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Facing rejection is difficult

To be rejected is to be hard pressed.

Are you having difficulty because of rejection? Dealing with rejection in life, especially by those close to you can cause instability in marriages, friendships, and self-confidence.

It's disheartening and immoral to see someone being intimidated and afraid because of rejection.

Being rejected by family, friends, or society causes a person to feel useless and downtrodden.

Relationships suffer from mean spirited people who mock others with ridicule. Faced with this type of insecurity isolates a person.

At some point in life, every person will taste the sting of rejection. Whether it is by a close friend, a family member, a group of individuals, fellow coworkers, or students, each of us will experience rejection.

Relationships fade away, some even die.

Some people will be misunderstood, some will be ridiculed or manipulated in order for another to achieve their desired goal.

Examples of being rejected

Rejection is a state in which negative feelings surface.

It can take on many forms and become so in grained into a person’s thoughts that they feel left out, like an outcast. Rejection causes a person to feel unloved, unwanted, and unsuitable in various ways.

Here are some examples of how or why people are rejected:

  1. Society may reject a person because of their race, religion, age, or sexual preference. Rejection happens in many ways.
  2. Cyber bullies stir up trouble by misleading others, and with cruel intentions cause hatred. In doing so, they lead others to reject friends or families. However it is not just the cyber bullies, it can be any person.
  3. To be unkind to somebody or behave in such a way that turns somebody into a state of rejection is unhealthy and unkind.
  4. Behavior that constitutes a refusal to accept someone because, in their opinion, they think they are not good enough is cruel and punishing.
  5. Writers even face writers block many times out of fear of rejection.
  6. Many types of rejection are recipes for disaster.
  7. Rejection can happen if one person is interested in another, and the emotional connection is not returned. This is when one loves but the love is unrequited.
  8. Children may feel rejected by their parents if there is an absentee parent or a parent is unable to give the unconditional love a child needs.
  9. Loss of a job or a promotion can lead to feelings of rejection.
  10. An act of betrayal can create an enormous amount of rejection, especially if the relationship was built on love and trust. This kind of betrayal can be all-consuming.

The act of rejecting someone or something can cause destruction for individual lives.

Face of rejection

Feeling Rejected? You are not alone.

Rejection on the job.

Rejected by peers or coworkers, a person feels left out.

  1. When many coworkers from a department all go out to lunch yet fail to invite one person that is rejection.
  2. When a person gets passed over for a promotion, they feel they deserve, that is rejection.
  3. Seeking employment and finding out you are unqualified or overqualified for the job that is rejection.
  4. Getting the no thank you letters for something petitioned is a part of rejection.

Rejection is a part of life but it's not something to fear.

It is going to happen to every person at some point or another. The reaction to rejection is the true nature of the beast.

Being rejected and feeling alone has an opportunity to allow a person to see things differently. Positive thoughts can produce positive actions.

Seeking revenge on someone else is not the answer. It only makes things worse.

A strong case of rejection found in bullying behavior and in a society which causes any person to feel like an outcast, may lead individuals down a long, sad path. Unable to deal with this type of rejection, some may turn to inappropriate behavior, and others to suicide.

This is not the answer. If you or someone you love are facing this type of situation, it is important to seek help from professionals. This is not the time to lay it down, it is imperative to seek guidance to get through this.

Remember you are not alone, no matter what you are facing.

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Overcoming Rejection is No Easy Task

There is a saying which states to let go and let God. It means to let go of trying to control everything yourself. Let God handle the rest.

  • When rejection stamps your heart with a sting so painful you feel like giving up, seek wise council.
  • When life throws an unexpected curve ball your way, have some faith.
  • When the problems you are facing seem insurmountable, say a little prayer.
  • When you feel defeated just look to the cross.

Jesus Christ was a man rejected. He faced persecution by his enemies and was betrayed by his friends. Jesus knew about rejection.

He became the iniquity we face each day.

Jesus walked the road of rejection carrying a cross on His back.

  • He took the cross for us so we wouldn’t have to.
  • A burden so heavy, he fell several times.
  • A rejection so powerful a crown of thorns bled over His face.
  • He knew about pain and sorrow.
  • He understood isolation.
  • He was dismissed, rebuffed, ridiculed, laughed at, mocked, and spit upon.

Yes, He faced rejection and He is still being rejected today.

He paid the very high price of rejection so we wouldn’t have to. We have been redeemed, bought and paid for by the blood of Jesus. His grace is a gift to anyone who wants it and his mercy reigns true forever.

Whenever rejection comes knocking on your door, remember Jesus on the cross.

A personal relationship with Jesus will provide you peace and contentment in the face of rejection. It is a peace which transcends all human understanding.

Take these words of encouragement with you today.

  1. You are unique and wonderfully made.
  2. There is no one like you.
  3. All your experiences, personality, and traits are a part of you and no one else can take that away from you.
  4. No personal tools of rejection will allow God to stop loving you.
  5. The message of the cross remains the same today as it did yesterday. It represents redemption, a claim no one else can take.

So the next time rejection causes you to feel unsettled, leave all your cards on the table. Pull out your chair and take a look at the cross.

Follow the truth to the cross and let go of pretending everything is alright. Facing rejection is better with someone by your side, for two are better than one.

Rejection takes its toll on your self-esteem and self-image but you don’t have to stand there alone.

Take a moment to reflect on this message.

  1. It is more than a feeling; rejection is a price that has already been paid.
  2. You are not alone.
  3. You too can overcome.
  4. Look to those who inspire you.
  5. Look to your mentors, your spiritual leaders, talk to guidance counselors, parents, friends, or professionals.
  6. Look to Christ. Ask Him to intervene.
  7. Remember the Bible verse, weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.
  8. Tomorrow is a new day. It's a day for new beginnings.
  9. Tomorrow can be better, just hang on.
  10. Keep your faith.

You are loved.

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21 comments

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Ruchira 5 years ago from United States

Great topic!

I feel that rejection is a mind game.

If the mind goes into closure by someone's rejection, nothing can help us come out of it. Sure, I agree there are feelings attached to it and in order to get us out of this feeling of rejection depends on how we talk to ourselves...


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thanks Ruchira. Rejection is a mindset I agree. The natural feelings associated with rejection are loneliness and isolation. Sometimes it is hard to face and difficult to overcome.

When all you hear are the voices of negativity surrounding you, you begin to believe it.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.


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no body 5 years ago from Rochester, New York

Wonderful hub full of hope. I need to read more of your work. Bob.


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thanks for reading Bob. Appreciate your thoughtful comments.


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stephhicks68 5 years ago from Bend, Oregon

What a beautiful hub on a difficult topic. Turning to faith to help process and accept feelings of rejection is great advice - well written and voted up.


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heart4theword 5 years ago from hub

Great hub...much hurt, does happen from being rejected. So glad we have a God who understands how we feel, especially when we are hurting.


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thanks Stephhicks, I appreciate your encouragement and kind words.

Thank you Heart4theword, glad you stopped by to share your thoughts.


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crystolite 5 years ago from Houston TX

I really agree with you,nice hub in there.thanks for sharing.


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thanks crystolite. Always appreciate your comments.


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Tamarajo 5 years ago from Southern Minnesota

I really liked your conclusion to look at Jesus. Jesus suffered the ultimate rejection. The Bible says that he entrusted Himself to the one who judges fairly.

I have never handled rejection well but it always helps me to know that if no one in the world accepted me I would be ok because God accepts me through His son.

Useful advice for how to handle those awful feelings of rejection.


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thanks Tamarajo for your comments. I appreciate your thoughts on this. Jesus walked the ultimate path of rejection and there is nothing like it. How would we have handled it, to walk in His footsteps.

The rejections we feel are difficult but He chose the nails so we didn't have to.


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vocalcoach 5 years ago from Nashville Tn.

I enjoy your hubs so much! This article is applicable to us all as being rejected is bound to happen at one time or another. The more self-love and confidence we have, the easier it is to deal with rejection. "Love thy neighbor as thyself" - thyself being the key. We experience a greater degree of self love when we give of ourselves to others regularly. God bless you, my friend. vocalcoach.


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Thank you vocalcoach. You make me smile. Your words are kind and I appreciate your shared thoughts on this subject.


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Fluffy77 5 years ago from Enterprise, OR

Rejection, a topic I know all too well unfortunately. It was like a sign that you wrote this for me to be here and read I think. Thank you again, and I couldn't agree more with your words here on this heartbreaking topic. Excellent hubpage.


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Goodpal 5 years ago

I am still battling many issues originated in rejection and elderly dominance.

Thanks for a really insightful hub.


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Goodpal, thank you for commenting. Sorry for your pain, I hope you found some comfort here. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. Be Blessed.


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Goodpal 5 years ago

I very much appreciated your response to my comment.

The most productive years of my life were wasted battling a deceptive sadist hell bent on victimizing and exploiting my kind nature. Then, I had no idea how to handle such an abnormal and sick character and could never deal with him effectively. Years have passed but the scars still often come alive sending me into states of helplessness and worthlessness. Good company and positive thoughts do provide solid support, but still the wound does not seem to heal.

I am neither a Christian nor religious in the normal sense of the word. Can you please give me some practical tips or point to some supportive literature on this issue.

Thanks for sharing wonderful thoughts on this subject.


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FaithDream 5 years ago from (Midwest) USA Author

Goodpal, thank you for sharing and being so open to the wounds you bare.

As for anything in life, what I do is pray first. You mentioned you are not religious in some way but do you pray? I ask this because I find prayer heals all wounds. It may take time but it works.

As for any practical tips, I could recommend reading some of the hubs here.

Also visit my blog. http://faith-dream.com

I've spent a lot time healing from pain and grief over the last year. I write about it. And this helps.

Be strong, Goodpal. Keep reaching out. Write about the issues you are facing & you will find a lot of wonderful support here in the hub community. Blessings to you.


Grace 3 years ago

Dear Melanie,

Thank you for your honest sharing!

Truth: 1) God is good all the time and all the time God is good!

2) God loves you with an everlasting love!

3) Jesus love Never fails!

4) Jesus is Full of Grace and Truth! (John c1 v 14)

5) Jesus is Faithful even when we are faithless!

God does not pick or choose who should suffer because His Precious Beloved Son, Jesus Christ, has already suffered and died in our place!

Always be mindful that the human race is fallen ! Hence, any person who choose to reject you, be critical of you, does not reciprocate your love and kindness, etc... it is done solely on their own accord! Sometimes, the devil can instigate the person to do so.. but he/she has the freewill to choose whether that is right or not!

Remember God is a Good God! He is Sovereign and Merciful!

You are not alone in what you are experiencing... we call this persecution but do not take it personal and become resentful or bitter!

Let your heart be filled with Jesus' Love ,Grace and Truth!

Tell God how you feel and let His Love and Healing Grace flood your spirit and soul!

Shalom peace be upon your heart and take courage!


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Ponderize 3 years ago from California

Rejection is a tough thing to accept. Great article.

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Anonymous 21 months ago

Rejection is extremely lonely and painful, and simply knowing we're not alone is very powerful. Thanks for the post and to other commenters.

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