The Basic Dating Principles

 How many times have you heard of, or seen, a
guy whose life is just too 'compartmentalized' to
actually be sustainable?

During the day, he has his 'normal'
personality. Then at night, he puts on his sarging
clothes, studies up on magic tricks and 'cold
reading', and goes out to pick up chicks, hiding
behind his 'social personality' like an automaton.

Sooner or later, he's going to run out of
'material' and 'things to say', and is going to
run face-first into that ugly situation where his 'knowledge'
FAILS HIM, and he JUST DOESN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.

See, that's the problem with 'faking it'. At
some point, you're going to run into a situation
that's simply beyond the bounds of what you know...
and you're going to be stumped.

But if you're NOT 'faking it', and you're
actually BEING that guy who actually IS good with
women, you're NEVER going to have that problem,
because you're ALWAYS going to be able to trust
your own instincts.

It's a simple solution to a complex problem.

Oh, and by the way ... once you get past the
surface-level and really get interested in the
MECHANICS of what's going on here - the
'behind-the-scenes' information that helps you to
literally BECOME that amazing guy - you'll find that
these skills are actually fundamental to just
about every area of life.

This isn't just going to make you better at
pickup.

It's going to make you better at LIFE.

So, here's the deal ...

Over the next week, you're going to become
familiar with the three core principles necessary
to rid you of unwholesome and limiting 'old-style'
beliefs pertaining to FEMALES and YOURSELF ... and as
a result, you're going to experience a quantum
shift in the kind of success you experience with
women, and with life in general.

THE 3 PRINCIPLES OF DATING ENLIGHTENMENT

Dating Principle #1: Men and women are
different.

This is a hugely profound statement, and yet
few men actually INTERNALIZE it and cross that
boundary between 'knowing' and 'doing'.

For example, a lot of guys know on a
theoretical level that women and men are not the
same ... and yet they continue, on some level, to
expect women to be 'more like men'.

Often, this takes the shape of the guy who's
biding his time and waiting for 'The Big One'
(a.k.a. 'the one') while he 'has fun for now' with
women who, secretly, he considers 'beneath him'
and 'not up to his standards' ...

... without realizing that the woman he REALLY
wants ... the one who implicitly 'gets it' and
'understands him' ...

... is NEVER going to show up, unless he decides
to take the bit between the teeth and actually
take the initiative as far as female behavior
patterns go.

Guys like these are the ones who never
invest any effort or time into actually
UNDERSTANDING feminine psychology or what 'works'
with women ... and so they end up repeating the same
old relationship-pattern again and again.

(While all the time, figuring that, at some
point, this fantastic person is going to just show
up in their lives without the need for them to
make any changes to their attitude or behavior
first.)

We all know that men and women are different.
But if you want to get some SUCCESS with women,
you've got to understand HOW they're different ...
and what that means for YOU.

Dating Principle #2: Women are attracted to men
because they're MEN.

OK guys. This is a big one. Have you noticed
that there's a huge tendency towards 'feminizing'
ourselves as men lately? Everywhere you look, guys
are sensitizing, tenderizing, and demasculinizing
themselves in the hopes that this will somehow
attract more women.

Here's a new concept for you: women like men
who are MEN.

You know: strong, masculine guys who know who
they are, what they want, and who have the
confidence to do and be as they believe best.

Not a whimpering, supplicating creature that's
deliberately scrubbed all residual masculinity,
from its personality like unwanted barnacles and
who attempts to attract women through its complete
LACK of anything that might 'offend' ...

... like being up-front about attraction ... like
teasing her and making her laugh ... like daring
to cross 'boundaries' in a playful, laid-back way
... like taking RISKS and being a MAN.

Enough of us have bought into the concept that
to be 'a man', and to telegraph to women the fact
that we - like everyone else with a pulse -
actually enjoy sex, and wouldn't mind even HAVING SOME
from time to time, is a BAD THING if you want to
attract a woman.

The result?

A strange and cloying tendency to 'befriend'
women, act like their therapists, and generally
attempt to repress any shows of genuine attraction
or sexuality in the hopes of coming in 'under the
radar'.

This kind of behavior positively reeks of
spinelessness - and not only that, but
MANIPULATION.

That's right: men who try to suppress their own
inherent maleness in order to get women are:

- manipulating themselves, by pretending that
basic aspects of their character are not
'appropriate' and therefore do not exist

- manipulating HER, by lulling her assumed
'suspicions' and pretending to be and want
something that, respectively, they are not and do
not.

Part of creating massive and ongoing success
with women is recognizing the fact that you are a
MAN, and that remaining true to that manhood, and
never apologizing for it, is an ESSENTIAL aspect
of being a high-caliber guy and of being
attractive to blue-ribbon-candidate females.

Dating Principle #3: Non-attachment is what
works - don't get obsessive, now.

The moment you start getting too attached to
the outcome of any situation - the moment you
start to act like a guy WITHOUT OPTIONS - is the
moment that the tables turn, you give up all your
CONTROL and POWER, and put HER in the driver's
seat of what happens next.

Incidentally, it's also the moment that she
begins to sense your inherent instability ... and
her attraction for you begins to wane.

On the other hand, if you can create a reality
for yourself where you have PLENTY of options ...
and you know that 'another, better one' could
literally show up at any minute ...

... then you NEVER get too attached to what
happens, you NEVER start obsessing, and you NEVER
inadvertently create your own, negative reality by
acting needy and insecure.

And by the way: this isn't about trying to 'not
care', or cultivating an attitude of apathy. It's
simply about knowing your own worth, and never
being DESPERATE.

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magnoliazz 6 years ago from Wisconsin

Another insightful hub, very interesting. Its best to just be yourself, otherwise, you will have to fake it your entire life and how fun would that be? Men fake it all the time and then 10-20 years into a relationship they say that theier wives or GF don't understand them! Now whose fault is that?

I think people make too big a thing out of dating and meeting the opposite sex. This should not be a difficult thing, God has created men and women to be together, its the most natural thing in the world.

Basically men want a beautiful woman who is kind, nurturing and loyal.

Women want security. Women like men who are good providers. These ideas have been around for thousands and thousands of years, there is just nothing new under the sun.


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blake4d 6 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings Author

Thanx


dreamreachout 5 years ago

Food for thought!! Cheers!!


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blake4d 4 years ago from Now Rising Out of Phoenix Arizona Earthlings Author

Thanx DR. Keep on Hubbing. Blake4d

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