Teenage Intimate Partner Violence
“Wrap It Up!”
When someone mentions safety planning for teens, one almost automatically thinks about the words, “Wrap It Up!” a well-known phrase for practicing safe sex. I know as a parent the thoughts that maybe going through your head when you see the words; teenage intimate partner violence. Your first thought would be, “Oh no, not my child!” Well let me set your mind at ease a little; intimacy does not necessary mean your child is having sex. Intimate partner can simply mean that your princess or prince has someone that she or he feels friendship with, cherished by, or loved enough to confide in, trust, with the possibilities of it leading to sex later on. While everyone is familiar with the slogan, “Wrap It Up!” and what it details; do you know what NDVH or ACADV means and have you discussed it with your children?
The Alabama Coalition Against Domestic Violence is a nonprofit organization established in 1978 as an organization dedicated to working toward a peaceful society where domestic violence no longer exits. Domestic violence is usually thought to be a family affair that occurs mostly through spousal abuse and sometimes the abuse of the children. However, the ACADV and NDVH (National Domestic Violence Hotline) have an entire webpage dedicated to teen dating violence. Have you discussed with your teenagers how to recognize and report violence in dating relationships?
It is estimated that more than 3.3 million children are exposed to physical and verbal spousal abuse each year. Exposure in this case means that children are seeing or hearing the actual abuse or dealing with the aftermath of the abuse. Naturally a percentage of these kids in turn wind up being abused or the abuser in their own relationships. ACADV reveals statistics showing that one in three teenagers has experienced violence in a dating relationship. Dating violence occurs when one partner tries to sustain power and control over the other by way of abuse. This abuse can be emotional or mental, sexual, and physical, or a combination of all four. There are also some astounding statistics on just how bad a problem this type of domestic abuse is:
- Women ages 16 to 24 experience the highest rates of intimate violence – nearly 20 percent of every 1000 women within this age group.
- Approximately, 1 out of every 3 high school students and 1 in 5 college females has been or will be involved in an abusive relationship.
- Every 40 out of 100 teenage girls between the ages of 14 to 17 know someone who has been hit or beaten by their boyfriend.
- Between 30 to 50 percent of female high school students have already experienced teen dating violence.
- In the homes of one of the partners is where teen dating violence occurs most often.
- 60 percent out of a survey of 500 young women were involved in an ongoing abusive relationship.
- 38 percent of date rape victims were young women between the ages of 14 10 17 years old.
- 68 percent of raped young women know their attacker either as a boyfriend, friend, or casual acquaintance..
- More than 4 in every 10 incidents of domestic violence involve non-married persons.
The above statistics were provided via the Bureau of Justice Special Report: Intimate Partner Violence, May 2000. You probably found the statistics alarming as I did however; keep in mind that these statistics are almost ten years old, so the percentages most likely are higher now.
Re-enactment depicts Police Report of Chris & Rihanna Incident...
One thing you must know is that love is never ever
abuse. It is just unfortunate that many
times it is our loved ones that can hit and hurt you the most. DoSomething.org’s created
a re-enactment in March ’09 of the police report filed after the Chris/Rihanna
incident happened. This disturbing public service
announcement highlighted the “1 in 3” statistic and told kids to send for “black
& blue” bracelets. Within 5 weeks
over 55,000 kids requested the free bracelets most citing that they were
requesting them for friends they knew that were dealing with abuse. DoSomething.org
is the largest national organization dedicated to teens and social change. If you are a victim to mental abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, or
physical abuse from your teenage partner or another loved one; you can get help.
Early warning signs that your date may eventually become abusive:
- Extreme jealousy
- Controlling behavior
- Quick involvement
- Unpredictable mood swings
- Alcohol and drug use
- Explosive anger
- Isolates you from friends and family
- Uses force during an argument
- Shows hypersensitivity
- Believes in rigid sex roles
- Blames others for his problems or feelings
- Cruel to animals or children
- Verbally abusive
- Abused former partners
- Threatens violence
Common clues that indicate a teenager may be experiencing dating violence:
- Physical signs of injury
- Truancy, dropping out of school
- Failing grades
- Changes in mood or personality
- Use of drugs/alcohol
- Emotional outburst
Links to More Information
- Dating Violence, (ACADV)
Be sure to visit ACADV's website for more on domestic violence abuse and the rest of the information pertaining to dating violence. There is a Dating Bill of Rights, A Responsibility List, and the beliefs differences in young men and women.
- Domestic Violence and Abuse: Signs of Abuse and Abusive Relationships
This help guide that will assist you with the signs that you're in an abusive relationship by helping you to identify your inner thoughts and feelings verses your partners belittling behavior.
Stories Told by Other Teens...
Places to Get Help
Parents talk to your children or if you are in an abusive relationship get help for yourself and your children. Abusers use words, physical strength, and the power of manipulation through convincing you that they need to make all the decisions; putting you down in front of your friends; or pulling you away from your friends; threatening to kill themselves; stalking you; taking control over you; or forcing you to have sex.
If you think you might be in an abusive relationship, talk to your parents or another adult family member, a school counselor or teacher, or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233). DO NOT believe the lie that he or she will never do it again…They will over and over again. Domestic Violence is a disease that is crippling individuals, damaging humanity, and killing way too many of our love ones! Hey, get the word out, “Yes, it is important to “Wrap It Up,” however, “Stop the Abuse First or Walk Away!"
Rihanna: Going back to Brown after beating 'wrong'
- Rihanna Domestic Violence Investigation!
Rihanna is assisting police in building a domestic violence case against Chris Brown, says reports. Domestic violence investigation of Chris Brown,
- Rihanna Embraces Her Role as Poster Girl for Domestic Violence - On Women (usnews.com)
She's embarrassed by the leaked photo of her bruised face but willing to speak out against abusers.
- Chris Brown Haunted By Family\'s History Of Domestic Violence - News Story | Music, Celebrity, Artis
Chris Brown was haunted by his family's history of domestic violence. The R&B singer told MTV News in 2006 that his mom's abuse was "an influence in me about how to treat a woman."
- Domestic Violence - Rihanna and Chris Brown: Is It Ever Okay to Get Back Together with Your Abusive
Recent reports of physical abuse between pop stars Rihanna and Chris Brown have fueled discussions about domestic violence. Should you ever take back an abuser?
- Teen Dating Abuse National Domestic Violence Hotline
Dating violence is a pattern of controlling behaviors that one partner uses to get power over the other, and it includes:
- Love is respect National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline
Dating abuse can happen to anyone, at any age, no matter what race or religion they are, and no matter what their level of education or economical background. Dating abuse also occurs in same sex relationships.
- Love is Not Abuse
Since 1991 Liz Claiborne Inc. has been working to end domestic violence. Break the silence and become part of the solution.
- Effects of Domestic Violence on Children and Teenagers ~ FindCounseling.com
Being a child or teenager is difficult, as most of us remember. But being a child or teenager and living in a house infected with domestic violence can have devastating, life-long effects.
- Domestic Violence-Teen Relationship Abuse
Abuse in dating relationships is common among teens, with 33% of teens reporting some kind of abuse and 12% reporting physical abuse.16Teen dating abuse is like domestic violence in adults in that it also is a pattern of abusive behavior used to cont
- Chris Brown and Rihanna - Male Violence - Oprah.com
Kevin Powell on what we can learn from Chris Brown and Rihanna's story.
Teen Dating Violence
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