Single Girl's Survival Guide

There's a man out there for everybody!
There's a man out there for everybody!

Things you think about in a bath

Last night, while reclining in the bath staring at my disgustingly dirty feet, I had a thought or two. (As one does when one reclines in the bath.) My first thought, was that I must bath more regularly. Just because I am single and nobody other than me ever sets eyes on this naked bod, doesn't mean that I shouldn't take care of myself. I think sometimes, when we are single, we stop caring about simple things such as a relaxing bath.

Okay, okay, okay. I know what you are thinking but you are completely wrong. You are thinking that I never bath, aren't you? Well, you are wrong. I bath at least once a month, and before you all get on your high horses and put a peg on your nose before you read another word written by someon so dirty and smelly, I shower. Regularly. Like every day. I am a sort of a clean person. What I have discovered, is that showers never manage to clean all the dust and dirt on your feet and it becomes ingrained. (Mental note to myself. Invest in a pumice stone, foot scraper and scrubbing brush.) But then, as I have nobody to suck on my toes, does that really matter? Well, it should matter to me. Looking at the dirt from my feet rising to the surface of the bath, it obviously it doesn't. (Another mental note: Buy different sandals that don't let the sand in.) Like maybe, the five drops of water that drip slowly from my shower are not enough to clean me properly. Ah, for the Power Shower I had in China! If you removed the shower head, and adjusted it to a strong pressured stream of water and aimed it at your nether regions. OMIGOD! But I digress. No Power Showers in Tanzania. But then, I never managed to get dirty feet in China either. Guess you can't have everything!

Lying in my bath (which is actually very small and a tight fit unlike the clawfoot giant bath I had in China) I surveyed the dreadlocks attaching themselves to the sides of the bath. (Mental note: Shave your legs once a week.) Nobody looks at my legs, so why should I shave? Well, for a start when you do shave, the dreadlocks clog up the drain. And you don't want to star in a circus as the freak hairy leg lady now, do you? So, just because I am single, I must not neglect certain things. I must bath, pay attention to my feet, shave my legs weekly and ah, start wearing perfume. My last perfume I received as a gift from a man ran out about six months ago. Sadly, I have never in my life bought myself perfume. That's a man's job to buy it for me. But, alack, alas, there are no men out there, especially perfume-buying men for me in Tanzania. The closest I'd get as a gift of perfume would be a glass Coke bottle filled with zebra urine!

That's when I thought, we really need a Survival Guide for Old Single Women like me. The young girls, they don't have the same problem. They still toff themselves up, layer on the make-up, shave the legs, always hopeful that every time they go out, they might bump into Mr Right. The One. Balderdash and poppycock, I say, with tears of laughter in my eyes. There is no Mr Right or The One. There are just good guys and bad guys. Some of them, might even be somebody else's good guy. But nobody is perfect. If they are, how frigging boring would that be?

So, why are some of us old woman single? With some of us it's by choice, others it was somebody else's choice, circumstances beyond their control. But the end of the day, we are single and need to get ourselves out of the rut. We need to watch what we eat, not to make us look good, but because that is healthy and we need to take care of our bodies as we don't have anybody else to take care of it for us. We need to take more care with our appearance, not to try and attract men like flies to a pile of elephant dung, but to feel good about ourselves. Subconciously, we project to the outside world what we feel inside. We want to show the world we are confident about our singlehood, or is it singleness. Stop waiting for Mr Right to ride into your life on his muscular noble steed, making you swoon and faint, professing his undying love and desire to live happily ever after with you. You're an old single girl now, take some mature steps into the future by making some changes in your way of being, thinking and doing, and love will come. If you want love, that is.  Some of us have reached the stage where we enjoy being alone, we prefer our own company.  At least, I usually always agree with everything I say.  But sometimes i think, wouldn't it be nice to share this with someone?  Don't I want some old man to push my wheelchair for me in the dementia care centre?  I think the key is to start enjoying life here and now - every second of it.

Plan holidays away by yourself.  Experience the world.  And if you can't afford it, then rent a travel DVD, close your curtains, lock your door and tell all your married friends you've gone away on a great holiday.  Make them green with jealousy.  You're not lying!  You've just gone on a virtual holiday!  And if your friends keep asking you about the man in your life, just tell them you're on a short break as he has to do a little jail time.  That'll shut them up.  Don't let being single get you down, shave those legs, buy some great perfume and start to LIVE!



 

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dohn121 6 years ago from Hudson Valley, New York

Damn this was funny, Cindy! I loved reading it as I've been meaning to read your work. I thought the idea of a virtual holiday was brilliant and the first pic of "Mr. Left" caused me fall out of my swivel chair. Thanks again! Good luck to finding Mr. Right Now (for now).


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

This is a cute hub, Cindy, and I laughed my head off. Thank you for a good read.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa

Good laughs, thank you. Enjoyed it all the way. The photo at the top is the BEST! A very good likeness of me, I must say! (I didn't know anyone else had this photo of me - where'd you steal it, lady?)

Love and peace

Tony


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Anath 6 years ago

LOL This was way too funny. Just one thing, Mr Right might not exist but there are plenty of "Mr.fun" out there, ready to make a girl's night memorable ;-)


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Philipo 6 years ago from Nigeria

Very nice hub with a scaring picture. Thanks for sharing.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

Cindy, A great hub. So funny to read, and I loved the picture. I know there are woman that wish they were single. Sometimes the best place to be is where you're at (I guess that makes sense). Anyway, go on and buy yourself some perfume!


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sunflowerbucky 6 years ago from Small Town, USA

Cindy, great hub! I also think this is good advice not only for single women, but for women who have been in a relationship for a long time. It is easy to get complacent and start ignoring things like shaving and makeup when you've been with Mr. Right for ten years. Then suddenly, you wake up one morning and you've become Mrs. Scary! Good luck with your search for new sandals!


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akirchner 6 years ago from Central Oregon

Good lord - I surely hope that guy at the top if taken! Holy cow....a face only a mother could love - at least the teeth. Pucker up is kinda making me crazy thinking about it.....great hub though and thanks for the advice though I don't need it - but just 'had' to read!


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alekhouse 6 years ago from Louisville, Kentucky

Great hub, Cindy. I love it when you let loose with that wonderful sense of humor you got goin'on. The photo at the beginning hilarious. Leave it to you to find and use something so zany!!


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

I wrote personal replies to all the people who responded, clicked on Post Comment and then got a message saying 'Oops, something went wrong, try again' and all my lovely thoughtful replies vanished. I don't want to type them all again, so thanks for commenting, glad you got a laugh out of this and enjoyed the pic of Tonymac i hunted high and low to find on the net!


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akirchner 6 years ago from Central Oregon

Technology - don't you just love it?


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Ghost Whisper 77 6 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

Heheheheh this was great reading! This single gal is going to shave her legs now..hehehe


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emievil 6 years ago from Philippines

LOL, how come you read my mind cindy? I'm not single but I don't shave my legs, honestly! Okay, okay, mental note, get something to shave my legs. Hope I don't regret this LOL.


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Akirchner, when technology doesn't work I always have the urge to fling it!

Ghostwhisper we are going to start a new shaving legs movement!

Emievil, get your ass down to the shop and buy something to remove your leg dreadlocks!


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia

Hahaha what exactly were you going to say you do with that shower head? Oh and that hot hunk on your page growl he is hotter than a stick of kabana.


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CMHypno 6 years ago from Other Side of the Sun

Great Hub Cindy, but alas I shave my legs, take long baths, wear perfume every day, do my roots regularly and am still single! Hope your shaving and self-improvement regime starts reeling them in - keep us updated on your progress!


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Well BP, I could do that with the shower head in China, but here in Tanzania, the 5 drops at low pressure not much you can do!

CMHypno, will keep you updated not that there's anything to reel in here!


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Springboard 6 years ago from Wisconsin

I'm still trying to get past the thought of dreadlocks on the legs. :) You women sure have to go to great lengths...we men take it for granted we can just get up, quick shave—or not—throw on something that smells okay and we're good to go.


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Sa Toya 6 years ago from England

Once I manage to get over the nearly scar inducing picture, I was able to read this ;) glad I did. From one single lady to another...play on!


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Paradise7 6 years ago from Upstate New York

Great hub! (Like flies to elephant dung???) You WOULD think of elephant dung. You see a lot more elephants than we do. Yes!! Hear, hear for the single older woman. That pic of the prize-winning guy is a classic! I've met a few of those at the neighborhood waterhole. And they always think they're God's gift to women, for some reason.


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Pringboard, men do have it lucky. Bastards!

Sa Toya, have a great playful weekend! lol

Paradise, you are so right, the ugliest and most gross always think they are God's gift!


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stephensaldana 6 years ago from Chicago

Great hub!!!!!

The clarity and balance shine from this hub. The thought of virtual holiday is sparklingly fabulous. It is filled with tremendous joy and enjoyment. The photograph is simply effortlessly- classic. The hub can be regarded as one of the most intriguing hub.


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Oooo Stephen, all these compliments! What do you want from me? Lol!


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Enelle Lamb 6 years ago from Canada's 'California'

Hear hear! Thoroughly enjoyed reading this :D


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Thanks Enelle!


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Lita C. Malicdem 6 years ago from Philippines

Cindy,

You made me laughing all the way down my breakfast table this early morning. It's the best ever hub I read, glamorizes single old women, like me. Your funny frantics really made my day. Thanks.


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Feline Prophet 6 years ago from India

Way to go Cindy...show 'em!!


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Lita, just call me the funny frumpy frantic old woman lol!

FP, thanks mate!


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lorlie6 6 years ago from Bishop, Ca

How on earth did you come up with a photo of my ex???

You are an absolute crack-up, gal-thanks!


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Trusted Marketing 6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

Fun always works. Thanks for the moment.


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Lorlie, I looked long and hard for that photo of your ex some stalking and all, lol

TM, we have to laugh at ourselves, eh?


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blue dog 6 years ago from texas hill country

this was great! including that photo of george clooney was a brilliant touch.


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Haha Blue Dog, bet George Clooney wouldn't be impressed!


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habee 6 years ago from Georgia

This was simply great! Loved it! I think I'll have nightmares about the pic, however.


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Yeah Habee, he might be the stuff nightmares are made of, but I'm sure inside he has a good heart


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Obscurely Diverse 6 years ago from Tennessee, U.S., Earth, Milky Way via Cosmos

I landed here, just to try and identify what species that creature is - that you have depicted above. That guy is beyond dental repair, among other things... Yikes!


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Hey OD, he's probably somebody's father or husband, and they might think he's the kindest person ever lol


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Eileen Hughes 6 years ago from Northam Western Australia

Oh boy I hope thats not your new boyfriend. He may need a bath too. and possibly a shave. Great funny hub, we all need to laugh more there is always murders and rapes and crime shows on TV. I love laughter, like this. Really enjoyed it.


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Yeah Eileen, this guy is hot stuff, eh? lol


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ubalildon 5 years ago

nice hub...keep it up


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cindyvine 5 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Thanks Ubalidon! Nice suit!


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cbpoet 4 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada

Kudos to you and all the single ladies in America- including myself.


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cindyvine 4 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Cbpoet, thanks and have an awesomely successful 2012!


bossldy wilkins 4 years ago

This really made my morning. I was interested in the title clicked on the blog and couldn't stop reading.


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cindyvine 4 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine Author

Haha glad to have caused a smile Bossidy!

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