The Importance of Praying for Your Spouse

Prayer takes time, but even more importantly, it takes faith. You have to believe that there is someone and something bigger than yourself that will make a difference if you connect to it. Just like an electrical device does not function unless it is connected to a power source, human beings will only experience divine aid when they connect to the Source of all life and light.

Marriage is an institution of divine origin. The union of our first parents in the Garden of Eden enabled the birth of humanity as we know it. Man was to "leave his father and mother" and "cleave unto his wife" that they might be "one flesh" (KJV Genesis 2:24). The only way to preserve, protect, and sanctify marriage, is to petition its author for divine aid.

Prayer is powerful. Without it, life is empty and meaningless. Marriage without prayer is like trying to plant seeds without giving them the necessary water and sunshine to make them grow. Adding God to the marriage partnership enables both spouses to receive the benefit of personal progress, tailor made for their individual needs.

No one else in the entire world has the connection that you have with your spouse.
No one else in the entire world has the connection that you have with your spouse. | Source

You are in a unique position

Of all the people in the world, you are most closely connected to your spouse. You are in a position to do enormous good, should you choose to do so. You know your spouse better then anyone. You know strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, hopes and dreams. You have the power to bring happiness or misery.

Marriage is not an easy proposition. Two people from different backgrounds come together to form a single social unit that becomes the basis for the rest of their lives. What happens within that home affects everything, including career, family, extended family, relationships, and finances. There is nothing in marriage that does not matter. It all matters.

Petitioning Almighty God in behalf of your spouse gives you additional strength. It enables an eternal perspective to shed itself forth on your life. You see things differently. You experience life with a concern for your spouse and family's better future, and make decisions accordingly.

When you pray, express gratitude for your marriage and the blessing of having someone to love. Many people go through life without this gift. Giving gratitude to God for your spouse will help you to see the good qualities and little things that make a positive difference.

What happens in your home matters to you, your spouse, your children, and society.
What happens in your home matters to you, your spouse, your children, and society. | Source

You make a difference

Marriage is God's great schoolhouse. It is the only place on earth where we learn and develop those characteristics that enable us to return to his presence. We start with love and a desire to serve our spouse, and before we know it, we become acquainted with unselfishness, a sense of humor, humility, charity, and hope.

Once children are added to the picture, it becomes even more complicated and difficult! Not only are we serving our spouse, but our children as well, and in the process, trying to earn a living to provide for them! How we need God's help and guidance! Praying for our spouse's strength and wisdom is imperative! Only then do we realize that we, in and of ourselves, are weak and simple, and that without God, we could easily fail!

Praying for your spouse will help you to appreciate all that is done for you and your family. You see the effort put forth to make life good, and that it takes both of you working in a spirit of cooperation to succeed. Disagreements fade into oblivion as you see from the other person's point of view, and how you can improve to make the situation better.

Putting your spouse in God's hands during times of difficulty gives you an anchor during the storm. You don't have to control what is happening, the outcome is in his hands, and he will not fail nor forsake you. He will make much more out of your spouse than you ever could by your own efforts alone. Your job is to love unconditionally. Let God do the rest.

You are your family

You make or break your family: your actions, reactions, thoughts, words, and deeds. When you pray for your spouse, you are praying for you. Together, you are one. You have committed yourself to something bigger than both of you. Your daily petitions on your spouse's behalf will bless your entire family.

Ask God for safety during travel, the spirit to guide in making decisions, the wisdom to use money wisely, and the courage to stand up for beliefs. Pray for protection from the evils and temptations of the world. Pray for those who work with your spouse, that they will see the good that is done. Pray that their hearts will be softened when difficult things happen.

Daily heartfelt, sincere prayer will be your source of power and inspiration as you pray for your spouse. You will realize your own nothingness before God and your dependence upon his aid. You will feel his grace more fully in your life, and you will feel his immense love you. In turn, your heart will be filled with unconditional love for your spouse and your family. Now is the time to start!

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MsDora 3 years ago from The Caribbean

"When you pray for your spouse, you are praying for you." That makes perfect sense. Perhaps there would be more prayer for our partners if we accepted that truth. That would mean complete trust in God to make our marriages succeed. Thanks for these very meaningful thoughts.


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denise.w.anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota Author

You are right, MsDora. It takes trusting that God knows the end from the beginning, and that he wants what is best for us. The time we spend on our knees in behalf of our spouse is time spent in our own character building process. Humility, faith, and unselfishness are required. Thanks for stopping by!


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prairieprincess 3 years ago from Canada

I found praying for my spouse (and boyfriend who became my spouse) was the single most important factor in our relationship. The LORD worked miracles in both of our lives from it. Blessings!


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teaches12345 3 years ago

Prayer is powerful. Without it, life is empty and meaningless. Marriage without prayer is like trying to plant seeds without giving them the necessary water and sunshine to make them grow.

This is the key to it all, Denise. I am so glad I learned to place my hubby into the hands of God long ago. It has made our journey meaningful and fulfilling. God bless you and have a wonderful New Year.


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denise.w.anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota Author

Thanks for reading, prairie princess and teaches 12345. Praying for those that are most important to us brings feelings of peace into our minds and hearts. We are able to allow God to work his miracles in their lives, and at the same time, in ours.

Putting our future or current spouses in God's hands is like giving him the gift of our hearts. Only then can we truly know and understand his love for us in giving his Son for us on the cross.


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jrueff 3 years ago from Kansas City

Thumbs up, I've only been married for 3 years, so it's great to find advice like this - Thank you!


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denise.w.anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota Author

Thanks for reading, jrueff. You are starting out on the right foot by learning this important concept. Best wishes for many happy years together!


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jrueff 3 years ago from Kansas City

Thank you, you too!


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jrueff 3 years ago from Kansas City

I need to stop spending so much time on this 0ne post - you have so many other great hubs. I just keep coming back to re-read this one for some reason, and I like it better every time. I like the specific things to pray about - it gets my creativity going - combine that with Rom. 8:26 and I don't think I can go wrong!


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denise.w.anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota Author

Thanks for your kind comments, jrueff. Prayer is such an important principle, and praying for your spouse opens up windows of opportunity for love, forgiveness, hope, and healing that are not possible in any other way. It made a significant difference in my life, and in my marriage, and I am sure it will do the same for others. Keep the faith!


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Divs001 3 years ago from Bangalore,India

This hub is a beautiful one. "Putting your spouse in God's hands during times of difficulty gives you an anchor during the storm". This keeps us relaxed and inturn make things better. I have always felt that prayer helps to strengthen the bonding with my husband.


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denise.w.anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota Author

I'm glad that you felt inspired by the words of this hub. It is a subject that is close to my heart. As a married couple, my husband and I have weathered many storms together, and prayer has always helped us through. Putting one's spouse in the hands of God often makes a better outcome than we can ourselves by trying to change things the way we want them to be. Thanks for reading and commenting, and blessings to you and yours!


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Kristine Manley 3 years ago from Atlanta, GA

Denise, this is a wonderful Hub. I am not married, but I know God is alive and well and Jesus Christ is alive and well, and that God answers prayers. I am believing God for a mate.


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denise.w.anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota Author

You are on the right track, Kristine! Involving God in your search is the best thing that you can do. As you live your life in the way that brings you happiness, you will find someone with your same values and goals.


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denise.w.anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota Author

You are on the right track, Kristine! Involving God in your search is the best thing that you can do. As you live your life in the way that brings you happiness, you will find someone with your same values and goals.


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thefedorows 2 years ago from the Midwest

I agree with you, Kristine! Prayer is the key to marriage...well, not only marriage, but all of life! If we invite God in, he receives the glory, and he fills us with His spirit so that we can love others. It is refreshing to read a hub rooted in truth!


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denise.w.anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota Author

Thanks, thefedorows! You have stated it so well! When we make God a part of our marriage, we make sure to include him in our decisions, our communication, and our problem solving. We are able to have a higher perspective, and keep a long-term outlook on things. It gives us a standard to live by as well. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting.


Elina Volau Ranitu 2 years ago

This is so true, really going to help me, love this, thank you so much :)


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denise.w.anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota Author

Thanks, Elina. I'm glad that you found this information helpful. I appreciate you stopping by and commenting.


beth a. silverio 2 years ago

Really love to read ur page..im so thankful and blessed .ive been married for 14 yrs. We met different kinds of storms and typhoons in our marriage but we promise to hold on and stick to God.Right prayer is a very powerful tool to overcome problems and temptations.


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Ebonny 2 years ago from UK

My thanks for what is a timely reminder to pray for my spouse and not take him or others in my life, for granted. Voted up etc.


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denise.w.anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota Author

Thanks for your comments, beth. When we make God our partner in our marriage, we give ourselves a shield and protection that keeps the storms of life from destroying our family. Prayer gives us the strength to make the difficult but necessary decisions that keep us together.


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denise.w.anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota Author

I appreciate your comment, Ebonny. Sometimes we need reminders. It is easy to take those that we love for granted, and stop giving them the support that they need. Our family is our most precious possession in this life. When we remember them in our prayers, we bring blessings upon them and ourselves as well.

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