Relationship advice - what women want


20 Relationship advice - for men


Marriage or being in a relationship calls for a great deal of work. The fact that men are from Mars and women are from Venus has been established quiet clearly for all of us. Sometimes it is so difficult for men to think from a woman’s point of view and understand her needs. I often come across questions by men on the internet and in the real world – what is that she wants from me? Sometimes my male friends tell me it is so difficult to understand women. I decided to write what I know - to bridge the gap between Mars and Venus. Here are a few pointers to make sure that you are in sync and vibe on the same wavelength. I hope by the end of this article you are wiser than before, when it comes to handling your relationship with care.


Understanding women - Make your relationship last


Relationship advice No. 1- Pay attention to your woman


  • Do remember that when you are with a lovely lady, she needs your attention. Attention in a woman’s world could be very different from what it is in man’s point of view. Attention equals commitment in her dictionary.
  • A woman wants you to notice the physical things about her, her clothes, her make up etc. It is highly probable that she sat in front of the mirror and spent some time trying to look good for you. She may have spent a reasonable amount of money, trying to get herself a new hairdo or some beauty treatment, so open your eyes to it. Compliment her on her looks, be sincere about it.
  • A woman hates it when she has to compete with technology. Your mobile or laptop or what ever gadget you are hooked on to. It tells her that she is not as interesting or as attractive as that gadget to you.
  • When you are with her, have eyes only for her. Most women are jealous, unless they are absolutely confident about your intentions. This comes only with years of being together. You need to walk the talk, just telling her you care and you love her won’t do, show her that she is the only one who matters.
  • Woo her gently and she will yield. Force works against you. Woo her with patience and you will be greatly rewarded. Gentleness in manner and speech can enslave her heart forever.
  • Intimacy is a slow process in a woman's world. So make sure that you romance her to that point of perfect intimacy with your charm.



Relationship advice No. 2 - Communicate to save your relationship


  • Communicate. Talk to her, she expects you to talk to her. I mean communicate you emotions, not just mumble something to her. Listen to her. Do not listen with your mind on something while vaguely acknowledging what she says. Your woman knows that your mind is not with her; she has her antennas up and can easily tell if you are with her or not. She is hurt, when she knows that you are not into listening to her.
  • Take time to tell her what you did the whole day, share interesting stories and anecdotes with her and she will know that you care. Be sure to ask her how her day was; and listen, yes, listen patiently. She might get carried away; but gently bring her back to the topic.
  • Be ready to answer a lot of questions because women ask and expect detailed responses to their questions. Just muttering under your breath and replying in monosyllables can’t get you very far with your woman.


Relationship advice No. 3 – Communicate your emotions


  • Communication is a two way lane and it isn’t just about speaking and listening. A person who is able to pick out the emotions when he/she is listening is a good communicator. Women are more emotional communicators. Women find some men cold and emotionally bankrupt. Such men do not appeal to women. Have you taken the time to notice that a man who is the heart and the soul of a party is the man who can laugh and cry and emote? Being sensitive and human is what is a women is looking for in you. She does not want you to be superman; she wants you to be just her man. So make sure that you leave your dead pan face at the office and come home to her a truly sensitive human being.
  • Warmth and emotion shown appropriately will make her positively glowing towards you. A cold and abrupt manner will kill what you have. Modulation of voice and gentleness in speech is what captivates women, and you would have saved your marriage or relationship.
  • With women you need to be emotionally flexible. They can change from laughter to tears in a moment and back again in half the time. So a man has to be an emotional jogger to be able to catch up with women who are emotional creatures by nature.
  • Romance and beauty is the most important ingredient in a woman’s world. Learn to appreciate the finer things of life. If not, at least be a little indulgent. It takes a lot of give and take to get a marriage or relationship going.


Relationship advice No. 4 – Treat your woman with respect in a relationship


  • Consult her, she is your partner and likes to be treated likewise. Even if she does not know much about the subject, she will have a woman’s point of view to bring to any discussion making it balanced and complete in a way. Studies show that men think logically while women think creatively, so she could come up with the answers that you need.
  • Treat her with respect and show her that her views are important to you, and you have a partner for life.
  • Don’t tell her what you did after you have done it, she will feel greatly pleased if you would tell her of your activities. She expects openness in the relationship; men have a tendency to keep things to themselves. This would make her feel that you do not trust her enough.
  • Collaborate with her in all your undertakings as a team, and she will be your greatest supporter when you need it.


Relationship advice No. 5 – Be the man around her, don't take her for granted


  • Protect her, and be the man around her. With your gentleness make her feel that she is the queen. Take care to do it without making her feel that she is incapable of doing things for herself.
  • If she comes to you with a problem, she would be happy even if you do not help her, but just tell her that you love her and you are with her. She will find the strength and will power to handle the problem, just because she knows you care. I am serious, try it!
  • Women are more accommodative by nature. Compromise and negotiation comes to them easily, but it can backfire if the woman is the one who always has to make the compromise. Learn when to give in. Though women try hard to maintain balance and harmony, they tend to bury a lot of hurt and emotions in the process, so don’t take things for granted.
  • Give her gifts. Oh! I can see you say, “there she goes”… well, listen. I am not talking about big gifts, but small things, not expensive. Small gifts well chosen tell her that you have been thinking about her and you care enough to bring her something that she likes and just to make her happy.


20 relationship advise to make your relationship work


Take care to give more of yourself and you will receive more. Being considerate and warm and you will have a long lasting relationship. Be committed to make the marriage or relationship work, without commitment you will have nothing. Never fail to show how much you care and you are sure to have a happy relationship. Conflicts in marriages are normal, don't give up, learn some conflict resolution skills and put your relationship back on track.


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tlpoague 5 years ago from USA

Great advice. I was looking for the part of communication...my mother told me that to have a strong marriage one needs communication. I took her advice and have been married for twenty years. Great job! I gave it a vote up.


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sofs 5 years ago Author

That was fast Tipoague. No relationship can stand without good communication. Communication and commitment among other things has been the strong point of my marriage too. Thank you for the vote up, I honestly appreciate this. God Bless!


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tlpoague 5 years ago from USA

Thanks! I was trying to get caught up on some much needed reading. I didn't want people to think I was being snobby or fell off the map. I just happened to come upon yours as soon as you posted.

I have been trying to pass these skills off to my children as they were growing up. They are both in a relationship now and I see the advice paying off.

Sorry I haven't commented more. I have enjoyed reading your hubs, but haven't had much time to say much. I am looking forward to reading more as soon as I can...God Bless!


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sofs 5 years ago Author

Tipoague, I am glad that you commented so fast, and shared what you have experienced. I am sure that your children have learnt a thing or two from you.

LoL, Don't worry about not commenting.. I am also guilty of such things.. too much to do in so little time.. I appreciate this from the bottom of my heart.. Glad we had this chat... I need to visit you soon.. God Bless!!


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always exploring 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

I can relate to the no time comment, so much to read, but i did take time to read your article. You have some very good advice here. Marriage or a relationship requires effort from both. My marriage ended in divorce due to lack of communication, or determination on both sides. Thank's for sharing.

God Bless


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sofs 5 years ago Author

Ruby, thank you so much..I am truly sorry to hear about the way your marriage ended. Yes Communication is a very important element of marriage, and communication needs to find expression in words and through emotions. I have been asked these questions once too often and decided to Hub about it. I truly hope that this hub will benefit someone who needs help. Thank you Ruby for taking the time and sharing your experience. It is greatly appreciated, love and God Bless!


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Claudin_Dayo 5 years ago from Southeast Asia

I seriously gathered all my attention while reading this, as though I'm a man ^^

I certainly agree with everything in this hub specially this one: "She does not want you to be superman; she wants you to be just her man.." I just hope and pray that they too could read this awesome hub =)


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sofs 5 years ago Author

You are a breath of fresh air, Caludin. I wish too, that the men will read and understand women better. Are you sick of the macho types?? I am just guessing.. well women like macho men ..not supermen.. not those wanting to throw all their male virility at you all the time. A caring man who can emote normally is all most women ever ask for :) and you are no exception I guess.. Good luck to you Claudin and thanks for the comment.


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Claudin_Dayo 5 years ago from Southeast Asia

all I wanted for a man is that he'd be committed to the Lord and a daring one who "can emote normally " =)

thank you too for this hub.. . I'll tell my brother about this lol


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sofs 5 years ago Author

Great expectations there, and I am sure that you will find just the one that 'He' has kept waiting for you. :) I like that bit about emoting normally, don't we all want normal men. :) Thanks for recommending your bro. to read it too... hope this helps him . Best wishes to you and your brother!


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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

This topic always fascinates me - great information. Thanks for sharing your ideas.


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sofs 5 years ago Author

Fascinating topic indeed. Man has been trying to decipher woman form the time of creation I guess :)

Relationship is not just about physical attraction, but more about the ability to know, to understand, to give without ceasing, to be consumed by the love that brings people together. Maybe I should write a thesis on the subject and maybe I will still have more to say..lol. That is the quality of love.

Oh! I get carried away... thank you Acaetnna for the read and the comment :)


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Fellow Mumbaite 5 years ago from India

I liked the communication part, and believe that communication plays a major role in every relationship. Very nice hub indeed!


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TheOnlineBlogger 5 years ago from Cairo, Egypt

so true. I loved this one: "She does not want you to be superman; she wants you to be just her man".


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ahorseback 5 years ago

Sofs , When my wife and I first met I once asked her 'what do you think about '..... something important at the time , and she was kind of shocked that I asked such of her!! What to heck is wrong with so many men ? The beauty of a womans mind is only second to their physical attraciveness for a mere man as I ....Excellent hub !........Awesome


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fucsia 5 years ago

Great advice! Communication is the most important thing in a relationship and the emotions have to be accepted and shared.

Thanks for this nice Hub!


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sofs 5 years ago Author

@ Fellow Mumbaite - communication is the most important part of any relationship. I believe developing a healthy style of communication could solve a majority of the problems that arise among couples. Thanks for the read and the comment.

@The online blogger, Thank you for reading the hub and endorsing it. I used that line because as a woman that is what I think .. I want my man not a superman. :)


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sofs 5 years ago Author

ahorseback , thank you for that lovely sharing and encouragement. Only a sensitive man can understand and appreciate the beauty of a woman's mind.

Haha I always ask my husband "what are you thinking?" and before he can say anything I tell him what he is thinking.. that is something very special in our relationship. I guess it happens as we grow together ... I am glad that you have a wonderful relationship too, which we keep getting glimpses of in your poetry. I am always happy to hear from you :)


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sofs 5 years ago Author

@Fucsia.. good to see you again. Glad that you liked the hub and thanks for taking the time to read and comment. Hope all is well with you :) God Bless!


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adrienne2 5 years ago from Atlanta

Every man on the planet truly need to read this article. Sofs you are right on point with everything you spelled out here. I admit when I am with my guy I feel like there is a competition going on between me and facebook, and his texting friends. I always get the ok, ok, ok in a minute line. I haven't said anything about feeling ignored, but I know I should. Thanks for sharing, have voted up!


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sofs 5 years ago Author

Adrienne, what a great compliment,thank you! I understand how you feel... let's hope that all the men of the world would read this hub and change their attitude.. lol..maybe we are asking for too much but it will be worth the effort for the men concerned.

I appreciate your comment and sharing greatly :)


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Kulsum Mehmood 5 years ago from Nagpur, India

Very well written hub. Thanks.


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sofs 5 years ago Author

Thank you Kulsum for the comment.


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William Norman 5 years ago from Cross Plains, Texas

In the "Pay Attention" section, it is suggested to "Woo her with patience and you will be greatly rewarded." I believe that patience is a virtue, but if you spend too much time waiting before taking action, it is a surefire way to end up in the "just friends" zone.


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loulou2 5 years ago

What women is amn who know hwere he is going and she is sure to follow...for me that speaks volume about a mn. He would have all the quality at least a woman requires. A man don't need a woman to make him complete, when he is sure that he is whole, then a woman comes along to nurture what he has already got.... at least that's what I want anyway...lol... grat hub


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sofs 5 years ago Author

William Norman, You speak like a man, I speak from the heart of a woman. Don't wait forever, know your timing.. but a woman who loves you truly will never put you in the just friends zone... she would celebrate your love. That is my opinion of course, but I can honestly say I speak for most women.


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sofs 5 years ago Author

loulou2 You are right a woman will definitely go for a confident man, confident in himself, not arrogant. You are right again, you can only give what you have.. so take the man who loves you for who you are not for what you can give.. Thank you for taking the time to comment.


Andre DJ 5 years ago

Wow all good and well

But I sat with friends and family. Always listening to what they talk about. I am so so so tired of hearing their live storie 50 times. My girl is the best sexiest amazing girl but hearing everything 10 times. I am a good listener. Not good in talking so I say things one. So after 4 years with her she knows everything. I know everything 10 times. There are limits to communication!


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sofs 5 years ago Author

The problems lies in not talking... women love to hear men talk ..try talking...and you do not have to listen to things 50 times over or even 10 times over. Since you have a fantastic relationship with your girl, you should practice the art of talking and saying some amusing stories to her.. That would help you in other spheres of your life too.. maybe I should write on how to get talking. Best wishes to you and thanks for taking the time to express how you feel.


made wirawan 4 years ago

Thanks a lot for the hub., make me realize about all stuff she did (or didn't). Gosh, if only I read this long time ago. I've done so many don't.


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sofs 4 years ago Author

I think it is never too late to change... we all do things we shouldn't, but the best part of human nature is there is always scope for improvement and change. Hope you can work things out between the two... Thanks for the comment and God bless:)


Olayemi 4 years ago

Open and honest communication is key and the key to a successful relationship.


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Olayemi, open and honest communication is the building block of any relationship. I am glad that you pointed it out. Best wishes to you for a happy new year!


claudejose 4 years ago

WHAT IS A GREAT FUNNY & INDIRECT WAY TO FIND OUT IF A FEMALE FRIEND HAS A BOYFRIEND?


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Ask her... If you are interested in her ask her if she is seeing someone.. She would know you are interested. This is more sensible than trying some silly tricks that makes her suspicious.. She would appreciate your directness and honestly.. most women do!


jackie 4 years ago

That was really nice to say she wants a man and not a supper man


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Jackie, thanks for that comment, brought a smile to my face... Nah! I really don't want a supper man or super man, I just want my man :) . I appreciate your stopping to leave a comment.


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Mary Stuart 4 years ago from Washington

Great, great comments. I am no longer married but I hear a lot of stuff from married friends. One of the most common hurts I hear from friends is the pain of sharing husband with electronic devices. I think women used to have to share husband only with television. Now she has to share him with ipad, iphone, gaming, Internet.... on and on it goes. Thank you for your good advice.


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Mary that is so true.. having to share your man with electronic devices.. my friend says she often has to compete not just share.. Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment. I appreciate that. Have a wonderful day. God Bless!


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dipsmi 4 years ago from Plymouth, Minnisota

sharing your man with a laptop is the last thing which i want but sadly this is the case in my lie now :(. Bookmarked and emailed your hub's link to my husband's id. Hope it works


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sofs 4 years ago Author

I am so sorry that you have to share your man with a laptop. Sometimes it just takes a little prodding and innovative ideas on our part to get their attention. I truly hope that your man reads and realizes that you need him more. Best wishes to the two of you. God Bless.


datingforguys 4 years ago

Great and richly informative hub - it is so good to read someone putting so much emphasis on communication. I spend a lot of time trying to help men particularly learn how to listen to their partners/girlfriends/dates and it is such an important skill in any relationship.


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Hady Chahine 4 years ago from Manhattan Beach

Nice hub! I can definitely relate with "She expects openness in the relationship; men have a tendency to keep things to themselves." ~ This was very difficult for me to learn.


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Datingforguys, Communication is the corner stone of a relationship.. and being able to express yourself rightly is what make an ordinary relationship a special one.. Glad that you spend time helping people learn listening skills... no communication is complete without listening.. Thanks for the read and comment. Have a great weekend!


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Hady Chahine, I take it that difficult as it was you have learned that principle of making a relationship work. Thanks for the read and the comment. Have a lovely weekend.


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getwellsoon 4 years ago from US

Perfect advise that everyone should know. ;)


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sofs 4 years ago Author

I am glad you think so! Have a great day!


olaide owolabi. 4 years ago

great one and kudos to you for that mighty article.70% of men don't know much about relationship.my greatest problem is communication.when i call my girlfriend or when we are together am always lost of words.pls kindly give me some tips on what to say when i call her or when am with her.


Simentha 4 years ago from London

Hey nice share.....


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Olaide Owolabi, Thanks for stopping by. Maybe I will write an article very soon on the subject... but whatever you say..make sure you say it from the heart... women know when you don't mean it. Comment on her appearance, tell her about how you feel about her, share with her what happened during the day.. women love to hear that. Best wishes to you and your girlfriend.


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Simentha, Thank You. Have a great day!


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Yaduvanshi 4 years ago from Bharat Vrse

Very nicely advised thanks


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Yaduvanshi, Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. Have a great day. God Bless!


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mwwa 4 years ago

so true...bravo on the piece. thumbs up!


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sofs 4 years ago Author

mwwa, Thank you :) I appreciate this very much. Have a lovely day!


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Cathleena Beams 4 years ago from Lascassas, Tennessee

Great advice for men on what women need in a relationship. We long for a loving and affectionate partner who cherishes us. We do like a guy who recognizes our best features and doesn't see or focus on our faults. We treasure the man that adores us and who's words and actions show he loves us just the way we are. Excellent hub!


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Cathleena Beams, Thank you.. spoken like a woman! Have a great day!


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yssubramanyam 4 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

Security and honesty besides committed partner.


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sofs 4 years ago Author

I do believe commitment does play a huge role.. honesty and integrity come in next.. Thanks for stopping by. Have a wonderful day!


Heather 4 years ago

At this juncture in my life I don't even want to be in a relationship. I have been married for 16 1/2 years and have compromised my own sense of self in an attempt to be what is expected of me. I have no desire for romantic love. It is too exerting. I just want to be my authentic self and to exert all of my energy into helping my three daughters find their authentic selves - so they don't feel obligated to buy into the fairytale. They can create their own happy ending. If a man fits into that- then great! If not, then great too!


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sofs 4 years ago Author

Heather, you sound like you resent the whole experience.. Love is all consuming .. no doubt about that... but I guess this is all about perception and personal decisions.

Fairy tale.. I am not sure if anyone who approaches marriage with a fairy tale idea will go very far... It takes a lot of hard work to make a marriage work. I appreciate you sharing your strong reactions here. Thank you and hope you have a lovely life. God Bless.

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