Relationships: Having someone meet your wants and needs

Sometimes we want love so badly that we will go out with anyone. If a guy is nice we go with that. We think that we could handle him having a quality that we want that is missing but sometimes we just can't.

In order for a relationship to be successful we have to be compatible. We have to ask ourself does he meet my wants and needs? Do I meet his wants and needs? If so then it is great to go ahead. If no then we have to take a step back and evaluate the relationship.

Someone could be nice but that does not mean that they are the person for you. If you want someone romantic and their not it could be a problem. You may think that your okay with it but deep down it will bother you when you see other girls have romance and you just have someone.

Someone is funny cannot be with someone who is serious. Someone who is sensitive to others feelings cannot be with someone who is tough and heartless.

Before you enter a relationship you have to know what you want. The best way is to think of qualities you want and write them down. Then get to know as many guys as possible and go with the one who you feel you click with. If you feel that you could talk to this guy about anything and get excited when you see him then this is the guy for you. It takes time but there is a right person for everybody.

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dashingscorpio 3 years ago

Voted up and useful!

I have been preaching this message for years! In fact it is a central part of my book: My Cat Won't Bark! (A Relationship Epiphany).

Too often people believe (they) can (change their mates) overtime. Whenever we attempt to do this more often than not it leads to (frustration) on our part and (resentment) on their part. Ultimately everyone wants to be loved and appreciated for (who they are).

There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. One man's opinion1 :-)

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