How to Say I Love You-Without Saying a Word

All You Need Is Love- The Beatles believed it, so should you!

Love can give you the strength to take on the world
Love can give you the strength to take on the world | Source
When he looks at me I feel gitty like a child-just as I did the first day we met.
When he looks at me I feel gitty like a child-just as I did the first day we met. | Source

Say I Love You- But Don't Tell Me You Love Me...

The following hub is a rewrite of the original hub. The content has changed to abide by hubpages rules and regulations. The original hub has been published to the examiner.com and is now in their arcives and can not be removed. I hope you enjoy this updated and newer version of Say I love you without saying a word. .............HC PORTER

Actions are more powerful than words with the effect that in pure silence, a single touch can lift you to the sky or take you to your knees. As much as I love words-when it comes to love it is often what is unspoken that can melt your heart and make you feel the truth. As human beings, we often feel and show we care, far before we ever speak it. For one reason or another, we feel once we say something we are finalizing it and opening ourselves up for disaster or hurt or contrary to this, we feel closure and complete. When at the start of a love affair, the first time that we are told or say ‘I Love You’, it makes our knees weak and the world stop. We are able to end fights, get out of tepid waters and sooth fears by whispering those words to our lover. Fast Forward five years later and when the same situation that was once so easily resolved with words is abruptly interrupted by I Love You, eyes roll and are followed with the following words, SHOW ME… How do we show someone we love them? Can we truly make another person feel our love without ever saying I love you? If you can’t, you better learn because showing I someone you care for them is far more meaningful than saying it.

It's The Way We Are When We Love

He makes me feel as if I am in paradise
He makes me feel as if I am in paradise
I love holding hands-and he hopes everyone notices that we still hold hands.
I love holding hands-and he hopes everyone notices that we still hold hands.
I have never had someone look at me the way that he does. It is like we are the only two people that exist-even now after kids and history.
I have never had someone look at me the way that he does. It is like we are the only two people that exist-even now after kids and history.

It is Your Love That Speaks Not the Words that are Spoken

My husband and I have had the best of times together. I love you once flew from our mouths freely and with admiration and support for the other. Two kids. Two full time jobs and a mortgage along with all that applies later, we are up two our ears with words that don’t mean a damn thing when you break down the stress of day t o day life. I love you is something that we now say as we enter or exit the house or hang up the phone. I love you might as well be If you are late tonight and I have to put the kids to bed alone, you are sleeping on the couch. Do we still love one another? Yes…more than ever. But our love has changed, and now showing how much love we have for one another has much more importance than saying that we love one another.

So how do you say I love you without actually saying it? It depends on who you are and your relationship. My husband tells me that he loves me when he gives the kids a bath and has them in bed before I get home. He tells me he loves me when he loads the car seats into my car the night before they need to be in there so I don’t have to do it myself. My husband lets me know he loves me when he restrains himself from giving me grief about having to work late because he knows that I am doing it for us.

I show him I love him by not forgetting to buy his sodas at the grocery store. I show him I love him when I wash, dry and then hang up in a color coordinated fashion all of his clothes. I show him I love him by taking the kids away, because I know that they are driving him insane and he cant get his work completed with them asking, Daddy, Daddy…come look at what I did…”.

A friend of mine said he would show his wife that he loved her by making the bed every morning before he left for work. He explained to me that he would fluff her pillow and while fluffing her pillow would do so with the thought that he wanted to do this for her so she would have a good nights sleep when she laid down. She would show his her love by asking him to call her on his way home when he would work late at night, so she could hear about his day and also keep him awake because she knew how tired he was and she didn’t want him to fall asleep while driving.

Sometimes saying I love you is simply, listening to the other person cry after they have lost someone close to them. Sometimes saying I love you means that you are not able to get your way or do exactly what you wanted; because you know that the other person will not enjoy your original plans. Sometimes saying I love you is being okay with sleeping in a pink floral bedroom with pastels and flowers surrounding you, because that is what make your partner happy. Sometimes saying I love you is sitting through a NASCAR Race, bored as hell, with a smile on your face.

Love may not always be fireworks, nor does it have to be. Love is just as easily defined as being a single flame that guides you through the dark until you arrive home. Patience, understanding, respect and admiration are all apart of love and being in a relationship. We must show each other that the love is there, because in all truth and honesty; words are cheap, and love only speaks truths when we show what we mean. Huber Cagsil shared with me a very wise and true comment, "If it's that important to hear? Then you're not listening to begin with". I love this, because if we are truly paying attention, I love you doesn't need to be spoken. Thanks Cagsil for the insight!

Say I love you, without saying a word… because Love is worth the effort and the chance….

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stricktlydating 6 years ago from Australia

Great Hub!


Nan 6 years ago

Singles, listen to the words, they are powerful. Competition is it today. You had better take care of your business, or someone else will! Good thoughts and advice.


Nan 6 years ago

Singles, listen to the words, they are powerful. Competition is it today. You had better take care of your business, or someone else will! Good thoughts and advice.


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Christianadam 6 years ago from Manila, Philippines

Wow, I like this saying I love you without saying a word. A simple hug probably would let the other person know that you love him / her.

http://mattscradle.com/2010/07/22/when-god-made-yo...


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

christianadam,

Very true-a hug would often let people know that we care about them-thanks for the comment and for reading this hub :)


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

stricktly dating-

Thanks for reading and for leaving a comment. I am glad that you enjoyed the read


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Nan, Thank you as well for leaving a comment and sharing your views on love


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acaetnna 5 years ago from Guildford

A hug is just so important - one can tell a lot from a hug.


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

acaetnna

you are right-contact is important. it can say more than words...thanks, as always for the comment


Assassin Fred 5 years ago

"Why be there to say I love you, if you are not willing to make the effort to show it."

This statement pretty much sums it up, this hub is definitely a good read. I typically take an extra moment in the morning before I go to work and leave a note for my wife, send her a quick text through the day, etc...

Thanks for the insight, this just inspired me to step up my game a little!


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Assassin Fred

very true. I think in love and in relationships- the stress of the world often catches up to life and you start to take for granted what you have-and showing that you care becomes more of a task for a TO DO list.


Assassin Fred 5 years ago

Very true, HC. Stress and the business of life catches up with us, and we tend to be less attentive to those who matter most to us. We must remain aware of ourselves, and how we treat our loved ones. Never take them for granted.


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Alayne Fenasci 5 years ago from Louisiana

This is one my favorite hubs ever! Thank you for posting it. It's kind of rare to hear realistic compliments and positive stories from one spouse about the other, especially from a woman about a man. With so much negativity in society, I tend to feel guilty for having such a great husband. This makes me feel better about how happy we are and all the good we find in each other.

The love between two people truly is the light at the end of the dark tunnels in life, and it is what we must never take for granted.


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Alayne Fenasci

Thanks for sharing... I am sure that you are envied for you happiness...Enjoy your love-as should everyone-the world throws enough harshness at us in life-it is nice to have someone to stand beside you through it all...If you find someone that is willing-never let them go!


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Cagsil 5 years ago from USA or America

I've never been in the habit of telling people that I love them. My family found it weird and then one day I told each one of them that what I say has nothing to do with my actions with regards to love. If my actions speak of love, then realize it and the words would matter little. They always told me, it's nice to hear from time to time. If it's that important to hear? Then you're not listening to begin with. ;) Thank you for sharing such an awesome hub. :) Thumb ups! :)


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Cagsil

Thanks Cagsil... I like that, "If it is that important to hear than you are not listening to begin with" That is perfect...can I add it to the hub (referencing you of course)?


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evvy_09 5 years ago from Athens, AL

Awesome hub! I bet everyone who read this, did something nice for a loved one after. If more people paid attention to all the little actions that speak of love, the world wouldn't have so many failed relationships.

My husband will run to different stores just to get the kind of chocolate milk I like. I started giving him alternatives just so he wouldn't make another stop lol.


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

evvy_09- thanks for the comment, and I completely agree... people always want the fireworks...they tend to forget about the day to day little things that matter most.


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Cagsil 5 years ago from USA or America

Hey Holly, you're more than welcome to use whatever I say. I've no problem with it and referencing me is a choice you make and not up to me. :) ;) But, I'm humbled and honored, at the same time. :) Stay Cool. ;)


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Cagsil-thank you sir...but you know me, and I will always ask, regardless if I know the answer :)


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mary615 4 years ago from Florida

Wow! This is beautiful! Hold on tight to the man you have and love, and never let him go....


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H.C Porter 4 years ago from Lone Star State Author

mary615-Thanks for the comment and for reading my work. Love now a days is a temporary thing for too many people. They do not value a relationship the same way other generations have, and it is sad to know that laziness is why relationships do not work. Your advice is wise-thank you


Ashley 3 years ago

So touching


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InspiredMinute 3 years ago from Texas

Great thoughts, H.C.! These are very considerate actions, things that you just do when you truly love someone. After talking to my husband about Valentine's this year, I came up with an article that is very action-based, too... “14 ways to Say I Love You Without Words” at InspiredMinute. So far he's a happy camper! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us!


justin moorer 3 years ago

well i am 14 years old and my definition of showing love is easy, all you is listen and understand her once you are able to understand her then you can figure out what she needs at the moment such as a hug or just saying something to make her feel special. I don't even have to try to show her love because when you are truly committed to your relationship love speaks by itself you don't have to say anything and it will make him/her feel special

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