The Guy Who Can't Have a Relationship

There is a special guy in your life who you really like. You are pretty sure he likes you the only thing he is in a bad situation which makes it hard for him to have a relationship. You tell him you will wait for his situation to get better. It's been awhile and you are starting to feel frustrated.

There are many cases where a guy likes a girl but he can't be in a relationship with her. Sometimes he has a girlfriend other times it is due to money. Some people claim that when a guy likes a girl he will do anything to be with her. That is not as easy as it sounds. While you could do things that do not have to cost money, only going for dates on walks because the guy can't afford anything else really is not the type of relationship you want to have is it?

When you love someone you stick by their side through thick and thin. If they are strugggling financially you give them strength. You help them and give them advice how to make them apply to jobs. You don't pressure them or say things like "If you really loved me, you would be with me."

There are a lot of guys in the world who lie to get what they want. So many girls think that all guys are liars. That is not always the case. There could be a guy who really does care about a girl but he has a bad situation. The only way to know if he is telling the truth is to get to know him. Time tells weather or not someone is telling the truth. If someone is sticking to their same story and still showing an intrest and it has been awhile you can be sure that they are telling the truth.

Do not keep thinking about the situation. If you really want to be with the guy and love him then have patience because the funny thing about life you never know when things will change. He could get a great job one day and want to take you out. The more you keep thinking "When will it happen?" the more stressed out you will get and you will give yourself anxiety. Relax and know that it will all work out for the best.

Have you ever liked anyone before who could not be in a relationship?

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Have faith that everything will work out. Do not try to push anything. Do not look at why things are not happening. Try not to give yourself anxiety. Relax and try to be okay whatever happens.

Do not assume he is not with you because he does not care. People face obstacles in life and they all deal with things differently. Sometimes they are not as attentive to the people they care about as they should. You never know how someone is feeling so do not give yourself anxiety by always assuming the worst.

Do not become so attached of being in a relationship with this person. Be okay with whatever happens. The more attached you are the more upset you feel when things go wrong.

Love is out there and once again just because someone is not with you does not mean that he does not care about you. You never know what someone is thinking or feeling. Not all guys are liars or players. Some have a lot going on in their life and you have to give them a chance because this is a new guy. You can't punish someone new for what guys in the past did to you. Time will reveal their true colors. People face obstacles in relationships and sometimes it is hard to start something so people decide not to. It does not mean that they do not care about each other it just means that they have too much going on in their life to have a relationship. You never know what someone is thinking and assuming the worst is the worst way to handle it. Have faith and let things fall into place because if two people are meant to be together they will be together when the timing is right no matter what things look like at the present time.

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dashingscorpio 16 months ago

If two people are not dating or in a relationship then they are "platonic friends" at best. The one thing you probably do not want to do is put your life on hold and refusing other opportunities to go out with other people.

This is especially true if his reason is "Sometimes he has a girlfriend."

No one is "stuck" with anyone. We're always where we choose to be.

Being together through thick and thin is for those who are actually in a committed relationship or marriage.

If you can't be the "main dish" refuse to be the "side dish".


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Jpanaro982 16 months ago from Eastchester Author

True but when you care about someone weather or not you are in a relationship with them you still stay by their side


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dashingscorpio 16 months ago

During one's youth "the obstacles" to love are often "romanticized".

I believe as women become older they start to realize they are better off being with men who (are) emotionally and physically available to them.

It's unlikely a woman in her 40s would share the same idealization of this scenario as a woman in her early 20s or late teens.

They tend to avoid getting involved with guys who don't have their act together. They've learned the hard way to avoid men who are "projects".

Best wishes!


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Jpanaro982 15 months ago from Eastchester Author

Yes but when you love someone and they are going through a hard time or they suffer with problems such as money and depression you give them strength and stick by them instead of just giving up on them because if you were in their shoes wouldn't you want someone to be there for you?

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