, anymore. It works on the same principles I give in my book, "Magical Healing." I suggest survivors channel their focused rage in a manner that leads to a constructive end.

I do not believe in karma (karma is just another way to blame the victim so other people can feel superior and good about themselves while doing nothing), but I believe in evil because I've seen it and experienced it. When "good" people enable rapists they are no better. I damn them all to Hell. I guess this is why I have no friends... but, I don't care.


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d.william 5 years ago from Somewhere in the south Author

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WOW. Powerful stuff. Well, you now have one friend - me. I agree with everything you said above. Where can i get your book? I know a few of those bastards that got away with their shit, and i would love to throw a spell or two on them as well.

It IS true that both parties are guilty of denigrating women, but it is currently the tea party republicans that are trying to totally take away all rights of choice, and recourse against their attackers. This is so shameful, on every level of decency.


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AngelaKaelin 5 years ago from New York

Yes, the Republicans are an open rampage right now. And, they have the cultists of the religious right as their army of devils.

Both are bad because they're all about controlling women - and children, which might be their ultimate goal. I'm not sure.

"Black Magic for Dark Times: Spells of Revenge and Protection" is at Amazon's Kindle Store. It really works nicely with "Magical Healing" (also, at the Kindle store). Casting successful spells is a little like bending a spoon with your mind... if you're familiar with spoon bending parties. First, you break down that subconscious wall of disbelief that you probably have (It's a mind program we all have that says, "It can't be possible!" to anything we perceive as contrary to the world as we've been led by the controllers to believe it is.), you can do a lot of amazing things. The way that you resonate with energy and use your mind to heal a body is exactly the same way you use it to harm a body. And, the same concepts are used in spell work.


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Ingenira 5 years ago

Thanks for sharing, d.william. My heart goes out to the raped victims.

I wonder how the professor turned out in the end. He could have gotten into huge problem with his action.

The story just proved that no matter how noble a person may seem to be, there could be an ugly side of him. Women need to be careful - don't judge a book by its cover.


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d.william 5 years ago from Somewhere in the south Author

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Thank you so much for reading and commenting. Let's hope he gets what is coming to him, as anyone else who tries the same thing.

And sadly enough, hub pages (google adsense) has deemed this article unfit for advertising due to is content. This is certainly a sad commentary about where Google stands on social issues. They are avid backers of the right wing fanatics, as well as most of the huge corporations in this country. They have little regard for individual rights and freedoms as long as they are protected from paying taxes, and pocketing their huge profits.


Judy 2 years ago

I was molested by my father for years at a very young age. I thought sex was love. Rape on my first car date. Then gang raped in Edinburg. I am so emotionally scarred. I am afraid I think the wrong thing at the wrong time and God's going to condemn me, but that's a lie from the devil/ God Love Me. I was so naïve when it came to men and walk into so may bad situations. And they all got always from it. I grew up thinking sex is love. But I finally met the right man and found out different. And a course these men got always with it while I suffer. I think it is ashamed how our government treats rape victims. But yet I don't believe in abortion. I thought I was pregnant. I was planning to carry the baby and adopt it out. But I was not. Thank goodness.


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d.william 2 years ago from Somewhere in the south Author

Judy: thank you so much for reading and leaving your comments. My apologies for not replying sooner, but i have been sick and have not been keeping up with things on H.P.

I am so sorry to hear about your terrible experiences. It is a crime that these offenders are treated so lightly when they should be punished more severely. It is little wonder that women (and young girls, and some men) are forced to suffer in silence, without counseling when they are made to feel that our justice system tends to blame the victims more than the criminals themselves.

I am happy that you found someone and are able to put all the negativity in the past where it belongs. Rape victims are NEVER to blame no matter what the circumstances. Forcing anyone to do anything against their will is traumatic enough, and we can only hope that the perpetrators will get paid back in some way, some day.

God Bless.

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