The Advantages of a Long Distance Relationship

If you're in a long distance relationship like I am, you are only well too aware that there are many disadvantages about this kind of setup. For one thing, physical affection is limited only to when the two of you are together which might not be very often. Also, it's easy to fall into the jealousy trap because when you don't regularly see your significant other, it's easy to start assuming that he or she is up to no good.

The list of negatives could go on and on here but let's instead explore the advantages of a long distance relationship. Sometimes we just need to look on the bright side of things.


Improved Conversation

Is this really possible when you're not actually in the same room as your mate? While communication without eye contact and without body language is certainly different and arguably much more challenging (uh oh, another negative!), it has its advantages.

If the two of you are in a long distance relationship and only communicating by phone or through email, it forces you to really talk to one another because let's face it, what else is there to do? In person, it's all too easy to start taking each other for granted as far as conversation goes - for example, to plop in front of the TV after work and barely say a word to each other all evening. Ironically enough, couples who are in a long distance relationship might actually end up communicating more than couples who aren't.

Maintain Independence

While in a long distance relationship, you're probably going to have to exercise more independence than your friends do who are with their significant others in person. This is not a bad thing! While independence in an "in person relationship" is possible, it's much easier in one that's long distance.

For one thing, you probably get to spend more time with friends and family. Also, if you're living alone, you'll get to decide whether you want to clean up on any particular day or not (I love this one). If you want to rearrange the furniture, it's up to you! Want to blast the music at 3am? No problem! These are just some examples.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder

It's true what they say. When you're lying in bed at night and missing your love, you feel like you would give anything just to be with him or her. It's funny how during these moments you can't seem to recall any of their lesser desirable qualities - right now, he or she is just perfect. It is for this reason that in absence, your heart really does grow fonder. 

Together is that much sweeter

When you finally get to see your partner again, it feels like heaven and you want to take advantage of every split second you have together. Couples who truly get to see each other every day - although it's nice, I'm sure - are at risk of taking each other for granted. They are just simply not going to be as excited to see each other after a day at work as long distance couples are who haven't seen each other in months.

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adair_francesca 5 years ago

Long distance relationships have a wide range of advantages on both sides but there are also some disadvantages. I believe it will only last depending on the people involve and how they can handle their situation well.


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charm_baker 5 years ago from Los Angeles, California

I totally agree with your perspective! I think it is only at risk like most people might imagine, if both individuals don't have another serious commitment or focal point. For example, if BOTH are pursuing higher education or careers or whatever creates the need for the distance, they both have other diversion (and not time for cheating :-) If not, someone is going to be in a "holding pattern" and possibly get tired of "waiting". Either way, it still boils down to the individuals, the circumstances and the "depths" of their love! GOOD LUCK


Evangeline P. Yap 5 years ago

i have a long distance relationship.. so far so good.. really.. am too happy and excited when am with him on line .. i would love talking to him.. telling him how much i care for him.. love him.. long to be with him.. i always give my trust .. cuz i believe that relationship would last if both the lovers trust each other....


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Babblelot 5 years ago from Chicago

I've never been in a long distance relationship, but in the past several years, I've come to believe that it might best suit me. After all, I can't say being around has done wonders for my failed relationships :) I really think that "together is much sweeter" would be the case, and I'm not surprised to learn that. The downside for me, however, would be the phone issue. More phone time would drive me nuts. On the other hand, email works for me.


Raquel Raymundo 5 years ago

I have been relationship for 3 years.at the first for me long distance is not a matter as long as u love each other,only da phone is our intrument to keep our relationship strong!if there is a time we’ve miss each other,we could talked on phone then he play da guitar and started to sing jst 4 me:(but sad to say it was all gone:(


catalya 4 years ago

Ive been 6 months in a long distance relationship...we spent 8 months together before he left and i knew him for like 4 years before we got together...we were casual friends...Im happy that i am with him...he is handsome, smart, caring, patient...but the problem is that im 23 and he is 24...i see him once every two to three months...i cant visit him since my parents are not very open minded about that and they never met him...but some weird things happened the last time i saw him...i opened the "future" subject and i wanted to know where we're going with this relationship and where my place is in this relationship to his eyes...he got scared and told me he never wants to get married and he doesnt want to hurt me...then he called before his flight saying he was sorry he didnt know what he was talking about and he wants to be with me...and then we agreed on the concept that in the future we might continue together and get more serious than now or not (like any relationship)...the second weird thing that happened is that 2 weeks ago he told me he is coming in december for 1 to two weeks...and now he is telling me that his parents might travel for xmas so he is gonna have to meet them abroad so he might no able to see me...i told him i cant handle not seeing you for 3 months what kind of relationship would that be?! then he changed his mind and told me that if his parents are travelling he is going to come and visit me for few days then continue with them...can i know why is this happening??why does he have this switch thing in his personality??


Alex 4 years ago

Dear catalya,

this is just my thought about him

to have reacted like that when you brought up the topic about the "future", simply means that he never thought of taking the relationship to that extent. Usually the first natural reaction reflects his heart. Thinking it again and telling you the opposite shows that he still needs you for now and perhaps not forever. No matter how you think of it, if someone really loved his/her partner, the reaction would certainly be favorable even if there were other concerns.

For the second issur you thought it was weird, it is possible that it is true because my own parents are always indecisif and change their minds pretty often, however connecting the first weird incident with this one, there is still that other possibility that he's not telling you exactly whats going on in his life. That there might be someone else.

Becareful and have trust.


Vanessa 4 years ago

Distance is only a test. I would go anywhere to find that wonderful someone.

Cheers to everyone. : )

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