Ten Things Women Love About Men

I love a good man. I have had good men as friends, boyfriends, and I was reared by one. As it turns out, the good women in my life, both married and single, tend to love good men also, and we started discussing some of the things we love about them. The disclaimer here is that some sweeping generalities have to be made for the purpose of prose. Everyone's different, and this list is not comprehensive. In fun, for the women that love men, we have our reasons, here's a rough ten. We LOVE:

1. When You Screw Up.

Let me be clear, most women don't want to date a screw-up, that's not what we're saying. It's just that imperfection can be endearing, if not comical. No one is perfect, and flaws can amuse a woman into solidarity with a man. Now there's a huge, gaping difference between, "honey, I just slept with your best friend, sorry" and "honey, I lost the gift you gave me, sorry." Here's a cute little screw-up of an ex of mine, I actually really like this one. We were headed somewhere, and he'd forgotten to do something, and when I asked him about it, he responded, "sorry, I forgot. Babe, you know I would have done it, you know I'm a puppy for you." So I'm thinking this is a pretty good line, and tell him so, and he happily takes full credit. Later that same day, I was listening to some music he'd sent me, and that exact line was in one of the songs he'd sent me. "Let You Down" by Dave Matthews Band, to be exact. So I call him on this, explaining that it's all in the execution, and he has to try harder to hide the lines he steals from songs from me. I thought it was funny. Your mistakes give us a little room to make our own, and helps us both to grow as people.

2. When You Brag About Your Girl.

Hopefully a man doesn't scatter the room with incessant talk about his significant other. But when a man is in love, and with a woman he's proud to be with, we all give him a little space to brag. It's sweet. It shows his appreciation for what he has. It's a testimony to her, but also a really great testimony to him as well.

3. When We Find Out Something Feminine About You.

We do not want you to try on our underwear. (At least most of us don't anyway). That's not the idea. Straight women usually like their men to be men. But when we find Carly Simon on one of your playlists, or hand cream (that belongs to you), in your glove compartment, or exfoliating cream in your medicine cabinet, it scores you points. My dad is about as macho as they come, maybe too much so. But nothing was more adorable to me then sneaking up on my dad to find him watching a Lifetime movie--alone. Listen, women know that you use having a girlfriend as a smart cover for doing girlie things you can't do otherwise. We know you want to watch Grey's Anatomy with us, and that it's easier to tell your friends it's a favor you're doing us because you're just such a great boyfriend. We like when we find out girlie things about you. It's cute, and it's funny. It's sexy.


4. When You Fix Things.

When we come to you with a problem, we are not always requesting for you to fix it. But we LOVE this instinct about you. We like that you want to fix what's broken, and we like that a lot of times, you can. We go to our girlfriends for tears and enabling. We go to you because you will likely come up with a logical solution.

5. When You Take The High-Road.

Drunk girls can usually be talked into anything. Girls with daddy issues, and low-self esteem can usually also be talked into anything as well. When a good man takes the drunk girl home safely--and leaves, this gets the attention of the sober, possibly more together woman. When the good man sees the easy prey--low self-esteem, daddy issues, and leaves her be, or keeps her in the 'friends only' zone it calls him out as an excellent man. In a world where ethics are dwindling by the second, a man with a moral code is stand-alone sexy, and the vast majority of women are in agreement about this. I won't speak for everyone, but when I hear a man call a woman on disrespecting herself by staying with the guy she's with, he certainly gets my attention. What will also get my attention is a man who keeps a little standard to the type of woman he'll date. I'm not too keen on the guy who's standard for a woman is that she's female. There's nothing attractive about that. My guess on why this is appealing for women is the fact that it shows a man's own self-respect when he holds a woman to a standard.

6. When You Take Our Advice.

Even when you do this secretly--we always find out, and it's cute. We love when you come to us for our opinion because it shows your regard for what we have to say. Taking this next step, and actually following our advice makes us feel really good. It makes us careful about the advice we give you, and brings us closer to you.

7. When You Muse About The Future.

Many women daydream, muse, and plan for the future. I believe it's in our DNA to do this. But when I'm with a guy, friend or boyfriend, and he lets his mind wander about moving to France or having a family, or learning to dance, or opening a restaurant--it's just magical in a way that isn't coming from a woman. Half the reason men get our support on some less-than-stellar ideas is for the sheer romance of it working in our heads, and how enthralling it sounds coming from him.

8. When You Command Respect With Your Character and Your Actions.

Men of good character become men of good reputation, and it's hot. First off, it shows that the guy is his own man. Being of good character, of solid ethics today is essentially swimming against the current. It is certainly not easy, but when you see it, you know it. Good character, acts of humanitarianism, faith and general good will will keep the woman you want at your side.

9. When You Have Hobbies and Interests That Have Nothing To Do With Us.

Even Sports. Personally, I'm intermittently into sports, I'm a product of a very male upbringing. But even women who abhor nearly all things athletic still like when a guy is into a sport. Clingy girls are obnoxious, and so are clingy men. It is so enriching to a relationship to be able to talk about distinct and separate interests. It's a great way to self-preserve in a relationship--to maintain your identity--by means of your own interests. And really the uniqueness of the person, their identity, is what often draws us to them in the first place. Besides, passion can be magnetic. I recently went wine-tasting with a guy, a subject I only know the basics about, and his knowledge and intensity about it was actually really intriguing. The only type of woman who does not like for her man to have his own thing going on is the type of woman who has nothing going on. And she will likely drive you bananas.

10. When You Show The Occasional Display of Vulnerability.

Now crying more then your woman will likely not win you much action. It could, in fact mean a one-way ticket into platonic-land. But never crying is equally as strange. Women love your strength, and count on it. But those brief, unguarded moments, are part of what turns a woman from a booty-call (and I know plenty of women who are as casual about sex as men can be), to the person that makes you dinner. Everyone knows that only sociopaths don't feel, and sociopaths aren't usually much company. We know your emotions are part of you, and we love when we get to know more.

There are many other reasons women love men, but this is my ten. Originally, I'd written that a nice eleventh would be how much we love when you let us drive your car. That eleventh is being quickly, and more appropriately replaced with,"we love when you support us." This works well in your favor, guys. I can remember a friend of mine promising her husband, "whatever he wanted night," just because he backed her up on some trivial issue with his family. He had no idea it meant that much to her. Support always goes a long way with a woman, and that's kind of the idea, right? If I were going to make the sexiest cologne in the world, I'd call it "Support." Support--better than pheromones.

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always exploring 6 years ago from Southern Illinois

This without a doubt is the man i want, you put it together so well.

Thumbs up!!!!!!!!!!

God Bless


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Thanks so much! The good ones are really, really great. Appreciate it, and I hope you find who you're looking for.


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ilmdamaily 6 years ago from A forgotten corner of a dying empire. OK, it's Australia :-)

I love this SJ:-)

It's so nice to see some positive talk about men...or, the good ones at least! Too often we get mired down in the "my baby's daddy" syndrome, where the only news that ever spreads is bad news. I can't speak for all men of course, but I think many people underestimate how much of an impact the negativity surrouning "men" - in society and the media - can have on them as as a gender, and how ultimately damaging it is to their self-esteem, and thus ability to form healthy realtionships.

It's funny in that way: we as a society get what we wish for. Celebrate the worse qualities of men, and you'll get them every time. Celebrate the great qualities of men, and they'll show up eventually. The key is, I think, expecting better from people.

People - or at least me - love to have high expectations made of them...because it acknowledges that spark of fundamental goodness inside them. By expecting better, you tacitly acknowledge a capacity for goodness. ANd it feels nice when someone sees that in you. And when we celebrate what's great, we're reinforcing and propagating those qualities we love, and so should expect (hope) to see more of them in the future - a self-fulfilling prophecy if you will.

This sparks my imagination - i've been working on a hub for ages about masculinity and what it means to be a man, and how to redfine masculinity. This gives me some good brain food;-)

And, without sounding like a complete w*nker, it's a little pleasing to be able acknowledge a couple of those qualities in myself lol;-)

Good writing from a good woman;-)


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Thanks so much, Kristin. I had a lot of fun writing this one actually. Hope you clicked the link, it was supposed to be an actual video, but I was a little slow on the uptake yesterday and now out of town. My fb friends seem to like this one too.

Great comment. I think the laws of reciprocity apply here. My dad, and really all the men in my life have set the bar really high for both themselves and other men. It has made me want to be a better woman because I felt, and feel that they deserve it. I've always believed that if you view things negatively, people will live down to your expectations. The rules are the same for women. I have hard time tolerating lazy, unmotivated women.

Looking forward to your hub! And just as a side point--GREAT new profile pic :-)!


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ilmdamaily 6 years ago from A forgotten corner of a dying empire. OK, it's Australia :-)

Thank you SJ! I really appreciate that:-) I might add, your new pic is just great, too! Sunshine and smiles:-)

I know what you mean about Dads. Mine set the bar high for me. A giant of a man, i've never seen him raise his voice (or swear for that matter) or hand against me or my mother & sister. Which is remarkable, because as much as I love my mother, she has the capacity to drive me bat sh*t insane. And maybe i'm not much better lol.

Unfortunately the video didn't load...it seems to block streaming to non-US viewers which is annoying - but I know the show you mean and can imagine the situation thet'ye covering;-)

Unrelatedly, i'm heading off on another jaunt quite shortly, and will be off hubpages for a while (being unable to find an internet connection readily)...it'd be great to keep in touch, so feel free to facebook me (or whatever kids call it these days lol:-P), ok? I value our exchanges and your input, so don't be shy SJ;-)


jamesnodoubt 6 years ago

I really like the thoughtful and gentle kindness this article was written with. It says a lot about you and those you referenced for the life's experiences


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Laughing out loud at your mom comment, Kristin! My mom might have been your mom's coach at some point--I love her to death, but driving me insane is her hobby. She certainly could have turned ME into a wife-beater, that's for sure. My own dad--let's just say he would tend to scare the neighborhood kids. Before he became Christian he traveled doing martial arts tournaments, and did not lose. He's very kind, loving, but not one to be played with. Add three brothers, and a ton of male cousins and it was like growing up in the land before estrogen. Over-protection. It was Fort Knox as the only girl, and when I was younger it felt like they were all trying to control me. When I matured a little, I realized just how bad the world can be, and suddenly their protection sounded like a really good idea. I came to appreciate it, love it, and count on it.

That pic was from last weekend which was flipping wonderful! Hope your next adventure finds you with at least some internet access, ESSENTIAL! Hope it's fun, and sure, I'll add you to FB. Welcome, in advance, to ADD land.

James, thank you. Our past really should be a tutor for our present and future, and when I look back at past relationships, it's mostly affectionately. For what did not work--my not being ready for a serious relationship was my issue, not their's. There was a lot of good, I learned a lot.


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Sonic241928 6 years ago

Very nice hub. It's comforting to know that women expect their men to be well-rounded and multifaceted, and to have moments of weakness as well as moments of strength, although the latter is more often preferred.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Sonic, thank you, that's exactly right, you nailed it.


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robertaharden 6 years ago from California on the beach

Right to the core. I loved and agree with every single one of your points!


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Sweet! Roberta, thanks for reading and happy you agree. Guys come in all ranges of quality, and when a man has himself together in these ways they add such dimension and color to your life. Pretty irresistable. Doesn't hurt when they smell like fun either. I'm pretty impressed with the guys who are still interested in trying to figure out how to be better partners. Side point, Roberta, you're beautiful and I'm sure plenty of guys would be interested in what you would like. Thanks again for reading!


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robertaharden 6 years ago from California on the beach

Thank you. I have yet to find a good man myself, but when I do, I am sure I will appreciate every single one of those points you mentioned :)


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

I'm pretty confident you will find what you want, and there are plenty of really good guys around, but you do have to be careful. And you will likely be sorting through some weeds to get to him. And you're welcome!


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George J Hardy 6 years ago from Southern New Jersey

I just love an honest opinion; great hub and thanks!


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Sure, George, thanks. I'm usually pretty honest. Thanks for reading it!


L&DLisa 6 years ago

Hey SJ,

Told you I would read and so I have!! This is the first one I've looked at and loved it I have! Very honest and real, I appreciate it. As a woman very much in love with her partner/husband of nearly 15 years I can truthfully say that many of these would be on my top ten as well. Thanks and I'll keep reading....


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Hi Lis, glad you read it, now you'll know what Ana's talking about if she starts paraphrasing things I've written on here. I had a couple more, but 10 is such an easy number to work with. Thanks!


sagar 6 years ago

if i love you


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

sagar, I'm not sure you finished, or wanted this comment here. Want me to take it off?


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dawnM 6 years ago from THOUSAND OAKS

I liked your hub and the fact that you like men and you act like a woman, alowing a man to respect you. I am a firm believer in a positive father daughter relationship and how it makes women really appericte a man when they grow up in a home where a dad and his daughter are close. I had that with my father and like you I adore men!! so hats off to you for a great article!


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Thanks, Dawn! I do really love my dad, but I didn't realize how close we were until later. I took it for granted, plus, we definitely did not see eye-to-eye more than once. We're COMPLETELY opposite in some respects, and identical in others, but we love each other a lot, it's obvious. My graduation shot of me hugging my dad made the front of our local newspaper, he was so happy in that picture! I didn't realize how important the father daughter relationship was in our actual relationships until just a few years ago. My dad is amazing. I have not ever seen anyone's prayers answered like his, it's actually annoying.


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habee 6 years ago from Georgia

Awesome! You look way too young to be so wise! lol


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Thank you, habee. I'm thirty. But everyone always told me I have a very old soul. Believe me, I can be extremely silly. Writing hides some of it.


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Sanjib77 6 years ago

I think these are useful tips for men. :-) I enjoyed, thoroughly.


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GranAnn 6 years ago from Dothan,Alabama...usa

Ditto... im proud to know. That a woman cares about me this way.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Sanjib, sweet! Glad you liked it, thanks for reading! GrannAnn--wonderful. I love that. Thanks for reading!


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JakeMcMurphy 6 years ago from Chicago

I'm not that handy (I suppose that's a vulnerability) :)..


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Lol! Cute, Jake. Thanks for the read.


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wifelv 6 years ago from mi

Awesome, Great post... thanks for the inspiration.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Thanks, wifelv. I was more than happy to write this one.


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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

As a man I am proud with your work, my friend. Absolutely beautiful. Vote this up.

Prasetio


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Prasetio--thank you!!


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nikitha p 6 years ago from India

wow nice hub! I like it.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Thanks for reading, Nikitha!


culturespain 6 years ago

After 25 years of marriage my wife thinks that I can do with all the advice available. So, maybe your comments will help. I seem to have missed out on most of your 10 so far!


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Lol, culturespain, very cute. Thanks for reading!


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Diane Inside 6 years ago

You hit the nail on the head, loved it, number 11 for me is when your man, boyfriend, husband, actually backs you up, is on your side, especially when conflicts arise outside of the relationship. It says this is my partner, I support her fully, it is very sexy to me.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Diane, that's awesome! I'm changing my number 11, screw driving his stupid car, lol. Support is sexy!!!


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Lady_E 6 years ago from London, UK

Love it - I was trying to choose a favourite. I had about 5. lol. I like the way you put it. No 8: on character and Actions, I'm quite particular on the way a man treats his Mum, sisters and others. It reveals a lot.

... yes, we could slip that no 11 in. Sending flowers and gifts to us at the office is nice too.

Sweet Hub.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Elena, thanks for reading! You are soooo right! A man who treats his family well--very positive sign. I like your additions to the list. A lot of guys will probably do what you want, they just don't respond to cues well. They need explicit instructions, and which tends to frustrate women. They don't like having to tell him what comes to them naturally. I've lived my whole life usually the only female of a sea of males and I'm used to them. I figured I'd write up the things I love, and there's plenty. Thanks so much!


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Phenomenal woman 6 years ago from Long Beach,ca

Hey,I'm looking for that guy.Where is he?


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

He's at work! Don't give up on them, Nikki, there really are amazing men in the world. Thanks for reading!


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SubRon7 6 years ago from eastern North Dakota

Great hub page--thank you!


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Thanks, Subron7!


BenjaminB 6 years ago

Amusing, follow this up with a hub that tells me if women love good men then why most good men get walked over and discarded for men who are jerks and treat women like dirt only to reappear years later trying to dupe him into picking up the pieces in their life that was ruined by the bad men,lol,just a rant. Good hub!


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

BenjaminB, "bundle of disorders"--funny, and I'm a Guinness lover also. Listen, I tell my friends all the time about going easier on "bad boys" than good guys. Bad boys are intriguing, and exciting, but every woman knows they won't be shopping for Chinaware with them anytime soon. They're the fast food of real men--quick, fun, and goes straight to your butt. But like fast food, too much bad boy will make you sick. Women, unfortunately, tend to mature into good guys, and that can be extremely frustrating. I want to say that I think it boils down to being assertive. Women tend to want men to be assertive, and good guys replace their balls with political correctness and "nice" sometimes. But I cheer for the good guys! Always have. It's the way to go.


angel 6 years ago

These ten things women love about men, is it necessary that they are all present in a boy, so that a girl will love him? what about if number 1 or 2 is missing?


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Hi, Angel. Thanks for reading. I should say that I've known really terrible guys in passing, but the majority of men in my life--the ones who have ever been close to me, have always been good to me. I'm coming from a very un-jaded place. Even so, I wrote this from a combination of experiences, and traits that I liked--all in fun. It isn't that one person shined in all these ways for me. I'm a fair person, and I don't think it's fair for anyone to walk into a relationship with another faulty human being with a mandatory list of any kind. There's not much time to love the people whom we love, and we should all be at loving them urgently. No lists! I just wrote this appreciating some things I know women love about men.


newman 6 years ago

You would make any man happy and proud. I had a 35 year marriage to someone I could never please. Now I have met someone who loves me and gives me her support. I feel like I'm 20 years old again and can take on the world. When you find the man described above please love and support him and you will find his love and support returned many times over.


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cupid51 6 years ago from INDIA

Well-researched hub! Very useful, thanks for sharing!


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Newman, OMG! Thirty-five years??? You deserve a trophy, no way could I hang in there that long. I wouldn't be with a man unless I knew I could support him--total waste of time for both of us. You sound happy! Love does wonders for people. Congrats on finding what you want and thank you very much!

Cupid--well researched?? Hmmm...I guess that's a way to put it. Enjoyable research. Thanks for reading!!


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Oona Seckar 6 years ago

Your thoughts are beautiful. I love 2 and 5 especially.

Good guys, you may sometimes hear women you like dissing men, but don't assume they don't know good men exist. They may just have had one bad experience too many. And if you're a good guy, never apologise for yourself as a representative of your sex: no good woman will expect you to.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Oona, thanks for your comment, and for reading!


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SHERICIA 6 years ago from Columbus, Oh.

WELL TEN THINGS I LOVE ABOUT A REAL MAN; THAT HE EXCEPTS HIS WOMAN FOR WHO SHE IS AND HE DOESN'T TRY TO CHANGE HER AT ALL. A REAL MAN TRY TO BUILD ON WHAT THEY HAVE WITH THAT WOMAN AND DOESN'T PUT HER DOWN VERBALLY, MENTALLY NOR PHYSICALLY. HE GIUDES, PROVIDES AND PROTECTS THE WOMAN HE WITH. IN MY CASE WE BOTHE HAVE YOUNG ADULT CHILDREN AND HE GIVES ME ADVICE ON HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM. LET GO AND LET GOD TAKE CARE OF THEM. I AM 42 YEARS OLD AND I TRULY THINK I HAVE FOUND TRUE LOVE. LOVE WITHOUT A COST.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Shericia--I'm really happy for you! Tell him how happy he makes you, he'll appreciate it. Thanks for reading!


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PaperNotes 6 years ago

Very well said and explained. Men, although at times they are irritating, when they happen to do something such as those that you've mentioned you just want to hug and kiss them for it. Of course when us women are happy with what they have done, we tend to forget all their shortcomings..at least that's how I am with my hubby!


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Lol! I was brought up around way too many males to have any hope at all of being a normal woman, they do think unbelievably different from us. And their idea of communication will make you marvel nearly every day. I love them to death though. I've had this type of conversation so many times, "well...have you mentioned ANY of this to her? Because she doesn't think you care at all, and you're bugging the crap out of me with how much you DO care. Please open your big, god-given mouth and tell her before I go insane." Geez. The difference between men and women is such a great argument for Creationism. Thanks so much for reading!


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vrbmft 6 years ago from Yucaipa, California

In your writing, you present yourself as wonder-filled woman, so it is refreshing to know that there are wonderfilled women who have a minimum of ten things they love (love, not just like) about men, and obviously, you haven't stopped at ten!!

This is the first hub of yours that I have read. LIke your style, very conversational and easy to read.

For years, I thought the differences between men and women were overrated, but now I am believer. We're both or each from some place outside this universe, so to find ten things to love about each other is awesome!

I flip flop between a cynical love me as I am or forget it to taking "things" like your list to HEART, recognizing it is for my good as well and maybe a way to love myself a little more and thus making myself a little more lovable!


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Vrbmft--really, really interesting profile! And thank you. If I'm not a wonder-filled woman, I'd certainly like to be, as long as I can be a very flawed one. When I told a buddy of mine that I'd written this, he said he didn't think HE could come up with 10. I wonder when he'll read this. I think we all fluctuate between 'love it or leave it' and 'I can change!' In relationships we do both-compromise to make it work, and self preservation to make ourselves work. But men have been and are part of the best things about my life. I always give people the credit due. This is a beach day for me, but I really look forward to reading your work at home. Thanks for reading!


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evvy_09 6 years ago from Athens, AL

I completely agree with all your points. I love my mans strength, vulnerability, and passion. those are just some of the things that keeps me attracted to him.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

That's a truly wonderful combination of qualities, Evvy_09. Thanks for reading!!


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midnightbliss 6 years ago from Hermosa Beach

what i like most about men is the number 10 in your list, their occasional vulnerability. men is usually our provider, the one who takes care of us, the stronger one, but at times, i love to do those simple things for them.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Hi Midnightbliss, thanks for sharing. I guess both people in a relationship need to feel needed in some way. In a healthy match, both sides just want to see the other happy, and it seems that requires occasional deviation from the gender roles we've set in our heads. Provider instincts are what most women love, at the end of the day the money itself blurs into whatever you decide to use it for. I'm sure the man in your life appreciates the ways you're there for him. Thanks for reading!


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schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA

#'s 2 and 8 stood out to me the most (8-being his own man with religion, or morals, and etc) and (2 saying nice things about his woman.)

It's nice to see these points from someone with a "healthy" view of men!


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Thanks! I am very positive about men, but that's largely due to the type of men who've been in my life. From what I've seen and heard the women who are negative about men often have been great reason to be negative, I don't want to pretend that's not the case. It's just that men as a whole should not have to pay for, nor bear responsibility for their lesser counterparts.


mrirvinemassage 6 years ago

Nice post! Thank you for sharing.


Dchosen_01 6 years ago

Excellent tips. What more can I say? Please keep the good work. Instead of castigating the men, I think its best we learn from you the women what we should do and who we should be in order to have pleasant relationships.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Mrirvinemassage-massage???? Definitely going to check out your hubs, thanks for reading! Dchosen_1--I couldn't agree with you more ;-). Thanks a lot for reading, and the mail, and I'll definitely check out some of your work by tomorrow. Thanks!


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titan80fl 6 years ago

This is Awesome! Very helpful as well! :)


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Mamelody 6 years ago

its really good to read something positive about men for a change. If I had a man with all these qualities, I would have a perfect life. Nice one hun xx


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Titan80fl...wow! An entire blog devoted to how to treat women?? I'm definitely going to read that! Thanks for reading, welcome to hubpages!

Mamelody...It's curious that no matter how good your life is, when a good man is in it he seems to trump almost everything else. Freud would pat himself on the back for that little realization. :-). I recently finished "A Grief Observed" by C.S. Lewis, about his own musings on the death of his wife--it's heartbreaking, and magnificently so. It reminded me that everyone should experience that epic, nearly God-ordained sort of love at least once in their lives. Great read. I hope you find the sort of man that you're looking for, and love in that way that inspires real art. Thanks for reading!


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funnebone 6 years ago from Philadelphia Pa

"imperfection can be endearing" ...oh you'd love me!

Do you think you could slip "bald, fat or gonadally challenged" on your list just to help a boner out?


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Lol! Great. Another list to write. Well, I do know I love your articles! Thanks for reading, Funnebone!


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Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

Hi, the one thing that I love the most is a mans sense of humour, obviously all the above too, but if a man can make me laugh then marry me right now! lol when my marriage went haywire, I dated a lot, I used to have what I called weekend relationships! it isn't as bad as it sounds, we used to meet on the friday go out all weekend to visit places etc, but the one thing about it was that I love every mans different personalities, the good ones of course! I even prefer mens company than women, which is kind of ironic considering what happened to my marriage! lol but great hub, got me thinking and remembering, cheers nell


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Gosh you have such an interesting story to tell, Nell. I'll high-five you on the company of men thing. They tend to be straight-shooters, smart in ways that I'm not, and hilarious. But not having sisters, and growing up among mostly males, I treasure my relationships with women. I appreciate the sisterhood, and the way you reach a level of understanding and sensitivity with your girlfriends that most straight men can't get to. I usually can get a decent read on people, but I have been dangerously off before. I tend to see the good--to a fault sometimes. The guys in my life were better at getting me to see people for who they are, and not who I'd like them to be. Can't hate that. Have fun on your....weekends. ;-).


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Nell Rose 6 years ago from England

Hi, ha ha my weekends tend to be further and farther between these days! I am losing my mojo, better go and find it before I get so old I won't want too! lol


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titan80fl 6 years ago

Thank you. I hope you enjoyed it.... if you have read it already. :)


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

I had to take another look at your blog to remember what I'd read, but I liked, "And so we danced." I actually liked all three entries that I'd read, made me think. I've not asked a guy to dance before--don't have the guts. But I also don't usually turn them down to dance because I'd hate to be in their shoes. Funny how so much of dating and attraction turns so many of us into nervous middle-schoolers. But she asked you...she obviously saw something she liked. Women are usually very observant.


Twenty One Days 6 years ago

SJ, he will not make out with you for a dollar, stop asking. ha-ha. Just humoring.

7,8,9 def me.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

I know, right?? He's upping his rates on me, that slut! Wait...who are we talking about again? 7, 8, 9? Very cool. Thanks for reading!


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katiem2 6 years ago from I'm outta here

Oh I totally agree, I for one love all ten things you listed to love about men. I enjoyed reading and being afirmed. Rated up and all the rest as this qualifies. Peace :)


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Sweet, Katie! Thanks for the read.


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James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

I enjoyed this Hub very much. You put a fine list together. Thanks for the good read.


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warganet 6 years ago from Bandung

My dad got it all, Heheee. Nice read :D


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Awesome, James! Thanks for reading.

Warganet my dad ranks pretty darn high on the good guy scale also. Thanks for reading!


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maria23watson 6 years ago

Nice hub the things are really good and have to be practical in life.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Thanks, Maria! I'm a verrrrry practical person at heart. Thanks for reading!


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kpprobst 6 years ago from Columbus,. Georgia

I love your point about a man with a moral code who has enough self-respect not to take advantage of another. Thanks for a good article.

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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Ah yes. Certainly a step up from the say, 'hit it and quit it' paradigm. :-). Thanks for reading!


rmac187 6 years ago from peoria, il

OK, so I am new at this whole hub thing but i enjoyed yours so you get to be my first comment. It's good to see that I'm not crazy. See, where I come from unfortunately there is a whole "treat them like dirt they stick like mud" idea.I really miss the whole shivery thing. I wish I had something clever to say, but anyway well done. oh and what does (7,8,9 def me)mean?


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Hi Ryan, I'm taking a guess that you mean '7,8,9 def me' is from James' comment?? I assumed he meant that the numbers 7, 8, 9 on this list of 10 applied to him. And how cool I get your first comment. Awesome! Welocome to hubpages!

--SJ


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Relationshipc 6 years ago from Alberta, Canada

Great hub! Number 2 is one of my favorites - especially when he does it in front of my mother because she always tends to agree with him which takes away some of her - well, criticism. I love that he can do that!


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Nice! Very cool that he does that. Thanks for reading, Relationshipc.

-SJ


rmac187 6 years ago from peoria, il

lol got it as soon as i sent it. and thanks


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

No worries. Sounds like something I would do. :-).


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jonathanshaw 6 years ago from Watford, Hertfordshire, Great Britian

Thank you. i would like to say more, but im short of quotes and there are lots of comments anyway, so this has been a good reminder, and i hope it helps me stick to a good relationship.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Thanks for reading, and I appreciate the comment, no quotes necessary ;-). Oddly, I met a Johnathan at my house last night--huge turkey dinner and I tend to take strays--I thought this was from him because I didn't get catch his last name. Also I couldn't figure out how he'd know that I write here, I guessed one of my friends. Either way, its really great to hear that you're proactive in working on your relationship. That's awesome! Thx for reading.

--SJ


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AutumnLockwood 6 years ago from Northern California

I love the 10th item on your list.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Sweet, me too. I really like your name, btw! Thanks, for reading, Autumn.


KLeichester 6 years ago

Very nice. Interesting and I like it. Thanks.


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Thanks for reading, Kleichester, and thanks for commenting.


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epigramman 6 years ago

..well a hub this awesome and so well written and perfectly funny in a truthful way deserves a standing ovation from the epigramman - you should be a columnist for Cosmopolitan magazine the parody issue - or if you want to write for the real deal - go ahead with that idea too - because you are on top of your game here girl and if there's ten things I love about you - it's:

your writing rules my world

your writing rules my world

your writing rules my world

your writing rules my world

your writing rules my world

your writing rules my world

your writing rules my world

your writing rules my world

your writing rules my world

your writing rules my world


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ahostagesituation 6 years ago Author

Haha! Thanks, epigramman. Among other things, I'm a nurse who has a new business to look after. If I add "columnist" to the list I'll have to write said column from a mental institution--a cute one, I'd insist on a cute one--but a mental institution just the same. And obviously, YOU are a character, I can't wait to read some of your work when I get back today!


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stricktlydating 5 years ago from Australia

I totally agree with these!


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ahostagesituation 5 years ago Author

Thanks for reading and commenting!


milkha 5 years ago

hi,

gr88888888!!!!!!!!!!


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ahostagesituation 5 years ago Author

Thank you for reading, milkha!


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KoffeeKlatch Gals 5 years ago from Sunny Florida

I really like #2 and #8. Great article, great job.


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ahostagesituation 5 years ago Author

Number 8 is my favorite, followed by 4--I tend to need this. In fact, one of my friends will be here in a bit to fix the hole I put in the garage wall. He asked me if it was a fist shaped hole, or a car-shaped hole, and I told him I want to surprise him. Number 2 is third for me, and thanks a lot for reading!


Megan  5 years ago

I agree. I've been with the same idiot for the last four years, even forgave him when he cheated. He's got only one of these, number one haha! I think he's cheating again. I'm a good woman, and he's a lying asshole! I should leave his stupid ass, stupid me, but I still love him, and we have a dauhter. He just ignores her to. This is good tho, ur a really good writer.


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ahostagesituation 5 years ago Author

Hi Megan, thanks for reading. I don't know, if a man is making zero effort, a girl really does have to take the hint at some point. No one's perfect, but douche bagery should always be kept to a minimum. I'm not in a position to tell you what to do, but you really *should* be happy. Sometimes having tunnel vision for something that isn't working can blind you from seeing anything better. There are plenty of really good men out there...there are even some wonderful ones. Whatever you decide, take care of your daughter, and yourself.


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Apostle Jack 5 years ago from Atlanta Ga

Very revealing.


Darren 5 years ago

I'm your whole list, and you are a cutie.


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ahostagesituation 5 years ago Author

Jack, is it? :-)

Darren, thank you.


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tony0724 5 years ago from san diego calif

It is amazing that I posess all of those qualities. I don't think I have much of a feminine side, but I have the potential to screw up daily ! :)


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ahostagesituation 5 years ago Author

LOL! Awww, Tony, something to look forward to everyday. To thy potential be true. Not to worry, most straight girls want the femininity from a man kept to a minimum...more like a cute secret, and less like a girlie punk. Thanks for reading!


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Sun-Girl 5 years ago from Nigeria

Nice hub,thanks


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ahostagesituation 5 years ago Author

Thanks for stopping by and reading, Sun-girl!


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PK2010 5 years ago from United Kingdom

Totally awesome hub. I love your use of descriptive language to bring home the message.

6 totally does it for me especially as it reminds me so much of my dad. He is a gynaecologist married to an awesome woman (my mum) and had four daughters including me. His whole world has revolved and continues to revolve around women. He always says women are blessed with an intuition which when used wisely yields amazing results. He holds my mum in high esteem and values her opinions greatly because she is a good woman.

Really loved reading your hub. Voted up.


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ahostagesituation 5 years ago Author

Thanks so much for reading, PK2010. Interesting I don't think many people pick 6 out of the list. In order for 6 to work, you have to be one of the women in the world living in a worthy-of-giving-advice way. No one has perfection to offer, but if you live like a fool, your opinion tends to be given about that much merit. Fools are completely capable of giving good advice at times, but human beings will always scrutinize the source, even if the advice itself is decent.

Your dad sounds like a wonderful human being, and so does your mom. I agree with him that women are inherently blessed with an intuition that usually alludes men, and that it can yield amazing results, I see it all the time. I have an awesome father as well who holds my mother in high esteem, and always has. She deserves it, and reciprocates.

Thanks also for the wonderful mail, I really appreciate it.


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PK2010 5 years ago from United Kingdom

You are most welcome :)


JadedLove 5 years ago

Lovely to say the least. I feel the depth of what I may one day want to know. I have many reasons I love my wife, so much more than ten. UP and pressing your buttons.


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ahostagesituation 5 years ago Author

Great comment, Jadedlove! And that's sweet about your wife. Thanks for reading!


netmech 5 years ago

Amazing how u use words.... nice to see a woman making positive comments about men..... keep it up. I appreciate ur writeup


Rohit 5 years ago

Thats so sweet.

Thank you hub :)


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ahostagesituation 5 years ago Author

Netmech, thank you for the read, and yes, you will usually find me making positive comments about men.

Rohit, Thank you very much.

Excuse the delay in response, I'm starting back to writing online, and thanks again for reading


jeanine 4 years ago

nice read...


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ahostagesituation 4 years ago Author

Thanks for reading, Jeanine.


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thesingernurse 4 years ago from Rizal, Philippines

I AGREE. This is a beautiful hub my dear! Voted up! :D


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ahostagesituation 4 years ago Author

I so appreciate the read! Thank you. I liked writing this!


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Seafarer Mama 4 years ago from New England

Lovely hub...and made me think of all the things I appreciate about my man...brought to even greater light now that we have a daughter, and it is a delight to watch them together. :0)

Voted UP...on all things. :0)


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ahostagesituation 4 years ago Author

Sorry for the delay on this Seafarer Mama, I am in Guatemala with touch and go (mostly go) internet access. A good man is SUCH a wonderful thing!! So happy you're blessed with a good one, and thanks so much for reading!


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sam209 4 years ago

Gotta share this on my fb page! Great hub!


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ahostagesituation 4 years ago Author

How great sam209! Thanks for stopping by to read this!


mina jafari 4 years ago

It was very beautiful. Really describe it was great and perfect. Enjoyed.Bravoooooooooooooo


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ahostagesituation 4 years ago Author

Thanks for reading and commenting!


dag 4 years ago

the funny things is all these things are really not exclusevely men traits....all women can have all of this ( oh all women probably have more of all of this than men ) the question is WHY WOMEN LOVE MEN??? thats i really dont understand


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ahostagesituation 4 years ago Author

Why do women love men? Because God made us weird like that. I guess some men are harder to love than others, and some you just shouldn't. Good men are great. That's just the way it is. :-) Thanks for reading!


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James-wolve 3 years ago from Morocco

Thanks for the advice.It is very helpful and informative.Here,I d like to add something,it may not be important if you live in USA or in a place where the public transportation makes owning a car unnecessary but in most of the world guys need a car to pick up their dates and take them out.Moreover,girls from my own experiences like to give them a call from work just to see how they are doing and when a guy gets some dessert out of the fridge ,he should ask if she'd like some or make sure he leaves some for her. Just basic consideration is so important to them


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ahostagesituation 3 years ago Author

That's sweet, James. I think you do usually need to have a car to pick her up. But let me tell you a secret, if you're a hardworker, a good woman will have patience with you if you don't have a car. I promise. She just needs to see you making an effort towards getting yourself together. I can't speak for other women, I can't really take a lot of calls when I'm at work, nature of my job, but yeah everyone appreciates thoughtfulness. Definitely. Thanks for stopping by!

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