Story Books Have Women Disillusioned

Young women are disillusioned by fairy tale stories they read as children and romance novels that are a carry over from the Disney storybook movies they watched as little girls. I hear so many women today calling themselves princess and wanting to find a man who will “treat them like a queen.”


Trouble is there are only so many knights in shining armor to go around and so many wanna be princesses sit home alone.

Why do novels have to always be about rich people? They all seem to end the same way: “Happily ever after…and rich.”

No wonder young women are so confused and try to hold out for Prince Charming and a castle. That’s how all the novels end so it must be true. Right?


If you look at the demographics, most people aren’t rich. A large percentage of us are middle class and quite a few others are poor.

I just read a book that had a character that was a mechanic during the war but of course when he gets out he opens a chain of car repair shops and becomes a multimillionaire. How believable is that?

Another man in this same book is a gardener/landscaper but of course after she falls in love with him she finds out he’s a rich and famous author. She just didn’t recognize him in his dirty jeans and work boots. Uh-huh.


Pretty Woman is a prime example of unrealistic writing. A prostitute, no less, finds and marries a wealthy guy and lives happily ever after. Doesn’t matter how tarnished your past is girls you too can have a rich man sweep you off of your feet. Yeah right.

The trouble is, there aren’t that many wealthy bachelors to go around so there are a lot of disappointed young women out there.

There’s also another small detail most books tend to leave out and that is that most rich men marry someone with similar financial means. His parents aren’t going to settle for junior marrying a girl from across the tracks, she has to have the same breeding, family connections and stock holdings as his family. Money stays with money. Rich men seldom date much less marry poor women no matter what the novels would have us believe.


Fact is there is no free lunch. Statistically, women tend to look for men who make more money than they do but looking for a rich man is unrealistic unless your family is also wealthy. If you are extremely pretty you might get lucky and land a rich old guy but there aren’t very many of those either.

Women who marry for money lead very unhappy lives. Sure they have plenty of credit cards but they aren’t content with their lot in life. Who wants to wake up each morning with a man old enough to be your grandfather? Truth is these girls are nothing but high paid nursemaids.


I know of a young woman who married a rich old man. She hung around pushed his wheelchair and did his errands for him. When he passed away she greedily stood by while the lawyer read the will. The house went to his oldest son, most of his real estate holdings and money were distributed among his children and a large hunk of change went to his first wife. His pretty young widow got a small bungalow and $20,000. She was livid, contested the will, spent every penny of her inheritance trying to get more and ended up with nothing.

Moral of that story is, money can’t and doesn’t buy you happiness. Find a nice young man who loves you, settle down, build a life together from the ground up like everybody else. Live happily ever after and forget the dreams of royalty, you’ll be happier for it.

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TENKAY 4 years ago from Philippines

Very true indeed. Those lying novels, the impossible to-come-true stories of fairy tales, ah I've read them all. I really did not believe them, those were just to escape from my boring life. But, as I grew older, I realized that life is what you make of it, boring if you don't live it and exciting if you get hold of it.


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Jason R. Manning 4 years ago from Sacramento, California

Interesting, how do you feel about stores such as “Great Expectations” that seems rather the anti-love tale. Nicolas Sparks writes some closure to home feel good stories, The Note Book. Who wakes up each day and says “I desire mediocrity; this is the life for me.” What do you suggest little girls read? Life would really be depressing if we couldn’t imagine some fiction coming to life, would you agree? Cheers.


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Pamela N Red 4 years ago from Oklahoma Author

Tenkay and Jason, reading fiction is fun and there is nothing wrong with it. The problem is when people start to believe them to be reality. Too many women believe in the prince that will sweep them off of their feet and give them everything they want. Life doesn't work that way. Like Tenkay says, life is what we make of it we can either be spectators or participants, the choice is ours.


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wonderful1 4 years ago from Southern California

Interesting points, and I agree that the Disney movies play a number on women's heads (or girls who become women, and think that all you need in life is to fall in love (preferably to a rich prince), and nothing else matters. Did any of the animated movies portray a strong young woman who was working on a career, or tackle life's challenges on her own merit? NO! They had to have a prince sweep them off their feet and save the day.

I wrote a Hub about this very subject, because I feel like it made a huge impact in my life. Fantasies are dangerous in a sense, and can lead you down a wrong path. In essence, it "had" to happen because that is why I am where I am now: writing relationship advice to help others. Invaluable nuggets of wisdom, I tell you. I make sure to tell my girls all the stuff I learned the hard way.

I'm reading a good book now called "Drama Kings." It's fascinating! In just the last 20 years there's been a huge change in women that no longer put up with "drama king" men in relationships. I can't wait to read more.


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Pamela N Red 4 years ago from Oklahoma Author

I haven't heard of Drama Kings. Thanks for reading.


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AEvans 4 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

What you have written in this hub is so true. I would not wish to spend my days with someone who could be my father. It just wouldn't work. The young woman that ended up with the bungalow should have sucked it up and not argued, she was still young. She could have ended up with nothing when the 'Will' was read.

If you find Prince charming Pam please make sure he has a brother and I get first dibs! lolo!

Vote up and shared. :)


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Pamela N Red 4 years ago from Oklahoma Author

AEvans, If I meet a Prince Charming I'll send him your way.


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sandrabusby 4 years ago from Tuscaloosa, Alabama, USA

Pamela, I always enjoy your hubs so much, and I agree with your point. However, fairy tales are stories of our inner life and our inner figures. They're not to be taken literally. Maybe we should teach our daughters about their "inner figures." Thanks for SHARING. Sandra Busby


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teaches12345 4 years ago

Excellent advice to women everywhere! I enjoy a romantic tale and fairy tales are so exciting. I am currently addicted to the TV series Once Upon A time and it does have all of that, but it is not reality. Your last thoughts bring the truth home. Marry with the perspective that it will take work and time to build a great marriage. Voted up!


jenubouka 4 years ago

This is so awesome and sadly very true. I remember when Pretty woman came out, loved the message...Move to Hollywood ladies, hooker up and find your prince charming- all ends well...

It is sad really that certain women hold out their true destiny of inner happiness all for a couple of dollars that really does not signify their existence in the long run, then again try telling them that.


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Rosemay50 4 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

This is an awesome hub. So true, but the reason those romance books are printed and movies made is because there is a demand for them. It is nice for an hour or 2 just to escape the realities, provided that we do realise that that is all it is escapism.

The Cinderealla stories just don't happen in real life. Rich good looking men are few and far between and they are not always the Prince Charming that we hope for.

Wealth does not always bring happiness.

The young woman should have been satified with her bungalow and $20,000, it was more than she started off with.


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Pamela N Red 4 years ago from Oklahoma Author

Fairytales and romance novels are great, I enjoy reading and watching the movies as well. I think some young women get so wrapped up in them they forget they aren't real. I've read in forums young women hoping to find a vampire in real life after reading and watching Twilight. Assuredly if they were to meet one in person they wouldn't be quite so enamored.


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Angie Jardine 4 years ago from Cornwall, land of the eternally youthful mind ...

Interesting hub, Pam ... but depressing.

It does seem infinitely sad that there are girls out there who are so irretrievably dim that they really believe life is like escapist films and novels. What's the answer? Better education? Films and books that show girls succeeding on their own and then hooking some bloke (preferably not rich) and falling in love?

It's a bit on a par with men thinking that all pretty women are kind, unselfish, cordon bleu chefs crossed with nymphomaniac pole dancers ...


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A Rising Tide 4 years ago

Great Hub Pamela! Deep down inside, most young women want to believe in and experience the fairytale life and live "happily ever after". However, the reality of everyday mundane life stressors like kids, bills, a mortgage and a job tend to put a damper on things. As the saying goes, those who marry for money will earn every penny of it.


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Pamela N Red 4 years ago from Oklahoma Author

A Rising Tide, wanting to be happy is great but we have to realize that life is full of ups and downs. It's not always happy.


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Natashalh 4 years ago from Hawaii

I work at a site with two rental facilities frequently used for weddings. I see so many women with a fairy tale idea of what should be happening and I feel bad for them because I just don't think they're going to be happy.


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Pamela N Red 4 years ago from Oklahoma Author

Natasha, overpriced weddings is another pet peeve of mine. Young people would do much better if they took that money and put it on a down payment for a house. What do they have to show for that expensive party? Pictures?


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ishwaryaa22 4 years ago from Chennai, India

A wise and sensible hub! You presented your views very well in this engaging hub! I totally agree with you that women should be more practical and realize that they live in the real world, not " Disney world of Princes Charming, princess, wealth and all"! Your words at the end of this rational hub are absolutely right and well-said - money are not very important and marrying a good-natured man is an important key to a happy married life! Well-done!

Thanks for SHARING. Awesome & Interesting. Voted up & Socially Shared


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Pamela N Red 4 years ago from Oklahoma Author

Thanks for reading, ishwaryaa22.


Yonder Moon 4 years ago

I agree with this article. Usually wanting to pursue a relationship with someone for partially financial reasons is something generally overlooked these days, yet classic fairytales which have been ingrained into our brains when we were children make the idea of wanting a handsome and wealthy man to sweep us off our feet not so alien. But that's not what love or happiness is about at all.


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Pamela N Red 4 years ago from Oklahoma Author

I'll choose love over money every time, Yonder Moon. Happiness can't be found in a bank, some of the most miserable people are wealthy.

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