10 Signs He Could Be Over You

Sometimes you have this nagging feeling that something is off with the way your partner is behaving but you chose not to shake the nest for fear of being alone. You should never compromise your long term happiness just because of that unfounded fear.

Find out if the guy you are with is already over you even if he does not admit it to you directly. Do not stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy.

1. He spaces out often

When a guy is no longer attentive, this is clear sign of disinterest. He may have other reasons to be distracted but when this occurs way too often, you should get the message by now. Listening when someone is trying to communicate is also a sign of respect so when he spaces out and gets distracted, he is not just losing interest in you but also shows disrespect, one thing that you should never allow in any relationship.

It is indeed a sad fact of life but the truth is that most men opt to just let you get a clue because this saves them from the guilt of being the one having to dump you or end your relationship. We often say that we like our partners to be honest but this is harder in real life. Honesty is much preferred but if he keeps on dodging the issue, it is high time for you to end the relationship.

He stops communicating

Communication is important and the current technology brings more channels to interact so there is no excuse for anyone to be out of touch. When a guy stops communicating, obviously you are no longer in his radar. Men are very protective of their women. Normally, they would often check on a partner to make sure she is alright. If he no longer does this

When communication comes more from you and less from him, better get the message. even if he comes up with legit-sounding alibis, it is better to take it with a grain of salt. His refusal to talk says that he doesn't care enough to talk to you.

No future plans in sight

If you are with a guy for quite some time it is natural to have a discussion about future such as when are you supposed to settle down, where to live and a lot of other things indicating he plans to be with you for the long haul.

Envisioning a future together is a sign of commitment to your relationship. It also signifies that the relationship is moving to a much deeper level. On the other hand, it is no secret that men often avoid this kind of talks unless they are sure that you are that woman they want to be with.

If he avoids any future plans and the mere mention of this seem to make him uncomfortable then it is safe to conclude that he will not be staying in your life for long. You must be ready to accept that your relationship is not gonna last.

He seems restless

When he becomes unnecessarily restless such that he seem to want to be in another place rather than spend time with you, this reflects his feelings. He sure is exhibiting a behavior which could mean he wants to run away from you. Perhaps it is because of guilt or simply because he no longer enjoys to spend some time with you.

A man who is still wants to be in a relationship with you should be comfortable and at peace when he is with you whether you are doing an activity together like going out or watching your favorite movie, or simply hanging out and enjoying each others company. If he seems to be out of whack and appears listless every time you two are together, that is never a good sign.

He hides his phone from you

When he does not take calls in from of you, then that is something that should raise a red flag. He might have other reasons but obviouslly he does not want you to hear his conversations with someone.

6. He flakes out

If your boyfriend arrives late on your dates, or forgets to pick you up and doesn't bother to explain why, this could mean he is not concerned with your feelings anymore. When he no longer feels that you are entitled to any explanation or that you are worth his time.

When he plans things and changes them in the last minute leaving you hanging there without much of an explanation or an apology, time to wake up sis! This is not the kind of behavior you would want to put up with. Clearly, this guy does not value your time and effort to make yourself be available to him as he has no qualms about wasting your time by flaking out the last minute.


Intimacy is gone

Intimacy is important between two people who care about each other. It brings a relationship to a level where two people can freely show their feelings and passion to each other without reservation. Understandably, it is hard to maintain passion over the course of a long-term relationship. If he stops being passionate about you and even avoids intimacy then clearly he has lost interest.

8. He starts avoiding people close to you

In a normal relationship, a boyfriend would often want to learn about your friends and family because he would want to be a part of the close circle of people who mean to you. When a guy starts to veer away from the same people, he is in fact signalling that he is trying to build distance ultimately with you. He does this to avoid the guilt because he knows too well that these are the same people who cares for you. This move will later on make it easier for him to walk away from your life.

10. He lies to you

If you catch him making little lies and it is becoming more frequent, there is a good reason that this guy ones out from your relationship especially when this behavior is not his normal. At some point he will stop making an effort to tell the truth and basically hopes you will get the drift somehow. It is an unfair way to end your relationship but staying in a relationship that is now built with lies will slowly erode your trust in him.

If this happens to you, do not be disheartened. Relationships may come and go but never lose your sense of self-worth and self-respect. It is better to end a relationship than allow it to go on where you run the risk of losing self-respect as well as respect for the other person. You deserve something better and if you continuously work on bettering yourself as a person, it would not be difficult to meet another person that is truly deserving of your heart.

9. He loses respect for you

Respect is very important in any relationship. If a guy no longer respects you, that is one thing you do not want to put up with or compromise with, it is either there or not. Once respect is gone, it means he no longer sees you as a person worthy of his time and effort. You should never let any man disrespect you. It is better to call him out to it and simply end the relationship if he does not step up to a plate.

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AmandaJon 3 years ago

Nice Article! Very informative and worth reading! Thanks!


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gmmurgirl 3 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi erorantes. I'm glad you enjoyed this hub! Please check out my other hubs!


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erorantes 3 years ago from Miami Florida

I like your article Mr. gmmurgirl.


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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi SavvySyi. Guys may have different reasons why they are not breaking up with you. So I really can't say why they do that. Thanks!


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SavvySyi 4 years ago from Florida

So why don't guys just break up then?!?! But yea the not answering why is the only clue that I have right now...he doesn't do any of the others.


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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Thanks, DDE. Distance between two people who are supposed to be in a relationship is always not a good sign. It could be both a waste of time and effort for both. I believe there are other signs but some of those discussed in this hub are often the most ignored.


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DDE 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

definitely the signs of distance between couples who lack interest of each other


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Paige Hause 4 years ago

huh, wasn't really my choice. :( still hurts.


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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi Paige! I'm glad you have made the right choice. Thank you!


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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hello there Sylvia! You are so right. There just comes a point when you to be wise and know that something can no longer be fixed and that it would do you good if you just leave and move on. Each person deserves someone better. Thank you so much for reading.


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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi Elly! Thank your and you are very lucky to have recognized the signs and chose to get out of the relationship early on. I hope a lot of people would be as discerning as you! It would save a lot from heartbreaks and ugly break ups as well. Warm regards! Take care.


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gmmurgirl 4 years ago from Pilipinas Author

Hi there lovedoctor926! Thank you very much for reading. These are just some of the signs we tend to ignore in out partners and I know there are a lot more others. Have a great day!


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Paige Hause 4 years ago

Huh, ths describes my husband before we separated. Thanks for the perspective.


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SylviaSky 4 years ago from USA

Good advice. A lover who doesn't care about you anymore should be dumped immediately. Don't fool yourself that you can fix it.


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Elly`Snow 4 years ago from Lake Stevens, Wa

Your hub about 5 signs that he's not that into you is on the money! I've been in marriages and relationships where these signs and more are very evident.

What generally happens is that I recognize it and get out, leaving the other person to ask me why and be upset because of my leaving.


lovedoctor926 4 years ago

This is good information.

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