Simple Rules to Follow in Your Relationships


The term “Family” can identify a relationship other than “blood relatives”. Family can consist of individuals that you have become acquainted with and formed a close bond and allow them into your close circle of friends.

Listed below are a few suggestions that may assist you in adding strength to those relationships.

One of the first things that you might consider is “Who is really in my corner, has my best interest at heart?” When you have resolved this question to your satisfaction, then take steps to weed out all of the negative people in your circle ofperceived friends. Close friends are those who aspire to see you succeed in yourefforts in all areas and encourage you when life cast doubts your way. They alsoaccept you for who you are naturally

Sometimes a person comes into your circle of friends for the sole purpose of using you for their own selfish gains and once you have served their purpose they move on. Well Good riddance. You are better off without them because they really did not have your best interest in mind, therefore don’t waste time thinking about them and count your blessings that they are out of your life. Some people come into your life for a reason while others come for a season. Time will tell who is who. Be observant with your perceived friends.

There is an old adage, “fool me once and shame on you, fool me twice and shame on me.” When you meet someone for the first time remember to give them a chance to prove themselves to you before making any quick judgments about them.

Remember it’s what is on the inside that counts. Also remember that we are all unique individuals and we may not agree on everything. Do more listening and less talking and stay vigilant. Always trust your inner instincts.

Always treat everyone with kindness and respect because it is the right and moral thing to do. Treat others as you would like to be treated. Take the initiative in this area.

A good point to remember is to accept people as they are. It is not possible to change anyone except you’re your own self. None of us are perfect by any standard so there is no ideal personality.

If you are looking for a good friend then you must be a good friend by demonstrating the positive characteristics of friendship. Some of these characteristics include attentive listening, sincere compliments, encouragement and the like. Take the lead in this area.

Always be yourself and display your best personality at all times. No one likes or appreciates a phony, put-on personality. Besides, it is easier to be yourself naturally so you don’t have to remember who you were. Less stress (smile).

When someone does something that you perceive is offensive to you real or imagined, forgive him or her and move on. It has been proven to be a health hazard to harbor ill feelings or grudges against anyone. Besides none of us are perfect and we may have accidentally done the same to someone else.

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Bobski606 4 years ago from U.K

This is a great hub and you have identified a lot of areas that people sometimes forget about. I recently had an experience where I found out one of my "friends" was just using me for their own selfish needs so I took stock of everything and filtered out the negative people in my life just like you suggested. Voted up + interesting.

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ExoticHippieQueen 4 years ago

Very useful article full of common sense questions to ask yourself!

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azure_sky 4 years ago from Somewhere on the Beach, if I am lucky :)

Yes, I am quite convinced now that you have been climbing in and out of my brain and rummaging around in there.... pulling a lot of "stuff" out of there and putting it in your hubs for me to read. I appreciate your helpfulness in clearing my thoughs on several subjects! Thank you for providing me with some much needed "Soul Therapy"!! You truly are an amazing writer! Upped it, and +++ clicks!

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Anjili 4 years ago from planet earth, a humanoid

Hi writerscentro,

You put up cool facts on guidelines that reveal who is family and who is not. It is unfortunate that we have to contend with snitches before we discover who the real people are in our lives. Very useful information. Voted thus and hence up.

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writerscentro 4 years ago from India Author

Hi Bobski606,

Thanks for sharing your experience with us and also for your positive remarks .

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writerscentro 4 years ago from India Author

Hi ExoticHippieQueen ,

Thanks for appreciating this hub :)

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writerscentro 4 years ago from India Author

Hi azure_sky,

I'm glad to see you here and thanks for the compliments . Please come back again on my future post .....People like you really encourages me to write these type of hubs . Thanks again :)

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writerscentro 4 years ago from India Author

Hi Anjili ,

Thanks for your compliments and really do come on my future post :)

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teaches12345 4 years ago

I like your approach to relationships and to follow your heart on building them. It is true we must respect others and learn to listen well. Enjoyed your share on this topic.

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Mary Merriment 4 years ago from Boise area, Idaho

I especially like the accept people as they are and the be yourself naturally points. Relationships go a lot smoother and more honestly when we don't judge others or try to be something we are not.

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lanablackmoor 4 years ago from New England

Some very helpful rules we'd all do well to remember. There is such a difference between those who are truly in our corner, as you described, and those just along for the ride until things look down. I truly enjoyed the read, voted up!

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etower036 4 years ago from Helana

Excellent writing, and great words of wisdom. Keep up the great work my friend.

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2besure 4 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

Great hub writerscentro! I love your picture. Relationships can be tricky and scarey too. But we need each other. I read somewhere, those who don't have close friends or family ties, don't live as long as those who do.

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SandCastles 4 years ago

Good Hub. I like the question, "Who is really in my corner?"

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writerscentro 4 years ago from India Author

Hey teaches12345 '

Nice to see you here.......And thanks for the compliments .....Respect others is the key point that we all should learn to get success in relation aspects :)

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writerscentro 4 years ago from India Author

Hii Mary Merriment ,

I think you have a strong opinion in relationships thats why you have learned a lot in just a week from my hubs :P......And its great to hear that you are really following the tips which i have posted in this hub....Keep going and do come again on my hubs :)

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writerscentro 4 years ago from India Author

Thanks dear for the compliments.......I really appreciate what you have mentioned in your comment . Thanks again and do visit on my future hubs:)

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writerscentro 4 years ago from India Author

Thanks mate for the compliments .......Do visit my hubs in future

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writerscentro 4 years ago from India Author

Thanks 2besure for the lovely comments and yeahhhh you are right....Buddies and family plays an important role in our lives...Without them we cant even walk a single step alone........Thanks again and do visit on my future hubs

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writerscentro 4 years ago from India Author

Thanks mate for appreciating my hub :)

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