Subtle Signs of Abuse in a Relationship
Ever wonder why the guy you’re with makes you feel as if, deep down, you aren’t “good enough?” Many women don’t realize that are several different forms of abuse, not just physical. Mentally, emotionally, sexually, women can be abused without even realizing it. Did you know that manipulation and deception are forms of abuse? Did you realize that even intimidation, shame and fear are forms of abuse? When someone threatens you or destroys something belonging to you, even that is a form of abuse.
Men that are abusive have such a low self-image that they have the need to control the one they love in order to feel better about themselves. A person with genuine self-respect would have no desire or need to manipulate, deceive, intimidate, shame, control or scare anyone.
Manipulation is a subtle way of causing someone to feel guilt if they don’t do what the other person wants. That makes it a form of control. Deception is lying to someone to make sure they are not aware of what’s going on or what the truth is about someone. That makes it a form of control. Intimidation is treating someone like they are “less than”, that they aren’t important and have no say. That makes it a form of control. Shame is about devaluing someone for who they are, not necessarily what they do. That makes it a form of control. Fear is being afraid that something they might do, say, think or feel will cause major havoc between the worrier and the person that caused them the fear. The important thing to remember is this: “F-E-A-R” stands for “False Expectations Appearing Real.” That is a major awareness that will help in taking the steps towards becoming free of abuse.
There’s more to come in my next article. Stay tuned!
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