Should I get married? Things you should know before getting married

Are you really ready to get married? Find out if you should tie the knot or not.
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Should I get married? Should we get married? Should I marry him? Should I marry her? When should I tie the knot? What is the best time to get married?

These questions are common place in the minds of a confused singles thinking about getting married to their partners in life. Read on for a practical guide that stays away from ambiguous tips talking about love and feeling. Rather this will focus on real life issues to help you decide whether you should get married or not.


1) Don't get married if you are not ready to commit to a monogamous relationship

Infidelity is a common cause for divorces because married men and women often take the cheating road. Betrayal and cheating are major causes for divorces and breakdown of marriages around the world. If you are not ready to give up all possibilities of a sexual relationship with anyone other than your wife or husband, you should not get married.


2) Don't get married if you are not ready to bare all your secrets and privacy

The 21st century concept of marriage talks about partners giving each other time and space to pursue their own interests and privacy. However there is virtually no privacy when it comes to married partners. If you think that you are going to hide your weird habits or past secrets from your partner, give yourself a wake-up call. Decide to get married only if you are happy and comfortable to bare all your life's secrets and forgo your privacy.


3) Don't get married it you are not sexually compatible with your partner

Sexual compatibility is one of the pillars on which marriage functions. Physical pleasure and satisfaction plays a vital role in keeping a relationship going. Dissatisfaction in this area can lead to many complications and in a worst case scenario, even a breakdown of the marriage.


If you have any doubts about your sexual compatibility with your partner in bed, talk it out and work out a realistic solution. Get married only when the both of you are happy with each other in bed. There are many non-sexual things you can do in bed, but keep them for after you have sorted out how you will bring back the steaminess in your relationship.


4) Don't get married if you don't believe in compromising

When you get married, yours and your partner's life will be based on the foundation of the meaning of the word compromise. You will virtually need to tweak each and every aspect of your life and bring about a compromise in your likes, dislikes, emotions, schedules, ideas, principles and feelings to accommodate for that extra person in your life.


5) Don't get married if you and your partner do not have a combined income to sustain a household

Financial troubles are a major cause for divorces in America and around the world. Don't let it be the cause for yours. As a married couple, you and your partner will look forward to spending on things that make your life comfortable. Living together with someone costs more than living alone, and that is what you should be prepared for.


6) Don't get married if you don't like planning your life

As a married couple, you and your partner will inevitably start planning your lives. From little things like saving up for a new car to bigger things like deciding whether to have a baby or not. Planning will be a permanent and an essential part of your married lives.


7) Don't get married if you and your partner have extremely different lifestyles or careers

It is okay for two people with very different lifestyles choices, careers or even views about life in general to get married. But issues arise when the differences are really extreme. Some examples of such extreme differences are.

  • One partner working on an offshore oil rig on the South American coastline while another working as a globetrotting fashion journalist.
  • One partner has a high flying career as a fashion model while another has a strict and traditional mindset that is unapproving of such jobs.
  • One partner is a teetotaler while another is an alcoholic and drug addict, refusing to live a healthy life.


8) Don't get married if you don't want to be seen with your spouse in public

If there is the slightest chance that you don't want to be seen with your spouse in public, or that you are embarrassed to take your partner to a social event, think hard before deciding to get married. Make sure neither you nor your partner have any qualms about being seen in public and being acknowledge as a couple by the society in general, before you get married.


9) Don't get married if you still want to enjoy being single

After you are married, small things like spending the night at a friend's place or having drunk pals coming over at your home after a big night out won't be so straight forward. There are many advantages of being single which you will have to give up. If you think that you still have a few months or years left in you to live like a free bird, give marriage a second thought. Delaying it by a few months is better than regretting it.


10) Don't get married if either you or your partner have the slightest of doubts

If you or your partner have any doubts about the foundation of your relationship, don't jump into marriage. Get married only when both of you are sure and confident that your marriage will last forever.


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Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

I enjoyed reading your ten points guide. I have postponed my marriage, of course not because of some points you have mentioned. I'm enjoying my bachelorhood, freedom to do anything.


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vocalcoach 4 years ago from Nashville Tn.

Good and helpful advice on getting married. I agree with all 10 points. Voting up!

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princesswithapen 4 years ago Author

Vinaya Ghimire

".. I'm enjoying my bachelorhood, freedom to do anything.." Good for you!

At the end of the day, there is nothing wrong with getting married. In fact, it can be the most blissful experience you can have. The beautiful union of two souls is something that is hard to describe. However, things do go wrong when either partner is not fully prepared to enter this phase of life or is not willing to give up the benefits of being single - which is what these 10 points are all about.

I'm glad you enjoyed reading this hub. Thanks heaps for stopping by!

Princesswithapen


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princesswithapen 4 years ago Author

Hi Audrey

It is heart warming to know that someone who has seen, done and experienced much in life, like yourself, agrees with the points. Thanks heaps for your comment.

Princesswithapen


himanshu 4 years ago

spicy kind of article !!

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