Ten Cheap Ways: How To Treat And Surprise Your Girlfriend And Make Her Feel Special

Say it with flowers....
Say it with flowers....

Women are from venus..??

As men, we all like to do something special for our girlfriends/wives etc sometimes. That shiny look of appreciation and surprise on your lovers face can be intoxicating. Unfortunately, we are notoriously bad at it. For some reason nature has decided to allow male attitudes to love and romance to totally contrast female expectations. A large part of the problem men have is that we hate to spend money without what we perceive to be a good reason, whereas for many women, the thought that you have spared no expense on her latest present-of-no-practical-use-or-relevance is part of what makes them feel so special. All is not lost, however. It is possible to make her feel special and not spend ridiculous amounts of cash. So here are my top ten ideas for romance to give your partner that feeling that she is the most special person in the world, without making you more familiar with your bank manager than you are with your partner in the process:

1. Make it personal

Flowers are all very well, but if you get the wrong ones or you don't really pay attention to what you're ordering, you end up spending a large amount of cash on something she isn't all that fussed on. If you find out her favourite type of flowers, or even just favourite colours, then go out and pick them yourself, you will score huge brownie points and spend next to nothing. Failing that, most supermarkets and newsagents do flowers at a tenth of the cost of a flower shop, and you can deliver them yourself at an appropriately romantic moment. You can save a huge amount of money just by listening to her and finding out what she likes. It doesn't have to be for her birthday or some anniversary either. Women love to get surprises out of the blue, and for no reason.

2. A little goes a long way....

Regular, little surprises or thoughtful gifts can go a lot further than a huge gift that you blew your months wages on. A chocolate bar or her favourite magazine every few days costs pence but looks very thoughtful. Do one thing a day just for her, even if it's only making the tea! At a cost of a few pence each time this will not make you suddenly more aware of those ads with that woman off countdown trying to hock refinance at you.

3. It's the thought that counts

Try to do something to spoil her. Breakfast in bed is an oldie and a goodie. Score extra points by putting a flower you picked in a little vase on the tray. For those who would rather not get up at the crack of dawn to slave over a hot stove, you could always do an evening meal instead. Every woman likes a meal cooked for her, but go that bit further and put candles out. In my experience, the more the better. You can entirely cover an average sized room in candles and it will cost you less than two quid!

4. Al fresco...

Picnics are another oldie and a goodie. With this one, it's all about location. The last thing you want having just laid out your perfect spread, is farmer giles driving his tractor through it! Choose somewhere romantic and away from the crowd. The beach is always a good one if there's one near you, failing that, a secluded area of a public park can work. For extra brownie points try to time it so you can see the sunset. You can check the time and position of the sunset online here http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/astronomy.html?n=136. This is usually only good in the spring or summer, but can still work in winter, and with a bit more preparation, could even be better. If you have a car, just take her somewhere scenic where you can watch the sunset and bring a hot flask with you.

5. Be mysterious

If you already have the perfect plan for a romantic evening, don't just surprise her with it all in one go, build it up a bit. The best way is to leave notes (you can also do this by text if this is impractical) telling her to go to a place where you have something planned, without telling her why. If you're going out, you could tell her to go home first(best if she isn't already there), shower and get ready, then to meet you somewhere. This will build the suspense and excitement. Or you could tell her you're going to pick her up from work and don't say where you're going, let her find out when you get there.

Beautiful, romantic, FREE
Beautiful, romantic, FREE

6. Get physical...

Offer to pamper her with a massage or foot rub. This will work especially well if your partner is the professional, career driven type. The stress of a day at work will still be hanging on her when she gets home, and this can work in your favour. Meet her with a glass of wine when she gets in, then lead her to a room you have previously prepared. Have some calming, soft music already playing, and candles lit ready.

7. If you can't say it, write it

Leaving little notes or messages for her can be very romantic. Even just the simplest little ones can pull at a womans heartstrings. A good one is to write a simple "luv u" in the condensation on the mirror so she will see it when she showers. You don't have to be wordsworth, the fact that it comes from you will be enough. If you are of a literary bent, little poems left in her make-up bag, handbag or under the pillow will work wonders.

8. Be adventurous

Women like a man who is prepared to take a risk to be romantic. I'm not saying you have to leap through the bedroom window dressed in black (this is actually more likely to cause you injury either due to poor abseiling skill or your partner hitting you with the nearest blunt object when she mistakes you for a burgular, and there is nothing more embarrassing than having to be rescued by firemen, dangling upside down from the roof of the house), but you can still be a casanova without going on a special forces training course. Take her somewhere neither of you have ever been before, try out new hobbies together, or cook her something neither of you have ever had (try to avoid anything you know she wouldn't like though).

9. A man's work is never done

Take the load off her by doing her washing or doing a bit of ironing. Even if you only do this once it will score major brownie points, which you can then cash in when you turn up at 3 in the morning from the lock-in you promised you wouldn't go to. Careful with this one if your partner is the fussy type though, you won't score any points if you present her with her favourite top with an iron shaped hole in it!

10. The grand gesture

Grand gestures don't have to break the bank. If you really want to do something special for your girlfriend, there are so many cheap flight operators out there nowadays that you don't have to spend the earth. A weekend city break or getting away somewhere sunny can still be cost effective. The key here is planning. Book the flights and hotels separately. This will usually only take an hour or so and will save you a fortune. Check the operators and try to find a weekend where the flights and hotels are cheapest. The best thing about this is, it doesn't matter when you do it, so you're free to pick the cheapest ones. When choosing a hotel, choose one slightly outside the resort or city, that way you will get a much better price for a higher quality hotel, and it looks like you have picked it because it is more romantic. For transfers from the airport, go to the website of the airport you are arriving at, as you will usually find local public transport is much cheaper. Hotels in the UK often do deals for weekends in the off-season, and it doesn't matter if the weather is bad, that's what wine shops were made for.

So that's it then..

Of course most men would like to think they are a bit of a casanova. Hopefully by following these tips you will be able to go some way to making that a reality, without hiding your bank statements. Women love to be told or shown they are special, but it's far more often the thought behind it than the amount of cash you spend. A thoughtful gesture, relative to your personal relationship, goes a lot further than letting her use your credit card for the weekend. Feel free to add your own ideas in the comments section. You might also like to read my article on romantic things to say to your girlfriend here: http://xxtonybxx.hubpages.com/hub/Romantic-things-to-say-to-your-girlfriend. Thanks for reading!

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Pollyannalana 5 years ago from US

Man I love that foot rub, knocks me out cold!

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Apostle Jack 5 years ago from Atlanta Ga

Great hub.

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Leptirela 5 years ago from I don't know half the time

hahahaha This is EXCELLENT STUFF :)

tHANKS FOR SHARING.. I have a hub ...Love confident ...hahaha HOW TO MAKE A MAN CRAZY .... lol I think I may have to change a few things :)

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xxtonybxx 5 years ago from wales Author

Thanks everybody :)

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Danette Watt 5 years ago from Illinois

good pointers and welcome to hub pages! One thing I enjoy is getting cards for no reason. It means the person was thinking of me and chose just the right card. They can be relatively inexpensive, too.

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xxtonybxx 5 years ago from wales Author

That's a good one. I never thought of that. Edit.....

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xxtonybxx 5 years ago from wales Author

Ok I've sort of put in about doing any of this stuff for no reason. Thanks for the hint ;)

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ubanichijioke 5 years ago from Lagos

Great work putting together this interesting hub. I agree with all the tips especially the one that talks about helping out in the kitchen, the dishes etc. Great job

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xxtonybxx 5 years ago from wales Author

thanks :)

pussy mcgee 4 years ago

awesome your a lifesaver

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No problem :)

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Mary Stuart 4 years ago from Washington

The most special flowers I ever received were from that one great love. he got me! He cut pussy-willows from his property in the early, early spring. he tied the bouquet with a bright red ribbon and presented them to me with a kiss on the cheek. I totally melted. The kiss moved to the lips, btw. I can just hear the groans. Oh! I stillm elt when I think of sweet Rudy.

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Mario Cayena 4 years ago

I wanted to give my girlfriend a good present bu really I didn't want to expend to much money because it was for no special ocassion. My brother in law recommended a page (cancionespararegalar.com) where you can create a song with the letter and music style you like. It's great by now, will see.

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TToombs08 4 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

Some very good ideas for the upcoming Valentine's Day. :)

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xxtonybxx 4 years ago from wales Author

Thanks! :)

Stellar Phoenix 4 years ago

This website is incredible! You certainly know how to keep a reader involved. Between your wit and your pictures, I was almost moved to start my own blog (well, almost..haha) Wonderful job. I really loved what you had to say, and more than that, how you presented it. Too cool! Stellar Phoenix Review

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xxtonybxx 4 years ago from wales Author

Hi Stellar, thanks very much! You really should, the world always needs more writers :).

The big spoon 3 years ago

Great list of advise. Nothing better than making the one you love smile, isn't that what its all about? One thing i did which went down really well was a treasure hunt around the house, it only lead to a small present but it was the effort she knew i went to that made her happiest. The clues were all rhymes, such as 'put your head on me and take a rest, everyone knows my cool side is the best' under the pillow of course :) i did about 10 clues, took bloody ages to think of them all haha. But she's my little spoon, totally worth it. Well done again on the list

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xxtonybxx 3 years ago from wales Author

Thanks, yeah I think the main thing is to make it personal to your partner.

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helpavisitor 3 years ago from Germany

Many thanks for this article. Just that it makes me remember something that happened to me in 2008. My friend was celebrating her birthday and i thought I was doing something good to surprise my friend by coming to the party with a bunch of beautiful flower. What did my friend do with it? My friend forgot to pack it with other gifts. I picked it up and reminded my friend that the flower had been forgotten. "I am not going to eat flower next time come with envelopes like other people." My friend told me. I reluctantly took my flower with me.

Thank God i find a new friend that appreciate the lovely messages of beautiful flowers.

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xxtonybxx 3 years ago from wales Author

Thanks for your comment :). You're right, it's the little things that count.

duh! 3 years ago

I believe that doing these things doesn't make you a great catch; rather, not doing things on a regular basis makes you a jerk. I mean what husband doesn't cook for his wife, or get her flowers every week, even just picking wild flowers, or give her a massage every night, our being her breakfast in bed on the weekends, or doing the cleaning when you get home, or randomly drive her out to a picnic or anything else she loves doing? If I stopped doing these things for like a week I wouldn't blame my wife if she wanted to leave me

Mary Stuart 3 years ago

i dont have who love me i want a love

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xxtonybxx 3 years ago from wales Author

Then open yourself up to people and show them who you are. You will surely find someone who appreciates you for who you are.

romanticsky 2 years ago

I think this post make a very useful summary of the best things to do to your woman, to make her feels very important and in a true romantic relationship. I just want to add a very simple advice to give her a little but beautiful surprise: prepare a romantic card with her name (or simply a romantic quote) written in the stars, there is a free website that offers this opportunity, check it out at http://www.romanticsky.net

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xxtonybxx 2 years ago from wales Author

Thank you for your comment :).

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onekleverG 2 years ago

Thanks for this useful advice, me & my girlfriend of 6 yrs have been fighting lately & it's mainly because of financial issues.. but she doesn't understand or can't seem to accept it that I just can't take her out to the bar & buy her drinks to have a "Good time" I really dislike bars.. & I know she's not all into them either but just because she turned 21..

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xxtonybxx 2 years ago from wales Author

Hope the above tips have helped!

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PMARTIN 2 years ago

Good tips....I just wonder how long her appreciation lasts before she is back to the "what have you done for me lately" whine.

Brycehane 16 months ago

Good spelling. Favorite, colors, favor.

khen estoquia 6 months ago

this is good I can do this for francis rose esterado

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xxtonybxx 6 months ago from wales Author

Hi Brycehane, I'm British, so these spellings are correct for us. The American English dictionary deviated from the original spellings (which inluded the "u") in the late 19th century in order to distinguish American English from British English.

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