Season of Joy – Kiss and Make up

It's 28 Nov. 09, nearly Christmas and I’m sure it wouldn't surprise us to know that there are a lot of people out there, who are still not on speaking terms with others because they fell out over an issue sometime ago or could it even be closer to home? Is there anyone you are not on speaking terms with? Friends, family, colleagues, neighbours?

If you have no grudges with anyone, please encourage others not to keep malice. However, if this is the case in your life, I encourage you to put things right. Kiss and make up (well please don’t go kissing your colleague at work) but you get my point. As I am "Psychic", I have a feeling you might be asking the following questions:

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“Why should I?”

Response: It’s the season of goodwill, perfect opportunity. We will soon approach 2010 and it would be so nice to start on a clean slate with no cobwebs in our relationships with people. Good Karma, new beginnings and all that.

“Why can't they make the first move?”

Response: Why not be the bigger person and when you do – they would even respect you more for it, afterwards. It doesn't really hurt to say sorry? Two simple meaningful words “I’m sorry” can make such a positive difference. I agree there are some issues you don’t need to apologise for e.g maybe someone cheated on you – in such instance just release them from your mind, don’t hold the grudge. (I address this issue later in the article)

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“No! Only God can settle this issue in Heaven.”

Response: Well, I’m afraid some people are closer to heaven than they think because of harbouring bitter feelings, which caused them health problems. E.g Heart diseases, depression etc. Read the link below for more info.

Effects of Bitterness & letting go of it

No Apology required

There are some instances where no apology is required. For instance, a best friend took your partner or someone got beat up. I’m sorry if this has happened to you but in these instances, we must try not to harbour any bitter, resentful feelings and let the matter go. Release them from your heart. Bitterness is horrible and can eat away at you. It actually ages people.

I’ll share a quick story with you – I don’t want to go into detail but in the 90s, a person I was with beat me (I don’t want sympathy, just trying to make a point). As he left for work, I said to him “I hope you lose that job”. He didn’t hear me because I said it quietly, after he closed the front door. Now, he had a job with BT– a very reputable company in UK.

He came back later that evening and told me they suspended him at work. I was half-minded about it, thinking how did it happen, but my heart wasn’t broken over it. He said some ladies reported him to the Manager for harassing them. He was never allowed to return to that job and we had actually moved out of London for him to take up that important post. We were there for just a few months. (sometimes, our words are powerful)

Now, I’m not asking you to Wish a Big rock would fall on your partners head or that they’d get run over by a car. I’m just saying leave it all to Karma. If you have done no wrong and people hurt you, somehow life would pay them back or deal with them accordingly. I said those words in Anger, because I hurt so much at the time and this was over 10 years ago. He has since apologised over and over again to me and I harbour no bitterness in my heart. I put it down to a bad choice of partner.

Even Lions make up with people, if they roar to loud at them

So lets get rid of bitterness and allow peace. It’s a natural law in life that people reap what they sow. Have you noticed how sometimes a lady cheats on her partner and marries the man she cheated with. Months, years later, the man now cheats on her and she dares not ask God – “Why me”?

Kissing and Making up

So, for the people I was addressing at the beginning of this article, how about apologising and sending a Christmas card or gift to that person. If you don’t want to get a gift, then a Christmas card would be a good start.

When next you see each other – there will be hugs, handshakes, smiles, laughter. I promise you that you’ll feel much better for it and the Festive season will indeed be a Joyful time.

 

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SANDO5 7 years ago

I like it.


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floating mind 7 years ago from Chicago, Illinois

Good advice. Thoughts to live by.

Thanks.


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Pete Maida 7 years ago

That is wonderful advice. Christmas is a great time to put differences behind us. How I wish that we could get countries to feel that way.


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create a page 7 years ago from Maryland, USA

Thank you so much for this hub. I discovered on Thanksgiving Day that one of my son's refused to go to his aunt's house, because she had offended him weeks before. He was the only invitee absent. Hopefully he will forgive her before the year ends, and have the freedom to enjoy her company in the future.

Thanks for reminding us of the importance of making up. This is an excellent hub.


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DeBorrah K. Ogans 7 years ago

Lady E. Wonderful advice here! Especially so for this time of the year. I just visited a terminally ill friend on yesterday! You just never know how long or short your time is here on this side of heaven! Don't get bitter, get BETTER! Great wise hub! Thank you for sharing, Love & Blessings!!!


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dohn121 7 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

That's incredible that you mentioned that part about infidelity. My ex-girlfriend actually married the guy she was cheating on me with...But before they got married, she did her best to win me back (I won't disclose the details). I used to not be a forgiving person, but I've changed that. Thanks for a great advice-giving hub!


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Rickrideshorses 7 years ago from England

Great advice. Good call.


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matt6v33 7 years ago from Bangkok, Thailand

very well thought out young lady, well expressed, and yes too, well written. wow.. nice..keep it up... and thanks for being U! :)


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks so much every one for your beautiful, encouraging comments that always tug at my heart.

** Pete - You are so right, how lovely would it be, if countries could do the same. Apart from having peace, we wouldn't have Troops out there - they'd be home celebrating with their families.

** Create a page - I hope your son comes round (actually, I hope his Aunt comes round, if she gets to know he is offended, he's probably young)

** Deborrah - I breathe a deep sigh. From the little I know of you, I bet you are like her Angel, encouraging her everyday. I send prayers to her.

** Dohn, I'm glad you've moved on. It probably wasn't meant to be (like my friends say). I'm sure you'll meet your beautiful princess one day - and I mean beautiful in and out.

** Matt - Cheers, thanks for your message yesterday. Hope you are settling well on Hubpages.

Thanks again everyone - Happy Holidays. :)


Duchess OBlunt 7 years ago

Great advise even if it is tough to do. And believe me it is tough to do! Even after trying to work it all out, there is one case where the hurt has not gone away. Good reminder though for me not to be bitter. Workin on that!

Great Hub


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Laura du Toit 7 years ago from South Africa

Wonderful Hub and very good advice. Perfect timing when people should really be concentrating on the value of friends and family!

Great Hub


paulgc 7 years ago

Very nice hub. You got me thinking about my dad who i haven't spoken to in about 12 years. He left me and my three brothers for what ever reason but sadly i think too much water has flowed under this bridge to make up :(


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

** Hello Duchess, you are right. It's easier said than done but it's the best thing to do. Thanks for your comments. :)

** Hello Laura, thanks for your comments. Nice to hear from you. :)


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

** Hi Paul, Sorry to hear about this situation. It cuts really deep when it's our own Parents.

I would encourage you to forgive him for your own peace of mind. I've seen a few situations like this whereby when that parent passed away, the person hurt even more because there was no closure, he didn't get those feelings out and didn't get to hear his Father's response.(I hope your Dad lives long) but it's worth considering forgiving him for your own Sanity.

He probably feels so guilty and wants to reach out to you but doesn't know how. I hope for the best in this situation.

Best Wishes.


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mrdnf5m 7 years ago

Great hub and great advise Lady_E. I know from experience that forgiving someone does help to lighten your mental load and it allows you to enjoy life more, because you're carrying less mental baggage around with you.

Happy Holidays : - )


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donnaisabella 7 years ago from Fort Myers

Good advice. Thanks.


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Philipo 7 years ago from Nigeria

Very timely hub. There is power in spoken words. We should learn to control our tempers. Most times people tend to regret actions taken out of annoyance. We should also learn to forgive and forget. Remember the story of the man that asked Jesus Christ in the Bible "how many times should we forgive". Jesus was quick to tell him 70x70 times a day. Indeed, we should learn not to habour any ill-feeling against anyone. I read the story of someone that met his long awaited blessing only when he decided to forgive another that have hurt him badly. Christmas is the season of joy and blessing only if you and I will learn to love our neighbours as we love ourselves.


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Lady_E 7 years ago from London, UK Author

** Hello Mrdan5fm, I like the way you put it "less mental baggage". Thanks for stopping. Nice to read from you. :)

** Thanks for your Comments Donna. God Bless. :)

** Hi Philipo, there is indeed power in spoken words. I couldn't believe that he'd lose that job in less than 12 hours of me saying those words. Your comments are very encouraging - some people can't receive a blessing from God until they release the person they have a grudge with.

It's not easy to do but I hope we all find the strength to Forgive. Regards.


paulgc 7 years ago

Thanks for the sentiment Lady-E, i will give it some thought, i do miss my dad but i think that it should be him who makes the first move. I may be wrong but mostly im just confused and upset.

Thanks anyway, Paul.


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brendasartgallery 6 years ago from Macon, Georgia

Very nice article, I really enjoyed it,and it was for me!


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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK Author

Cheers Brenda :)


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matt6v33 6 years ago from Bangkok, Thailand

young lady, i found myself coming back to this one of yours, to remind myself, and encourage otourself hers, to this oh so nice writing of yours! Not sure if i told you, but u never cease to amaze me, with that God given talent of yours! Keep up the Good Work, for this "Loss and Dying World we find ourself in. You my dear friend, are making a "Difference" In my subjective bias view!

Just Me!

Jim

p.s. my birthday is Nov 28!


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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK Author

Hello Jim

How are you? Lovely to see you. (well, read from you)

Thanks for your kind comments. Have a great week and keep on spreading that sunshine. You are a Blessing.

Ps. Birthday Noted. :)


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matt6v33 6 years ago from Bangkok, Thailand

"Ditto" :)

and thanks. for being Just U!


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Royalmark 5 years ago from Lagos, Nigeria

So touching! Lady Elena.

This article was written years back but its message is still fresh.

You said you don't want sympathy, but, still I say "Take heart. Sorry, dear." You can stop the rest from saying that but not me :-p

I'll run a check on my life tonight and go out there and give anyone I'm not good with a good hug (guys and girls) plus a kiss for girls (LOL. That's what Lady Elena taught me sha)

I love this. I need to overtly promote this article o!

Have a wow'd Christmas this year, Elena.

Chukwuka.


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Lady_E 5 years ago from London, UK Author

Thanks Chukwuka - your comments are so funny. I really hope that if I travel to Africa this year, I can see you just for 5 mins. You are such an Inspiration.

Everytime I see your Blog "Aboutmyway" I say to myself "I wish my young brother could have this inspiring attitude".

Best Wishes.


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Royalmark 5 years ago from Lagos, Nigeria

Thumbs up and thanks for your compliment. Na God. #blushing

Come back this year, please. 5 mins, ke? Too short to see Miss Inspiration oooooo.

Your young brother has a big sister with an inspiring attitude and that's enough for the house. Ta-da! :-D

See you sson.

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