Religion and Marriage

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Understanding Miss Shamcey SupSup's Response to the Miss Universe 2011 Question and Answer Portion


Love and Marriage is more than just a connection between two people...it is a course understanding

The Filipino people have been raving over the winning answer of Miss Shamcey Supsup during the 2011 Miss Universe Beauty Pageant. The question was about her being able to marry a man who does not recognize her religious beliefs. The choice was between her religion and the man she loves.

Startling as it was, Shamcey answered courageously that compromising her religion will never be the choice. Her life was given by God and it is just right that she puts HIM first before anyone else. Risky, but a well-thought answer.

Marriages today fail due to several reasons. Some fail because of the lack of communication and others fail due to religious misunderstandings. True, religion has a strong hold on what a person believes, what a person becomes and what a person really is. And most often than not, people with different religions do not become easily connected to each other due to the conflicts of their moral beliefs and principles. This then becomes a more crucial problem when to people who are supposed to live together for their their whole lives are supposed to face such differences.

Marrying someone from one's own faith does not only protect the married couples but also their children. Having a well focused and clear sense on what Godly devotion is for both of them and for their children is an important part of establishing strong family bonds.

No, love as it is, is not enough. Back then, I personally thought that it would be.

However, now that I am married, I realized that being married and staying within the commitment requires more than just affection, it requires oneness of both partners in most things especially when it comes to rearing the children, making decisions about family issues and creating a more inviting family environment. Without unity in thought, married couples often fall in the edge of loosing the desire to understand each other's uniqueness despite the differences they may have between each other.

Religion's role in marriages

Do you think religion does affect the relationship shared by married couples and the other family members?

  • Yes, religion affects the relationship of married couples and their children. This is why it is important that couples have the same religion before they marry.
  • No, religion is just a part of one's upbringing. Making adjustments could be considered later on after the wedding.
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CMCastro 5 years ago from Baltimore,MD USA

It is a challenge to discuss this subject and I understand your points of view. I have just come out of a marriage that I could not keep because, despite of my spouse's devotion to God,and his previous commitment to serve for the Lord only, his life's problems got in the way. The beliefs remained in his heart, but the actions of love and devotion of a marital partner was not there.

We can not change a person through marriage. But I have seen marriages work in which each spouse held on to their denomination. Example, Irish Catholic husband, Jewish wife. When my uncle died, we had two funerals, the first one in the synogogue, and the next day a memorial service in the Catholic Church. My Jewish aunt was present and showed much gratitude toward the priest who did the memorial service, and to her husband's family.

So as people of different races can marry and be loving in a family, so can different denominations of religion. But it all boils down to this: God is only a One True Father to all of us, and He is the creator of all of us no matter what style faith we choose. It is in the actions that we demonstrate His Love, not in just believing in what religion our parents passed on to us: Love put into action is what matters.


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LeslieAdrienne 5 years ago from Georgia

It is most imperative that people of the same beliefs marry. The reason being the foundation of our character and behavior is based in our belief system. The decisions the rule our lives are based in our belief system.

The Catholic and the Jew will see many things differently. Their foundational beliefs will make it difficult for either of them to compromise.

Love can be found in many places including the place where people believe the way that you do...


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davidkaluge 5 years ago

It is a fact that marriage and religion can be in conflict.I often wonder how we can work out the differences. But two things are involved 1) the choice to marry someone of another religion that is intolerate to others. 2) to marry someone that is a member of another religious or group or none but does not mind whatever religion others choose.I can say that I belong to the second class and even at such tolerance level it is not easy to find an understanding partner.Wedding in church maybe a problem


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miccimom 5 years ago from U.S.A

I also thought her answer was right on. Honestly in the beginning of a marriage prekids, it seems that different religions would not be an issue. But once the kids come, and you have to decide which faith you are raising them, problems could arise. I think it is not fair to give the kids both faiths, and let them "choose" when they get older. I mean how confusing would that be for them. I think that a couple should have the same faith. It makes things down the road much easier.


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sexualharassment 5 years ago from USA

Religion is a very powerful; force in our society today. It affects our lives so much. Miss Philippines Shamcey Supsup deserves to be respected to her own belief. It reflects the kind of personally she possesses. Love God first before other.

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