The Night the Angels Came to Take Her Away

You can't stop what has happened from happening again, without help...

Without the HELP, STOP is just another silly word.

I caught 10 minutes of a TV program last week, while I was folding laundry. I do not recall what the actual name of the program was, but the discussion was on a subject which I am a true advocate for working towards; stopping Domestic Violence.

As most who follow any of my writing already know- I am a woman that believes that woman should demand every bit of respect that they deserve and should never allow themselves to be lessened by a man-regardless if the man is her husband or not. I believe that women have a certain strength that no man can ever understand-and she must always know that this strength is within her and should never let anyone take it away.

Relationships are hard-couples fight, they disagree and they get angry. An argument in your relationship is normal-raising your voice and/or needing to walk away from one another to regain control of your emotions and temper is normal. Causing Physical injuries to one another is not normal and is wrong. It is wrong when a man hits a woman and when a woman hits a man---no exceptions (unless it is fighting back to release yourself from danger).

It is often said; Hit me once, shame on you. Hit me twice, shame on me. Although this is true, it is not this simple. Often domestic violence is so much more than the physical abuse. Domestic disputes which escalate to physical abuse do not usually begin with the physical violence. Most often, the mental and emotional damage has already been started, and when the physical abuse is introduced into the situation- the victims are often paralyzed within confusion of what they should do. They may tell themselves, I know he shouldn’t have hit me-but I did push his buttons. The abuser will them apologize-and life will continue. It may be days, months even years before the physical violence enters into the relationship again, but it will certainly return-unless the reasons that lead up to the relationship taking this dark path are resolved and the communication lines open up to discuss issues so that frustrations and tempers do not get the best of us.

If your relationship is in trouble and you do not have the open communication between you that is needed, seek help-and find a way to talk. Even if the relationship ends-think of the good you have done for yourself and that you may have done for their next relationship.

Take an active part in stopping domestic violence-because even the victim can help the abuser by seeking help together. You may save someone else from being abused-if you decide to take the steps to get help, even if you are walking away. The words; Stop and Help need to go hand in hand when it refers to protecting ourselves, because without the HELP, STOP is just another silly word.

In dedication to all those who have experienced abuse-May God guide you to a place so that you may harvest your strength and be a fighter when you think there is no fight left within you.

In the depths of the darkness - She no longer feels lost within her pain

Even as the bruises disappear

She can still feel the pain

Even after the bruises disappear

The scars will still remain

It wasn’t his hand that hurt the most

It was the look in his deep dark eyes

He wasn’t himself as he dealt to her, his blows

He became his own demise

The mood of the day-depends on him

And will never let her go so she can begin to live

It wasn’t her fault the first time

But she stood by him and supported the lies

It became her fault the second time

The end result shouldn’t have been such a surprise

She knows that they know

But she will never confirm they are right

They fear that one day soon-

The phone will ring in the middle of the night

She pretends to be happy

As she lives in her own hell

And when she tells the world that she is okay

She knows it’s all lies which she tells

She can not cry any longer

She can not beg him to stop

The blows keep getting harder

She becomes an empty rock

A stone made to survive

Even when she wants to give up

He will never be kind

And she will never get away to make it stop

In the deepest part of the night

An angel calls out her name

In the depths of the darkness

She no longer feels lost within her pain

The blood is painfully felt

But no longer by her but someone else

Her death wasn’t a mistake.

The night the angels came to take her away.

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Cagsil 6 years ago from USA or America

Hey Holly, a very nice piece of writing and an awesome topic. When I was a youngster, my dad told me one of the greatest attributes to being a man was about character and should I ever hit a woman or women, then I would be a man without any character. I've not once even come close to being abusive toward any woman I've met and I pride myself on it. I'm saddened by seeing it in public by some men who do it. I've actually prevented a couple of men from striking women in a public place, when I was able to react in time to stop it. Granted, the men were not too happy with me, but the woman was grateful.

There are plenty of reasons men hit women, but none of them are justified. Well done! :) Voted up and marked Awesome! Great message!


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Mike Lickteig 6 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

I could never condone violence against women. I believe that violence is a learned behavior and men and women both largely act out what has been done to them, but I also believe the pattern of violence and oppression can be broken. We can choose not to act on our feelings and emotions. It is difficult and many cannot make this choice without help, but the choice to not be violent is always there. Always.

I applaud your strength and dedication, and agree with you 100% when you tell us that stop is just another word without help. You are so true. Thanks for speaking out, your message is so important and true.

Mike


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JillKostow 6 years ago from Pennsylvania

I had alot of mixed emotions while reading this hub. First I would like to say it made me feel happy because I was able to remove myself from an unhealthy relationship years ago before it got to this point. Second it made me very sad for the millions of other people both men and women who feel they are stuck in an abusive relationship. I myself know someone going through it off and on now, but it is so sad when you can't get through to someone about how bad their relationship really is. It is because of people like us who write about Domestic Violence that can help to open the eyes of someone who needs to leave, and to help in giving them the strength in knowing they are never alone!!!


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

cagsil

Thank you sir-for the comment and your continued support with my writing- I truly appreciate it. This is one of those subjects that can never be played out to much---because as long as there is abuse in relationships-someone out there needs to know that they are not alone. Thanks again :)


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

Mike- Thanks for your heartfelt comment- you are very right, the pattern of violence must be broken-and seeking help is a much needed step for many couples out there. It is hard to get past all the anger and mixed emotions when in the heat of the moment- you must learn the proper ways to communicate to even begin to think about getting through abuse and moving forward


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

jill- thanks, and I am so sorry that you have been to this place too. It takes much strength to walk away and even more to admit to it and speak about the experience... You are right---hopefully what we write will be a reminder to some that what is happening within their relationship is not normal and they should start to make changes or begin packing. you never know when the abuse will take a harsh turn for the worse and you will be the one that loses in the end. Thanks again ma'am for sharing your thoughts


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SilentReed 6 years ago from Philippines

What provokes a man to hit someone who he once vow to love and protect in sickness and in health till death do they part?The stress of married life?the feelings of being trapped in a meaningless and empty relationship?The sense of being immasculated?And why does a woman allow it? Guilt? self hate?love?Brutal questions that need honest answers.


coffeesnob 6 years ago

H.C.

You are right..the resolution to domestic violence is never a simple fix. there is so much that goes on in all people involved. the depth of the human soul is so desperate and all to often reacts in ways that make no sense to those looking on. This is a meaningful and excellent piece that takes a deeper look, and I thank you for writing it,

Blessings'

CS


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

coffee snob-thanks so much for the encouraging message. i hope that people see that they need to change when things become violent---rather than stay on the same horrible path.


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H.C Porter 6 years ago from Lone Star State Author

silent reed-thanks for the comment- so much is involved having to do with domestic violence. A woman may stay because she is afraid-because of self doubt and low self esteem...every case is different-which is why this is a tough issue to solve


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Richieb799 5 years ago from Cardiff, Wales UK

Hey Holly, I wondered where you'd been, I checked this one out yesterday but got distracted..I was going to say it is a great description of the workings of domestic abuse and women should always seek help no matter how scared they are..someone is always there to offer support and protection can be provided! I haven't forgot about ya :P I'm doing well on my Adsense thats all, bit annoyed I have to wait another 3 weeks for my equivalent of $400 :)


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H.C Porter 5 years ago from Lone Star State Author

richie, thanks for the comment-I am glad you liked the hub. Congrats on your Adsense accomplishment. Yeah, I am not around as much lately-been really busy with work and with both my grandmothers passing, been really down lately-but I am coming back around :) I see you hit 300 fans---great job and well deserved!

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