Should females have male friends while in a relationship?

Its been asked before and now its being asked again...the question that everyone wants to know.

Should females have male friends while in a relationship?

This, I feel, is the most argumentative question anyone in a relationship faces. She had these friends before she started dating them, so why ditch them now that shes in a relationship? Is it out of respect that a female cuts off her male friends? What happens if the relationship ends, will those male friends be understanding? When does it become a matter of jealousy to the one she is in a relationship with?

These are ALL questions that have been brought to my attention. And honestly, I am torn on which way to go. Being in a relationship myself, I feel that I should not have to give up ANY friends (male or female) just because I am in a relationship. My friends should become HIS friends, ultimately...right? Not always the case. Take my situation, Iv been in a relationship for over a year now. I have one particular friend that my significant other CANNOT stand. For what reason? NONE other then jealousy. Or so this is what I'm telling myself. It has to be just that because besides just being a GOOD friend, always there when I need someone to talk to, etc etc.. this friend does nothing to interfere with our relationship and they live over a thousand miles away! But I face the same argument almost everyday because of this ONE friend I have. I am very loyal to my significant other and never have I done anything for them to not trust me.. so why is having this ONE friend so bad?

His views....
He thinks that it is wrong of me to have this ONE good friend. He says my friends "intentions" are different from what I think they are. He claims "I'm a guy, I know how guys think." Its an argument almost everyday if this friend of mine contacts me to ask me how I am doing, how my relationship is, etc. But my question for guys, if your a guy and you know how "guys think" are we females supposed to think now that they have to be aware that their boyfriends may be up to no good...if they claim another guy will do what they want to be with a girl (regardless if she has a boyfriend or not) does that same claim apply to them?

Is this all just a trust issue, jealousy issue, or is this just a typical issue relationships face?
Iv seen relationships and marriages where both people in the party have good friends of the opposite sex and it seems to cause no issues...why can't all relationships be that way?


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gogetter4u 5 years ago from Texas

You may have friends that are male, but as far as hanging out with a male friend and talking on the phone all the time. It doesn't fly. The one your with I believe should become your 1st and your best friend. I would want the same from him. Keep the third person outside the circle. Thanks just my opinion. : )

Good luck with your article.


I know... I'm a guy. 5 years ago

Guys ALWAYS have something MORE in mind, beyond "just friendship". think about it, there are many nice not so good looking girls, and yet they never have so many "friends" as the better looking ones have. I mean really, it's that obvious!

As for boyfriends, that is a different argument; he is still a guy but if he is truly committed, then he might be genuine. A guy friend who is single however, has no commitment to adhere to, except his biological drive to end his singleness, if you know what I mean ;)


jr 3 years ago

I have the same problem with my girl... I stopped talking to all my female friends because we started a relationship... But shr has this guy friend that she claims to know for years. And she thinks its OK to take him to dinner for his bday just the two of them what you think????


mike harrod 2 years ago

If you are in a commited relationship it is so wrong to hang out with male or female friends. You are either single or you are not and there is no in between PERIOD!!


JC 2 years ago

I am in a relationship and committed to him. however, I have a guy best friend that I have been friends with for over 5 years now. I'm not willing to end my friendship for my relationship. I don't think its wrong to have a guy best friend. He's been there for me through thick and thin. What are your opinions?


nonks 2 years ago

I started dating my man last year nd we did not have any problems or whtsoever bt now things have change he hate my frnds who are male I don't know why bcuz me nd my male frnds we have been friends fr years now nd I can't dump my friends just bcuz I'm dating him plz help me out guys wht am I suppose to do in this situation?


SMF 2 years ago

Well first I think it is OK to have friends of the opposite sex, While in a relationship. I have a guy best friend and he has been there through everything with me. Also I do let the guy know when we are dating regarding my best friend. I would never stop having a relationship with my guy friends. There where the before and will always be there after. You have to have TRUST, RESPECT, LOYALTY, HONEST AND COMMUNICATION with the guy your dating. If they can't handle your guy friend's, then maybe he is not the guy for you.

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