Relationships after 40

The following statistics about relationships are as follows:

There are 9.7 million Americans living with an unmarried different-sex partner and 1.2 million American living with a same-sex partner. 11% of unmarried partners are same-sex couples.
- U.S. Census Bureau, 2000

41% of American women ages 15-44 have cohabited (lived with an unmarried different-sex partner) at some point. This includes 9% of women ages 15-19, 38% of women ages 20-24, 49% of women ages 25-29, 51% of women ages 30-34, 50% of women ages 35-39, and 43% of women ages 40-44.
- Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. "Cohabitation, Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage in the United States." Vital Health and Statistics Series 23, Number 22, Department of Health and Human Services, 2002.

The number of unmarried couples living together increased 72% between 1990 and 2000.

So my over 40 sister asked me "When is it OK to move in together?" She had been dating this man for a while and everything has been going great. My answer was..After 40 it doesn't matter! If it feels right go with it.!

I feel after 40 years of age the rules of dating and relationships kinda change. We know ourselves well enough to know what makes us happy and what our limits are. We also have been through at least 20 years of relationships, marriage, divorce, and dating to know what is what.

Dr Phil offers some additional statistics about marriage. He states 60% of people who marry between the ages of 2- 25 end in divorce. No surprise there. He also offers these statistics

A recent study on cohabitation concluded that after five to seven years, only 21 percent of unmarried couples were still living together. — The Boston Herald 55 percent of cohabiting couples get married within five years of moving in together. Forty percent of couples who live together break up within that same time period. — Annual Review of Sociology

This doesn't quite jive with my "if it feels right do it" philosophy! :) However if you read an article from the the Today Show. it suggests that it is never too late to find love again. It also goes on to say that people over 40 are making the largest portion of the Internet dating sites. This is very interesting to me as my sister did find her love on one of these sites! ( if you are curious she used the site E-Harmony as she found the site Match .com too scary)

All in all I believe that if you find love after 40 , you should go with your first instinct. If you and your partner agree that living together is the right thing to do than try it.  I know that the statistics do not support it ,  However, Just remember to be mature and responsible if problems arise.

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ralwus 7 years ago

hey, whatever trips yer trigger.


Martha T 7 years ago

lol... I believe your sister will figure it all out.. ahe has great support in you.


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AEvans 7 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

Over 40 group well I believe if you are happy , just do it. I had a friend who recently went through a divorce after 20 years and she said the next man she dealt with she was just going to live with as marriage was so much work, I personally love been married but I do agree it has its trying moments. Since your sister is single tell her to just do it, and she will be glad she did.:)

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