The Promiscuous Wife


In this modern world and time of so much opportunity and secret access to infidelity plus the complex human desires and marital complications in addition to ignorance or unmindful of a true Human Values System, loose moral men and women, or husband and wife will have no problem to feed their inherent promiscuous tendencies and activities. Every where, especially in the net, you see invitations and temptations to cheat on one's spouse.

I personally know promiscuous or cheating wives while conducting a research on promiscuity and prostitution for my baby thesis in Sociology under Social Problems. I had selected 100 prostitutes and 50 wives in random and many of them were my students.

Promiscuity of wives and prostitution are considered social problems because these loathsome and irresponsible activities directly or indirectly and eventually destroy family, the children and their future and even lives as a whole. Prostitution is the oldest profession of the "below the belt" mentality of certain types of personality. Women with fairly high moral values would prefer to die in hunger and poverty if prostitution is the only way to earn a living.

I was teaching in SPCC, Balibago main campus where many young wives and girl friends of much older foreigner men ( this is how we call the sex tourists or misfit Western men who come to our country for cheap sex with pretty and young girls either for fun or for lasting relationships) live ; Balibago is the "red alert" area for cheap sex for overnight hired sex activities.

It doesn't matter what social class a woman belongs, promiscuity is a personal thing; it is the result of both upbringing and culture, and the inherent personality qualities of any human, a woman in particular.

A study in Prostitution

The title of my research was "A Comprehensive Inquiry into the Personality Set-up of the Women Working as Prostitutes in Balibago, Angeles City, 1998." The following are some of the statistical findings in my research:

1. 95% of the respondents have deep-seated poverty orientation. 5% comprised those run-away and rebellious women either to parents or husbands or lovers; they originally belonged to the middle class families

2. 30% of the respondents have high school education; 69% have elementary education and 1% either finished high school or are having some months spent in college;

3. 100% of the respondents who have been into prostitution for at least two years are either drug addicts or drug users every now and then;

4. 90% are either married or having steady boy friends with whom they remit their income daily or feed then with their income from prostitution;

5. 100% of the respondents hope to meet a foreigner who would marry them and take them to the West such as the U.S., Australia, Canada, or Europe.


A Study in Promiscuous Wives

The title of this study is " A Study on the Sociology-demographic, Moral Values and Economic Profile of Cheating Housewives in Balibago, Angeles City, 1996." There were 50 respondents in this study.

The following were some of the the findings in the research;

1. 95% of the respondents were battered housewives or perceived that their husbands were maltreating them or were also cheating on them;

2. 80% of the respondents have jobless husbands or were having no regular source of income or for those with foreigner husbands, they claimed that they were not given money according to their expectations.

3.60% of the respondents cannot resist temptations or just wanted to have fun;

4. 99% of the respondents have very low if not zero sense of Moral Values hence fearless to face the truth and leave their husbands or are experts in lying to their husbands;

5. 70% of the respondents are working either as prostitutes or as waitresses and sales girls or a student, and other other menial jobs.


Similarities

One significant similarities of prostitutes and promiscuous wives is the very low if not zero sense of Moral Values and the very low self-esteem or self-value as a human being. They have commonality also in their ignorance of the true value as a human being.

Common to them is the premise, whether they are aware of it or not, that they are sex objects for men and that men can only love them if they surrender to the sexual requirements of men and that they continue to feed the sexual fantasies and whims of men. Most of them are needy for love and attention of men so that they feel more beautiful, loved and needed whenever a man would show them interests and attention especially through lavish gifts and money.

These women have a deep sense of belief to equate sex to love so that when their husbands or lovers do not anymore satisfy their sexual urges like they used to have in the earlier parts of the relationship they would be convinced that their husbands do not love them as much anymore. For them, a new sex mate is always more satisfactory and exciting than their "old man".

These are just some of the findings; there are a lot more to be said about promiscuity especially in the personality type of a woman and the culture of a given society where she belongs.

Some men, if not many, won't mind that their wives are promiscuous; some of them in fact promiscuous wives if the wives will just remember to come home to him. These all depend in the culture where these couples belong.

But for men with high integrity and high Moral Values, infidelity is abomination to them and loyalty to the marriage vows is of utmost importance. This works vice versa between couples.




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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

SilentReed,

This is the language of the street and is contrary to Logic..."Although I have not have the privilege of acquiring a higher "formal" education, one's sense of justice and morality does not recquire it. The ability to judge right from wrong usually come from common sense and good parental guidance." VERY WRONG and a FALLACY that the mal-educated believe to be a correct reasoning. It is NOT REASONABLE and it is a COMMON FALLACY of those who do not adhere to logical reasoning.

Common sense apply only to a certain culture and subculture and is rejected by Logic...common sense is ignorance in perceiving a given situation, it is not acceptable in the universal sense. What is common sense to a given culture is not common sense to another...Make a further study on Sociology so that you can understand what I mean. This is the difficulty in arguing with people who are not in my own level of education. A defensive reasoning just like the premise "All bishops walk horizontally...Father Bob is a bishop therefore he moves horizontally." If you can understand what I mean. This is a fallacy that the so-called arrogant, fallacious and highly opinionated ignorant would boast.

If you don't think that it's not fair to equate promiscuity with prostitution then that is only your opinion because the fact remains that a virtuous woman would never go into prostitution and this is the accepted Universal Standard results of researches and studies all over the world made by Sociologists, Psychologists and those who made researches in Humanities...not a mere opinion of whoever.... I don't have to explain these things to you because I know that this is beyond your understanding, you have to go to school yourself and study Logic...it is a study of correct thinking and correct reasoning; it just happens that this is the subject I teach in school and this is the reason why I can smell fallacy when I hear a fallacious statement...seeing the way you were brought up, I can understand why you reason the way you do.

A personality is the totality of nature and nurture and small knowledge is dangerous. If we were talking in person you cannot even open your mouth...where do you base your opinion? From your wandering? I spent years and years in formal studies and research in 3 Masters degrees and why would I listen a voice from the street?. I don't want to be rude but some people need it so I give it freely.I don't listen to opinions...I do research and experiments systematically and scientifically and prove what is right and what is wrong and then decide according to data and facts. Your parents are not the right person to educate you to base your decisions if they are your standard of moral values then it applies only to you...not to people who had studied in the formal and systematic approach to life. You have to study and educate yourself in the right Educational Institutions before you can have the gull to argue with those who work hard to educate themselves in the Universal standard education system...what is Universal and what is Particular and what is Sub-alternate.

If you truly need to know the validity of this statement...""One significant similarities of prostitutes and promiscuous wives is the very low if not zero sense of Moral Values and the very low self-esteem or self-value as a human being. They have commonality also in their ignorance of the true value as a human being. " Then I suggest you go to school. If this statement is too much for your taste then Please go to school...the truth there is worse and more blunt than this...God! How do this type of people live their lives? Living in a world of delusion and fallacy...I don't even have to explain these things to a person....Come to my class so that you will be educated formally...


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

SilentReed,

If your intention is to discriminate the poor countries to justify your prostitutes as having strong character because they are mothers and whatever your measure of strong character is then I dare you. Studies show that all prostitutes have low morals and they are a disgrace in the society whose jobs are never a thing to be proud of. Studies show and proved that prostitution is a social ill in any society. The rampant prostitution business in the internet pollute the moral values even of the youth who have access to the net. Any reasoning that defends prostitution is defensive and disgusting especially for decent mentality. Prostitutes are looked down not only by your so-called self-righteous but by any decently sensible human beings. Only clients of prostitutes and those in the prostitution business and the prostitutes themselves defend each other, and sad to say, they are replenishing the earth, destroying lives, their own and their childrens' lives...

I don't listen to distorted opinions in the street...studies show the rottenness of prostitution. All prostitutes are promiscuous and studies had shown that...not my local setting as you love to put it...Prostitution is a byproduct of a very low moral, deluded personality, and low self-esteem of a woman...not just a personality flaw but a completely sick personality...what a shame to even defend them if you are not involved in such a horrible profession.

Promiscuous people call the morally strong people self-rifgteous church people because they cannot live up to that standard...Just as the poor disdain the rich because the rich have everything and these poorer than poor mentality can never have the abundance of the rich...Your reasoning is your local and personal opinion that applies only to you and your likes...I have my studies approved in the Education Board, not like what you think the Education Board of my locality but Education of the world and it is a standard social studies. Your defense on prostitution would be snobbed if you had studied Sociology, Philosophy and Humanity.

I don't want to attack people...If your intention is to prove to me that you are a better person because you live in the so-called developed countries...where racism as ignorance is rampant in the hearts and minds of the mal-educated yet highly opinionated street masses then I am on.


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

SilentReed,

If your intention is to discriminate the poor countries to justify your prostitutes as having strong character because they are mothers and whatever your measure of strong character is then I dare you. Studies show that all prostitutes have low morals and they are a disgrace in the society whose jobs are never a thing to be proud of. Studies show and proved that prostitution is a social ill in any society. The rampant prostitution business in the internet pollute the moral values even of the youth who have access to the net. Any reasoning that defends prostitution is defensive and disgusting especially for decent mentality. Prostitutes are looked down not only by your so-called self-righteous but by any decently sensible human beings. Only clients of prostitutes and those in the prostitution business and the prostitutes themselves defend each other, and sad to say, they are replenishing the earth, destroying lives, their own and their childrens' lives...

I don't listen to distorted opinions in the street...studies show the rottenness of prostitution. All prostitutes are promiscuous and studies had shown that...not my local setting as you love to put it...Prostitution is a by-product of a very low moral, deluded personality, and low self-esteem of a woman...not just a personality flaw but a completely sick personality...what a shame to even defend them if you are not involved in such a horrible profession.

Promiscuous people call the morally strong people self-rifgteous church people because they cannot live up to that standard...Just as the poor disdain the rich because the rich have everything and these poorer than poor mentality can never have the abundance of the rich...Your reasoning is your local and personal opinion that applies only to you and your likes...I have my studies approved in the Education Board, not like what you think the Education Board of my locality but Education of the world and it is a standard social studies. Your defense on prostitution would be snobbed if you had studied Sociology, Philosophy and Humanity.

I don't want to attack people...If your intention is to prove to me that you are a better person because you live in the so-called developed countries...where racism as ignorance is rampant in the hearts and minds of the mal-educated yet highly opinionated street masses then I am on.


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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Hi Gail Meyers,

There are countless ills in a given society as there are many people and families, or the smallest social units in the society. This is the very reason why Sociology, Psychology, and the rest of the studies on Humanities and Social Sciences had been developed over the years and are still evolving nowadays. But then Scientists can only focus on the collective humanity, even Psychology that tends to dig into the individuality of a given person cannot really study the soul of a human; it can only try to measure the observable behavior and thereby base its analyses.

This is where Social Philosophy and Spirituality(or Values Education) come in. In the right sense of the words these disciplines cannot be categorize under scientific studies rather they are more on the Philosophy of Man where personality tendencies come along resulting from the soul; the sick or healthy soul.

In the case of the sexually abused child; the child herself, or the woman for that matter, should be led or guided into the right perspective of her present life rather than allowing her to drag along that child in the past. This is not an easy task, it needs personal initiative to become a better person.

Thanks for reading my hub and the comment.

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Jynzly 3 years ago from Marion, Indiana, USA Author

Gail Meyers,

There are countless ills in a given society as there are many people and families, or the smallest social units in the society. This is the very reason why Sociology, Psychology, and the rest of the studies on Humanities and Social Sciences had been developed over the years and are still evolving nowadays. But then Scientists can only focus on the collective humanity, even Psychology that tends to dig into the individuality of a given person cannot really study the soul of a human; it can only try to measure the observable behavior and thereby base its analyses.

This is where Social Philosophy and Spirituality(or Values Education) come in. In the right sense of the words these disciplines cannot be categorize under scientific studies rather they are more on the Philosophy of Man where personality tendencies come along resulting from the soul; the sick or healthy soul.

In the case of the sexually abused child; the child herself, or the woman for that matter, should be led or guided into the right perspective of her present life rather than allowing her to drag along that child in the past. This is not an easy task, it needs personal initiative to become a better person.

Thanks for reading my hub and the comment.


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Gail Meyers 3 years ago from United States

Wow, that's a pretty sad commentary in my opinion. What also came to mind is childhood sexual abuse survivors often confuse sex with love as a result of the abuse.

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