Thank you, Thank You, Thank You, Why Say Thank You

Thank you

Thank you! One of the most underused phrases of today.

First I'd like to Thank You, for taking time to read and comment on my hubs.

Thank you, at one time was as common as breathing. Somewhere along the way it has become less important, or even in some cases fallen entirely by the wayside altogether. When I was young we would be chastised for not saying thank you, for even the smallest action on our behalf. My husband, and I in turn religiously taught our children to always say thank you. A funny experience of how well the lesson was entrenched. Once our then 3 year old son let out a loud belch at the table, my husband, and I said in unison, "what do you say?" He looked up, and said, so innocently, "thank you." As we started to laugh, he said, "what." We then realized we needed to go further than the "thank you" lessons.

What happened

As I contemplate what has happened to common courtesy, my thoughts centers on this generation's sense of entitlement. By that I mean, somewhere along the way, we've begun to think we're entitled to everything that comes our way. The generation who worked for, and earned everything they received seems to have taken a backseat to the generation who gets everything they want without paying any of the required dues. It appears the self same generation that worked hard to get what they deserved, didn't see the necessity of having their prodigy put in the same time, earning what they received. As a result, thanklessness, instead of thankfulness, has become the order of the day.


Occasions For Thank You

  • I just finished the hub, Show Someone That You Care, which listed some occasions to show someone that you care. However, saying thank you goes beyond that. You see, you don't necessarily have to care for the person you say thank you to. For instance, a big pet peeve of mine is drivers who don't give you the "thank you" wave, or nod when you let them merge ahead of you. It goes back to the sense of entitlement, they seem to think they are entitled to that section of the road, even if you were there first. If you're that person, how many cars did you have to wait on until you were let in? You just know some of them saw you, and kept right on driving. Then, along comes Mr. Nice Guy, and lets you in, what do you do? Go on give him that "thank you" wave or nod, what will it hurt.
  • How about on the home front, husbands and wives seem to think whatever is done is what's supposed to be done. Say, for instance, whomever is taking the lead in working to support the family, if it's not a joint effort, even if it is their responsibility, what's wrong with saying thank you. Think of all the good-for-nothing household heads that aren't doing it. Of course, there are circumstances in which lack of support cannot be helped, but this situation relates to when it can be helped. Then, the stay at home spouse, what about a good hot meal prepared on your behalf, a clean house, clothes etc. Not to belabor this point, if you're fortunate enough to have someone in your life who cares, why not just say thank you.
  • The Super Market checker, you don't have to care about her/him, after all you probably don't see the same one on every visit to the market, or even go to the same market for that matter. What's wrong with just saying thank you after she's finished with your order.
  • Oh, and one of my all time favorites, you hold the door or elevator for someone, and they walk right in, and never say a word. Couldn't you just say thank you, once you got in. Haven't you been on the receiving end when someone walked in and let the door close in your face, or the person in the elevator pushed the close button vigorously so as to close the door before you got there? Okay then, think of those instances the next time someone is nice enough to hold the door for you.
  • What about the bus, or taxi driver. I take public transportation occasionally, and I've actually seen bus drivers pass riders up. Don't get me started on the taxi drivers, some times I declare they can put on blinders as soon as they see you. So, when they do stop, and pick you up, say thank you. I know it is the bus drivers job, but think about this, they get paid whether they pick you up or not, (I'm just saying). Now the taxi drivers, I don't know what to say about them, ah just say thank you when you are picked up.
  • When eating out, that hardworking server, say thank you, or else. LOL!
  • Of course, there are ever so many more occasions to say, Thank You, however I'll just let you insert them here.


Why Say Thank You

So, why should we say thank you?

Say thank you, because you are not always entitled. Just say thank you, because they didn't owe you. Just say thank you, because someone was kind to you. Just say thank you, because someone helped you. Just say thank you, because someone gave of themselves. Just say thank, you when someone was there when you needed them. Just say.............. THANK YOU!

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Feline Prophet 6 years ago from India

I agree with you fastfeta! I'm a chronic thank you-sayer, and I'm often surprised at the reactions it evokes. So many people look shocked that someone is actually thanking them for something they've done!


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RevLady 6 years ago from Lantana, Florida

THANK YOU FF for this hub reminding us of the value to simply showing appreciation and saying thank you.

Love and peace,

Forever His,


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2uesday 6 years ago from - on the web, I am 2uesday.

I agree with this Fastfreta, I feel like thank you is programmed into me so it is automatic, but not eveyone sees the need to thank people.

The change in attitude seems to go across the generations here, but not everyone is bad mannered. I have seen a great change in recent years over politeness.

The thing that annoys me most is when someone walks into me, it is their fault but automatically I apologise as I say sorry they 'Huff' and walk off as if it was my fault for exsisting. Thanks for giving me the chance to 'vent' that. I like your topics fastfreta and the way you write them.


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prasetio30 6 years ago from malang-indonesia

I want also say thank you for bring the beautiful hub for us. I am very impressed with this hub. This is related with manner and culture. When we usually doing this every day. It good for social life. Maybe this culture a slightly disappeared. But as a younger generation we have to keep it up well. Thanks for showing me the great attitude. Thanks

prasetio


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Missi Darnell 6 years ago from Southern California

Wonderful hub! It's about being grateful for the small things. I try to teach my five children, as I was taught to mind your manners, yet it is much more than that when it comes to thank you's, it's about being grateful for small kindnesses. Love your paragraph on the generations, agreed! THANK YOU for sharing!


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samboiam 6 years ago from Texas

fastfreta, thank you for these hubs. They are truly thought provoking. You are an amazing lady.


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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

You are definitely right, this is something that has been lost and I wouldn't want to be in the place of the younger generation when they'll be the older one. Anyway, probably my mother taught me too much but I can't resist to say almost always thank you, and even if sometimes it falls nowhere the smile on the face of people not used to receive a thank you is priceless. Beautiful hub, rated and stumbled. :)


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! You are so right fastfreta. Saying thank you is becoming as extinct as the dinosaurs. Much like yourself, I teach my girls faithfully to say thank you., whether it's verbally, or handwritten. This is such a great reminder to us as adults as well. Since our kids usuall emulate us, then it starts with us setting the right example. Thank you again.


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Sage Williams 6 years ago

I am with you all the way on this one. Thank you goes a long way. And it is very much a turn off when you go out of your way to help someone and they say nothing in return.

Living with gratitude is a much more pleasant way of life. I would rather thank everyone for the simplest of gestures than to not recognize at all.

A really terrific hub, a gentle reminder,

Sage


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

WOW! Where do I start, you're all so kind to stop like this, and I do appreciate it. There's so many places you could have been, but you stopped here and I do thank you for that. All of your comments gave validation to this hub. Rather than rewrite this hub by thanking all nine of you individually, suffice it to say I am in total agreement with all of you.

Sage, Veronica, hyponodude, samboiam, Missi Darnell, prastio30, 2uesday, RevLady, and feline prophet, thanks again for taking your time and weighing in on this hub. Please visit me again.


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BkCreative 6 years ago from Brooklyn, New York City

You're very welcome fastfreta - and of course I owe you many thanks for your marvelous interview - what great feedback I am getting!

Thank you and Kamsahamneeda (kahm-sa-hohm-nee-dah)- thank you in hangul/Korean!


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks Bk, I'm glad to hear that, I too got feedback from my interview and yours. You were a good subject to interview. I can't wait to see who you interviewed. Thank you for the mini Korean lesson.


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Pamela99 6 years ago from United States

Thank you for writing such special hub. Courtesy is very important.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

Thank you fastfreta, I always make it a point to say thank you, that's just the way I was raised. Thank you for sharing with us. Godspeed. creativeone59


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thank you Pamela99 and creativeone59 for stopping by and taking the time to read and comment on this hub.


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

I agree with you that it vanished a lot and yet it would make the world a better place.


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hypnodude 6 years ago from Italy

I'll visit you again for sure. I love your hubs. :)


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blondepoet 6 years ago from australia

You are a beautiful soul fastfreta through and through :)


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De Greek 6 years ago from UK

How can I not say Thank You :-))


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Green Lotus 6 years ago from Atlanta, GA

Lovely fastfreta! I remember that phrase "what do you say?"! We heard it a lot from our parents when we were little! I think we finally got it. It's also funny, when we first moved south we all noticed how much more we heard the word "thank you". I guess there is really is something to say for "Southern hospitality. Still I think you've made an important point. Learning to be polite and grateful starts early. Oh...Thank You!!


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shazwellyn 6 years ago from Great Britain

Well, I just want to thank you for being you and making the world a nicer place x


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daisyjae 6 years ago from Canada

Thank you for this hub! We teach our children manners but it seems some people forget as we get older.


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chinweike 6 years ago from Glasgow, UK

Your 3 year old boy reminded me of what happened to me when i was much younger. yes, i agree with you lessons needs to be taken further in order to make the right impact on children.

The importance of thank you cannot be over-emphasized in our society. Thank you and sorry to me are two principal ingredients to smooth co-existence.

THANK YOU for sharing

cheers!


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

I'd like to begin by thanking all 8 of you for stopping and reading this hub and I'm glad that you all enjoyed it. I also appreciate that you took the time to comment.

So again, thank you, chinweike, daisyjae, shazwellyn, Green Lotus, De Greek, blondepoet, hypnodude, and Hello, hello, for stopping, see you soon.


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ladylux 6 years ago

Thank you, Fastfreta. I actually lost a friend about 10 years ago because she thought I said "thank you" too much to people especially people she considered lower than herself like gas station attendants. But to me gratitude is contagious for most people making us all want to be better, kinder to one another. So why not?


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lorlie6 6 years ago from Bishop, Ca

You are one to be thanked for this Hub, Fastfreta. I truly believe that you are right about the sense of entitlement that this generation seems to possess.

I was born into a family where/when 'thank you' was a crucial part of social interaction. Later, when my son was growing up, I made certain to thank him when he performed chores to my satisfaction.

It's a matter of human kindness.

Thank you again,

Laurel


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

ladylux and lorlie, thank you both for stopping and validating the statements in this hub. I so agree with what you both said. I can truly say thank you to all who take time to read my hubs. When you comment it encourages me to continue to offer "my thoughts," about the state of affairs of this world today. Please come again.


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nadiaazhar 6 years ago from kuwait

Thanks FF for such a nice hub,i really like the subjects you write about,to me showing gratitude is very important,kind words can make a difference and can make some one feel good,aleast i feel happy when some one thank me and i believe in treating people the way i want to be treated.

Best Regards,Nadia


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Shil1978 6 years ago

A much needed hub because we always forget to say it on occasions and yet it means so much to the other person, when you say it. So, thanks for reminding us of the importance of saying Thank you, and oh yes, Thank You so very much for this hub :)


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thank you Nadia for your kind encouragement and thank you for taking the time to comment. I'll see you soon.

Thank you Shil1978 for stopping and thank you also for your encouragement and your kind comments. See you soon too.


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Winsome 6 years ago from Southern California by way of Texas

Wonderful hub FF. My wife is from the deep south where hospitality and graciousness still flourishes. She was going into a WalMart in Atlanta and got a shopping cart. The kindly old gentleman retrieving them said to her "Those sandals are hot!" My wife loves shoes and was wearing some glitzy ones but was surprised by the comment. "Excuse me?" she said. He repeated: "Be careful, those handles are hot." Of course she said "Thank you."


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Ann Nonymous 6 years ago from Virginia

Awww, what a sweet and necessary hub, freta! Thank you for being on HP! Thank you for this hub! Now I must go say thank you to some other people!


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Winsome, what a cute story, it took a minute, but I finally got it.

Thank you Ann Nonymous, you're sweet.

Thank you both for stopping and taking the time to read and comment. Please come back again.


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lender3212000 6 years ago from Beverly Hills, CA

I couldn't agree more! Thanks for the reminder and a great hub as well.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thank you lender3212000, for taking time to read this hub. Please come back.


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pmccray 6 years ago from Utah

Oh Lady fastfreta: you are soooo right. your statement: "without paying any of the required dues" this is exactly why I despise "American Idol". the reason most of the winners never make it after the show is because they've not paid the dues necessary to learn ones craft.

This is the perfect example of folks feeling entitled when they have not earned anything.

I can't stand people that don't acknowledge letting them into traffic either and I could not place my finger on the proper word its "entitlement". This was a fantastic hub.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

You know pmccray I never thought about the American Idol contestants, but you know you're right. Are you my sister, LOL, we think so much alike? Thanks again, please come back.


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adrienne2 6 years ago from Atlanta

What you have said here is so true! I believe everyone should read this hub, especially the young people of this generation. There is a real message in what you have written here. I agree as well with Pmccray about the American Idol. Young people today want things handed to them. They do not understand commitment to hard.

Thank you for writing this hub!


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thank you adrienne2 for the wonderful comment. Thanks also for stopping. See you soon.


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Petra Vlah 6 years ago from Los Angeles

It is sad to see that as the sense of entitlement enter the picture of our society, gratitude and simple “Thank You” went out the door and got lost in the darkness of arrogance.


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Hey I like this, “Thank You” went out the door and got lost in the darkness of arrogance. I wish I had said it. Thanks Petra for leaving that very sage saying. Come again soon, please.


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tonymac04 6 years ago from South Africa

This is so true! Thanks to another person is so uplifting and growthful, both for the person being thanked and for the person thanking! Helps to build bonds of humanity and break down barriers of unawareness.

Thanks so much for writing this.

I'm going to link this to my Hub on Kindness. I hope you don't mind! Thank you!

Love and peace

Tony


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California Author

Thanks to you tonymac for validating my hub. And by all means please link it, and thanks for doing that. Hope to see you again soon.

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