Being a Tall Woman and Loving It!

Growing up Tall

If only everyone could experience being tall, the good and bad. Being tall is more than the physical/ outward appearance, it becomes psychological too. For boys, it can make them awkward and girls stand out whether they want to or not. I can't count how many times I wished, as a kid, I could just disappear into a crowd.You can accept it or fight it and curse a few choice tall relatives for passing on the jolly green giant gene. Accepting doesn't happen overnight, but the journey is rewarding.

I was "tall for her (my) age" beginning in 3rd grade- that's when it became really noticeable. In class pictures, I was placed in the far back row with the teacher and tall boys, who were still shorter than me. I automatically knew where my place was. I spent a lot of my early school years in the back row soI didn't stand out like a sore thumb.

Because of my height, I was "different", almost as if I had a deformity. If you talk to a person living with a deformity who has turned their challenge into an inspiration, then you'd have an idea how being tall effected me. I had to live with the fact that I couldn't just blend in- most eyes were on me the moment I walked into a room. I could either tell myself that they were galking at me like I was a freak or they were admiring a beautiful tall girl who has stolen the attention and gazes in the room.

I received numerous questions from strangers- my favorite is "You must play basketball". I hated basketball- on purpose. I wanted to prove everybody's stereotyping wrong so I got involved in ballet and tennis instead (I play basketball at the gym now, but don't tell anyone). Nobody would consider randomly asking an African American guy if he plays basketball because most players are black. For height, sterotyping has no boundaries. I answer the questions politely.

Ballet was great because it gave me grace and good posture for carrying around my tall frame. Every tall girl needs a confidence booster and having good posture is more than what most short or tall girls have.

Fortunately I learned other valuable life lessons from being tall: If someone asks you 'how the weather is up there?', spit on them and say 'it's raining'. Actually my mom told me that one when I was a kid, not expecting I'd use it, but I did.

I didn't fit in with the much shorter girls who huddled together and gossiped- I hated hunching over to fit into their huddle so I gave up on gossip. I wasn't much for gossiping anyway. Being catty wasn't my thing either, and luckily no girl would fight me- because of my intimidating height, yay!.

At the time, I hated being taller than most of the guys in school, but later I look back and am so thankful I was. It weeded out a lot of jerks, not to say tall guys can't be jerks, but at least I didn't have to put up with the short ones as well. My 3 year old daughter is tall for her age and I think dating won't be as big of an issue as it is for the shorter girls. Thank God!

The Height of Passion

Being tall in the dating scene is an advantage. For me, my issue with standing out like a sore thumb quickly diminished, because I loved the extra attention and getting noticed by all the guys, putting me on the front lines. Speaking of 'lines', the basketball line was annoying, but it was a perfect first line for guys to approach me with and I started not minding it as much.

Some short guys like tall women and not all tall women exclusively date tall men. Personally, I like guys around my height (6 ft) so there is good eye contact and a physical equality. I really do give tremendous credit to all guys who approach a tall woman. There is a lot to be assumed about tall women, mainly the intimidation factor, so that also weeds out the inferior and weak, in a Darwinistic survival-of-the-fittest way. Tall women date the guys who are comfortable in their own skin and also with having a tall trophy.

A Blessing in Disguise

You don't have to be tall to learn valuable lessons. It's finding what is unique about you- it's your difference that makes the difference. Height was my blessing, which I hope my daughter also gets to experience. Height taught me to not lose myself in the crowd and follow the sheep. It's about looking at your most challenging feature or trait and using it to your advantage.Not everyone will be impressed, not everyone likes tall women, and that's OK. I'm sure we can all think of someone famous who has a noticeable feature, possibly unattractive by popular standards, and is famous or attractive because of it. Embrace your differences girls!

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Ryan Hupfer 8 years ago from San Francisco, CA

Hey, I'm 6'7" so you're not that tall to me....haha. Keep on rockin't it and don't be slouching! Oh, and I did play basketball. :)

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izettl 8 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Well at 6'7" I should hope you played basketball :-) As a tall guy you get the pick of all the girls- short or tall- lucky you! THanks for the comments!


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glassvisage 8 years ago from Northern California

This is a great Hub. I actually wish I were shorter because I think short is cute... I feel like tall people are more sophisticated, which definitely isn't me!

izettl 8 years ago

Well think of Brooke Shelids who is a little quirky and cutesy, but nevertheless 6 feet tall. I am jealous of my 5 foot tall friend who will never pass as a day older than 16 even though she's 30- oh to be an infinite kid. I didn't mind not getting carded much as a teenager ;-)) I do understand what you're saying though.

Joann 7 years ago

As a sophomore in high school I stand at 5'10. More often I just feel "large", not so much tall. You get all those remarks to. It's ridiculous sometimes, but everone has insecurities, right? So i'm just waiting for the guys to grow; it's taking them longer than i'd like!

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izettl 7 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Being tall in h.s kept me from getting into trouble with dating boys- none of them were my height so I didn't find myself dating much at all.

"Tall" can often be referred to as "big" or "large" and I hate that terminology.

I can promise you that taking the time while you're young now to appreciate, accept, and learn to enjoy being taller than most girls will help you later. Later guys will consider you a unique diamond because there aren't a lot of tall, confident girls.

Also taking dance classes or something to get you physically comfortable with your height helps a ton.

Jim 7 years ago

I'm 5' 8.5" myself and I have always thought that tall fit women were very attractive. There are some tall athletic woman who work out at my gym and I think they are beautiful. I'm 34 year old, but I only realized within the past couple years that some tall women would go for me. (When I say "tall," I mean like 5'9" or maybe 5'10" - that's tall to me.)

Sherman 6 years ago

I wish I had dated some tall women. I know I missed out on some great personalities and perspectives.

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izettl 6 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Sherman~ thanks for visiting here and yes a tall confident woman could have brought a lot of fun your way.

Lizi 6 years ago

I loved reading this I'm 17 and almost 5ft11 which might not seem that tall to a lot of people most of my friends are around 5 ft 5 so I look giant to them and I'm always afraid of wearing heels around them because it makes the difference even bigger but guess it's one of those things I'll just have to get over

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izettl 6 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Lizi~ I was 5' 11" in high school too and it was awkward, but when I got just a little bit older other women wish they were taller and men wish they were with you. Wear heels with confidence!

Lala 5 years ago

I'm 20 and somewhere between 5'11 and 6', and I have been all over the internet looking for things to help me become more comfortable with my height. I actually do play college basketball for Wake Forest University, and my height is a blessing because I am getting a great education for free. The problem is, I'm very girly, and being "large" and a basketball player pushes me into that more masculine category that I don't want to be in. I have and obsession with heels, but I don't wear them because I am so uncomfortable towering over everyone.

I loved this article because it is so relatable. I do notice all of the points you made and I think its amazing. Do you have any other advice for being comfortable in my height?

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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Tall girls rule! The fact that you're unique and stand out above other girls in most social settings, makes you sexy. I've always considered myself a tom boy so I don't know about the girly thing, but I've learned how to dress up anything. I love putting feminie touches on any type of shoes, even flip-flops. When I played sports, I felt boyish and maybe that just went with being in sports and being tall. Perhaps your seeking girly things is your way of overcompensating for something you're not feeling within you as being girly. This all comes down to not being comfortable with your height and for me I was in my early 20's when I became more comofortable with it. Many men love women with height and femininity is not what you wear or shoes, it's in you, your mannerisms, a flip of your hair, a smile, etc. I know how you feel, being "bigger"/taller makes you feel guyish, but what I learned is many men want to be with a tall women and many women would like to be taller. If you don't feel it, fake it and soon you'll get your confidence. I took a lot of ballet classes and it got me over being awkward about my height, and graceful instead with better posture too. Hope some of that helps. I wear high heel shoes, but I lvoe my flip flops with embellishments too. Wear them and be proud, nobody will think otherwise.

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QOwens81 5 years ago from Chicago, IL.

Hey embrace your tallness. Im only 5"5 and believe me I wish I was taller. I think tall women have a remarkable beauty and it makes them stand out.

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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Q~ thanks for stopping by. I guess you'll just have to wear some high heels. My mom is 5'6" and she always raised me to be proud of my height so I have to give a lot of thanks to her.

Martin 5 years ago

Hey tall girls, don't be shy or scared of shorter guys. Not all of us feel threatened or intimidated by your amazing height and long luscious legs. I can't speak for all shorter guys, but this 5'5 guy adores you. We all need some lovin! If you're tired of competing against the short girls for the affections of the tall guys who DO feel threatened by your height, please look down! There are quality guys well under 6'0 with open arms ready to pamper and pleasure you. BTW, you can rock your heels as much as you want! I never have a problem with that. My only concern with tall girls and shoes is that some of you aren't very kind to your big, sexy tootsies! You'd sooner jam them into pointy heels or smaller shoes to keep up appearances with the short girls. That's not right ladies. Nothing should be painful when you walk. Besides, models have gorgeous big feet and tall girls look ultra-sexy in flipflops and sandals IMO. Just make sure your toes are well pedicured and your good to go! Much love to all!!

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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Hey Martin great comment. I completely agree. I only dated one guy talle than me, the rest shorter! My husband is shorter than me. Thanks for stopping by!

Alicia 5 years ago

I am currently 5'9 1/2 IN BARE FEET. I'm not one of those "annoying" people (men & women) who add 1-3 inches to their height just because "they feel like doing so". I HONESTLY towered over every boy & every girl in my grade school classes, & it really sucked, but you do learn (as you get older) to "embrace your height". Many years ago, I had a sexy, blond, friend who would constantly "lament" over how she wished she were TALL like me. (She was 5'3 in bare feet.) I was a TALL, sexy, blond,? & she was a SHORT, sexy, blond, & who do you think got MOST of the MALE ATTENTION when she & I went out to bars or clubs? (Many men are quite intimidated by tall women, whereas short women are "CUTE AS HELL" & most definitely FAR LESS INTIMIDATING TO MEN. LOL)

I ALWAYS HATED being tall, because I stood out everywhere I went. I could NEVER simply "blend into the woodwork" (so to speak). I'm also extremely UNCOMFORTABLE with dating men who are shorter than me. It's just "one of those things" (just like many men can't stand a woman who has any extra weight on her). I'm 5'9 1/2 IN BARE FEET, so I don't think that IT'S TOO MUCH FOR ME TO ASK that my boyfriends/lovers be AT LEAST 5'9 1/2 in bare feet? LOL

P.S. Are you actually 6" in BARE FEET, izetti, or 6 feet in 2 inch heels?

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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

P.S I am 5' 11 3/4" in barefeet. I am well over 6' in any kind of shoes. My husband is about an inch shorter than me- lol. I never liked dating really tall men.

Jess 5 years ago

I'm 34 and 5'11. My height has defined me since, well as long as I can remember. I have never been on a date or had a boyfriend. I'm ok with it sometimes, but our society thinks there is someone for everone & for many tall girls it's just not true. I'm a nice person, I have a job I like & I try to be a good mom. But sometimes I cry myself to sleep & wish I hadn't been cursed. My daughter is 14 (& blessedly and oddly short) and it has made my sad feelings resurface. She doesn't like her friends and teachers to see her tall mom. She tells it like it is and says "boys just hate tall nasty girls". There are things you can't change in life so I bite my lips, look at the floor and go grocery shopping early and try not to be seen as much as possible.

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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Jess~ Honestly if you feel it is a curse, it will be. What is likely going on with you is a general lack of self-esteem. How would you explain the fact that I'm tall and you're tall and we both have totally different experiences. My shorter friends wish they were taller, guys comment and approach me because of my height, i stand tall.

My daughter is tall for her age, but not yet in school and I am excited that she is tall and hope she will always be. If my daughter ever told me something like boys hate tall nasty girls, I'd be quick to correct her on that one. I wouldn't stand for that because every girl or woman has an aspect they would change about themselves but their self-esteem should be high enough to not be ashamed of one or tow things that do not define us. You are tall on the outside, short on self-esteem, and it is much more than height getting you down. If tall is all you see and you hate that about yourself, there must be a million other things about you that you love and concentrate on those.

Your daughter may not be tall and have to deal with that "defect" as you would put it, but if you don't model self-esteem for her, then when she finds something about herself that she hates, she will only hate it, rather than overcome or use to her advantage. This is not about tall, it is about you shwoing your daughter that even though you dislike being tall, you are proud ot be who you are, and get over it.

Jess 5 years ago

You explain that your height is =to a disability but say our experience is not the same? I'm confused? Men just like lil , tiny playthings... It is what is is...My daughter loves being short! I wish I could be normal not even short!

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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Being different is treated as a disability. Didn't say it was a disability for me, but I do realize people can look at you differently. My experience sounds like yours when I was in high school- yes, it was tough. But as soon as I got out of H.S things certainly were much better. Our experiences are different because I had (when I was single) men coming up to me all the time because I was tall, men who only liked tall women. They like long legs and many other aspects of tall women.

BOYS are the ones who like lil tiny playthings. Even when teased in high school it was from girls not guys getting guys. I had never had bad luck getting guys so I totally wouldn't say our experience isn't the same. I go grocery shopping or in public anywhere, I wear high heels when going somewhere nice, I accentuate my height and I honestly love it. Look at the beauties in those pics of tall celebs. Think they have have an issue with height, what about models?

I'm taller than you and have found more people who like it or wish it than not.

I also said that if you think of tall as a deformity, you can change it into a positive as I did.

Jess 5 years ago

That is good that you've had good luck! You are lucky! My life has been very uncomfortable and unhappy! I live in NM, I don't have a way to move, maybe things would have been different somewhere else. Too late now.... God bless you and thank you for responding. I've never talked to or met a woman taller than myself and for me it's been a hard way to be!

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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Jess~ you may be right about a different place being a different experience for you. I live in Washington state and real close to Oregon as well. Many women here are very tall. We have a joke about growing them taller in the Northwest.

I didn't always feel proud about my height, but after high school was over the silly nonsense and childish games were over and nobody picked on me about my height again. I really hope the best for you and I wish I could change your mindset right now., But from one mother to another- teach your daughter to be proud and try to set that example too. There will be something she will feel self-conscious about and if she sees you be a good sport, or even have a sense of humor about your "shortcomings", then she will do OK with her issue.

My 4 yr old daughter is already off the chart tall for her age and I suspect I will have to help her in the future with other kids who may pick on her, but I got through it and that's important for her to see that.

Jess 5 years ago

You never know. I thought I'd have a tall daughter, she seemed tall when she was young. But no she's a mean tiny thing? She's my daughter & I love her but tiny girls are mean indeed! I try to overcome my height, but it's constantly mentioned, overwhelming & I've been alone my whole life. I see women 400lbs. + & women with horrible teeth etc. & they are happy, in relationships, seem confident & I just wonder why me? Why is height such a dealbreaker? But lol I'm moving to WA jk...

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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Jess~ heavy or bad-teeth women you see can change their looks and they know it, whereas tall isn't changeable- no plastic surgery for it.

That's why it's all on the inside. You have to look at it differently on the inside. It's also confidence in general, if you don't have it then you will find something about yourself you don't like and you will blame that instead of what's really going on on the inside.

Think about people you see who are beautiful but don't think they are at all- this is sort of what I'm trying to tell you. It's all on the inside. You can't change the height (thats a fact) but you canchange how you feel about it.

Jeanine 5 years ago

It's great being able to scan the top of the crowd... and if they are looking for me, they find me... my legs are a mile long and there are definite advantages for your partner... more commanding than demanding...

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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Well said Jeanine!!

Mariska 5 years ago

I love this! I'm 20 and 6' 1", and coming from a small rural area was rough. I was easily the tallest girl and one of the tallest people in the area. There were only a couple of guys who actually were taller than me. I think of this as a blessing because the area itself was not the greatest area to live in. Many people end up getting stuck and living there for the rest of their lives, get married and pregnant, not necessarily in that order, and repeat the cycle that has been occurring for generations. I give credit to my height for giving me the motivation to move on and do more with my life than that. While living there it wasn't the greatest experience, but it also was an experience needed to truly understand my own capabilities. Tall women being associated with being strong and capable people, good leaders and other similar positive qualities I think has more with the unique experiences we have experienced while growing up. It truly is a lifestyle to understand you have to experience it and it is not for the weak of heart. Being tall has given me everything. It has opened an entire world of possibilities to me and provided the extra push that I needed to never settle for less than I deserve. Only thing I regret is how long it took me to realize what a blessing it is to be tall.

“If people are trying to bring you down, it only means you are above them.”

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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Mariska~ so nice to hear your story. I also grew up in a small town but realized once moving to the city that my height was my strength and being tall always gives us a presence of being strong too. It took me a few years after high school to realize the advantages of being tall but once I did I never looked back. And most people look up to you (literally).

Thanks again for sharing...

Nicole 5 years ago

im 5'10 &3/4 bare feet . was always the tallest girl or person for that matter (guys seem to take. while to grow) I used to be that girl that would slouch over and just miserable because of my height , when I think of it now I shake my head at my foolishness and insecurities , all my aunts and cousins adore my height . I'm such a girls girl and have an obsession with heels(to me a heel isn't a heel unless it's at least 4 inches) which bring me to 6'3 which I love , I'm thin so I guess I'd be considered modelesqe . anyways all in all ladies embrace ur height !!!!

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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Nicole~ wear heels to spite them all-lol. I love being tall because so many women will say how they wish they were taller. There is nothing more beautiful than being tall and owning it, looking like you are comfortable in your own skin and enjoy it too.

Martin 5 years ago

Hey Izetti, thought I'd drop by and say hello. It's

been a while since I've been here yet I'm not surprised by this continuing discussion. Over the years I've come to realize that there is so much more to life than being in a relationship with a woman. Finding a lifelong partner is a task that poses extraordinary difficulties if you're a short guy like me at 5'5 and over 40. It's the truth. I fill the gaps by exercising my brain, body and spirit. I encourage the same for everyone. Yeah, I won't lie because I do have my days of feeling sad and lonely, especially when my singledom is rubbed in my face every day by happy young couples. What changes fold and makes me realize how lucky I am is when I read the news about all the divorces going on. Marriages don't seem to last more than a couple of years these days and the ensuing custody battles are deathly cutthroat. I wouldn't want a child of mine to go through a messy situation like what I've seen and I do feel for those kids going through this stuff right now. They can't choose their parents. One of my best friends comes from a divorced family and he absolutely hated going from house to house and parent to step parent during the holidays. Unconditional love seems like a thing of the past and material lust is more important. It is surprising to read the posts from tall women over the net who claim that guys ignore them. I'm more inclined to believe these ladies don't include short guys as part of the group of guys avoiding them. Tall men are still the prefered norm and you can't deny it. If that's not the case, you would think more tall women and short guys would be hooking up and popoulating the streets right? Not from what I've seen. Anyhow, enough of my mini rant. I just wanted to tell you that not much has changed and I see more hatred and disgust for shorter guys in this world. What I've read, heard and experienced is very real. Short men have no practical use to a lot of women in the dating world. Only a small handful of ladies treat men of different heights as equals. Besides, you can find articles that suggest short men are better off gay and are more likely to be gay. I'm not gay, but it does kinda suck sometimes to be short, straight and avoided. Thanks for the article and take care of yourself.

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izettl 5 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Biologically tall men may have an advantage and women with hips and and boobs and certain features men biologically and instinctively look for also have an advantage. Just as tall men have an edge because of more selection, short women have an edge for more selection of men taller than them. I know your struggles but from a different side of the fence- I certainly have a smaller list of men to choose from because not many are close to my height. Like I said before, I've only dated one man taller than me. My husband is two inches shorter than me. Find any way you can to stick out and get noticed.

Most men in hollywood are short...seriously check out the height on many popular actors like Tom Cruise...who dates taller women. I haven't seen short guys excluded among any of my girl friends but maybe I don't see it from your perspective. Sometimes we think it's our outside appearance that is hindering us but it can be something on the inside- have a better attitude about your height. I bet it's not your major shortcoming.

I've had a few tall women who write into this hub and say tall is bad as a woman, but that has not been my experience for most of my life. Tall has been good to me so often it is the individual's perspective on their appearance as I bet it is with you. I have two guy friends who are shorter 5'8 and below and they do well with the ladies. Best of luck.

Jeanine 5 years ago

Martin... dear your perfect sized girl is looking for you right now, so don't give up... remember the song % foot two... eyes are blue oh what I could do with you... has anybody seen my's the truth what Izettl says... women respond to how you see yourself... look up and out into the world of women...

Martin 5 years ago

Hi Izetti and Jeanine.

Thank you for the responses. Izetti, I dig how you are so quick to conclude that an "individuals perspective on their appearances" is reflective of their dating success? This is true but not always. I am physically fit, strong, educated, clean cut, well dressed, well spoken and well read too. Just short. Above all, I have the confidence which you ladies say is the most important asset that a man should have besides his sense of humour and personality? As if personality and sense of humour really matter when height comes first LOL! Women lie about the importance of height so they don't appear as shallow as they really are. His height is "her" issue. A short guy can have all the confidence in the world but he will instantly hry labelled as Napoleanic or annoyingly aggressive if he succeeds in his endeavours. Taller people have a hard time dealing with successful shorter persons. Why do you think these negative associations attributed to Napoleon are commonplace and accepted? Tall guys get a free pass from women because having confidence is expected from them. Women are also very helpful of the shy tall guy with no confidence. Shyness and humility in a tall guys is considered sexy and attractive to alot of women. It shows that he's capable of being vulnerable and gentle. Short guys lacking in confidence get kicked to the curb and ridiculed as weak and wimpy. Bottom line, a short guy is still short and unnattractive to the majority of women. Let me take a guess, your advice would have me focus on the "minority" of women and not focus so much on the "majority?" who have issues short men and height? Let's just say that the the minority is practically non-existent but just as height discriminate as the majority. It's the truth and you can't deny it. Taller women especially hold strict reservations against shorter guys whether its one inch or five inches in difference. You may be one bright, glimmering example of a tall woman who's dated shorter men and married one, but there's hundreds more of you ladies dead set against associating with shorter people. They exists because I've met them, worked with them and had to deal with them. How do you explain that?

One more thing, you gotta stop using the Tom Cruise example. It's getting really, really, really, really, old!!!! He is but ONE short man in Hollywood with a taller woman and I'd bet you that Katie wouldn't even give him an ounce of attention if he wasn't a celeb. How could she? He might have a good looking face, but he's still short. Look it up on the net. You'll see that using Tom Cruise is a poor example that's "dinosaur" Hollywood.

Maybe your group of short male friends doesn't get excluded, but your world is a tiny part of the reality that goes with being short guy. Take a real good look at the ", women vs short guys, dating's fiercest battleground and the short guys revisited" blogs. I encourage you to read because I guarantee you will find enough short guys posting about getting shafted and discriminated by both tall and short women. You'll find enough tall and short women with the same amout of hate for the short guys too. A scary thing is, some of these guys are suicidal and the women responding to them are beyond wicked and nasty.

Izetti, again I'm sorry for my rant. Not sorry about how I feel though but it's not to say that I feel bad about myself and let negative resonate through me. I'm just tired of the hypocrisy and superfical behaviour. Nothing will change in this world unless the attitudes of women towards short men change. Heightism is a whole lot worse than racism, sexism or ageism. Women fought long, hard and disciplined to get equal rights and equal treatment with men, even for the right to vote. Funny how equality does not exist for short guys no matter how you slice it.

Martin 5 years ago

Hey Jeanine, your post belongs on the album of rejection cliches by women against shorter men.

Song #1 is the title for the album, "Don't give up"

Song #2 "There's someone or somebody out there for you"

Song #3 "It's not your height darling, it's me who is the problem"

Song #4 "You're a good looking guy, some woman would be lucky to have you"

Song #5 "If I was single, I would so date you"

Song #6 "Don't worry, love will find you so don't try to find it"

The B-side consists of the "excuse" hits songs that women use against shorter men.

Song #7 "I can't wear heels with a short guy"

Song #8 "He so little, he makes me feel like a giant"

Song #9 "I absolutely can't be heavier than my man"

Song #10 "Short men are short where it really counts"

Song #11 "Short men have Napoleon Syndrome"

Song #12 "He can't protect me, he's too short"

So there you have it. I'm sure there's more and I could probably fill a double side! Women don't often respond to how a man sees himself but how that man makes her look and how his looks affect her appearance. It's all about image. When her own physical looks diminish and become less important, that's when women care a lot less about a man's height and his personality becomes more important to her.

Tall women should look down and open their eyes to the world of shorter men. Short women should straight ahead first rather than straining their necks way, way, way up at the tall guys.

Michelle E 5 years ago

Martin - I appreciate your comments alot although they do seem bitter. I am 24 and 6 feet and I have to admit, up until recently, I would only consider dating a man as tall as me, or taller. This is mostly a result of the following reasons: 1. Being uncomfortable with my own height (more when I was teenager like Izettl, but I still can struggle with a bit of insecurity in it. And if I were to date a man shorter than me it would attract even more attention on my height. 2. The media - there are VERY few couples shown in the media where the woman is taller than the man, and even though lately I've started to realize more that this can kind of look sexy, it is still considered unusual. 3. Going hand in hand with the media, other people assume I would only want to date someone taller. I've grown up hearing my parents and friends say they hope/know I'll "someday find a tall guy who is perfect me." It seems like (especially when I was younger) they were telling me that that is what I should be looking for, and that that would be a successful match.

I don't want to be giving excuses for the women that have been rude to you - that is unfair to you and I regret that that is the impression some people have of tall women. But maybe this can give you some background and reasoning on why women might not consider dating someone shorter. My advice would be - look taller women in the eye, compliment their beauty and tell them that it doesn't bother you. I would definitely assume sometimes that my height would intimidate the guy or make him uncomfortable, so if you tell them you're fine with it - that maybe you even LIKE it - then it is up to them to decide how they feel about it. And if they're not ok with it - then they are insecure and you probably don't want to be with someone like that anyway.

I'd be interested to hear your feedback on my comment. :)

Larina 5 years ago

I'm a tall woman. I've hated it every minute of every day! I'm nearing 40 and the "tall loser, spinster" ( lol olden day word) is me. Men are not interested in me. Tall men like children. I'm embarrassed to be with a short man and trust me the don't approach me anyway. They like the little girls too, which I understand. Men want to feel like men. Guess what I dream of feeling like a woman. Even lesbians prefer short women unless they are short femmes and want a butch woman. Not for me, I'm girly even f I don't look it due to my height.

Janie 5 years ago

For most of my life I have just dwelled on hating my height, hating my parents for not "making" the doctors help me before it was too late, hating the doctors, hating the place I live, hating the people who tormented me, hating the people who could see my sadness & used it against me, hating short girls for being feminine, hating short guys for making me feel bigger, hating tall guys for dating the damn short girls, hating the world...

What has changed? I guess not much but I'm trying to let go of the hate! Being filled with hate anger and sorrow is exhausting! I think the problem is this... It's an ignored problem. I also watched a show the other day on how "little people", deaf people, people with other syndromes are really good at finding each other and dating. Us tall women can't find tall men because they don't want us because they are prized by all women and sadly seem to prefer short women. It's a hard thing. Tall women, what do do you think of doctors returning to the "old way" of limiting girls heights?

Martin 5 years ago

Hi Michelle!

I'm not a bitter guy at all. Really I'm not. Just sick and tired of dealing with the hypocrisies and superficialites of the dating world. So, I've stopped. It's even more compromised when put into context the treatment of mainstream society to shorter guys. When I take a look at my present situation and mentally revisit my dating history, I believe I am more closer to the point of being done with women and relationships altogether. Fully and completely. The world has so much more to offer aside from women and I don't waste as many precious thoughts on trying to find that life long partner. There's only so much rejection, discrimination and ill treatment a man can take, especially at 40 and beyond. It's just as depressing to hear women discuss the realization of being alone for the rest of their lives so I try to avoid them and the negative baggage they bring. This used to really get me down because it's not like women are readily including short men in their conquests for lifelong partnership and happiness. The tall ones certainly don't. It becomes a double negative if I try to make myself a worthy candidate to be a part of their lives, so I just don't anymore. In fact, there's a lot of women of varying heights on dating sites who are single, divorced or separted, some with kids and some without. They usually stay single because nothing changes about them. These women often state the same height requirements as they were before, believing this number tells the whole story of a man. The tall guys they so richly desire want nothing to do with them anymore. These guys know that their height makes them a hot commodity so they pick and choose freely from the best crop of young girls. Now all of a sudden, short guys are the prize? It makes no sense to me. These women are hard pressed to change their attitudes when they've been holding out so long on their height restrictions. I can understand younger women who have smartened up or never made a man's height the supreme deciding factor of his worth as a partner.

You actually just validated why I'm extremely selective in who I approach and why I don't entertain thoughts of dating or relationships as much. I can't be bothered to tell a woman she's attractive when I'm not on her radar. Too much rejection to begin with. Why should I compliment a woman when she does her best to avoid locking eyes with me? It's not a case of shyness either because I've seen the same woman give wide-eyed looks to taller or so called "better looking" tall guys she's trying to attract. He's more to her liking, heightwise and bodywise so she's a lot more receptive to his advances. The media, your family and peers have told you to believe short men are inferior and tall men are superior which you know isn't true. This is constant in this world and I don't have the time or energy to try and convince women different. They have to change themselves. I'm a quality guy on the surface and a much better person on the inside. I don't feel sorry for women that judge me as a person by how tall I stand. It's her loss. Furthermore, I don't have the time to hold any feelings of sympathy to these height-anal ladies. What I have learned to do is to stay mentally focused on bettering myself as a person. Sports, music, the arts and education are most important to me. This is what keeps me alive, and it has nothing to do with wanting to be in a relationship with a woman. If a woman sees me for me and is generally interested in knowing more, I'll definitely give her the time.

Aria 5 years ago

I'm 14 & I am a girl. I am 6'0. I am thinking I'd killing myself! Nobody deserves to be made fun of like this! I can't help how ugly I am! I know models are tall but I don't look like them anyways! Plus I think they'd not like them in person because the tall& short guys like the smallest gurls! I can live without ever having a boyfriend but why do boys have to make fun of me? The fat girls even have bfs or don't get made fun of. I can't do this anymore! I don't want to be laughed at anymore! Please help! Don't tell me to get secure or that boys will grow tall! Some boys are plenty tall & they tell me I'm a beast the most! Should I die? I can't fix this!

Vincent 4 years ago

Aria, you are only 14 girlfriend. Highschool is a very tough time for a lot of people. It's all about "fitting in" and looking normal for the most part. If you look different, it's almost certain you will be made an example of. It's not fair but you must try to avoid the suicidal thoughts. I was denied any type of relationship with the opposite sex from highschool, through post secondary and into my adult years. Yeah, it does suck to be alone sometimes but I gained inner strength by becoming a better person. Social activities allowed me to meet other people with varying interests. Try to make friends with people of all different heights and sizes. You owe it to yourself not to give up on life. Two wrongs don't make a right and I don't suggest you go picking fights with your detractors out of reaction. It will only make you more upset. Don't waste your time, just walk away. Take solace in knowing that you are beautiful. Guys would kill to have your height. You are probably a lot more mature than those fools making fun of you. Be smarter than them and try not to let their words affect you. I know I'm not the brightest example of confidence in a man because I've experienced a lot of hate just like you. Not once have I thought about taking my own life because it's a cheap, easy way out.

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Aria~ it gets better...if you let it. People (bullies mostly) pick up on insecurities. DO you think short people have it easy? not if they are insecure. Nobody insecure has a good time in high school. You either become better or bitter through those experiences. Nothing you can do about your height so learn to live happy or miserable-that's your choice and something you DO control.

At 36, I have seen the prettiest girl at our high schoo land she has gotten 10 plastic surgeries. It turns out the prettiest and most popular girl in my high school had insecurities as well. It's true about the bullies, they have more insecurities than the people they pick on.

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

MARTIN~ Take one look at someone like Jack Black (actor) and realize that attractiveness is not in looks but in attitude. Get a sense of humor and girls will love you- and you won't take height so personal. Have you noticed that you have an issue and complex about your height and that is mirrored back to you by how girls treat you.

I amd sick and tired of people complaining about not attracting the opposite sex because of something. Have you looked at who you're going for? I bet you approach superficial girls and wonder why girls are so superficial. Why don't you adjust your "type" of girl YOU are attracted to. I have a short guy friend and he complains about not getting girls and I've seen who he tries to approach- superficial girls who wouldn't give him the time of day and I don't know why he doesn't connect the dots.

JANIE~ Give up the hate. Can't change height but you can change your attitude. Move to Oregon or Washington state- lots of tall guys who like tall girls- and lots of tall girls here too.

Martin 4 years ago

Hey Izetti,

Character, sense of humour, personality, attentiveness, chivalry, integrity, DO NOT COUNT! It never counts for short guys when a lot of women choose to make height the ultimate deal breaker. How can you say it does? Short guys don't get the opportunity to display the "inner" qualities that tall guys are given a free pass in the dating world. I'm glad that you understand that attractiveness has more to do with attitude. What you've failed to understand is that socialization plays a strong role in how beauty is perceived from person to person.

I am sick and tired of people trying to justify solving someone else's problems with their own advice which doesn't necessarily apply to everyone. You don't walk in my shoes and I don't walk in yours. You wouldn't understand where I'm coming from and I bet you don't understand an ounce of the difficulties the very short guy "friend" you've mentioned here has. Are you honestly watching every woman that he's approaching? I doubt you are.

I don't have an issue about my height. Nor do I have a complex. I have issues with people who judge the content of my character and my level of manhood on how tall I stand. That gives me a complex! You couldn't understand a fraction of the difficulties a short person deals with. I laugh it off and play it down most of the time, but to say it's entirely my issue is complete BS. People like you continue to tell people to "get a sense of humour," and "don't take height so personal?" WTF??? FYI, sense of humour has no place in the dating world when height, again, is the deciding factor that makes or breaks a relationship. How are you ever going to know how funny I am as a person when you carry a mental height measuring stick and grade quality in men based on that principle? Who's gonna laugh at the short guys jokes when the short guy isn't allowed to present himself respectfully just like a tall person does in the first place? It's not funny Izetti, so I don't see where humour is valid in this argument. FYI, I don't approach superficial, arrogant or ignorant women either. In fact, I approach less women now and let them approach me. Less rejection to deal with. The women who see my short frame and are interested in knowing the man behind it, are worth pursuing. I try to avoid those reformed heightist types who denied me for years and now consider me "good enough" to date. They are a mostly a waste of time because their perception has long been blinded by ignorance despite height reformation. I approach people who reciprocate a comfort level that allows me to engage them in conversation. It just so happens that a lot of women, mostly shorter and very tall like yourself, from my experience, don't allow themselves to exhibit a comfort level with shorter guys. You've been socialized to discredit us as men and feel more comfortable with taller guys. It's a pure fact of western culture that you can't deny.

BTW, adjust my type? Adjust the type of girl I'm attracted to? C'mon Izetti, that's nonsense talk! Sorry to say, but I don't have a type. Shallow people have types. I think you're trying to base everything on the physical aspect with little emphasis on the person as a whole when you start talking about "types." I will bodly admit being attracted to confident, mature, funny, educated women that keep themselves in relatively decent shape. I don't think thats alot to ask for and expect when I make the effort to stay healthy and in shape. I'll also admit to liking taller girls more than shorter girls. Always have. Besides, shorter women don't have much use for short guys in the first place so I made sure to keep an open mind and heart for other women.

Janie 4 years ago

I'd love to move, but due to a variety of things I can't. I'm trying to let go of the hate, it's a process...

@ Martin

Like you I have experienced the extreme in being treated loke a non-woman & non- human. Men don't even make a pretense that they are looking for inner qualities. Men also can seem to (at times) put aside appearance & weight but never height. In my experience they are not interested in tall women/girls (even if they themselves are 6'10). It's a hard life. I'm sorry you feel the same way as a short man. Nothing to do about it.. Can't change the world!

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Martin ~ I've gone through same struggles as you except opposite. So how can you say I don't know and haven't walked in your shoes. If it's hard being a short guy, think of being a tall woman. It's the same to a woman to be too tall for most men. We are masculinized many times- many guys overlook us, my friends and I go out and I'm automatically a 5th wheel, the odd woman out because none of the guys are tall and they don't like tall women. I've been there buddy...many times and I've got personality up the yin-yang! So you say shorter women don't like short guys well no shit! Who do you think I was competing with for tall men...short women. THe tall guys always dated the shortest women. My husband is two inches shorter than me and only once in my 36yrs did I date a guy taller than me.

I have met shorter men who were so in-you-face that I thought they did have a short man's complex and I thought they were a bit too aggressive and maybe self-conscious about their height so they had to be that way- that was the true turn-off. And I still think you are going for the wrong type. Don't think of the superficial appearance type but personality type instead. I'm not talking about blonde blue-eyed or something I'm talking about someone superficial who isn't willing to get to know you beyond your height. I was not talking about physical. You said it that shorter women don't have use for short guys- I know this I was on the other end of this. The short girls took all the tall guys. I still didn't have much problem dating because I liked my height regardless of the obstacles it sometimes presented. Maybe that's where you should start. Maybe blaming your height for your dating troubles is the wrong route. And if it's true about your height being the main obstacle than what can you do about it? Be unhappy and bitter about it all your life? I hope not.

Martin 4 years ago

Hey Izetti,

First of all let me apologize to you if I offended you or upset you in anyway. I can't speak for your struggles in life, but I certainly can recognize them. You may say you can relate to my shortcomings(no pun intended) but I don't think you can truly understand where I'm coming from. You are a tall woman. There's no way you can understand where I'm coming from. I still believe it's way easier to be a taller person in this society, whether you are a man or a woman.

A lot of tall women don't consider shorter guys as part of the group of guys allegedly overlooking or ignoring them in the first place. Many tall women couldn't care less if short guys ignored them because those guys are unnattractive, undesirable and they don't even register on their dating radar. In fact, there are tall women who loathe the attention they get from shorter guys. They hate the little guy interrupting her focus which is on the tall guy. All the while tall girl still complains she's being ignored in favour of the shorter, more petite ladies. I know short guys like myself who have no problems dating women the same height, slightly taller and significantly taller. You ladies still do all the choosing for the most part. You Izetti just validated your displeasure with shorter guys by reconfirming what a lot of tall girls do. Compete with with the short girls for the tall guys while turning your noses in the air with disgust for the short guys. Gee how should that make me feel now coming from you? Should it be some solace to me that you married a guy that's shorter than you? It isn't in the least bit! Did you unwillingly settle on him, giving up your quest for the tall, dark and handsome prince charming?

Still, you may say that you've experienced the same discrimination as myself but I can't see the truth behind that. For one, being a tall woman gets you immediate respect as an adult. You are more often given instant credibility that is reflective of your height even though it doesn't correlate with your actual age.

Short people have had their adult status stripped from them when they've already earned it for many years over.

BTW, thanks for reconfirming that short women don't like short men. No shit eh! It's good to know that there's a truth we can agree on.

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Martin~ you can twist my words all you want- it just shows your indignation and attitude. You have not offended me but I don't think you get me. How did I say I settled for shorter men? I PREFER a man who is my height or 2-3 inches shorter than me. I like a man to look me in the eye. That is the turn on for me. That's not everybnody's thing but thats mine and why I didn't date many men over 6 ft (only one) and many men shorter than 5' 9". What's the difference between tall men preferring short women and short women preferring tall men? We're both at a disadvantage except I BET there are more short women than tall men to choose from. So you're actually at an advantage.

Little fact: Did you know that tall women don't live as long as short women? How's that for a disadvantage. So because you're shorter you'll have more time in this life to dwell on your disadvantages than I will.

Martin 4 years ago

Uh, you were the one who said "who do you think I was competing with for the tall men......short women." WFT?

I was only asking if you settled on a shorter guy because you posted clearly that you were competing for the tall guys. How is that not a judgement call against shorter guys on your part? You were competing with the short girls for the tall guys, so I didn't twist, turn, or reshape anything of what you said. You stated the obvious. Yes there are probably more short people in general than tall people. Wake up and smell the coffee though Izetti. I'll repeat it for you. Most short women have no use for short guys especially when they're competing with tall girls like you for the tall guys.

I think you're twisting the subject a bit here talking about life expectancy and disadvantages. Last time I checked I'm not a woman, so I don't know where you're going with that one.

Here's little known fact for you. Women live longer than men. The stats prove it. Your two hormones to our one gives you the life expectancy advantage. Guess what? I have a preference too you know. It has nothing to do with a woman's height though. I'll admit being more drawn to taller women by nature and a little bit of nurture. Naturally, from an early age to adult years, I've always found taller women more attractive than shorter women. Short women haven't been as nurturing or accepting of me as a man in the first place which kinda explains my openness to include taller women in my life. When I can. Taller women can be nice and approachable. They can also be just as mean spirited and nasty to shorter guys who dare try to approach. I've met those types, and again it has nothing do with how pretty they are or the strength of their looks.

I don't need to dwell on my disadvantages. Society pushes them in my face on a daily basis so there's no need for me to perpetuate the negativity. Women of all heights do enough constant reminding to shorter guys in this world with the false, non-scientific BS about how much better taller men are.

Remember one thing, because you're taller you will always get more respect as an adult than a shorter person. This is a truth of society.

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Martin~ I had a preference for tall men when I was in high school cause I was caught up in what "looked" right for a tall woman, but I quickly dropped that notion after high school.

You Should have been an actor cause I don't think Tom Cruise has any problems getting the ladies and if the world has such a problem with short men how come the majority of men in tv and movies who are famous are well below 6 feet tall? Where's the disadvantage in that? Maybe you'll find your Nicole Kidman someday.

Martin 4 years ago

Ah yes the Tom Cruise example which is way, way, way, older than "Top Gun." Kinda pathetic actually because he's only one example that is very misleading in Hollywood. Ever notice that Tom Cruise has never appeared shorter than any of his leading ladies? That's a fixture of Hollywood's societal cleansing that women apply to reality. Always works for the tall guys and against the shorter guys.

I'm glad you smartened up in your adult years. With age and experience you learn that square pegs don't always fit into round holes even if they fall through and are a lot smaller. I wonder if I was one of those guys in highschool that you would never ever look at because I'm shorter. I'm glad there are women in this world who have the education and intelligence to leave in highschool, what doesn't belong in the adult world. It's just too bad that a ton of women hold on tightly to prom dreams, high heels and live their adult lives like teenagers.

FYI, not looking for a Nicole Kidman either LOL! Hey, that one came from you, not from me. She's too skinny for me, and her types who supposedly date shorter guys are ridiculously rare, just like you. I'd have a better chance of getting struck by lightning or winning the lottery if I were to hold out hope for a Nicole Kidman type woman to come into my life. Thanx for coming out though.

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Martin~ tom Cruise last movie was in 2011- how is that old? He's still popular. And not just Tom cruise but so many other movie stars are short. In real life he is shorter than both his ex wife Nicole and current wife too.

I would have been friends with you in high school probably but then again I was friends with tall guys in high school too. I realize you have your preference or an attraction to tall women but basically you say majority tall women should change their prefernce to include you. How can you blame them for their preferences when you have your own preference. THe issue is nobody is right and or wrong.I think the most to blame here is society. Society pushes skinny, blonde, and a bunch of stereotypes.

As a tall woman i feel pressure to resemble a model but I don't. I do not have a stick figure at all. Some days I don't want to stick out in a crowd- I don't know if people are staring at me because I am tall or I'm having a good hair day- lol.

Here's why I think women don't usually date shorter- because we get stares from people - I've gotten crap from people who make comments to either my husband or I about him being a couple inches shorter. I was totally attracted to a guy significantly shorter than me and we hung out and went on a couple of dates. We had a great time but he was military and shipping out soon. SO hopefully someone will be with you because there is chemistry and not care about height.

There have always been guys distinctly into dating taller women or not- my husband happened to be a guy "open to it". I always figured my height would weed out about 90% of the jerks out there anyway. The one for you is rare so consider the other girls who don't like your height weeded out and you don't need them anyway- it weeds out all the superficial ex prom queens.

Martin 4 years ago

Using the Tom Cruise example as a successful short man is about as old as the Reagan administration. People can't think of any other practical short men in Hollywood, except Mickey Rooney, so Tom Cruise is the default.

It takes a confident, self-assured tall woman to deal with crap from others who are uncomfortable seeing taller woman/shorter man couples. The best kind of tall woman won't have any confidence or self-assurance issues. Why? She doesn't give credit or value to adverse opinions from people who she doesn't know. They shouldn't matter but women seem to think it's important to make a lasting impression on everyone in public. This is a common excuse against shorter guys. Girls can't deal with people who bring to attention the height difference or those who make fun of the man on her arm.

The rarest types of tall ladies are attracted to, and will date shorter men. It's nice to know that there are women short and tall who do like short guys. On the bad side, feminism and women's liberation has perverted adult relationships as far as I'm concerned. All it has done is give women a ridiculous sense of entitlement while simultaneously diminishing the value of man in modern society. This is one of the primary reasons why the divorce rate is sky high. You know, my height actually does weed out the superficial, ignorant types. You're absolutely right about that. It's just too bad that the adult forest is densely populated with superficial women that spread their hate on shorter guys like growing weeds.

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

I've got to agree with you on your last paragraph in your comment. THe adult forest is densely populated with superficiality. And I agree with feminism- acutally wrote something on that from a woman's point of view and I think feminism today, and about the 70's forward, has been political and silly- fighting for mostly social and political gain. I really agree with you on that one- I think it has hurt boh me and women. You see it as women gained, but I don't even see it that way. Nobody did...really. It's all screwed up. WOmen and men were made to be different and yet compatible at the same time- rather than celebrating women for their strengths, feminism said let's beat men at their own game.

Anyway. I can think of all of my celebrity crushes in my life have all been under my height so Tom Cruise is the most extreme example but certainly not the only.

If you read through some comments above, you'll notice that many tall women are extremely self- conscious and that strongly correlates with the fact that they need and want a taller man. Having a shorter man only brings more unwanted attention to them. I look at it as any man who was confident enough to approach me could certainly handle a tall woman and I admire that...except for that drunk at the bar that approaches every woman. Tall women will want a tall man mostly for social pressure and their own lack of self-esteem. Sad but true- it's not entirely superficiality.

Some of my celeb crushes from long ago to current: Emilio Estevez- 5' 4", Matt Damon- 5' 10", Johnny Depp- 5' 9", Adam Sandler- 5' 10", Mark Wahlberg- 5' 7",

Martin 4 years ago

When I think about it, I'm not bothered by women who have a bucket list of requirements in order to consider a man good enough to date. I can weed out these types but it is difficult at times being a shorter guy to meet women who don't carry a permanent ruler with them. It's way tougher in the online world when most profiles from women seek men who are 6'0 feet or close to it at minimum. I can't speak for all shorter men, but a good chunk will agree with me. It's probably better to meet a woman in person rather than online. Less time is wasted because you won't have to deal with false profiles or trolls looking for a kick. You'll also have a better immediate grasp of meeting the women who could care less about your height.

I will admit to having a stubborn persistence of a certain type of woman in the past who I couldn't always reach. Now before you go reiterating about physical types and my uncontrolable hormonal focus on the boobs, butt and legs being my demise, I will say that the least attractive ladies by universal standards were the ones who were the most hurtful. Some were tall and some were short. The prettier girls were more receptive on occasion but rejected me the same. Again some tall, some short. Really hot women apparently get the least attention because many guys are afraid of being rejected by them. Logic says they already have tons of confident guys all over them so why bother? Not always the case. I was smart enough and took my chances. I dated a couple of ladies whose good looks would turn many heads on both sides any place. Their looks weren't all I was interested in despite one of them not mentally living up to her good looks. In the beginning I did have my fears or approaching them due to their good looks. Despite confidence not being an issue with me, good looking women do intimidate. Even super confident guys have some fears of rejection, like super confident girls.

My fear I believe like most people is being taken on a wild ride that ends up being just a game in the end. We're all somewhate afraid to ask what we really want from each other but we are courageous enough to get involved in that person's life even if it could mean getting hurt. There are women and men who play the same highschool games and don't realize the wake of hurt they create. People become protected and guarded after going through this and I know that I'm not the only one. There are enough tall and short girls who permanently stay clear of shorter guys who treated them like dirt after giving him a chance. That's OK. Sometimes I wish I could have altered some of these ladies judgement of shorter guys. The thought of missing out on someone else new kinda snaps everything back to focus so I leave it be. Some people just aren't worth bringing into your life despite your efforts.

Looks became less important with aging because my parents taught me to value the person more. I value ladies who are true to themselves, respect men of all sizes and enjoy people in general. Guys should do the same to women and we've been guilty of not giving some women a fair shake. I think most, if not all guys at some point in their young adulthood put unfair pressure on women to achieve, sustain and maintain a media-fed standard of beauty. This isn't all our fault either because it goes both ways. What angers a lot of legit short guys like me is when stupid complexes associated with our height are used against us when we try to live like normal men with goals and ambitions. At the same time I know it probably angers you when some people immediately dismiss you as a capital B or a snob because of your height when you really could be an awesome friendly outgoing chick. I worked with a tall girl who said that learning to smile back to a guy once politely without being a tease if you're not interested in him is the best way to not look like a b**tch, even if you're having a bad day. I have no problems if she's not interested or gives me the already involved with someone excuse. Just don't be mean about it, that's all. Don't say I'm a wimp or a coward if I'm not up for playing your "hard to get" games. Don't say that decent guys are all taken when I stood in front of you and you turned me away.

I'm keen on the fact that a shorter man brings unwanted attention to some taller women especially if she's sensitive to public noise or has self-esteem issues. I think it's less important for guys though. More guys I know who are short don't care too much about the height difference. They will date, shorter women, same height women and taller women. Reality says you have less of a choice if you're a shorter guy. This I belive is one of the main reasons why many of us are more accepting of taller women who are equally accepting of us. The worse thing is that we are unjustly labelled or ridiculed by the masses as strange or peculiar if we are turned on by taller women. The bigger the height difference, the freakier we are. There are those few taller women who find the height difference incredibly sexy, whether it's a fetish or not. Women the same height or close to a man are supposedly turned on by the eye-to-eye level aspect of intimacy. I understand that. I don't really understand why some short women 5'0 and under reject all guys under 6'0. To each their own.

Glad to know that you were able to reward a confident man with a date, regardless of his height. Sorry if I came across as rude or harsh in recent posts.

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Martin~ no didn't think you were rude acutally- I am the same way..perhaps passionate about getting my point across. You can't get anywhere unless you're being honest and you are.

I didn't want our discussions to go without me understanding you or you understandstansing my point of view either. I do understand now, but I really wanted you to know not all are that way and it's truly a mind-set/attitude too. I stopped using my height as an excuse why I didn't have a someone in my life- I thought about it like it was weeding out the guys I didn't need in my life. You feel the way i did in high school about my height- I felt like a freak. Not sure exactly what got me over that. I was a waitress for several years and that in general gave me more social confidence. But I realize guys no matter what height have less of a choice in the matter of dating- women are usually in control of that and many are fickle. To be honest I have mostly guy friends cause women are fickle even in friendships. You are young (I think) and have time. Women become less fickle about dating and men around their late 20's. At that time in my life, the men I dated varied greatly because I was looking for someone right for me. Another experience I had was dating a black guy- he was so nice and a great successful (in life and career) guy, but it was admitedly hard because of social pressure- just like a tall woman with a short man. It wears on you when people look at you all the time. I'm not usually concerned by all that, but it got to me. Mostly because society looks at like it's your "fault" or "choice" because like I said before it's more the choice of a woman who she dates whereas men are just happy dating sometimes. If a woman choose to date outside her race or someone shorter then people look at her...because they know it was her choice. Sad, but true.

Martin 4 years ago

Hi Izetti,

Truthfully, I've been discriminated more for being short, rather than being black and short. Let me ask you this question. Did you give in to the social pressures that goes with interracial relationships and break that poor black man's heart?? Hopefully it wasn't me LOL!!!

As a black man, I've dated interracially and not once have I ever cared about how society views my dating choices or who I date for that matter. Race and skin colour were never issues to me. On the flipside, I've had women end relationships with me, break contact and dissappear completely from my life because they succumbed to the outside pressure. Just like you mentioned. I find women always care a lot more about fitting in, looking normal, and impressing people who's opinions are insignificant. It's a shame really. I never had a problem dealing with people pointing fingers or public harrassment because I never let it bother me. My relationships were none of their business so I never put that much weight or importance on others peoples words. When you're a man under 5'8, and a black one at that, you learn quickly to deal with pressure and/or influence from society that is obstuse to your situation. Not dealing with it serves you with a lifetime of loneliness.

You can't deny that short guys don't get the same respect that tall guys do. The hope is that there are women in this world who see the light from an early age and allow themselves to be attracted to other qualities that a man has. Too many women I believe see height first and immediately turn themselves off shorter guys. It's like they try hard to find fault with him as soon as they see he's short. It much easier to reject a person when there's more criticisms and wrongs that can't be righted socially, according to her.

I do agree with you about women being less fickle about men when they reach their late 20's, early 30's. Not to sound mean, but I think it's more closer to late 40's early 50's. Retirement years actually. There are tons of women in their mid-late 30s, early 40's who still judge men on height alone and choose men on height alone. The short guy continues to be an outsider looking in. From experience, the ladies who relied heavily on their looks and feel they are less attractive in aging are the ladies more willing to date shorter guys. Women who carry their looks into their older years still discriminate men based on their own level of attraction.

How does this help the plight of shorter men like me? I guess it means short guys really shouldn't bother with dating until women are in their late 20's or early 30's right??? I know it's not true for all women, but why do a lot of ladies need the extra 10 to 15 or 20 years after highschool, past post secondary and into adulthood to decide that a man's height doesn't matter? I can't see the point of women needing to experience bad relationships with taller men just to figure out that goodness in guys is not equated to height. Not all tall guys are idiots because some of my best friends are tall people.

You are absolutely right about one thing. Society does paint the ultimate picture, whether it's positive or negative about a woman's choices in a mate. So yeah, I can see how a tall woman dating a shorter man would have trouble dealing with people constantly bringing to her and his attention about the height difference. All the more reason why I appreciate confident, independent women who have the inner strength to ignore the childish stuff.

What ever happened to a tall woman being honestly attracted to a shorter guy and vice-versa? It doesn't happen as frequently because society still controls who we should be attracted to.

Jess 4 years ago

@ Martin

I've lived a lonely life due to my height. I can't even explain to you the misery I've felt. At this point in my life I don't even look in mirrors other than to put on make up. Which I do obsessively trying to feel feminine. I hate leaving the house. Hating being a tall woman is deep, not just the relationship thing. You can't imagine the unwanted embarrassment, sadness, & misery some tall women feel. I realize for the lovely last who writes this hub, it's not that way. But for me it is. So to hear you almost angry that tall women are not attracted to you puzzles me. I hate on the tall pedophiles type tall men that need a 5'0 tall spinner with the face of a dog! Take your anger out on those girls. Tall wen are already hated enough.

Martin 4 years ago

Hey Jess.

When taller men and women look down on me as if I'm a little kid, that bothers me. When taller men and women choose to strip me of my manhood because I'm not tall enough to speak to them eye-to-eye level, that bothers me. When I get called half-man, little kid, little boy, runt, shorty, man-child, dwarf, by taller men and women, that bothers me. When both shorter and taller women disgustingly turn their noses in the air at me for my lack of height, and simultaneously complain about the lack of quality men, that bothers me.

I really don't care about tall or short women who aren't attracted to me. There are ladies in this world who are. I try to pay attention to those women. FYI, short men are hated a whole lot more than tall women. I think I can make a safe bet to society. There's no shortage of people who use the Napoleon complex excuse against shorter men who they feel threatened or intimidated by. There's no shortage of women who equate male quality on the basis of him being taller than her in heels. There is a large population of women, mostly taller who loathe to consider a man barely a fraction shorter than her as a worthy mate. Even worse if you're more than a couple of inches shorter. In my experience the number of taller women who are attracted to shorter guys is extremely small. They exist but they are very few.

Martin 4 years ago

Hey Jess, you posted this.

"I hate on the tall pedophiles type tall men that need a 5'0 tall spinner with the face of a dog! Take your anger out on those girls."

So who do you hate more, taller guys or shorter guys? Unfortunately I've encountered tall women like you who have more hate for shorter guys over the tall guys. Don't get me wrong, I know you hate the tall guys and little girls hooking up with each other, no questioning that. However, there's even more hate from taller women for the short guys. I've witnessed and experienced this firsthand. It's not uncommon. When you see tall guys hooking up with the dog-faced short girls you described, many of you tall ladies subsequently direct your hatred towards the shorter guys. Often this hatred is a direct result of not getting attention from the short-girl chasing tall guys. Self-entitled tall women despise what's left from the available pool of men which are the short guys who get rejected by the short girls. In fact, lots of tall women won't consider a shorter guy a man in the first place because they strongly believe height and maturity go hand in hand. The thought of dating a shorter guy or much shorter guy is beyond sacrilegious to a lot of tall women. Just not an option.

Jess 4 years ago

I hate the tall men first & short women second. I do not hate short men in any way shape or form! I am just very uncomfortable around them. I'm being honest. I feel uncomfortable around short (sadly most people). If I'm checking out at a grocery store I change lines if the person ringing me up is really short. I'm admitting it, it's a phobia having nothing to do with you all. I hate feeling like Godzilla. There is a gas station very near my home that I will not got to because the men who work there are 5'2 at most. They are mean short men that I do hate though, they laughed at me.. I know it. I do hate mean short men. If you are sweet and short I'd never hate on you!!! But I admit I might move my tallness away from you when standing. BUT please understand that has to do with MEEEEE not any dislike of you. I feel icky, unfeminine, dirty, unhappy, and gross near anyone shorter especially much shorter and yes I admit especially men. At 5'11 & living amongst a mostly hispanic population, I feel this way 99.9% of the time!!!!! It truly is horrible. I'm not sure I'd have got to this age without killing myself if I wasn't a mom.

Martin 4 years ago

Hi Jess

I hope you can somehow find happiness in your life whether it's with a partner or on your own. It's too bad that shorter people make you feel the way you do. I guess it's a safe bet that you don't have many friends who are shorter than you? I'm guessing it's hard for you to have friends unless they are as tall as you? In my experience, women who feel the way you described yourself, when in the company of shorter people, have the most hate for anyone a mere fraction shorter.

Sorry if this offends you and not to sound mean, but I think I would move myself away from you too. Judging by how you perceive yourself and shorter people, I'd stay far away from your personal space because that would probably make you feel more comfortable right? Do you have any friends, male or female who are comfortable around other people of different heights? I would seriously encourage you to associate yourself with positive people who don't have issues with their own height. Hopefully their energy can inspire you to be a little more comfortable around all types of people, not just tall.

Be careful of the words you use. You may be a nice, honest, caring, intelligent woman, but saying shorter people make you feel uncomfortable for no reason

other than your own height insecurities makes you sound like a complete b**th in a lot of eyes. It's not like you have that much respect for shorter people in the first place. Just like racism, it's heightism when you discriminate against others who aren't as vertically blessed like you. Best of luck.

Jess 4 years ago

No I do not have friends, I'm very lonely. I'm not a bitch but when people are torn apart for an uncontrollable problem like being tall and female we shut down.Or at least I did. It's not like racism at all. Racism isn't where you feel like oh god I look too white by that person. It's a total a different issue. I don't hate them for them. I feel uncomfortable because I'm not normal & it stands out even more by contrast. Vertical blessings are for men and women who like basketball, not for me. It was, is and will always be my curse!

Martin 4 years ago


We live in a society filled with invalidation ideologies. The 20th century is filled with "isms,"

feminism, racism, sexism, homophobism, ageism, heightism.

They are very present in this world and yes, they are all different issues. It doesn't change the fact that discriminatory behaviour against others goes hand in hand with these.

Heightism goes both ways. As much as you've been mistreated for your tallness, I've experienced the same in the other direction for being short. I can't compare my situation to yours, but if there is an advantage, you have it. Your height will always give you immediate respect and favour as an adult over shorter people. Society has proven this over and over and over again. There's no shortage of taller people who identify the Napoleon complex, short man syndrome, angry little man disease, whatever you want to call it against ambitious short men. Society feels threatened when a shorter guy stands up for the same rights served to taller people on a daily basis. You'd sooner label us as overly aggressive, annoying and childish. All because a shorter person chooses to protect his/her honour, speak a bit louder to be remotely audible and doesn't want to get trampled by ignorant heightists.

Jess 4 years ago

Power,respect favor is something tall men get, not tall women. Also those things are generally not what women want anyway. We want love, desirability and beauty. trust me we don't get these things. Are rheir some happy tall women? Yes, but it usually occurs when women learn to not desire what other women want.

Martin 4 years ago

Women don't want respect? Women don't want power? Jess, are you for real??? Seriously??? Unless you're one of those ladies who's totally against the feminist movement, which is rare, what you've said is one huge load of rubbish if you ask me. It's like me saying I prefer being treated like a child when I've fought to protect my honour as an adult for years now. It's almost like me saying I wish slavery still existed because I feel inferior to white people.

Seriously, you think women don't want to be treated with respect and dignity? Maybe you're a tall woman who has trouble realizing what's been subliminaly handed to you on a daily basis. There have been enough studies and experiments to prove the advantage of being tall over short, using all age groups. I've met tall women who use their height as an advantage to the extremes. Most of them were the biggest b**ches who took great pleasure in exerting their tallness over shorter people. There were a tiny few tall ladies who were generally nice people. They still used their height to get ahead.

You are right about learning not to covet what other women have and want. Finding your own happiness is important in life and you gotta learn to help yourself in the process. Nobody is going to help you except GOD. At the same time, GOD helps those who help themselves.

Maybe you should stop using shorter women as a barometer for measuring good looks in women. I'm guessing it wouldn't be that hard for you if you didn't have issues being a taller woman who desires the same tall men that you see the short girls dating. Tall women turn their hate to short men and short women. They hate the little girls apparently stealing all the tall guys and then turn their hate towards the short guys who experience the same hate from short women. None of this would matter to you if you had a tall, dark and handsome man that you could show off to to the world right? It's an abomination for you to be seen with a shorter guy even if he's an inch shorter than you?

Again, I hope you find happiness in this lifetime because it sounds like you're making excuses for yourself not to find happiness. All because you're a tall woman?

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Martin~ Had no idea you were very interesting I brought up the interracial topic then...and that's a whole other topic.But yes it was hard to stay together. I dated him right before the man who became my husband. And it was hard saying goodbye...and it was kind of mutual. Some of it though was about money. Money was most important to him and that has never been my top priority. But the hardest time I was given out in public with him was by black women who complained that I didn't need to steal "their men". And his family had a problem with it so yes it was a lot of pressure. When you are in a couple and you're happy, you want the people around you to be happy too- it just makes life easier.

Now onto height...I think it's biology. Men like a woman who looks like she can bare children (hip, waist, bust ratio) and women like a man who looks like he can protect her, which is usually seen to be the tall man (or bigger man). I was in psychology for a while and learned how much biology effects our preferences in a mate. Even women with bigger eyes draw more attention from men.

I think "JESS" is right about feeling less feminine as a taller woman- it's true and I still feel that sometimes.

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Jess~ here's the deal- you seem very upset about being tall and I feel for you. I am 1 inch taller than you at 6' and I have learned to love it. I realized that even short women have major insecurities and many of them tell me how they wish they were tall. I love where I live (Oregon/Washington area) because so many tall people. I also figured it's a general self-esteem issue you're dealing with and if it wasn't your height you were unhappy about then it would be something else. Even tall women like model Brooke Shields or actress Uma Thurman had self-esteem issues but got over them in their own way. Work on your self-esteem in general then you may find your attitude about being tall will get better.

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Jess~ it's amazing ot me how similar our growing up was, being self conscious about our height and practically loathing it. And now how different our experiences are. I don't recall a time when I couldn't walk into a club or social place and get exactly the man I wanted. I have a 5' tall friend and she says she feels like she disappears when she is in a group of people...because she is so short. I definitely don't hate short women because msot of my best friends have been short and I hear about their insecurities all the time. The grass isn't greener on the other side, it's just about self-acceptance and choosing to be happy as who you are.

Martin~ you said in one comment about interracial dating that you didn't care what other people thought but yet you do...when it comes to your height.

Actually to both you and Jess...I always felt like blondes had more fun- I've been blonder and got way more attention. So we can pick at appearances all day and who has worst or best, but bottom line is it's about what's on the inside. Pretty girls get the short (no pun intended) end of the stick all the time- they get dumped, laughed at, abused, cheated on, etc.

Martin 4 years ago

Hi Izetti,

Honestly, I've never cared about race or skin colour when I choose to be with someone. I will admit to prefering thicker women over skinnier women, but I don't shut out the ladies who have less weight to carry. Again, it has nothing to do with the origin of ones ancestry.

I don't care what other people think or have to say about my height. I stopped caring about that before I graduated from highschool. When people make false conclusions, excuses or negative dissertations against me because I'm short, that's when I care. When I defend myself from the ignoramusses of the world, I'm accused of having short man syndrome. If I sit back and take the abuse, I'm considered weak and inferior. It's a no-win situation unless you encounter people who are devoid of heightism and will look at you as a person without using a measuring stick.

Short guys get the short end of the stick. We get ignored, ridiculed, laughed at, abused by taller people and cheated on by ladies who have tons of guys vying for their attention. Short guys are known to have women cheat on them because the cheating women are always looking for his taller replacement. I've known and worked with good short men and some taller men who were victims of the worst kind of infidelity. Many shorter guys have no choice to stay with these women because it's not as if we're getting the attention from other ladies. The alternative is to be alone.

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Martin~ We're a screwed up society. Fat people get picked on constantly yet 60% of our population is overweight.

As a tall woman, or perhaps even the fact of being a woman, if I stick up for myself I'm a bitch and if I don't stick up for myself, I have a self-esteem problem.

Having two kids, I can't do much of anything with them at theme parks or play structures cause I can't fit in any of them and my legs are too damn long to sit or fit into any kid stuff while other moms are able to. That has been a big bummer cause I can't explain that to my kids in a way they understand- they don't understand why other mommies do it but I don't. Also I worry someday that my daughter won't like her height- she's 4 but already very tall for her age.

And if i had a nickel for every time somebody has asked me if I played basketball (talk about stereotypes) I'd be rich...and no I never played for the mere fact that it might have been expected of me.

Jess 4 years ago

@ Martin.. No I'm not a feminist, I'm middle ground. I do not think women should die in wars, be slutty & demean themselves, work until their 100 and then wonder why they can't have children etc.. I do think they should not be abused, underpaid, or have to wear face covers. I am sadly a traditional woman who enjoys cleaning, cooking, children, teaching, caring for others, etc. I also like nails, hair, makeup, shopping etc. My dream was always to have a man appreciate or want my feminine side but that tall body of mine stood in my way rendering me nothing. I understand in some parts of the country short men may feel similar (emasculated for their height). I apologize! Imagine though if you can being womanly in every way but your size & so you never get to be a woman? It hurts! It's lonely! If that's your situation as a man. I will think good thoughts for you& wish you the best.

Jess 4 years ago


I'm so glad you have had a happy, successful, partner filled life. I have not. I have commented here before that I wonder of your geographic location helped you? God bless! I will pray for your daughter & hope her height is not her curse! WA is a beautiful place! Maybe it's a good, safe place for her! Plus you never know my daughter is very short! She seemed tall though at a young age but just never got "too tall"?

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Jess~ yes I remember your comments. I am still amazed that two people with similar feature (height) can have such different experiences. I am so sorry it hasn't been positive for you. I can likely conclude that geographic location may have a big influence.

I don't know how I'd feel if my high school experiences of being tall continued into my adulthood. I'd be miserable- I am glad it changed into my adulthood. I am glad it got better. There are always more variables to one's situation so look at everything in your life before making the conclusion that the rough times were all due to height. And besides...who needs their (society) approval anyway. Try to be happy without it.

Jess 4 years ago

I don't need approval but it's been a very lone;y life.........................

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Jess~ it's no coincidence that some tall women like it and others don't. we're all tall so thats not really the issue- the issue if you are lonely, is in yourself. You cant blame height for lonliness. I am tall and not lonely.

Jess 4 years ago

I've tried meeting people, I've tried so many things. Men seem to have a strong preference for littler women. It's very hard! The ones I'm littler than only want MUCH smaller women. OUCH!

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Move to Washington or Oregon cause I've never had a problem here and there are taller people here too.

I still think it's how you carry yourself though. No matter what size or shape you are, if you don't like you, nobody will. if you can be attractive in your own skin then that's the real power.

the other day I was talking to a friend about people in Hollywood that are not really pretty but are viewed as attractive. Glenn Close, Meryl Streep (in many films where she is so charismatic with men), Julia Roberts (not typical pretty), Helen Hunt, Brooke Shields and Uma Thurman (6' tall).

Viviana 4 years ago

My name is Viviana. I'm 16 years old. I'm 5'10 1/2 and I really hate it.

Some days I wish I would die. I hate school. I've always been bullied because of my height. I've never had a boyfriend and I actually hate boys now because they've made fun of me worse than the girls. My mom is 5'6 and says she used to feel tall, she thinks she understands but it's not the same. My mom got to be a cheerleader, got to dances, wear heels, have a boyfriend. I am hoping to pass my GED next month but after that I wish I could just hide. I don't want to go to college. I might take online classes. I don't know what kind of job I could do without having to be out around people. I hate that my height holds me back from a normal life. I realize some people have bad things too but it's just so depressing.

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izettl 4 years ago from The Great Northwest Author

Viviana~ as soon as you view your height as the issue that not holding you back then you can take a look at the real issues. And it may just be your height right now. Personally, I hated high school because when you realize kids will bully and remark about something- if it's not your height, it's something else- guarantee that. So you might as well complain about your skin, your hair, your big feet, your ears, your voice, something will always make you feel inadequate in your teen years.

Survive your teen years and life gets much better- if you can leave high school behind...and forget it...people in the "real world" (not high school) are much more adult about so called inadequacies. I was always the tallest ( 6 feet) of my friends and after high school, I got all the guys. I got any job I wanted. My height was a big bummer in high school but afterwards, life was better. As you get older, also you will realize worse things happen and you begin to be thankful for what you have. Different things take priority. If height continues to be the focus of bad things in your life, then I'd take a look at other possibilities and maybe you're just blaming your unhappiness on your height. Remember, kids will only bully you if they know it effects you- if they know they can get to you. So don't show it.

Mandy 3 years ago

At 5 11 1/2 height has always been an issue to me.. I am now in my mid 40ties and can't weight for osteoporosis to kick in and shave off a few inches of my disproportionally long torso. I never made it to the phase where you "embrace" your height as something that makes you unique and beautiful. I can so relate to Jess and wish I had some words of encouragement for her .. I only know that I can relate and being tall sucks..

If I get too skinny I look sick, if I put on too many pounds I look like a brick $hit house.. My body just feels so overwhelming, and in my opinion, if your not a basketball player or a model, being tall is more of a liability than an asset. My issues with height has made the biggest impact on everything in my life. Of course the younger years were awkward but it didn't get better when I aged...I was fortunate enough to get married to a decent guy but I didn't want to have children because I didn't want to pass on my tall gene.

I wanted a job that involved sitting so I could blend in easier and don't like to be among people, especially those that have a normal body type. ( not because they are not cool ,but it just too much of a reminder what a freakshow I am) The only thing the tall thing did for me was giving me a sense of invincibility . I was never afraid to be assaulted because of my size and survived the times when I was living in an area with a lot of crime.

Some days are better than others, but during moments of idleness, I can drive myself completely over the edge by blaming everything that is not going well in my life on my height, and wonder if life would have been more fore filling in I would have been of a normal size.

Jess 3 years ago

It's just so sad! I recently met a very tall man 6'7. We became friends & I for once had a little hope of finding someone. I sensed he wasn't really into me though. One night after a drink or four he leaned in to kiss me & my heart skipped a beat & then he said " I'll take you even though I prefer petite angels to spin around". Um I responded with " I'd take you but I don't like pedophile Neanderthals sorry"... No happy ending

Mario 2 years ago

How can i find tall women, who likes short men ??

Raju 19 months ago

Hey I am a handsome male of 5'9 1/2" and I love taller women. I feel a sort of sexual arousal when I see a girl/woman taller than me. I feel like a baby infornt of them like how babies/children are shorter than adults. Very rarely I get to meet women taller than me but when I get, I be there near to them and stare at them and feel my fantasies.

I had a fantasy in my college when I met a beautiful girl named Shruthi who is the tallest and above 6". She feels very proud and I always spent my time with her. I used to only measure up at her shoulders level when standing side to her and just above her boobs when standing infront of her. She knew about my weakness and used to tease me by putting her big palm on top of my head and comparing my height with her chest. She says you just come to my chest level...When will you Grow-up my boy!!!I used to feel like I was her baby boy. I also used to imagine she (Shruthi) lifting me up in her arms like a baby. Also once I compared my palms with her's and she clearly has bigger palms than me. I felt like her child. I , once felt her like my elder sister when she took my notebook and held atop higher and I was jumping high to get that book. I was unable to reach her as she was taller. One of her friend's pointed that it look like a kid trying to get something from an adult. She along with her friends laughed at me at that remark and I blushed red and ran away from her. I feel a lot of fantasies with her as I had a crush on her. Fantasies like being pissed by her(i.e She standing at my back bending for my zip and opening it and holding my penis when I piss like how an elder sister does to her little brother.) Then sitting in her lap either clothed or completely naked like a baby boy. Being spanked completely naked on her laps and being bathed by her completely naked and then getting dried up.

So all the taller girls here, think in this way and feel proud that you are taller and men are just putty in your hands.

Frank Johnson 9 months ago

This blog made me think of my early 20’s, as I was rejected by the foxes who chased after the Alfa males and showed no more interest in me than glancing at a blade of grass next to the highway traveling at 75 MPH. And this made me think about my own personal experiences with tall women, a slightly different story from this blog, but same result due to being a Beta male. One 6’ tall girl, in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked or acted more uninterested if she had wanted to. I approached another, who I estimated being 5 foot 9 or 10 inches. She got angry with me for even asking her out and stuck her finger in my face informing me she didn’t date shorter men. On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, there could be others, too, I just don’t remember them all. Now, you may say the rejections were because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.

This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height. Not a one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me.

I did date three women who were significantly taller than me, two at 5’11” and one at 5’10”. (I am 5’8”) And all three happened to be 32 years of age, which is more than a coincidence and a tie in with this blog. No doubt all three wanted a tall Alfa male, and lost, so a safe stable Beta male was the next best thing in their 30’s, for I certainly didn’t grow any taller and I doubt I got better looking. These women were past their prime and worried. I was in my late 30’s, at this time of my life, after being married for 10 years. It was also at this time, I could easily date younger women, and I did. When I was 38, my first girlfriend was 27, the next was 27 and the next was 24 who became my second wife. I never dated with any intent of marrying a woman my age. Younger women had no issue with me dating them, and I certainly had no issue dating them. I remember going to singles events and seeing very pretty women, who were my age, who I know 15 years earlier would not have given me the time of day. And even now, they may have looked better than myself, but now it was me who had no interest in approaching them. I did not want to take time and money away from pursuing younger women. Why go old, when I could go young? I was amazed how the dating game changed in my favor. And I used it to my advantage, just as women had done years earlier.

I am now married and have 4 sons. I have 3 degrees, and I have co-authored 2 US patents. I could have provided a good life to any girl. I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (in her 20’s) gave me a chance. I was turned down consistently and without a second thought. (Maybe due to the Alfa male fascination) So, if you find yourself in your late 20’s or early 30’s with no prospect of a husband or children in the immediate future, you have no one to blame but yourself. There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, but they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity. (This also applies to average height women, too) And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man (and Beta males) until it is too late. You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males (and Beta males) in your suitor selection, your odds would increase of finding a mate. There are a lot more short and medium height males than there are taller ones. So my advice would be to accept the advances of all men and get to know them. I, who would have relished the opportunity of having curvy broad hips and a tapered waist to hold all night and to make love to into the early hours of the morning, was never, not once, even given a chance to start a relationship. Throw away the yardstick, for you may find someone like me, who would love to share his life and love with a tall girl.

By the way, another tie in with this article and be found at this web site.

This writer tell about his rejections in his 20’s by women only to find that women now chased after him, in spite of his height, now he is in his early 30’s. He warns of the dangers of the “Reformed Heightest Woman” who are desperate after wasting their life chasing the Alfa male and now want a stable Beta with a steady pay-check.

Here is anther on how women who found the Mr. Average (Beta Males) were worth nothing in their 20’s and now that these women are in their 30’s can’t buy a date, even from the Beta Males

Why women lose in the dating game

During their 20s, women compete for the most highly desirable men, the Mr Bigs. Many will readily share a bed with the sporty, attractive, confident men, while ordinary men miss out. As Whiskey puts it at ''Joe Average Beta Male is about as desirable to women as a cold bowl of oatmeal.''

''I can't believe how many men my age are only interested in younger women,'' wails Gail, a 34-year-old advertising executive as she describes her first search through men's profiles on the RSVP internet dating site. She is shocked to find many mid-30s men have set up their profiles to refuse mail from women their own age.

Talking to many women like her, it's intriguing how many look back on past relationships where they let good men get away because they weren't ready. American journalist Kate Bolick wrote recently in The Atlantic about breaking off her three-year relationship with a man she described as ''intelligent, good-looking, loyal and kind''. She acknowledged ''there was no good reason to end things'', yet, at the time, she was convinced something was missing in the relationship. That was 11 years ago. She's is now 39 and facing grim choices.

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