Should Gays be Allowed to Marry Legally?

Soon to be a common sight

Love is love regardless of gender?
Love is love regardless of gender?

Same-Sex marriage would seem to be inevitable

We seem to have an awful lot of focus on the Gay community at present, mainly concerned with their future ability to tie the knot legally.

They don’t look like getting past the staunch stalwarts of the Catholic Church, no doubt well backed by the Vatican. Chasing little chaps around the altar is one thing, but actually letting homosexuals confirm their vows under the cross is quite another.

Where castigating gays is concerned I often wonder who should cast the first stone.

Many blokes I know had homosexual experiences at one time or another in their lives, yet they would never describe themselves as “Gay.”

I mean, I’m as hetro as the next bloke, on the whole, (as it were). But I once had a rather cute able-seaman (either spelling would be equally true!), known all round the HMS S-------d as “Fifi, (I’ll spare his family if he’s still around by withholding his real name, although this was about 50 years ago). He often used to pop around to my hammock (yes, we slept in one…really) to shake, er, hands before he retired, which was polite of him and did relieve the stress of splicing rope, scrubbing the decks and other nonsensical miscellany.

And we had often been at sea for some weeks without the company of what we all desired, young pliant girls.

But with demob and the ‘coming or maturity, the other sort faded and became but a distant memory.

I was a straight heterosexual and have remained so ever since, and have four ex. wives who could prove it.

So how would I vote about giving guys or gals a “yes” vote to get legally married?

To tell you the truth, I could care less. I am not religious, so the rectitude of the Catholics makes me no mind.

As gays are legally adopting children these days, it would seem in the kid’s interests if dad and dad’s (or mum and mum’s) union has all the legal backing of the state in the event problems occur as they will just as in heterosexual marriages.

And I honestly see many gays are truly committed partners and love one another just as man/women partners do.

(A good example is Elton John and David Furness’ marriage).

Very few gays molest young adults these days (I am not quite so worry-free about lesbians in sports).

Of course, outright pedophilia as quite another thing and indeed a huge problem in our society, yet so is heterosexual date rape with “roofies,” and the kidnapping of young girls to become prostitutes. Not to mention the violence towards women in marriage.

None of this would be affected if gays were allowed to legalize their union…and they will only do that with state permission anyway in the UK.

The gay lobby is very powerful. There is little doubt they will have this law approved.

But I dearly wish they would cut out same sex men and girls kissing on programs like Eastenders.

You producers remember, the older and more traditional members of British society grew up thinking homosexuality is a bad and decadent thing.

They are gradually dying so you will soon be able to do it all on national television. Just like we regular people!

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ziyena 4 years ago from Southern Colorado


It's unfortunate that is such a touchy subject mainy due to right-wing Christian attitude, but as for me, I agree with you here. None of my business whose sexual orientation is what ... does not concern me, nor do I care who loves who just as long as they truly love!


diogenes 4 years ago

Love is all! You got it, baby!


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cathylynn99 4 years ago from northeastern US

people shouldn't have less rights because they happen to be born gay. end of story.

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diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico Author

That was the conclusion I finally came to cathylynne and I hope u are well

Bob profile image 4 years ago

I agree with cathrlynn - people are people - if one has the right to marry, then why not all - if legal rights confined by marriage. But that is a lot other story


diogenes profile image

diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico Author

Yeah. I'm a bit bored by it all actually, but tralala, let em get on with it


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Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

People love who they love so I don't mind if they get married, couldn't care less.

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moonfroth 4 years ago from Rural BC (Canada) & N of Puerto Vallarta (Mexico)

Canada's late PM--Pierre Eliot Trudeau--loved or hated by all (no fence-sitters there!)--said, "the government has no place in the bedrooms of the Nation." On July 20, 2005 Same-Sex Marriages were written into law Nationwide. The present right-wing Conservative government would probably just love to re-visit that new law--along with abortion (allowed) and capital punishment (outlawed 50 years ago in Canada), but the guaranteed ensuing political heat will inhibit their draconian ideas. Good Hub Bob! Thank you!

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Healthy Pursuits 4 years ago from Oregon

I agree with you. It's none of my business who loves whom. I think it's much more important that people find love in their lives.

The people I find the most unnatural and troubling are those who totally suppress their own sexuality with vows of celibacy, while they provide family counseling and lay down laws about other people's sexuality. (Oh, and let's not forget other people's right to practice birth control.)

diogenes profile image

diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico Author

Hi Clark.

Thanks for endorsing my ideas...this article did give me pause a couple of times.


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diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico Author

Healthy Pursuits.

It's true, far too much sticking of noses in other's business. Lennon sang, "Whatever gets you through the night." It has been difficult to fully accept Gays by straight people, but we old 'machos seem to be nearly there. In the UK anyway


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pandula77 4 years ago from Norway

An interesting hub and glad you have chosen this type of a theme. I think it is time to end this debate as 'rights' of a human-being cannot be undermined in any social context.

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diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico Author

Thanks for reasoned comment pandula


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Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA

I know you were talking about the UK, but I also think it's high time that gay marriage be legalized nationwide here in the U.S. A committed, loving, same-sex partnership deserves to have the legal benefits of marriage as much as any heterosexual couple. It's ridiculous to deny same-sex partners things like insurance benefits, social security and tax benefits because some narrow minded conservatives wish to impose their views on the world.

Thanks for writing on this very worthwhile subject!

diogenes profile image

diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico Author

It's only a matter of time, Stephanie.

Thanks for reasoned comment


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IDScience 4 years ago

Since the institution of marriage originated from religions, and no religious doctrine that I know of accepts homosexuality or codons the joining of the same sexes in marriage, why would any homosexual even want to get married?

This would be like a non Jew wanting a bar mitzvah, what is the point?. There is no reason for same sexes to get "married" if civil unions are allowed in your state

diogenes profile image

diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico Author

Hi They think they want to then??

I get your point; it will always be controversial and I could happily argue the opposing view.

The Vicar of Bray

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Little Nell 4 years ago from Somerset, UK

I am all for gay marriage then we can stop talking about it. The UK civil partnership laws were great in my view, and they allowed same sex and different sex legal relationships and sex did not have to come into it. What happens in the bedroom is no-ones business. In fact, it is the legal basis for the partnership that needs to be addressed and civil partnerships answer the point. If gays want to go further and be married, then so be it, but it will also mean same sex couples will also be cluttering up the divorce courts as well.

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diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico Author

I have been anti-gay all my life. But, like you, I think it's time to cry "enough." What do I care if two guys or two girls want to sign some bits of paper and live together in eternal bliss (Ha).

I just wish they'd get on with it and get out of the news!


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Rusti Mccollum 4 years ago from Lake Oswego, Oregon

What goes on in someones bed, Should stay in bed. Noone cares about sex between my husband and I.

I am a christian and the first comment kinda stung me. I have always excepted people as they are. I figure it's not up to me to judge. I'll save that for God. Not all of us are protesting and I really don't care. If I judged everyone on this earth I'm sure I'd be exhausted.Judging others is not my place. If this is the case there'd be so many to judge ,well it would take alot of time. If it's wrong when they face god, like we all have to. He'll do whatever.I hate hearing about certain things that people should just let it be.It's no ones business.

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diogenes 4 years ago from UK and Mexico Author

Someone said "Replace all other feelings towards all life with love, it will cure all the ills of the planet"

It's hard to do, perhaps impossible, but not a bad state to strive for.


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