"The Top five Things women want out of a relationship"

"The top five things a women want out of a relationship

Five things a women want out of a relationship. 1.Honesty 2.Love 3. understanding 4.Respect 5.commitment.

Being a women involved in pass relationships, there were many things; that was important to me in a relationship. I will start out by saying that honesty tops the chart, with me, honesty was and has been the number one thing, that I look for in a man. I believe if a man can be honest with me and tell me the truth, that means, he's trustworthy and can be trusted not to take advantage of you.

Love comes next, I want my man to love me for the women that I am, whether, I'm big, little, black or white; I want his undying love and I will give him the same in return. I realize that the whole dating system works on looks mostly and that is a wrong idea, if you 're going only by looks alone, you're in big trouble. People are so superficial and materialistic; until finding what you're looking for in a mate, is like looking for a needle in a hay stack.

I wanted a mate that's going to be committed to me and to us, you find so many people that want to play with you as a mate and play with mary,Jane, and Sue; they don't want a commitment because they want be able to play the game with all the women players as before. We all want to be in a true relationship, where we know our man or women is with us 100% in our relationship.

Having understanding is important in a relationship, and that because we all go through life's changes, and we need someone in our corner; that's going to try and understand what we're going through and be there for us; no matter what we're going through. It's important to stand by your man or women in the midst of a crisis, it let's us know that we're genuinely loved by that person; because he or she hasn't left you high and dry, and will be there with you through to the end.

Respect is another very important part of a relationship, I have always told my girls to make sure, the guy loves and respects his mother and sisters; if he passes that test, then you'll know he going to give you the same love and respect that he has for the other women in his life. But if you're with a guy and he's treating his mother and sisters like dirt; then you know what he's going to do for you.

You want your man to trust you to behave, when he or she isn't around; you want the kind of trust that say, my man or my women is in another world; but we know for a fact that everything is all right because we love and trust each other. It doesn't matter that we're a zillion miles a part, our trust will keep us cool. Trust is like respect, we have to give it in order to receive it. We must remember that we don't have a relationship without trust.

Make positively sure, that your man or your women have all of these qualities and more, in order to have a chance at a good relationship. I want you to remember the most important thing of all, in finding your Mr. or Ms. Right; don't let what you see on the outside, trick you into believing that there isn't anything worthwhile on the inside, because to be brutally honest , it's only what's on the inside that counts anyway. make sure you don't chose the package with the beautiful wrapping on the outside and get an ugly duckling inside.

As you know some people can be so graciously beautiful on the outside, but if, we look within we find a horrible nightmare inside;so lets not be vain. if you find a diamond in the rough, clean it and polish it up, and see the brilliance of it's shine for you. Let me just touch bases on the sexual part of these things that women want. Sex is also important to a women, but if it doesn't have all the attributes mention above, the relationship will fail and you will have wasted a lot of valuable time and energy on a relationship that's going no where fast because the backbone is missing.


Benny Faye Douglass (C)
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The top five things women want in a realationship"

a picture of my husband and I on our wedding day, I was bless this time;to get all of the top five things in this relationship, and that is a blessing from God.
a picture of my husband and I on our wedding day, I was bless this time;to get all of the top five things in this relationship, and that is a blessing from God.

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creativeone59 4 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you jeevansathi, for your visit and comment, I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 4 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

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anathema30 4 years ago from Illinois

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creativeone59 4 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you sweetie1, for your visit and comment, I think quality is another plus to the list of things. I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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sweetie1 4 years ago from India

You are absolutely right in naming these five things but i would like quality time with my mate added to these things. I would want that my boy friend would have enough time for me.


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you, aguy, for your visit and comment, what you say is true, God is love and love is God to me it goes with out saying and everything else comes second. God bless you. creativeone59


aguy 5 years ago

Wait.. Love is #1. Love is Honesty, Respect, Understanding, and Commitment. It should be understood that God is Love. (Love is God; in your heart and mind)

better said; a mind full of Love is a mind full of respect, honesty, understanding & commitment.

An absence of love… means to always want to be loved. (fear) instead be respectful, understanding, honest, and committed in deed & lifestyle. Practice these things, and the relationship will naturally seek you.


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creativeone59 5 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you love is hurt, for your visit and your comment, I appreciate you. God bless you. creativeone59


love is hurt 5 years ago

You speak the truth! This is exactly what women want in a relationship. Men could really learn from this hub. Thank you.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you dashingscorpio, for you input, I do also agree with you and your feedback. I appreciate you. God bless.creativeone59


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dashingscorpio 6 years ago

There are some good points here however I think each of is entitled to make our own rules with regard to dating.

I would suspect if your man is with you it's because of who you are whether you are big, thin, tall, or short. Most men don't ask women out that they aren't attracted to. Honesty is very important. With regard to respect I believe one has to "earn" someone's respect. Being honest goes a long way to earning both trust and respect in my opinion. Commitment will come only if two people agree upon wanting the same things. It takes time to REALLY get to know someone. You can't just go by what they say but you have to look at their deeds as well.

You don't want to commit to someone before you really know them only to have to shock them by breaking things off. Today it seems too many people are getting "emotionally invested" before a foundation of honesty, trust, and loyalty have been established. Only after that is in place should you consider opening your heart.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

You're very welcome taskeinc, thank you for stopping by my hubs, I appreciate you, your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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taskeinc 6 years ago from Atlanta

I'll have to work on those top 5 for my next relationship .. thanks for sharing.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Stacy Barber, You are correct in saying it takes time searching for a person that want to commit, But I did a lot of praying and then I told God, That if it's no one out there for me, don't let me meet anyone, because I didn't want to go throught he heart break of meeting the wrong one all over agian. I think you really have to include God in your search and then you want go wrong. Thank you for your comment and feedback. Blessings to you. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Miss Darnell, for stopping by and leaving your comment and feedback. I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Stacy Barber 6 years ago

It really does come down to those five things but finding someone who's willing to commit to them can be a lifetime of searching. I firmly believe we all have a soul mate...sometimes it takes a few tries before we get it right. We should not settle. We deserve to be happy, productive and an asset in the marriage.

Great post.


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Missi Darnell 6 years ago from Southern California

Wonderful Hub I like your top 5 and couldnt agree more. I love your advice about respect.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you msorensson, you jsut might be right. Thank you for stopping by my hubs, I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativoene59


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msorensson 6 years ago

In my opinion, commitment covers everything [smiles]

Thank you for this hub.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you hubquest for stopping by my hub, I appreciate you. Thanks for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


hubguest 6 years ago

Great, thoughtful hub. I think I differ from the bunch though in that I do not want a man to try and understand me. Just accept me and support me. Get to know me and what I want for my life and support me through my ventures. Don't try to understand me.

My experience with trying to understand someone or thinking I understand how someone operates has led me keep this person in a certain mold inside my head, complete with many unrealistic and unvoiced expectations of the person. Never good. (Leads to the importance of honest, open communication in relationships.)

Also, in my ideal relationship (too obvious that I'm single? lol), there is always some sort of mystery about my partner and something mysterious about me to my partner. I certainly don't mean hiding things from each other but just keeping myself from becoming too analytical of my partner and our relationship.

Also, help keep me from taking life too seriously!

Great hub :)


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cindyvine 6 years ago from Kyiv, Ukraine

And I would add the ability to pull their weight in the relationship, helping in the house and having a job that contributes to the family income, and of course communication. That's a biggie for me.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Tim Tim, for your coomment and feedback, and especially your compliment on my profile. thank you again and may God bless you. creativeone59


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tim-tim 6 years ago from Normal, Illinois

Great hub! I love your profile picture:)


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

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motricio 6 years ago from Bogota DC, Colombia

Thnx for sharing this hub.

Recently have been thinking what they want but their are an unsolved mystery. =)


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you so much for stopping by my hub,and for your comments and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


Nate Kelley 6 years ago

Great hubs, keep up the great work.. very good info.. Feel free to view my hubs.. I did just enter the 30 day challenge.....

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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you for your comments and your support. blessing to you creativeone59


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mistywild 6 years ago from Houston, TX (Proud Texan)

Great hub. You are absolutely right, those 5 things are the glue that hold any relationship together. Thanks for sharing.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Ayoola Issac, I do thank God every day for his blessings and his love. thank you for comment and feedback. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you esllr, for your comment and feedback, I am blessed but it wasn't always this way. thank you again. creativeone59


Ayoola Isaac 6 years ago

Thank God for His bless for your life


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esllr 6 years ago

what a wonderful gift those 5 things would be!Your blessed to have all 5 of them, Your Special!Great Hub!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you David J.Roof, for your honest comment and feedback. God bless you. Creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you pinkhawk for your comment and much needed feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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pinkhawk 6 years ago from Pearl of the Orient

indeed ma'am! i agree 100 percent! :)...like a quote from the little prince "what is essential is invisible to the eyes" (hopefully i got it right)... this is such a wonderful hub wrapped up in the aura of reality.. thank you very much for sharing! :)


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David J. Roof 6 years ago

Great post! -very clear points. I liked the sections on understanding and respect. I think that feeling of being understood and respected is deep and adds a lot to the other points you make about love, trust...


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Thank you Micheal Kenneth for you comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Amen, thank you for your comment and your much needed feedback. creativeone59


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wannabwestern 6 years ago from The Land of Tractors

It's so refreshing to hear someone advocate for traditional values. Love, trust, truth, respect, understanding. Yes to all!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Micheal Kenneth for you comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you, it's people like you that make my writing all worth while, I will look you up at Triond. Blessings to you. creativeone59


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TToni9 6 years ago from Lewiston, ME

I once heard that three of a womans favorite "animals"(what a women wants from a man) are:

a MINK in the closet, a JAGUAR in the driveway and a TIGER in bed. Your artcle reminds me of this. I think your list is more accurate---but--I am witnessing a lot of young girls are now catering to more pornographic "ideals" men have then in discovering their own beauty and needs.

It is good of you to compile the basic needs we all have....security,home,laughter...etc...even when we don't at first realize WHAT we need. Very good! TToni9/Pauline MoreauNava You may enjoy a couple of marriage poems I've published through Triond called, Marriage Wishes Unrevised and Marriage...You might even enjoy Triond to publish your own stuff....depending on how much you write you can earn money while doing so....Have fun, keep writing! God bless.TToni9/Pauline MoreauNava


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you mocha momma for your comment and your much needed feedback and thanks for being my fan. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Mocha Momma 6 years ago from DMV Metro Area (DC, Maryland, Virginia)

Creativeone59, you are spot on, great hub! :-)


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

You're right Cindyleedavis, God to me goes even without saying, because, if you don't have him in your life nothing will work anyway.Thank you for your kind comment and feedback. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thanks abs machine, sex is important and sharing good times together, all I'm saying that without these five components it's hard to have a serious and committed relationship. we can have the best sex in the world but if you're are with someone that 's constantly lying about things, your relationship will some end. I am for sex but if you get these five components in your relationship, the sex part of it should take care of it self. Thank you so much for your feedback and comment. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Cr8ve1, thank you so much for your word of wisdom, I completely agree with. you thank you for you comment and feedback. creativeone59


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cindyleedavis 6 years ago from cindyloudavis@hotmail.com

You are right. Those five things are very important.

But if God is not in the center of all of that,

then I will keep looking for Mr. Right.


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Abs Machine 6 years ago

what about sharing good times together? what about sex? what about sharing some laughter?

I like your hub, but I don't think that you can sum up a relationship in "the 5 most important points"...


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cr8ve1 6 years ago

Been in that situation one too many times myself, so I know what you're saying. I totally agree with you that HONESTY is the first thing that attracts me to ANYONE in general. You can keep your little secrets because there is only one person you CANNOT lie to..and that's the person in the mirror! (Dalai Lama)And that is true. People need to find someone who is their best friend first, then work on the love, and everything else will fall into place, but you still have to work at it. BOTH parties have to WANT to be in the relationship, othewise, it won't work as well if it's just one-sided.

Thank you for this post---you totally ROCK!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you for stopping by my hubs and thanks for your comment. Godspeed. creativeone59


poetlorraine 6 years ago

nice hub so enjoyed reading it


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you putz for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Putz Ballard 6 years ago

A wonderful article.

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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Chris Eddy111, you 're right, mostly everyone is so superficial, but I think when you get older you try look beyond the whats on the outside, Because I truly believe it's exactly whats' on the inside that count the most. Thank you your comment and your feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

Wonderful hub. Why do these values seem so hard to find in someone, particularly in a man? If you're lucky, you might get two out of five. I know you shouldn't judge the outside but the attraction usually starts there. Let's be honest if you aren't attracted to someone it's pretty hard to give them a chance. What you see from the outside makes you want to see what's inside.

Anyways, thanks again for this hub. Way to go!!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Mardi for a correct assessment of the important of the five. Than you for your comment and feedback. you have a blessed day. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Tokin'daddy for your input, sex is important, but if you don' have the othe five component, you will have just great sex and nothing else to base it on. I have learned in my life of relationships that sex is great, but when it's all over and done; if you don't have anything else the relationship is done too. I thank you so much for comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

I agree, but you have to start out having honesty to get to the point of working on what ever else is needed. Thank you so much for your comment and your honest feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Mardi 6 years ago from Western Canada and Texas

Great hub and one worth considering in any potential relationship. Money, possessions and other "extras" don't make up the gap if these 5 things are missing.


tokin'daddy 6 years ago

I'm surprised no one stated the important one,...great sex, no relationship last if your not sexually compatable. to me that is very important in a relationship


Justine 6 years ago

This is such a nice hub. I agree that all these things are important, but they dont just happen. You have to work at them every day. And its improtant to make sure you say "I love you" and show it and mean it. Thanks for sharing this.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you for your kindly comments and feedback ,it's well appreciated. creativeone59


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Mindfulness 6 years ago

Very nice hub post. Anything to help people in any relationship is valuable to me but most people have the most problems with the romantic relationships so kudos to you for helping.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

You are correct, chemistry is important, but I believe if you are blessed to have these five things everything else will fall into place. Thank you so much Danerobb for your comment and your much appreciated feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Danerobb 6 years ago from Philippines

I agree with all you say, creativeone... You offer the 5 (or 6) things you want, but how about chemistry, that unspoken thing that ties two together and won't easily - if your points are also in place - rupture no matter how heated the disagreements. It's that recognition of the other as someone significantly unique in themselves and with you that is rare, priceless. In your opinion, and to all of you, how does the intuitive "knowing" of other fit in?


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dashingclaire 6 years ago from United States

Very nice article!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

You're welcome unverifeid, thank you for your support and feedback. creativeone59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

I agree with you 100%, man would be crazy not to want the same in a women. Thank you for your comment and feedback.Godspeed. creativeone59


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Fresh_Flower 6 years ago from London

Wow, great article...one can say that this is also what men look for in women, if it's a long term relation of course!


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you Mulberry1, thank you for your comment and feedback, if you can't find a guy with all of these quality, keep looking, don't settle for anything less. creativeone59


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mulberry1 6 years ago

I would say this is pretty much true. I always laugh when I read articles telling men what women want. Hot bods, big romantic weekends, big spending, mystery, and so forth won't do anything for most women if the stuff you mention is lacking.


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rascielll 6 years ago from Philippines

That's sooo... True! :)


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you and blessings to you Williamjordan, thanks for your comment and feedback. Godspeed. creativeone59


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Williamjordan 6 years ago from Houston TX

Thanks my wife will be glad I took the time to read this one your writing is great.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thanks, Thanks and thanks,Emievil for your comment and feedback and thank for the compliment on the picture. creativeon59


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thank you I hope you get your chocolate cover strawberries too. lol. thank your comments and feedback. creativeone59


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ivori 6 years ago from Titusville

Great article! And, I want chocolate-covered strawberies, too!


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Ms Chievous 6 years ago from Wv

I love the last sentence of this hub! GREAT JOB!


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emievil 6 years ago from Philippines

Agree! Agree! Agree! Agree! Agree! great hub creativeone. Love the pic of you and your husband. =)


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emievil 6 years ago from Philippines

Agree! Agree! Agree! Agree! Agree! great hub creativeone. Love the pic of you and your husband. =)


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steffsings 6 years ago from Pacific NorthWest

AMEN and AMEN!!! Excellent article.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

Thanks C.J I "m a women and I know what's important to us women. Thank you so much for your comment and you feedback. creativeone59


C.J. Wright 6 years ago

Great HUB! Simple and insightfull.


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creativeone59 6 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona Author

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KCC Big Country 6 years ago from Central Texas

Great hub! Thanks for answering my hub request!


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Hello, hello, 6 years ago from London, UK

You are so right and written such a good hub. It is hard or impossible to find out before hand your man or woman has got that. Thank you for your hub.


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Veronica Allen 6 years ago from Georgia

You said creativeone59! We just want those five simple things. If we get them and give them, then everything will work out in good times and bad times.


TrudyVan 6 years ago

So true, when the trust and respect is gone so is everything else

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