Is He Date Worthy?

Dating

Can you imagine sitting at his place doing nothing on Saturday night? That's what it could come to after some time. Would he be enough to entertain you, make you laugh, or even bring a smile to your face?

How can you be sure a guy is worth spending the time it takes to go on a few dates?

First you have to check him out in his own environment. That is, at work, attending social events, with his buddies, wherever he finds himself on a daily basis. In fact if you can observe him in several different situations all the better. You know, people act differently with different people and in different places.

So spend some time doing things with a group of people that he hangs with. That way you're not committing yourself, you're just doing the same thing everyone else is doing. He doesn't have to think you're there just to see him. Speaking of seeing him, how does he look? You know people say that's one of the first things that attracts you to someone. I'm sure it's true for some, but for others a great personality is key.

Seeing a guy laughing and gesturing while telling jokes is a lot different than seeing him sitting quietly in the corner somewhere. What is he all about? Do his friends seem to like his antics? A good sense of humor is important to many women. Who doesn't like to laugh anyway?

Is he mature though? Can he let loose and keep things tasteful? It's a huge turn-off to see a guy who doesn't know how to act his age, or behave appropriately in certain situations. It can be embarrassing. Sometimes you can't even have sympathy for a person when they paint themselves in a bad light just by what they're talking about, or how they're saying it. If a guy spends a lot of time bad mouthing his former partner you can just about figure he could be talking about you that way next year.

Just how much baggage does he have? This is something you can glean from those conversations about girlfriends and wives. He may be complaining but, there's information there.

Whatever he's carrying around doesn't matter so much if he can handle it. Can he afford the children he left behind? The wife? The mortgage? Or is he left with wearing older wrinkled clothing? A great way to know if a guy is driven is to meet him at work. Then you get answers to many questions all at the same time. How does he dress? Does he wear a wedding ring? What kind of car does he drive?

When he's off work, does he go on adventurous vacations. Have you heard him mention a zip line, or mountain climbing, or traveling at all? What a guy likes to do in his off time is very important because if you should end up with him, you'll be doing those things before you know it. Make sure you like his hobbies or they'll drive you crazy later.

Creativity is also something you might look for in a guy. It may be that he just gives a great Power Point presentation, or it could be that he's an accomplished artist of some sort. This is side of a guy's personality that shows you whether he'll be creative with you.

Usually just taking a look at a guy will clue you into how he is with himself. Is he athletic? Are his muscles too big? Or, are they just perfect? If you can, try to get a glance at him in his workout gear. You can see so much more than if he's in a stuffy suit and tie.

Deciding whether a guy is date worthy isn't easy. Just remember to answer as many of your questions about him before you go out so you don't waste your time.


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ruthclark3 4 years ago from Arkansas, USA

Voted up. You're correct in so many areas. Give time time and be observant, keeping an open mind. So many times one's "want to" exceeds the "need to" when it comes to waiting. Anything or anybody worth having will be there tomorrow. If they aren't then you don't need them anyway. Good hub.


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Inspired to write 4 years ago from Wales UK

Good advice lisasuniquevoice, you must pay attention with a new partner & look out for signs, ongoing, both good & not so, because this very person could be your future & you do't want to end up with a flump even though, some people are a bit slow on detection whilst their partners are clever manipulators but, it maybe too late by then, you brush unusual incidences off, as you become drawn into that person, then hearts get broken.

Great hub, well written thanks for sharing

Regards Dale


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shiningirisheyes 4 years ago from Upstate, New York

Great insightful hub and you are so right. I also found that manipulators make great chameleons as well, your advice on a group of people allows you to break through that curtain a bit more.

You may shake your head at this but I find my dog Bella is a great (and accurate) judge of character. She hasn't failed me yet.

Voting up


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red mermaid 4 years ago

In my experience i found good manners and a sense of humour really attractive in a man. My latest partner was met through facebook so i didn't really have chance to observe his behaviour with friends or family.I was bowled over by his way with words, he swept me off my feet i must admit. To me it doesn't really matter how they dress as long as they feel comfortable in what they're wearing. I find the creative man really interesting and as long as i think they're faithful and loving i give the same in return.


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Anjili 4 years ago from planet earth, a humanoid

I like your string of questions. Seems like Mr. Perfect is being hunted here. It is at times ok to give a guy the benefit of doubt. If we had a chance to mould ourselves, we would be perfect. Not many guys like their girls at their place of work. It distracts one from the work that brings bread home. Many a good woman disqualify a good man who comes sauntering in on foot. People put up a good show just to please, in order to win another person's affection. Faking an existence. A recipe for disaster. A wonderful share that is full of life issues here. Well done and voted up.


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lisasuniquevoice 4 years ago from Michigan Author

Anjili,

Thanks for reading. I'm glad you liked it.

Lisa

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