So you think your man's an a$$hole?

How I define an asshole in a man

As promised, today I will blog about another subject many hold dear to their heart. So, you think you're man's an asshole? We all use the term so loosely as in "What an asshole!" or "He's such an f*n asshole." But does he fit the criteria? Yesterday I said I would distingush between an asshole and a loser. Well the distinction is easy. A loser is someone who will leech onto you, suck you dry, make you believe you're the only one that can help him then leave you when you run out of money. An asshole is a guy who treats you like crap and could care less if you're around or not. They use you mostly for a different reason- sex.

For some reason, women in general have a long history of being attracted to assholes. Personally, I find that once a guy treats me like shit the first time I don't like going back for more. However, women do like assholes. Why?? I'm sure many of the nice guys out there scream that every day. In order to find out the true answer to that question, you're going to have to ask one of those suckers.

If your man meets most of the criteria listed below, he's an asshole.

1.) He doesn't know anything about you that's important. When you do talk to him, he never asks how your day went nor does he care.

2.) He flirts with your friends to make you jealous, and responds when they flirt back. (Those friends btw need to go... NOW)

3.) You talk to his voicemail more than you talk to him. Sometimes he just doesn't "feel like" answering the phone or he's "busy."

4.) He treats you like crap.
a) he hangs up on you
b) calls you names
c) uses you only for sex or money
d) he has a problem speaking in a regular tone.
e) they lie and don't care if they get caught

5.) In the rare event that you do get a gift from him it's usually late and nothing you really wanted or even needed. In fact, he probably only remembered because you told him.

6.) He thinks that telling him about birthdays, holidays and anniversaries is nagging and tells you to shut up all the time.

7.) When he decides he's done with you, he'll never break up with you face to face. It'll always be over the phone... and that's only if you're lucky. Usually, when he gets tired of you he'll just stop answering the phone. So because you don't know what's going on, you'll leave messages. After he checks them, he decides if he wants to talk to you after a few days he's going to say that you're a psycho for calling so much. JUST PICK UP THE DAMN PHONE!

8.) Part of the reason why you call so much is because you need closure. However, assholes don't believe in that. In fact, I'm surprised if they even know the meaning of the word. If he doesn't want to be with you you're probably never going to know why... so stop seeking closure because it's not going to happen.

9.) He doesn't like to take you out with his friends, he'd rather talk about you when you're not there.

10.) If you use the "friend to find out how he feels about me" maneuver, he'll most likely pretend to like you if he's smart... but that's just so you'll give it up. If he starts talking shit he just wants to have sex with your friend.

11) You two could've just had the biggest fight and you're at your friends house bawling your eyes out while he's at poker night with the guys.

12.) He'll take anything from you, even your last dollar and not think twice about it.

13.) Lastly, he never takes you ANYWHERE. You don't go on dates, and even if you do, he hardly ever pays.

Although this list might be obvious to some readers, there are still women out there who continue this cycle with each relationship. Oftentimes it's hard for them to realize until they're completely out of the situation and even then it starts all over again with a new relationship. Pay attention to the warning signs!! If your guy meets this criteria he's an ASSHOLE. Leave him, go to a real man who can deal with REAL women and stop mentally torturing yourself. In the end, you're only going to get bitter, cynical and jaded and probably take that out on a nice guy that's trying to date you.



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Comments 5 comments

R.P 8 years ago

great article


MistressCarly 8 years ago from Near Boston, MA Author

Thank you. I appreciate it. :)


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one2recognize2 6 years ago from New York

Masterfully portrayed and totally on point. Great one, and thanks for sharing, will def pass on to the friends that don't quite get it, but might if they see some of the signs in this hub. :)


me 6 years ago

very true and sad


autumn 6 years ago

Oh my goodness. So very true! It's a horrible thing to experience when a man treats a woman this way. Run! This type of treatment sounds a lot like a Sociopath!

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