"The Signs Of A Toxic Relationship That's A Hazard To Your Health"

"The Signs Of A Tolxic Relationship That "s A Hazard To Your Health"

Toxic relationships causes low self esteem, depression, battered wife syndrome, and suicidal tenendecies.
Toxic relationships causes low self esteem, depression, battered wife syndrome, and suicidal tenendecies.

"The Signs Of A Toxic Relationship That's Hazardous To Your Health"

Being in a toxic relationship, brings new meaning to the statement" misery loves company". The word toxic means poisonous, which means it is hazardous to your health. Anything toxic isn't good for anyone, so we have to locate the the poison and dispose of it right away before it makes us deathly ill or kill us. I once lived in a toxic relationship, but it wasn't living it was merely existing. When you're young, you have no idea what a toxic relationship is until you lived through one and then you know exactly what the signs and symptoms are. The sad thing about these types of relationships is many women and some men get trapped into them and don't have any idea how to free themselves from a relationship that's destroying them and their self esteem.

I have met people that's involved in toxic relationships and they are miserable people that are trying to to find a way to free themselves from the parasites that's sucking the life out of them. The first thing that happens is we end up choosing someone that doesn't have our best interest at heart. They will make you believe that they love you and everything is all about you but in actuality, it's all about them. If you pay close attention, you will soon realize that as long as the person you're involved with is getting their way, everything is fine but the moment you try to do something to make your self happy there's a big problem. This person you love, that says they love you, they want totally control of you and where you go and who you see or don't see and what you do. If you don't comply with all of their conditions, then you have to fuss or argue and sometimes, even have physical fights. What the controlling person fail to understand, is you already have parents and if you haven't been raised by your parents, then it's to late for them to try and do it.

The problem is, you are an adult just like they are . If you know anything at all about someone with controlling tendencies the moment you meet this person, you should get as far away from this person as soon as possible because if you entertain him, he will wreck havoc on you and your life. There are many poison minded people walking around, waiting to find the perfect person they can control so if you're all laid back and don't show your backbone, you will be their next victim. These people also tell you what to wear, and what not to wear and they don't want you around your family or friends. These people want you to depend totally on them and they take away your family and friends so you don't have a safety net to depend on, but them. They really try to brain wash you into their way of thinking and living. Please do not allow this kind of control to take over you and your life, stop it before it's to late.

Here are some signs or symptoms of toxic people to stay away from: 1. Watch out for someone that has to control everything, including you. 2. Someone that's trying to tell you who you can see or who you can't see. 3. Someone that tries to keep you away from your family or friends. 4. Someone that's trying to change you into someone else. 5. Someone that tells you not to wear make up or tell you what you can an cannot wear.6. Someone that's so jealous that you can't go anywhere without him or her, or even alone. 7. Someone that scrutinize your time, where it seems you have to punch a time clock.

All of these signs or symptoms are red flags or caution lights flashing for you to stop because there is danger ahead. Please proceed with caution. If you see one or more of these traits, then you should run to the hills as fast as your feet can carry you and you will be happy you did because we all can live without the constant headaches and heart breaks that a toxic relationship will bring into our lives.

Benny Faye Douglass





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maya 3 years ago

50/50 =.=


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you JeanieR, thank you for your visit and your comment, I appreciate your input. God bless you. creativeone59


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JeanieR 5 years ago from Sequoia National Forest, CA

CreativeOne, my experience is that most women in toxic relationships do not fully recognize what it is. They just know they are really unhappy. Throw the word "toxic" into the conversation and you see the lights start going on. Having the right vocabulary to assess the situation is a real blessing. It's like the light of truth shining in. That's what you've done so well with this post. God bless you!


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Audrey, for your visit, comment and your great analogy. God bless you. creativeone59


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you CC, for your visit and comment, these people are sick and aren't aware of their illness, and then you have laid back people that are vulnerable to control freaks. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Barbara, for your visit and comment, and I saw myself in this hub also and you correct when you said we were used for affections and emotions. I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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akirchner 5 years ago from Central Oregon

Nothing worse than a toxic relationship....it destroys you from the inside out! Great points, Faye~


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clicketyclacker 5 years ago from USA

you are so right, "toxic" is the perfect word for people like that who just live to bring others down with them.


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barbara l coleman 5 years ago from Dothan, Alabama

Thank you for this article and I found myself in this piece in many ways. Even when we are not controled as to where we go and when to return we can be emotionally controlled. Allowing another to reel us in for their affection as they see fit and we your affection, conversations, emotional support for them is not desired they tend to push you away. I have passed this on to my readers on other sites and again thank you for sharing.


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you lifeinprime,for your visit and comment and telling us of your experience. I'm so proud that you had enough guts to say enough is enough and you did something about it. Congratulation on taking back the control of your life. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you daydreamer for your visit and comment and you're welcome for the advice. The way I got away was I waited until he was at work and had my family help me steal away in the night and never went back. There are ways to get out,even if you have to contact the people over at the domestic violence center, these people will help you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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lifeinprime 5 years ago from Catawba County, NC

Thanks for the article. Great information! Sadly, some of us (like me) married controllers who ordered us around like dogs. Finally, I manned-up and walked away from a violent, sadistic marriage--for my own good.


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daydreamer13 5 years ago

Good advice on what to watch for but how do you get away from someone like that?


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Veronica, it's good to see you again, it's true that this type of relationship happens often to people that aren't aware of the situation. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Ruby for your visit and comment. I agree with you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you LG, I wrote this hub, hoping it helps someon that doesn't know the signs. Thank you for your support. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you for your visit and comment SpecialK, Just tell your daughter to watch out for telling signs, so she will know when to cut her loses. I truly hope this isn't the case. God bless and keep you and your safe. creativeone59


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Hello, it's detailed because I lived through it. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Veronica Allen 5 years ago from Georgia

Sadly this happens far too often. At times our love for that persom may blind us to how toxic they are to us. Many times it takes someone on the outside looking in to break the cycle. Rated it up!


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always exploring 5 years ago from Southern Illinois

This is a great hub with good info. When a man or woman dominates another, i't not love. Thank you.

Cheers


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lifegate 5 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

CO,

Thanks for raising the red flags. I hope people will evaluate their relationships in light of that. Well Done!


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Specialk3749 5 years ago from Michigan

Your words are such good advice! My daughter met a guy that I am concerned about. I am not totally convinced about him yet. I think the main thing is to make sure of his salvation is true and that he wants a relationship with the Lord. From there, I am asking the Lord for wisdom and lots of it!


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Tamarajo 5 years ago from Southern Minnesota

I think abusive relationships are addictive because they involve idolizing and worshiping another person and the feelings produced in that relationship. The intensity of emotion both good and bad can be addictive also I think that there can be some misinterpretations of behavior such as someone who gets so upset with me must love me a lot.

I was involved in a relationship like that about 20 years ago and my advice to women in that situation is to take responsibility for their lives by not being a victim to abuse and get real honest about the reasons you stay.


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Hello, hello, 5 years ago from London, UK

Very detailed hub and an eye opener. Thank you.

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