What is Spooning and the History of a Welsh Tradition

What is "Spooning"?

If you had never heard the term, you may wonder what the fork spooning is.  It may sound like something that goes on the dining room table, but (the others eating there hope) it is not often found on a table.  I'm not saying that I've never heard of someone spooning on their dining room table, I'm just stating it's not usually an everyday occurance.

Spooning is a type of hugging.  Both people involved in the hug face in the same direction so that they look like spoons in a drawer.  Wikipedia states that the front person is called the "Big Spoon" and the back person is called the "Little Spoon".  Now, I have never heard that before, but I certainly like when my partner holds me this way and I can feel his "little spoon" against my back.  Funny how he usually turns into the "big spoon" as he hold me.

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How The Fork is Spooning a Wales Tradition?

Wales is famous for many things, the ones that stand out in my mind are Tom Jones, Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton. I have heard the term "Prince of Wales". I know (from my school days) that Wales has a ton of coal, sheep and mountains...but where does spooning come in? How can a hug be associated with a country?

Here's a fact I had not previously known, Wales is also famous for it's "love spoons".  Sounds a little kinky, don't you think?  Sorry to disappoint you, it's not kinky, it's an old courtship tradition in Wales.  And no, they don't spank each other with spoons.  This tradition is even older.

Wood Carving and Wales

The Welsh have been famous for their wood carvings since medieval times. Many cathedrals hold testiment to the skill of the Welsh in the form of carved "rood screens". These intricately carved screens were both a symbolic and physical barrier that separated the domain of the priests (the sanctuary) from that of the masses (the nave). The holes allowed the ordinary people to see into the priests' world and granted them a limited access into the spiritual realm.

Wood carving was an exhalted talent in Wales. The best carvers were excellent providers for their families. I am not sure exactly who started the tradition of carving love spoons, but once started it caught on like a wild fire. Soon young men throughout Wales were carving spoons to win the love of that special someone.

Welsh Love Spoons

I know what you are thinking, how does a spoon win the love of a maiden?  Well, the Welsh love spoons were not just any old spoon pumped out by a factory.  They were hand carved pieces of art.  Young men would spend months carving their spoons, the more intricate, the better.  Tradition tells that if the woman of their desires accepted the spoon, the two were then acknowledged as a couple by society. 

Spoons existed before forks.  They were useful for eating, measuring, cooking and serving.  Spoons were a multi-functional utensil and a much sought after commodity.  Love spoons took several hours to carve.  The young man would spend many evenings carving the perfect spoon.  Several evenings that would be well worth his time if the spoon was accepted by his love.  These spoons were the equivalent of an engagement ring.

What Do The Symbols Mean?

Welsh love spoons were carved with care, and the symbols carved into them were very personal. The more intricate the carving, the more the man cared for the woman. Each heart, chain and flower had meaning, meaning that when strung together was very intimate and personal.

From telling her how many children he wanted to telling her that his heart was "anchored" in her, the love spoon gave the man a lasting testimony of his love. Originally the spoons were probably used in everyday life, but over time they became ornamental. A woman would proudly display this avowal of her man's love for all her neighbors to see.

Some of the symbols used most often included:

Double Heart: They love each other, a shared love

Celtic Knot: Everlasting love

Vine Twist: Our love will grow

Horseshoe: Good luck and good fortune

Single Heart: May I court you?

Link Chain: Married within (however many links) years

Ball in Cage: Your love is safe with me

Heart Shaped Spoon: We will have a life full of love

Birds: Love birds or Let's go away together.

How To Spoon

How Does Love Spoon Become Spooning?

The Welsh called this display of affection spooning. Spooning originally meant the giving of an intricately carved spoon to the woman you loved and wanted to marry. Over time, spooning came to mean a type of hug where you lay facing the same way. Although the meanings are different, the word originated in Wales.

I hope this has been helpful, researching this has been delightfully enlightening. I never would have guessed the origins of the word spooning! Remember, Wales is a lovely country and it has given us more than we know. Spoon often, spoon well, and happy forking!

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I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s 6 years ago

Such a lovely HUB! :) Delightful history shared. I would have never guessed the history of spooning. The Welsh are passionate people with devoted hearts. Thank you so much for this wonderful history. I can only it took you a while to gather all th info. :D Two Thumbs UP!


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salt 6 years ago from australia

Wonderful thankyou..


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obsexed 6 years ago from Sensual, USA Author

I*n*v*i*c*t*u*s, I had a good time finding this information. I also found out the Welsh are an amazing people. Thanks!

salt, Thank you for reading!


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IntimatEvolution 6 years ago from Columbia, MO USA

I love it! Sent a tweet out about it. Love it. You so had me at the title. How funny.


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Mystique1957 6 years ago from Caracas-Venezuela

How spooningly sweet! I am amazed at customs from different parts of the world. This is one I would certainly love to practice with regularity(Not the carving! That requires serious skills-The Hugging)There isn´t something warmer than a sincere hug, and if it is Spooning...well...Gotta get some tea, bye now!

Wonderful hub!

Thumbs up!

warmest regards and blessings,

Al


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obsexed 6 years ago from Sensual, USA Author

IntimatEvolution, I'm glad you loved it. Thanks for being so sweet and tweeting about it! That makes my day!

Al, I love learning about different customs. And I agree, a sincere hug is warming to the heart and body. Thanks!


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Michael Jay 6 years ago

Nice hub, obsexed! It's really interesting.


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obsexed 6 years ago from Sensual, USA Author

Thanks Michael! It was very interesting to research also.


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My Sweet Anjolie 6 years ago

I do like spooning with or without the table setting and in any land.


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obsexed 6 years ago from Sensual, USA Author

My Sweet Anjolie, Spooning is very relaxing, here or there!


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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

Very well done hub. If this is the beginning you will be soon a top hubber. Rated up and stumbled. :)


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obsexed 6 years ago from Sensual, USA Author

hypnodude, Thanks! I really appreciate the compliment, and I hope I prove you right someday. :)


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wavegirl22 6 years ago from New York, NY

obsexed - don't you just love when hypnodude stumbles upon you ;) and yes I agree with him on all counts . .this Hub is excellent! And what better way to sleep - spooning is the best;)


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obsexed 6 years ago from Sensual, USA Author

wavegirl, I've never been stumbled before, but yes, I love it! Thank you, it means a lot to me that you like the hub. And I am with you...spooning is an excellent sleeping position, is there any better?


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa

So it's my Welsh blood that's to blame for my love of forking and spooning - I would never have known that if you had not written this great Hub, thank you. More strength to your spoon, good friend!

Love and peace

Tony


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obsexed 6 years ago from Sensual, USA Author

Tony, Spooning and forking are both wonderful activities and you must be a wonderful spooner, having both the love and the bloodline for it! ;) Thanks!


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Pamela N Red 5 years ago from Oklahoma

Interesting information. I will have to check out the Welsh spoon museum.

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