The Art Of Saying, "I Love You" From A to Z on Valentine's Day
It's February and love is in the air! History points us to the immortal stories of St. Valentine. Social networking sites like the HubPages are in hot trail toward making people know how they plan to celebrate Valentine's Day with their love ones in many special ways.
How does one say "I Love You" on this special occasion? Maybe a good husband takes his wife on a romantic date somewhere alone by themselves. Or some loving parents celebrate it with their young kids at home or outside in a famous eatery. Romantic pairs may find themselves in a secluded place to relive their love for each other. Friends may enjoy their friends' company partying- singing, dancing, eating, etc.
I'm offering here some practical ways to say "I Love You " from A to Z to your partner, whether you are blissfully wedded, or are still on the process of courtship. They aren't just the fleeting expressions of love. They can't just be said or done in passing. They are done with art., orally, and through actions. If you can relate to each idea with success, everyday of your life will be a Valentine's Day, full of the meaning of love. Who can exactly define love, anyway? Surely it's people who experience joy and peace- loving and being loved.
Let's start, guys! There's no chronological order here. Do only as necessary for the welfare of both.
A - Accept
When you love someone, isn't it that you love him for what he is? You find him for the first time to fit your dreams. His ways may not conform with the others, like your family and circle of friends, but still you accept all of him. You aren't bothered by their negativity towards him because you are love-struck, starry-eyed with a big heart to accommodate his potentials as well as his limitations.That's a good start, acceptance from the heart will lead you to the right perspective. And most importantly, the feeling is mutual and you're both happy. See? Acceptance is an art.
You believe that he is your man and you are meant for each other. Then be ready to make your relationship work. Give your best shot through thick and thin. You strongly believe in each other's capability to make the other happy. Always believe in what both of you can do for each other. Believing must be coupled with action. This artful way of saying that you love each other must not only be in the mind.
Target the areas of possible adjustments, never forgetting to be flexible. Both must be aware of this. Concentrate on each other. Nobody must come between you except God the Father. Prevent distractions. You'll discover many pleasurable experiences while you make adjustments. One such discovery would likely be that you begin to respect each other and appreciate each others efforts as you exchange notes about this and that to make your times together enjoyable and full of "I Love You's".
Dreams are for free and without limits. Dreams are meant to be good. Grab this opportunity but always be smart because not all dreams will come true. Allow space for having your feet on the ground so that when your high hopes and wishes don't happen, they don't hurt you. Dream together, anyway. It's an art!
Evaluate your priorities for growth. You must know that you and your love one are two unique people with different personalities. Evaluate each other's character. Don't take it against him when somehow, sometime, you find peculiarities in him that you didn't know was there the first time you met. Your target is to make your relationship work despite these odds. Evaluation is a never-ending art when you are in love.
The love between you, two, must be nurtured. It must flourish on the good you gain. Never harp on the bad past, because there's no such, but what is there are the trials that you haggled with together that make you stronger. Let love shine and conquer all the challenges.
Yes, grow in love daily. Have a chart of this growth. Your focus is on a God-centered relationship. True love doesn't hurt, it doesn't count your backsteps, it uses these as steps of the ladder to your true happiness. Let God be a friend who is only a prayer away when things go wrong.
There can be no true love that doesn't experience pain. Be ready for this eventuality. When there comes pain in your relationship, be the first to find ways to treat it and fast. Don't let a day pass without properly addressing your problems. These problems are real, not just perceived and without bases and to ignore them is dangerous to your relationship. Healing is a slow process, so smart lovers avoid as much as possible the pains.
Master the art of discovery of new avenues for growth. Don't be trusting in your gains. The longer you do, the faster they dissipate. You don't want to wake up one day that you have stagnated. Rediscover, reinvent ways you feel have lost their magic on each other for the good of both. This art offers plenty of areas to make your partner feel he is important because he sees your untiring concern to make your relationship shine in many healthy ways.
Whether he is happy or sad, feel with him, commiserate with him and ease his burden. His shoes are big enough to fit both your feet when the sailing is rocky, the journey tough and bumpy. Join him in his failure and success. Help him work out his burdens. There's no problem too big to solve when there are the two of you to face them. Isn't this better than just saying, "I Love You"?
Know the art of making love, not just on the carnal side of it. Most importantly, establish reciprocal love, one that admires, supports, respects and endures. Know the line between passion and lust. You will be on the right track for happiness, both body and soul.
Never underestimate the value of laughter. It keeps the body and mind healthy. It inspires you to live with a happy disposition, one that will propel your relationship on a lighter way, not giving undue pressures to your loving heart. Laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and cry alone.
Don't just stand and wait for your partner to do things for both of you. Motivate yourself to think, and work out what you think. Your efforts must combine because the strength of two is better than one. His contribution in the process must be viewed by its merits. The demerits that you may find, as it is always a possibility, can be worked out later after careful analysis.
At the first sign of threats to your relationship, either caused by one or the other, or worse if by a third party, nip it in the bud. And no trace of the ugly worm must spoil your toils. There's no reason for any of you to dwell on negatives. They have no place in a situation that is continually nurtured for growth. This is an art that comes naturally for two people trusting and loving each other with unconditional love. I won't say try it, but guys, it's a challenge and you can do it.
Obstacles don't just happen, they have their causes. There's no fire where there's no smoke, so they say. Overcome right away as early as possible any event that shows smoke and you'll be saved from a smoldering fire. Imagine this situation of a raging fire and you'll surely believe in the importance of overcoming problems in the relationship.
Pray, and pray you always must. But don't pray for miracles, they won't happen. A God-centered relationship will be safe from harm. Talk to God not only when you need help. Talk to Him to appraise Him of your good works for this relationship. Ask for guidance that He'll lead you to your dreams. Then dreams almost always happen. Good luck!
We drink water to quench our thirst. Water is life. Love is life. When was the last time you felt you were thirsting for his love? Did you work it out to drink love's flowing water, or you just let it pass you by? Think about this point in your relationship, and think hard and fast. Your own longing must be making a toll in your relationship. Be true to yourself. Tell your partner you need the most important thing in this relationship- you need love. And there's plenty of this when you claim for it honestly. Come on, don't be shy. You don't want to end up like a dry land, a desert of longings, do you?
There's love where there's respect, or whichever comes first. These two are inseparable. But respect doesn't manifest by itself, it is to be worked out from the start. This art is simple- treat each other like a fragile vase where you plan to put all your life's investments. You can do this by handling this vase with great care- and with respect.
Secure all your investments in your relationship for the best interest of not just one, but for both.Be wise never to brag around that your good relationship is due to your own efforts. Like a treasure, both partners must guard against any who will attempt to take that treasure away from them.
Trust in the Lord that He'll always hold you up. Trust each other as well that nothing wrong can happen because both of you are working hard to keep your relationship better and better each day. When evil thoughts do come, don't entertain. Your trust for each other will surely vanish the evil. God will always be at your side. Trust me!
Anything in excess is sure to come your way. In love, passion may result to lust. A little dishonesty may result to big lies. Negative sentiments may end up in undesired anger. And prolonged anger- to destructive depression. Unplug- before these negatives burn you out. Refrain from issues that will threaten your relationships. Unplug to save you from the electrifying aftermath of negative thoughts or acts.
Cast your precious vote on every issue. Do it with care as there's only the two of you to decide and the issue will always have 2 sides- agree or disagree. Beware of employing a third party. I believe that when you arrive at the level of seeking help from outside, the issue must have come to a point of no control. Always, another party will only cause more trouble. The issue ends up muddled more than solved. It's only the 2 of you who have access to the demerits of an issue. Make intelligent decisions by yourselves.
Time element is important. When you set your eyes on your dream partner, don't rush- wait. There are a lot of things to consider first before you exchange "I Do's". As you go along, there are volumes and volumes of events that require you to wait before you act on them. Wait for your turn, may be a good reminder when you find dissenting issues. There's art in just waiting for issues to calm down.
When two people decide to be together, live together for life, they have forged an original relationship, all their own, not a xerox copy of their parents', nor of any of their couple friends., no matter how good those relationships are. Any attempt to copy is unhealthy. It puts pressure on your relationship that you are building together. But you have a lifetime to xerox your good works for others to consider- to emulate. Keep those xerox of your life, because they are the best things that you had done.
Imagine yourself motoring and you reach a bend in a busy road. You read this sign- Yield. The sign tells you to give way when you find a traffic jam that will hinder you to go on driving. If you ignore the sign and anything happens, who is to blame but you? In a relationship, there are such bends we must be alert of. Don't insist when you come upon a bend, yield. Yield because it 's safer than to insist upon your will. The jam will open up and you can go your way anyway. When one is angry, don't cross his path, you'll be jammed there.
Always desire for an exciting quality of life together. Put more zest into everything you do. You must always be ready for action. Treat life like a wide playground for you to enjoy each other's company. Maintain good health, by eating healthy. Put Christ in your life and be spiritually healthy. Young partners can do this. I see them hold hands jumping with joy. Old partners can do it, too. I see them hold hands with the gait of the young, madly in love, in their rocking chairs, as they savor their investments in life with zest, exchanging softly, "Happy Valentine's Day, my Dearest". Isn't that great ?
Look at me guys, I can still say, "Happy Valentine's, Dad!"- to the Boy I'd Loved Before- always! Happy Valentine's to all!
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